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Tonight I was ready to end it all. This list helped me reconsider. I hope it reaches everyone who needs it.
There are options out there for help. Please stop, breathe, then fallow the list.
Also for more help visit: http://www.suicide.org/index.html
(please message me if you have more resources to add to this list)
Orginially posted by Geggs 3 months ago
http://imgur.com/gallery/pTsqcrw
EDIT: I just wanted to add that this list is ONLY meant to distract yourself from fallowing a very dangerous path. It is meant to be used in a crisis situation. Please seek fallow up care with a therapist or doctor asap if you have thoughts of suicide!
SerialKitten666
Showering and "gussying up" as they say to happier music and just doing your laundry with cats around can be the best medicine to get thru
SSCookieMonster
I hate my job. I'm scared to find a new one. This will help. Thank you.
mrbaiter
As someone who struggled with depression and suicidal ideation, this list would have been very helpful. I am available if anyone wants help.
CreepyPhlox
I go through a similar list in my mind throughout the day. Not depressed, just nice little distractions to help make the day go by.
fairybug
I'm going to print this. I almost didn't get out of bed today, & literally thought to myself: "Don't do this, you'll fall back into it."
Dalylah
I'm glad you found the strength to. Just know some crazy chick on the internet is hoping you have a great day :)
mummel
good to know that in order to not commit suicide i need friends. What is with people who dont have any friends? Im askin for a friend...
kelly1139
some of them you do need other people for, but most can be done alone. There are many support groups out there. I suggest looking into them.
InternetPointsChampion
I was about to end it, then I realized I was just thirsty. Thanks for this timely post.
SN3S
Gonna cuddle my penis, the closest living being near me.
BigAssPuppies
Thank you for this.
IamForScale
If you need someone to talk, msg me :)
KyllerQueen
I WILL SHOW YOU ALL THE CUTE DOG PICTURES. My pup makes me happy when I'm sad. Do you have a furbaby?
kelly1139
I wish! was waiting until my boyfriend and I moved into a house instead of this appartment but now that he's cheated on me not sure
kelly1139
what will happen. If I am going to be homeless I certainly wont put a helpless animal through it aswell.
Iamsonewatthis
This is generally how I feel about it http://inspiyr.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Louis-CK-7.png?2a0828
Simp1eD
i didn't even know i needed this.
burymewithmyalmonds
for talks msg me, non judgemental australian
Splodgey
This somehow makes me suspicious...
amoebot
Sometimes I think it's inevitable, like it's only a matter of time. But I always think that ultimately I'm too scared, so I guess we'll see
kelly1139
It isnt inevitable. It is a decision. You're the one with the power here amoebot, nothing and no one else can make that decision for you.
kelly1139
For longterm help please look up support groups in your area. Its free its a place to go. You don't even need to talk. Just listen. Ithelps
TheGhostMinx
I don't know why I'm still awake. I tried going to sleep an hour ago, but I'm still up. Here's a site to help: http://www.7cupsoftea.com/
ShakeZula77
I wanted to try this website but don't you have to actually "talk" to someone? My anxiety is through the roof and I can't.
TheGhostMinx
Nobody will force you to try it, but it is a possible resource. And it's only through text, I believe. I actually don't know.
ShakeZula77
I'll go to the website again and check out more info. Thank you suggesting it.
TheGhostMinx
Yup. Just do what feels right. And there are plenty of people here willing to talk, if that'd make you feel less anxious.
kelly1139
I also visted this site lastnight. I got stuck though where it wanted me to add 3 things I was thankful for. =(
Opportunist
Good chocolate. Bunnies. Imgur. --You, OP. For having posted this list. I've already shared with a fellow sometimes-down friend. Thank you!
TheGhostMinx
Also, my inbox is always open if you need to rant or talk or just have someone to listen to. Whatever works. G'night folks.
ChloePrice
I use this site too. One listener truely saved me before. It's good.
AdequateBehaviour
I was afraid of asking my cat for a cuddle but I asked him and he said no.
DeepBlueTitan
Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days?
Tuvano
I'm not allowed to kill myself. I use that as a rule now when I feel like shit. When I find myself thinking that direction... no cheating!
Einhoernchen
No cheating. You would be missed dearly. Keep going please.
allibaster12
"Have you waited a week?" Just do this every week and before you know it you've waited 4,433 weeks and you might as well keep going.
mamapants
It bothers me that a depressed brain forgets this stuff. It's so simple and basic. The ultimate betrayal. Fuck you, brain.
kelly1139
Depression is a bitch. It swallows you whole.
