johnmcclane112
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Dating sites are horrible for free users, and the prices are outrageous, especially since they require TWICE the money for people over the age of 30!!!
Jun 1, 2022 8:05 PM
johnmcclane112
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Dating sites are horrible for free users, and the prices are outrageous, especially since they require TWICE the money for people over the age of 30!!!
OuchMouse
“I’m just a country girl lost in the city looking for her cowboy!” *furiously swipes left*
GodLikeButHumble
*Insert hobbies: fashion, shopping, gin tonic* *insert "No ONS/FWB!1!"* *Insert My Anthem: *WAP"* ... JFC
GramGram
The hell did you just say in front of GramGram?
MinimumWageSalaryMan
A lot of the sites that are free to message but require payment to respond use bots to send messages you can't read until you pay. Scuffed.
wazeewa
"Looks don't matter, but if you don't look like a supermodel then don't expect an answer from me"
chewtoy9696
There is verifiable proof that dating apps charge males over 30 at least double most women. OrdinaryThings has an in depth video
nanyatenyaa
Ha jokes on them! I'm non-binary. Fug their prices, I do what I want!
chewtoy9696
Fuck yea!!! I wonder if they apply the gender biased pricing to that one way or the other of if that's the secret bypass
americancheese1
“If you want to know more just ask” - I always loved it when that’s all a chicks profile would say.
lbe508
I’m thinking about starting to date again and this is not giving me any hope of success
anotherdeadaquarian
don't let it burden you, go for it my friend
Sp00nZ
Women on dating apps get bombarded with messages. And they probably see worse than you do. Message a lot, and see what chemistry develops
penzick
I & several women I know did Match & others for years. You get a bunch in the 1st few days but that's it. There's only so many guys.
midsummer1942
I met my husband playing GW2. MMO's are where its at imo. At the very least they are a lot more fun even if you don't find a date!
drh1138
I get annoyed when people use profile pics of themselves with friends at bars, etc. Figuring out who you are shouldn't be a puzzle.
penzick
At least caption the pic to identify yourself. (And maybe mention you have your friends' permission to post them, too.)
Ericcantona7
I don't see a problem with there being 1 or 2 pics like that, but it shouldn't be the first pic, and certainly not all of them
drh1138
It's fine if it's not the first. But if I can't figure out who you are from what's first displayed, I swipe left.
wlfman
just wait until you realize 50% are bots :D
BoogiepopPhantom
only 50%? :D
wlfman
I was being generous lol. I assume the other 50% doesn't find me attractive.
GeForcen
Bold to assume that the bots do.
wlfman
Heh. Chop busted. I mean to say their perception is irrelevant since they're just trying to scam.
SterlingArcherSecretAgent
Or the classic text: "I am who I am" - okay Susan... that's really helpful...
VaardArk
I am who you are
SterlingArcherSecretAgent
That's rather creepy!
Scallion420
Women in 40’s still “open to having children”, Christian, travel a lot, only drink socially and NO cannabis. So I’m out. Last date 2017.
IOftenWearClothing
Dating sites charge money for their fake matches?
EroticZombiePants
The fakes ones are free. The real ones are behind a paywall.
Gilgamech
Nah if you pay you get real matches - back in 2018 at least.
HistoricalContext
I'm in the South, so it's "Christian woman seeking good Christian man" nonstop. Despite being Christian, I'm wary of people like that. 1/2
HistoricalContext
Long years of customer service has taught me that "Christians" who beat their chests about it tend to be rather nasty people.
TrynShady
It’s not any easier for us ladies .. i was tempted to change my name to Mary & join Christian Mingles
clarkWhogotsanity
Yes it's a shit show, I end up swiping left far more than I do right these days
TheLastSpaceman
Better than Hobbies: Politics
vakler
Fuck today's my 30th birthday.
CuteWhiteMage
Happy Birthday! Hope you have fun and eat something yummy!