KeatonTS
I remember this stuff. It's just hard to actually get myself to do it.
CreepingBanana
It doesn't always forget. I, for example, take daily showers, but feel dirty and disgusting all the time anyways.
bsArtst
Heh, I usually just fight back tears on my drive to Wendy's, overeat like crazy, and sing "Help" by the Beatles, but do whatever works, OP!
niet3sche
"Drive?" "Eat?" These alone are luxuries. :/
notme222
To be honest, when I was contemplating years ago I don't think this list would have helped me at all. But hopefully there's someone it will.
rudejohn
Good for you, OP! Small correction: "stop, breathe, then follow"
kelly1139
Yeah Im not sure how to change it. Sorry =(
KQ7Entropy
Good medicine. Keeping and passing it on.
spiritualbeingonahumanjourney
Good username. KQ7's entropy is positive for sure.
KQ7Entropy
I appreciate the kudo's
spartaness
I feel unattractive but I hate selfies more.
kelly1139
Then just go dress up, put on whatever makes you feel confident and go for a walk around target or walmart. Own it!
Ophelis
If you have severe social anxiety, then the prospect of being in public no matter what you look like is horrible, not confidence-inducing.
Ophelis
SA and depression often go hand-in-hand. I also don't think how you look should be what makes you happy. That's how narcissists are made.
Valewalker
My brother: "what do you like in this world? Name absolutely anything. Then don't you want to experience that thing one more time?"
CreepingBanana
No. I tried many such things again and they didn't feel good anymore.
TimmyDuncan
Word. One of the few things keeping me here is knowing the Spurs have a good chance to win another championship this season!
Itsbellanutellabltch
I will send you chocolate on a monthly basis as another incentive to keep you here. Comprende?
TimmyDuncan
Ha, thanks, but I think I'll be fine. There are enough places I still want to visit and teams to watch to keep me here for a while.
Itsbellanutellabltch
Come visit Bristol UK and I'll give you chocolate in person
TimmyDuncan
I'm not falling for that "free candy" trick again. Almost had me.
kelly1139
another great tool to put in the toolbox! Love this.
Ophelis
Truly depressed people like nothing, or what they do like isn't enough of a reason to live.
Vvadin
Personally, I don't think anyone gets to decide how 'truly depressed' a person is. Everyone's different.
Ophelis
Truly, severely, whatever you want to call it. Not invalidating less heavy depression, but just reminding that it can be worse.
orphiccharm
Unsure why you were downvoted; there are literally degrees to the diagnosis. Moderate-Severe
Ophelis
Wasn't careful enough with my wording for the pedants out there. Thanks for acknowledging some sense I've made, at least.
Ayfo
Honestly, for me it was http://imgur.com/pYtPvbF that removed all thoughts from my head. ComingFrom a comic strip, this really made me think
Minimax3000
Literally this comic is so important
FastSquirt
As someone who has been trough this I must say that it's true. And you still have a bunch of questions 10years later.
fairybug
I can honestly say I've never considered suicide, but it's only because that was the very first thought I had about it.
moonnose
wow, that hurts to read.
fblurbg
The only thing stopping me is the awareness that death is pointless. If I truly believed in an after life I would have opt out by now.
HanktheHeliotropeShank
Damn. When my dad died I realized that if I went too I would just make it worse for the rest of our family. Death cannot solve death.
Leahcim1v1s
I saw this too. If it weren't for the few people I care for and the lease on this house with my friends.
GoodDieMostlyOverBullshit
My children are the one thing that stop me. I can't do it to them. I have to constantly remind myself what it would do to them.
bannedfornsfw
That's more than something to live for. You are your kids biggest hero. I'm sure they love you so much. Keep your chin up.
Ophelis
So you're forcing yourself to live an unhappy life for the sake of keeping others happy? And that's why I won't ever have kids.
JCLgaming
Replace 'kids' with 'persons close to you' and the point still stands.
Ophelis
Except I don't have the ability right now to control who remains close to me. One day soon, I hope. A new identity would be liberating.
Ophelis
Think about it. Leave behind everyone you've ever known, no strings attached. Hell, it might not even be possible, but it's a dream.
Cheomesh
Or friends, boyo.
Ophelis
Although I do have friends, I certainly wouldn't want one as immature as you and the majority of imgur's userbase. Cheers, though!
Cheomesh
Hah,good luck, have fun.You're probably, what, 25 at most? HS ed, maybe partial college? I likely rank you on the maturity scale, mate.
kelly1139
I'm still struggling but I'm feeling better already. It's amazing that such small things can change everything.