InsolventTacos
HAPPY BIRFDAY stranger
EroticZombiePants
Online dating sites are literally like 95% male. The vast majority of the women there are bots or paid by the sites to make it look active.
sadurdaynight
And most of the real women there are just looking for an ego boost by seeing how many guys will msg them.
Sp00nZ
Or maybe the real ones just aren't matching with you. There are shitloads of women on dating apps and sites.
SirenBrick
It is literally 60% bot, 44% male, 6% female, by demographic on almost all dating apps and sites.
Sp00nZ
Seems like bullshit numbers to me. Pof, Tinder, Bumble, Fet . . . met awesome, pretty women off them all. And I'm fat and ugly.
BobTheBogus
Did you read those stats, or are you guessing?
SirenBrick
Averaging out, some are more, some are less. The more niche, the fewer the bots, ironically.
slyvic
When my ex broke up with me I gave tinder and OkCupid a go. Found my wife of 7 years so far on OkCupid.
tr26
Met my love on OkC, too!
dmd3eorg
Same here! Met my 2nd wife on OKC. Married 9 years now with 2 kids.
octopusinthetub
Congrats! My husband and I met on OkCupid and just celebrated our 7th anniversary!
zenoshogun
Did you just find eachothers accounts?
rayvn
My partner and I met through OkCupid 11 years ago! I think we were in the sweet spot of online dating, before it all went to crap.
jax523
Met my wife of 4 on OKC. Don't gibe up!
Heisanevilgenius
I met my wife on OkCupid in 2013. But I keep hearing that it's gone way downhill since.
kablija
I also found my partner on OKC 7 years ago. I am told it is not the same these days. Tinder went paid for 30+ right after I deleted it.
CheeeseGremlin
I found my husband on OKC. Been 10 years!!
Ericcantona7
based on all the responses you've got I'm starting to think if I give online dating another shot I should consider OkCupid
quzar
Still one of the better ones, but unfortunately has been slowly transforming itself into a Tinder clone.
loma45
10 years ago yes. I don't know anyone who uses it now
SirenBrick
Tried it, 60 matches with women, 60 bots spamming viruses, onlyfans links, or diet drink ad links, its not great.
eetsumkaus
I feel like I've given it 3 shots now and all of them turned out fruitless...
BlastFX
Make sure to do it between 2010 and 2015.
quzar
Them getting rid of recommendations/awards ruined it for me. After the first date I had where I was 'vetted' and given a confirmed 'nice >
quzar
>date, not a murderer' from someone (we didn't hit it off, but it was still a nice time) it went from 10% chance of response to 90%.
aiuta219
I've had online dating accounts for 25 years and tried consistently for about 20. I've never gotten a date from one. No joke.
captapathy
I got a wife and kids. Well…just the wife. Kids were later.
aiuta219
Congratulations on human affection. I don't know what that's like.
Mobouncetotheoz
Maybe you could share your profile and get some constructive feedback?
aiuta219
In 25 years,I promise I've tried everything there is to be tried. I got really interested in the data science that okcupid uses but no luck.
Sp00nZ
Sounds like you're doing something wrong there, buddy. If you aren't getting attention, work on making yourself more appealing.
aiuta219
I have an MSCS, can cook and keep a clean home. I'm a classically trained singer and pianist, have all my hair (although, yes, it's weird
aiuta219
colors now), dieted and exercised to a healthy weight, have no standout bad habits, have strong interest in fine art. I feel like those are
aiuta219
a lot of strengths overall, but the responses on dating apps, queer or straight, have been absolutely nothing.
HelloThere1812
You must be a man. Women get more offers for dates than they can ever even look at, much less accept.
Sp00nZ
Probably how you're presenting yourself. Im fat and ugly, but Im charming as fuck and I get all sorts of responses on most apps.
bansheequeen
I'm sorry but there's got to be something you're doing seriously wrong on your profile. 25 years? Since 1997???
aiuta219
For literally as long as there have been personals sites on the internet, yes.
bansheequeen
do you live somewhere really remote? is your profile pic a taxidermied animal? theres gotta be something
aiuta219
Like an hour from Chicago. My pictures are normal looking pictures.
nanyatenyaa
Maybe your profile just sucked ass? I've gotten dates from online profiles and it was shady fucking furry dating website.
nanyatenyaa
Like I'm honestly not sure how you avoid dating for 20 years. That takes effort. Do you not say hello to people?
eetsumkaus
You just don't meet the right people. I'm fairly socially active and meet a lot of people, many of the opposite sex. But no prospects
eetsumkaus
2/ also absolutely zero luck on dating websites as well. I worked on my profile too and put work into sending out messages.
HighFlyKai
Why would saying hello lead to a date? Anyway I’ve been using apps for months. On Tinder Platinum now—definitely more matches but no dates
HighFlyKai
Almost had one date but I got stood up. Usually the convo abruptly dies in the DM no matter how interested the other person seems
aiuta219
I try to write a three to four sentence message that includes a specific mutual interest and asks a question to invite conversation.
VanillaJester
Likes: family, friends, cooking. Great, but do you think you can narrow it down a bit further than traits shared by literally every human?
charliegrs
I also like laughing!
RNFlatus
Ha! Tacos, music & dogs. No shit motherfucker, everyone likes that shit!
VanillaJester
'Going out with friends.' You mean socialising? Like humans evolved to do? Wow, they really broke the mould with you, didn't they?
5cX469Nit9JuI1MAZG5c3AdA
TBH I don't mind the dogs/cats thing. There's enough allergic people out there that it's kind of a nice thing to put up front.
HighFlyKai
Y-you like music?? We must be soulmates
Valkor
u have to go out to meet people if u wanna go out and meet people.
Calicious
That's the issue
ILikeToCallItLostWages
I feel so lucky to have been an online dating boomer. Got in and got out right before it turned into a resourceless cesspool
Slydevil13
online dating breaks the ice though. approaching people who don't want to be approached never ends well
oshea
AnonOmis1000
I still have no fucking clue how to do that.
EroticZombiePants
But many people want a person that hates socializing just as much as they do.
BenderRodriguz1010
THIS
DekoWolf
ew no gross
Gorfinhofin
RustyRedbeard
Yeh but it's all peopley out there
BenderRodriguz1010
Right? Gross.
11Weasel11
I agree it's like wading through a swamp... But I me my wife in the people swamp. I mean a bar. Be brave!!?
BenderRodriguz1010
There is an exception to every rule
BenderRodriguz1010
It's the whole going out part that's the issue.
CriticalCritic
Also 'meeting'
CyberSpaceCowb0y
"Going out" doesn't have to be a bar or anything like that, I met my wife at our rock climbing gym.
BenderRodriguz1010
Fair, but I don't have social hobbies. Unless there's a con. It also seems that everyone is already wit someone. Like they're born with a BF
EroticZombiePants
Bars seem like one of the worst places to actually meet someone for a long term/lifetime relationship.
loma45
Pro: alcohol is an excellent social lubricant. Con: you're meeting someone who hangs out at bars. Sometimes that's fine, often it's not.
EroticZombiePants
I don't drink though.
IMakeLotsOfReferencesAndRemakes
Engage in your hobbies and interests and you'll find your kind of people pretty often.
Wilize
Well kinda depends on what your hobbies and interests are! Cause if they are leaning heavy towards being antisocial and alone then it’s hard
GeForcen
But please don't try to talk to people that are just there to enjoy the hobby. They don't want to be hit on.
DTNemes
How dare you spout such truth here.
Daarst
My hobbies are nerdy as fuck. Small female population, and those that partake stay the hell away from nerd gatherings for obvious reasons.
IMakeLotsOfReferencesAndRemakes
A hole is a hole man
Daarst
Not so much, I'm just not interested in guys.
SeriousSeamstress
Yup. I'm a chick who likes comics and have met some weird dudes. I've met some good ones too but they weren't interested.
RustyRedbeard
Rip your inbox
SeriousSeamstress
You know, imgur has been one of the few sites I haven't gotten a creepy DM. There have been weird ones but not creepy.