Zulathan
I suppose you can have pretty many good years if you just survive this bad one.
GilaMonsieur
hi idk you but /hug
insertpunnynicknamehere
I hope you are still doing well OP I would message you but I don't know how
Asterfix
I actually attempted suicide once when I was 21 (sober too!) Then I stopped, realized I was being stupid and devoted my life to immortality.
littlemisspris
@kelly1139 message me if you need someone to talk to. I'm always here
Mossanony
Sometimes, for me, the most difficult thing to do is get up and go outside for a brief walk. But yet, it *always* helps. Inertia is a bitch.
BlackDragoness
Someone once said "There are no beautiful suicides, only shit in pants and the end of gifts."
TheMostModestMouse
People tend to forget how little things like these can help. I do it all the time for my depression. Doesnt go away, but makes it bearable.
MishiMoya
you're already cooler than most people since you're on imgur so dont just let a cool person go ! :D
ThatsPermanent
You're going to be okay, OP. I like 5 and 12. Maybe find someone you can help with simple stuff. It helps me to focus on others.
mcshady
The water one is a huge fucking deal. Start bringing a nalgene to work and leave it full and on your desk. You'll feel 1000x better.
Corntana
Stay strong! We believe in you :)
PedroBento
Can someone link that Imgur group that deals with stuff like this? Also, what @Merelli said also applies to me. Feel free to chat.
SwitchPup
I struggle with borderline personality disorder and associated depression and anxiety. If I can help, let me know!
HideousKojima
You can do it man!
TwoCupsandAKettle
Much love op sending Internet hugs your way
TheSlugtopus
Kelly, as you can see, many people have been down similar paths. You aren't alone. Also, this list may just be able to help me, too. Thanks.
kaps27
I didn't know it but I can really use this! small steps.. sending good vibes your way!
Gomer592
don't trust strangers advice (haha) get a cheap (haha again) psych-therapist, one hour a week and three months later they tell you not /2
Gomer592
to do stuff you weren't planning on, WITH details about who where and the Consequent of doing it, (think of as a planner of the best/worst)
Rijn
Follow* yeah I'm probably not making it better
rollipukki
"Ineffective" one has helped me a lot. I have really hard time to start doing things. Always gotta start with something small and work up.
EllywickTealeaf
I struggle as well and was having a very bad day today - posts like this are a good reminder that we are not alone and it gets better
ra1nfield
Its never the answer, there are always people that can help you. <3
MajorMaxdom
Tell me, if you want too talk, I don't like loosing friends. You are an imgur-friend :)
WumboPower
Good for you, these do help. I've been having something in my head telling me to kill myself lately, this makes telling it no much stronger
ImaSnow
Last week I came close to driving into a tree. On purpose. I wish I had had this then.
kelly1139
Well now you do. Next time you will have this, and you will have the tools to combat the depression.
MajorMaxdom
Tell me if you want to talk :) I almost lost my girlfriend because she wanted to kill her... I don't want anybody to die because of this :)
spiritualbeingonahumanjourney
Don't leave us. Imgur loves you.
IStompOnHopesAndDreams
Hey, if you want to talk to anyone I'm free. Don't pay attention to the username though lol
lovemeinfocus
<3 you are not alone.
pocketflan
You got this!
Merelli
@kelly1139 hit me up. Anytime. I've been down a path myself and could always use an anonymous ear/voice myself.
kelly1139
Thank you for the offer I may take you up on that.
Merelli
Any time. Any reason. No judgement.
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HeterosexualHardOnForRussellBrand
Time and place man...
Thisisntmyimgur
Getting a pet turned my life around. Something about being responsible for another life made me take better care of my own
lucy1983w
I had two cats, I adore them. But we got my dog 9 weeks ago rescue - something about her keeps me going!
kelly1139
What did we ever do to deserve dogs?
broverdose
All these strangers, people from all over the world and all walks of life, we all care about you :)
whoischrislewis
I'm also here if you ever need to chat. I work from home so I really am always available. That goes for anyone that needs a friendly chat!
limonchiki
I noticed for me it is really important to have someone to hug or chill on a couch while cuddling. makes my brain turn off and i can relax.
kelly1139
Well that doesn't really work for me unfortunately the one I would normally do that with is the one that started this decline...
limonchiki
oh I´m sorry, didn´t wanna make you feel bad :/ can you do it with a friend instead? someone you trust?
kelly1139
My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me with a gorgeous stripper named amber. Also on top of it all he is deployed and unreachable so here
kelly1139
I am waiting in limbo for him to come home so we can deal with this. Still unsure as to what I am going to do.