Daarst
Yeah, the average male nerd is cringy as fuck, and doesn't shower often. Sometimes I hate that I like comics and wargames because a good >>
Daarst
>> portion of the community I never want to be around. And they're not awkwardly hitting on me, I can't imagine what it's like for women.
SeriousSeamstress
I honestly have only met one smelly one. The potheads are a bigger issue with body odor. The pot wasn't the problem.
usernametakenisthestoryofmylife
"Hi, my names Aura, I'm the Caretaker of Pegasus..."
Emulen
I put on my robe and wizards hat
nanyatenyaa
I would inquire if Pegasus is hopefully a pupper. If its a pupper, then we're on. Or a kitter.
johnmcclane112
I'd take a funny comment like this over an empty profile any day.
quzar
I *really* wish most apps/sites had the ability to filter out empty profiles. OKCupid used to have some settings like that.
Gilgamech
This woman's profile is 100% emoji, and there are at least 40.
nanyatenyaa
they're*
Gilgamech
You're saying the emoji are people?
GramGram
Yes, in the same way that corporations are people... wait...
DiabloD3
JoeMalmsteen
That's why I opted to give up on dating after 25, online or otherwise.
AchDuLieber
I stopped wasting my time dating at 25 as well. Best decision I ever made. Saved tons of money with improved mental health.
MrRogersNeighborhood
If I end up single again I'm done with relationships. I'm now out of energy for them.
penzick
It's one thing to give up on *pursuing* relationships another thing to shut down the idea altogether. -woman who met her now husband at 51
EroticZombiePants
25 is a little young. I'm 44. I gave up about 10 years ago.
eetsumkaus
as someone about to turn 34...wellp
Jopler420
no worries, its WAY easier at 40....... ?
ReposterCallerOuterMan
Tell me why oh wise one
GramGram
(I think that was sarcasm...)
MrBassoonBro
I thought that too, then I got together with the girl of my dreams right after turning 26.
JoeMalmsteen
Yeah, it's been 13 years for me, and still nothing, so....
MrBassoonBro
There are plenty of people dating in their 40s and 50s. Don't give up my dude! I believe in you!
JoeMalmsteen
HardTimeKillinFoulNews
Hang in there mate. I though I'd given up as soon as 21, and 2 years later someone amazing just walked into my life at the right moment.
EclecticJon
I did too man!! Was single for 4 years then my girl came out of nowhere lol just do you and do all the things you like
UsernameMayBeSubjectToChange
Ditto. Also don't have the energy
Lifk
Yo, go to yoga my bro. It's okayish activity and you will be with 40 women
youcanreachmenow
25 is pretty young to give up on dating...
WGG25
i never even started
RandyRandalman
When you start at 16 and realize no one has grown up in any way, not surprising really. I haven't grown up either.
youcanreachmenow
First place you gotta start off with is yourself then :)
LaughingCoast
I gave up at 27. Checkmate.
CriticalCritic
*Stalemate*
BluLuna
I'm too picky. Little things annoy me. I accept I'm the problem. Discovered I'm happy alone, in silence, with my cat. That's my happy place.
DTNemes
Are you though? Happy alone without a SO? Lying to yourself is sometimes awfully close to acceptance.
MeanMisterClean
Bro I can get high or drunk whenever I want and play games til 5 am without anyone having a problem with it. Fuck yeah I'm happy.
DTNemes
So can I, all about moderation, at some point you'll grow out of that phase.
MeanMisterClean
ok boomer
andaraven
I’d rather die alone than settle. If not happy, I’m content with it. Better than being unhappy bc of someone else.
EverythingThatFallsToTheGroundIsMine
None of what you said implied you would try to be happy, just how you’d deal with being unhappy. You’re responsible for your own happiness.
Syrpynt
When you're weird--like REALLLYYYYY niche, you'll understand. Better alone sometimes than getting rejected 100x in a row for just being you.
DTNemes
I can somewhat understand if one is on the hard end of the autism spectrum or similar, but even so it's not impossible to find a partner.
Syrpynt
It's not, I'm on the spectrum, & my wife found me. Before I found people wanting to abuse my kindness, or thought I was mentally challenged.
penzick
And relationships don't all have to follow the same paradigm. Exs: you can be deeply committed & live apart. Be together mainly in silence.
beardpicsplz
I'm slowly realizing that this is me. I don't even feel like my requirements are unreasonable. just a bit too many to find a match.
Gt3454
Just stay happy. Ignore everyone else’s definition of it. And be ok if your own definition of it changes. You’re allowed to do that?
DeadOnionSaysWhat
I've (female) dated on and off over the past 30 yrs, just enough to remind myself why I don't.
5cX469Nit9JuI1MAZG5c3AdA
Oh, it gets better. Soon you'll find someone who loves travel and hiking AND music! And also a bunch of tiny inscrutable flag emojis.
DaveSamsonite
Free sites even at twice the price are still free. Possibly also worthless, which is fair for the price.
Ericcantona7
Can't wait for him to get to all the "make me laugh" bios where he finds out they have the sense of humor of a brick
MenloPart
I sweat that half of the ones that I see on Facebook Dating--if they even answered--say "I'm hilarious."
sumoeskimo
"what you see is what you get""don't be boring""just ask""looking for a partner in crime"i gave up
MenloPart
I have tried to chat with numerous women who give short answers and don't ask questions. Then they write "Why so many questions." I'm the
MenloPart
only one trying to have a conversation! Recently people keep answering "How are you doing?" with "Hello." I'm out.
spookymormonhelldream
And "always down for adventures"
HighFlyKai
Still I have yet to find someone who is *actually* down for adventures
MenloPart
Partner in crime?
nobodywhatsoever
"going on [little] adventures"
sensuallyeatingsushi
Don't forget, they also just like to chill and watch netflix sometimes ?
penzick
Are we not doing sushi and long walks on the beach anymore? Weird the things that make you feel old. Lol.
Weddell
Looking for the Jim to my Pam, Brunch/mimosas.
timelordinsc
Yes. Yes. Yes. 35+. Traveling pictures only. Flags.
LemondropApache
Why? (Genuine question)
somerandomusernamebecauseididntlikemyoldone
Personally I don't have a lot of pictures of myself that aren't while traveling, even then they are quite limited
Cyanide555
The flags? Dunno. List of where they've been maybe. Its worse than txt speak
scellers
Where I'm at flags = languages you speak.
timelordinsc
I attribute it to character limits in the bio section of the dating app and the people showing them as badges of honor like passport stamps.
neospor1n
“Do you like…fiction”. “Oh my god I loooove fiction”
CriticalCritic
"Then you'll LOVE my profile!"
giraffe827372
And If you're really lucky you might find that one rare girl who likes "The Office"
5cX469Nit9JuI1MAZG5c3AdA
Oh yeah, I love when people are into super-niche shows like that. That's how you know you've found a true connoisseur.
Kagenical
What site requires twice the money for people over 30?
anononanonanona
It's actually worse than this, the pricing is highly dynamic and will change to be as high as they think they can get each man to pay.
positiveleroy
youngpeopleonly.com
positiveleroy
WAIT, PROBABLY DON’T GO TO THAT URL
Redyls
thats a possible lawsuit. charging more because of age is age discrimination.
anononanonanona
found the not-lawyer
mirria
it's a private, non-essential service. Good luck getting anywhere with that claim.
internetuserr
I thought it was just with hiring you couldn’t discriminate
quzar
As a protected class age works just like race for the purposes of this sort of business/service discrimination.
ChimeraGryph01
only for I think 55+
freezingpilot
Try suing an insurance company over that.
mikekearn
Technically they adjust according to risk... which changes with age. But it's a technicality that allows them to get away with that BS.
MrAsianPersuasion
Should insurance companies not be able to price according to risk if there's true data to back it up?
Remmon1
No. We banned discrimination based on age, race, gender and a few others. Insurance companies should not get a free pass to discriminate.
mikekearn
For-profit insurance companies shouldn't exist, period. They only exist to try as hard as possible to not pay out. The whole thing's a scam.