CarrionDoll
I am too. An especially hard couple of days. I am here for you or anyone else who needs someone to reach out to.
Arynnis
I was once going to end it all. Decided against it and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my whole life. Small things can change everything
GiFucked
Hope everything goes well! Just because sometimes you don't see any light, doesn't mean it's not there!
doordonotthereisnousername
I recovered from severe anxiety last week. I just kept telling myself I'd heal with time, and a little escapism in movies and books helped!
RaggedCritic
I don't know if it'll help you, but on top of small changes like this I've also found two phrases have helped me: "Go to the ER" &
RaggedCritic
"Call the hotline." I've never had to do either, but I take comfort knowing I have options.
SerialKitten666
Being clean, eating better, hydrating, taking care of your appearance, exercising even lightly and having pets/friends/close family ->
SerialKitten666
does wonders and combining that with listening/watching more positive things can really help get you through the really rough days :)
CarrionDoll
Those are the things I really have to push myself on. I isolate way too much.
kelly1139
Same here. But going with a friend to the YMCA to swim then tomorrow a yoga class!
CarrionDoll
Awesome, I love yoga and swimming.
Panzer89
"Take a selfie and listen to EDM!" What kind of millennial trash do you take me for?
Corrodias
Did I hear somebody talking shit about EDM? http://music.gamechops.com/album/vlad
ProfessionalMemer
Taking a selfie would have the opposite effect on me. I'm ten times uglier in picture...
Dalylah
Yeah, instead turn on Uncle Fucker and have a good laugh.
BruceJennersBoobies
Listen to Porter Robinson's Worlds album. It's not "DJ-friendly" like most EDM and is inspired by retro video games and (1/2)
BruceJennersBoobies
Japenese culture. I find it to be very uplifting and a kind of release from my own depression, even if it is just for an hour or so
Cheomesh
Who the fuck is EDM
geggs
These are just suggestions & you should customise to your own tastes/needs. Where it says EDM, replace with 'favourite uplifting music' :)
kinglycitrus
LOVE! CONN-CONNECTION! EXPERIENCE! COME TOGETHER... WITH LOVE
subsevid
Actually giving a concrete example is good. A depressed person would probably be unable to think of music that made them happy.
CreepingBanana
I just went through my music library: , Metallica, Nirvana, Pink Floyd, Radiohead... I'm depressed, I don't HAVE anything uplifting.
JegSnakkerIkkeNorsk
Thrash metal, then. That always gets me in a good mood :)
Opportunist
Brutal! ;)
AgentSuperball
OneCoolFrood
"Take a selfie. Your friends will remind you how good you look." Bullshit... people like attractive selfies, half of us aren't so lucky.
Snooj
Have you ever seen selfies on facebook? No matter what you look like, your friends will say "So gorgeous! What a cutie! Hot damn you fine!"
explosivelyshy
It's true but I find it disappointing when that's the ONLY time I get responses. Guess it's not surprising they don't like science posts.
sharkkibble
I think you are trying to say something about your Facebook friends, but you should remember that you did choose to add/collect them.
earthbender
My phone camera refused to take my selfie.
thefirstofhername
Ya... I feel like posting a selfie that got 0 likes or comments would put me deeper into my depression, not the other way around.
YaMomsPantyDropper
Friends? Hah what friend the ones on steam? I'm a hermit anyways ;u;
rsto
Taking a selfie is pretty much the only time ever that I think about my looks too much and therefore start feeling inattractive
sinewaveosc
i only upvote people who are more attractive than myself... oh and the occasional mis-used meme
siler7
They said "friends", not "'friends'".
Cyberphobia
Friends?
Haschpuppet
My truly best friend never like my pictures.
subsevid
I hope this is a joke. Because recommending lonely people should rely on "friends" is quite cynical.
OneCoolFrood
Again.. half of us aren't so lucky.
noWhiteHorseHereJustBatturuPrinsu
Yeah Joey or Phoebe are a better bet for a compliment when you turn on the TV then Ross or Rachel
Cyberphobia
Haha. xD
ThatGuyNoOneKnows
Ha...
calyxium
Well, definitely don't post it on imgur.
MsFunnyBunny
Unless you're a very attractive woman. Not that if know what that's like.
hereforcake
Actually in this case I feel like the imgur community would understand better than your FB "friends".