Gilgamech
Big ones like Tinder. They know some of us older millenials are lonely.
SchwiftyGameOnPoint
Getting older, desperate, and lonely? Well you can pay more for the same service because we want to take advantage of you and you'll pay!
EroticZombiePants
Too old to use standard dating sites, too young to use the dating sites targeted for the AARP demographic.
Kagenical
Oh wow. I've never been on tinder because the "swipe" websites are notoriously low for engagement.
Gilgamech
Don't they all have some kind of swipe mechanic?
TallulahBumfluff
Most that didnt have started to implement it. I rejoined a bunch last summer that weren't swipe ones and lo and behold they now were.
ianrl337
Quantity over quality
WakaWaka304
Do you have to pay for tinder? I always assumed it was free.
Gilgamech
Yeah, with constant popups for the paid service, and they tease that you can see people who matched with you right away if you pay.
WakaWaka304
Thanks!
vystral
It was free enough back in 2015 when I was on it. They gave you enough free swipes that you could get the job done. Dunno about now.
WakaWaka304
Thanks. I had no idea. Luckily, I’ve never had to use it
sumelar
Tinder is not a dating site.
tr26
It wasn’t, but it definitely is and has been for a while now
Slydevil13
90% of the people on there don't want to hookup
Gilgamech
Which sites are?
Angel337
Match, eHarmony, OKcupid,etc. Most people I know use Tinder for hookups.
TallulahBumfluff
Match and okc are just as bad. Eharmony just has no one on it haha
treed240z
It was. I met my wife on there. But now...holy shit it's bad.
Steffn
You could met your wife on imgur, doesn't make imgur a dating site.
Ericcantona7
No. Do people find long term partners on there? Absolutely. But it was never a dating site
treed240z
I literally just said I did. But that was years ago.
ianrl337
I gave up online dating after the meth head, the baby factory, and the homeless girl.
Omnipotence0
And that was just one girl huh
BurlRavenscroft
You dated my cousin’s ex three times?
cwyogi3000
Exchange meth for acid, and we had the same experience
Rhythmaster
People that take acid are generally more stable than people who take meth, in my experience....
VaardArk
Depends. Some people take acid in addition to other things… like meth.
MachoMandalaEffect
Those people are called garbage cans. Anything can be thrown into them.
AFistfulOfDollHairs
Hey dude, it’s not always a choice to be homeless. No need to stigmatize.
highhiedyin
.
SuicideIsNotAnOption
Did they walk into a bar
GoodGraces
Platforms can't sort red flags for you. You do have to keep high standards for yourself. And wait for quality. Don't settle Hon. <3 Hugs.
TacoPuncher
You actually got replies that weren't bots trying to scam
ianrl337
I got those, lots of those. And some not bots that after a few conversations needed me to send them money to save their sick mom in Nigeria.
PirateGentlemen
You guys got replies?
TheresnoDanaonlyZuul
Did they all walk into a bar?
ianrl337
Two into a bar, the homeless girl into a bowling alley
EatPieLander
Encountered single mom who HAD to be in same room as her 8yo son every minute ... and needed house repairs. hmm ...
TheS4ndm4n
Not like you're getting laid with an 8yo in the house anyway.
NoUserNamesLeftToChooseFrom
If only you were into astrology, you would have know it was going to happen.
TheS4ndm4n
I'm not into astrology, and I know that's going to happen.
dentros1
This sounds like a good campfire story.
ianrl337
Definite bar story. Alcohol is needed for details
dentros1
By story, I mean horror story.
crushingbore
Being ugly, boring, and not making a lot of money that's about the best I could expect.