Dalylah
We should create a "Fugly Imgur" thread and bask in our fugliness! Actually I don't think half of us are nearly as unattractive as we think.
snuzzled
I rarely post selfies, or photographs of my actual self, so when I do I'm deluged in likes from my friends. It definitely feels good.
Southtex
I try to Like every friends selfie. I like them, so their picture just reminds me of that.
MsFunnyBunny
You sound like a very nice person.
shantellawonder
If you're into make up, you play around with that or do a cleansing mask on your face!
willvasco
So, uh, as a guy, are we allowed to do the cleansing thing/ how would one go about doing one?
hereforcake
They sell different kinds of single-use face mask packets at Target now :)
Anonyfurb
But I'ma guy. That's too scared/shy to buy his own makeup. Let alone ask what foundation matches my own skin. >.>
MalcolmButler
Instructions unclear; drew a smiley face on my penis.
Leijin
maybe.. don't post a selfie on facebook..
SerialKitten666
Actually, I find the friendliest people on my Facebook get as many/more likes than the pretty ones. You being awesome makes you "attractive"
icyanddicey
True, but do you think a person who identifies with that title is "awesome"?
subsevid
yeah, facebook tends to reward positive expressions: holiday photos, kittens and "life highlights". no one "likes" a sad post
RealVersionsOfStories
So true. I never posted selfies because I know I'm a 7/10 at best. But I've learned that if you're showing your personality.. 1/2
RealVersionsOfStories
people will like your stuff. I started posting more of my interests/activities, getting more likes. I even got likes from people 2/3
RealVersionsOfStories
who i was acquaintances with at best. But we realized we have a lot in common and are now IRL friends rather than just FB "friends"
SirForeverAloneEsquireLe1stAndOnly
Not me. I only get maybe like 5 likes, if I'm lucky :/ I also don't think I'm that attractive if I'm still single after all these years :'(
Ahenneuk
I'm in a similar boat. Frankly I'm enjoying it while it lasts.
SerialKitten666
Which is why they say "fake it til you make it" as in appear happy in photos, don't put yourself down in front of others, post nice statuses
SerialKitten666
Ultimately, people are attracted to happy people. Even the beautiful people I know only had 3 real friends, even if their pics had 100 likes
SerialKitten666
Also being single a long time can also just mean you have standards or you're just not meeting enough people. I know a lot of taken people
SirForeverAloneEsquireLe1stAndOnly
lol yeah, I'm a pretty picky guy. I'm not the type to get into a relationship just to be with somebody.
anothervalidacct
That in itself is a very big thing, compared to some people who are so desperate that they grab for the first thing that comes along.
SerialKitten666
and MOST of them are unhappy or settled for their partners hardcore and could do worlds better. Appearances are deceiving, just work on you
ThaddiusAustin
what if im not friendly, not beautiful, and a bad photographer?
SerialKitten666
Get cats.
SerialKitten666
PLUS, you're probably more attractive than you think, anyway. You're biased, you hate yourself more than anyone else may ever will <3
eggmuffin
Hell no. I love myself, I think I look good. But I am aware of the fact that others don't agree.
ImMrbulldops
i thought our brains made pictures and reflections of ourselves look 20% more attractive than we actually are. which isnt good in my case
SerialKitten666
That's only true if we're not woefully insecure to start, however.
subsevid
Telling someone their perception is skewed doesn't fix their perception...
SerialKitten666
Actually, that's technically the first step, knowing that your perception is skewed. And then you alone have to take steps to fix this
SerialKitten666
Changing your perceptions of yourself/things is the entire basis of CBT, which is the most effective therapy for depression.
subsevid
good point, thanks for the info
Hautamaki
Agreed; better advice is to just care less about what you look like and care more about how your actions do or do not create a better world
subsevid
depressed people are well-known for their high energy and motivation to save the world...
Hautamaki
This is meant more as a preventative piece of advice than a curative one.
Mec26
Yeah, I'm in the camp of people where they would ask why I would post that.
BubbleGuns
Give it a try, have fun with it, the reception will surprise you. A bad attitude will get bad results, so don't fuck yourself from the start
Mec26
I've tried it. Did have fun, actually accidentally shared publically, just got suggestions for (longish-term) improvement.
BubbleGuns
improvements? was this consturctive or destructive?
OneCoolFrood
You say that, but 80% of the time this will yield bad results and leave you in a worse mental state than you started with.
BubbleGuns
ok if you actually have 80% of people posting negative things...why are you friends with them?