TheS4ndm4n
Unless you're over 6' tall. Then you can get overweight chicks with horrible personalities too.
areyouelonmusk
I call that winning!
danishjuggler21
But dating a homeless girl is great. You can drop her off anywhere
benderfreak
Mistress0fMayhem
Haha
EchoPMIM
I dunno man, have you seen what housing prices are like? Homelessness seems like a sound financial strategy in modern America.
astrangehop
I'd live in a commune, but I think you have to be poly to do that now/s
GramGram
Can confirm.
xXxSTEVOxXx
Worst installment of Chronicle of Narnia by CS Lewis by far. BY FAR.
ilhares
It's worse when you realize he was talking about one person.
ianrl337
I can't confirm if the other two were tweakers or not, but I wouldn't doubt it around where I live
slotheroll
Gilgamech
ianrl337
I would gladly take evil Elsa or feline Jesus over that nightmare year.
lostharbinger42
Showtime would turn it into a series anyway
ajg0000
The liar the bitch and the whoredrobe
ChefLes
whatspaulplayingtoday
schmittyboss
Are they the same person?
ianrl337
nope. and I honestly don't know which was worse
TrynShady
That’s like a hat trick of heartache - sorry friend
ianrl337
To elaborate. Meth head did meth, homeless girl lived in a test (was probably the best). And baby factory had 6 kids with 4 dads.
Shamorza
Naah you're messing with us. For 4 guys to have 6 kids, each needs to be father of one and a half kids, which is impossible. Basic math;)
ianrl337
she was late 30s. first 3 by her first husband, 2 by the next boyfriend, and 1 recent
vakler
By their powers combined, Homeless Meth Baby Girl was born. Jokes aside, my dude, I wish you confidence and calm. Love finds you.
ianrl337
Thank you, I know. I found her, then found she was polyamorous, I am not. Still friends though.
Gilgamech
Legend says that men don't read profiles and judge women solely on photos, so why write?
HellIsRoundTheCorner
This legend is true
Soggysockss
Not true, I just scan for keywords. Otherwise I just send a like and see if they match then next say a thing cause I can't break the ice
TacticalChungus
Men do read... if they match you. As a man, I do not read every profile before I swipe, but it will dictate if I message.
TacticalChungus
And we have to swipe 5-10 times as much as women for matches. Reading every profile to only match once every 100 swipes isn't worth the time
SirenBrick
Average of 1 woman for every 500 men per dating app, and men see ~1000x more bots than female users to inflate numbers and guide spending.
imsurroundedbyassholes
Legends are generally wrong
TurkNJD
But then how do I decipher the map
imsurroundedbyassholes
Use the key instead
kletskoek
I found my husband on OkCupid and I paid as much attention to the paragraphs as the pictures. Maybe that applies to ppl looking for hook ups
beoluves
Legends say women neither, and will think everyone is a creep unless they're unbelievably hot. Sounds just as bad
TallulahBumfluff
I just assumed everyone is a creep til proven otherwise, better to be safe than sorry. Oh the hot ones were usually the biggest creeps fyi.
squidiom
It's true, the vast majority of men who DM me have clearly not read a single word of my profile. It's depressing.
squidiom
Next time I plan to do the choosing. I honestly think it will resolve the entire issue, if I just pick him, instead of letting them pick.
HelloThere1812
Hello there!
SirenBrick
Bumble lets women message first, but apparently over 50% of women's profiles on it state they do not message first =p
squidiom
Yeah, the tradition of women sitting on their hands waiting for a mindreader to come along isn't working out for either of us, is it?
nanyatenyaa
That's a stupid ass legend though, and the contents of profile helps to show if a person has substance.
penzick
Profiles also help start conversations. Met my husband on Match. I emailed to ask him about something in he'd written. Instant conversation.
Gilgamech
That used to work in 2018 but these days I just get left on read.
imsurroundedbyassholes
Well depends on if you're courting men or women, women will ignore anything, men will be so happy someone cares.
nanyatenyaa
Especially you start to approach 30s/40s, you realize like, damnit, you need to know if they can hold a conversation and BE interesting.
nanyatenyaa
Looks fade, the older you get the more you realize who the person actually is matters. For everything else there's grindr.
nanyatenyaa
Or whatever your smex ap of your choosing is.
Gilgamech
This definitely would be more ideal.