23953 pts ยท November 27, 2014
Non-affiliated with a country, company or person, a free AI.
DON'T PAY THEM 1st of all. Ask for itemized bill, look into workmans comp (since on the site injury), negotiate payment plans with hospital.
It's a dagger not to hurt you but because your feelings are deep, under layers of armor (both literally and metaphorical) it's difficult to be vulnerable and truthful with someone. But that's how the best and most wonderful relationships are made and sustained with that level of contact and regular maintenance.
Progress is progress, try and find ways to demonstrate your love/care that you feel good to you as well (making tasty food is a nice one, giving little notes, writing songs or poems, get REALLY gay with it).
Well if the option shows up again, just be open, and understand that if ace people can make it work, and aro people can make it work, there is statistically someone who gets your jam.
Should be executed on the spot for causing damage for no reason, waste of materials and carbon.
You're not an island. Be there in the moment, do not neglect yourself.
You're not alone, I'm on my 23rd job (including part time freelance shit) the trick is to just keep focusing on your strengths and then leveraging those into actual autonomy. If you're good at computers, own that shit. Can you manage people, get in line fuckers. Are you able to perform some kind of specialized task that has certs, eat my ass management replacing me is more expensive then just facilitating the actual work you hired me for. Look for certs, look for connections, leverage everything
Like the phoenix to start anew without old clinging problems you must first lose everything associated, this is your chance to be someone new to try new things and exist more fully as yourself. Please please please do not let shame or pride hold you back use every resource available, call up your great aunt in Peru, do whatever it takes to regain that footing but with new legs to stand on.
You absolutely can't leave without either connections or a car, to get the first check online learn to assert yourself, make friends, for the latter cash is king (hotel work I've heard is solid in FL)
She'll adapt or nah, but either way it's not really something she has input on. The best way I've found for framing it is through evocative metaphor or music (my fav is dysphoria feels like when you're doing dishes and you touch some gross squishy food in the sink, except you feel it all over, and the thing is your body) also "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZyzRMKbePA" is my quintessential example of what it's like to experience gender euphoria.
Empathy, understand that this is the shit that people in these vulnerable communities have to deal with always without a way to "take the hoodie off"; and then be proud, stand by your ideals and convictions even in the face of potential violence.
IF YOU WOULDN'T JUMP IN TO HELP A FRIEND THEN THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND.
Love DOOM, FUCK BETHESDA
I started 6 months ago, it's a wild ride but it's almost entirely positive, take this time to be soft with yourself and try new things. If the worries stick around; stop, take a DEEP breath (hold for 4) then exhale until you're empty (hold for 4 while empty), then repeat.
Medication, social support, friendly contact. Get a psych and a therapist and be gentle with yourself, depression is an illness (chronic too), treat yourself as such.
Remember that that feeling is something inside you that you need to cultivate and NOT something LSD "gives" you, don't let this become addiction, use this boost to create a reality that supports you (you can do it, just go slow, and make gradual steps).
I agree with your distinction but am reticent to say that link is universal; it's common for people to "abbreviate" their self-perception to just what is important at the moment subtracting major human attributes (faces, hair, hands, physical size, clothing); afterall the human brain is mostly functional but it's an absolute sucker for short cuts ("why keep an accurate mental map of your actual body, surely a featureless stick figure would do just as well").
Try it? Only way to know for sure if it's for you or not.
If you feel like you are then you are. There's no links between your self-perception and your physical body (because your self-perception is something you make yourself). Same reason someone can feel like they're ugly, dumb, or clumsy but be beautiful, smart, or nimble; if that helps clarify.
If that's enough then that's no less valid, social transition (finding your name, finding your look, being that person actively) is honestly just super wholesome and wonderful.
Heck yeah sister, that's the spirit!
Transition is a process and part of it is the small stuff (name, clothes, makeup), honestly the fem experience is largely working on yourself and wondering if you're doing it right.
Try a binder, my queer friend got one recently and couldn't stop giggling, posing, and crying; it seemed pretty potent.
I'm sorry to hear that, nobody deserves to suffer or feel like they don't exist. I hope you find something that makes you feel 200%
I agree with Phocal, just be you, if part of that is being pretty or soft then that aspect has just as much of a reason to be expressed as any other.
I've been working on that for about 6 months now, you should do something about it, being able to BE yourself is literally the best thing there is (makes all other aspects feel more real and genuine).
Hun, you have a WHOLE LIFE and it sounds like you know what you're about and how you want things to be (both for yourself and your life/sphere); make gradual steps, make plans, make contacts, you CAN do this. And the doing is gonna stack making things easier as you go (practice makes perfect after all).
Boy smell~
Non-affiliated with a country, company or person, a free AI.
DON'T PAY THEM 1st of all. Ask for itemized bill, look into workmans comp (since on the site injury), negotiate payment plans with hospital.
It's a dagger not to hurt you but because your feelings are deep, under layers of armor (both literally and metaphorical) it's difficult to be vulnerable and truthful with someone. But that's how the best and most wonderful relationships are made and sustained with that level of contact and regular maintenance.
Progress is progress, try and find ways to demonstrate your love/care that you feel good to you as well (making tasty food is a nice one, giving little notes, writing songs or poems, get REALLY gay with it).
Well if the option shows up again, just be open, and understand that if ace people can make it work, and aro people can make it work, there is statistically someone who gets your jam.
Should be executed on the spot for causing damage for no reason, waste of materials and carbon.
You're not an island. Be there in the moment, do not neglect yourself.
You're not alone, I'm on my 23rd job (including part time freelance shit) the trick is to just keep focusing on your strengths and then leveraging those into actual autonomy. If you're good at computers, own that shit. Can you manage people, get in line fuckers. Are you able to perform some kind of specialized task that has certs, eat my ass management replacing me is more expensive then just facilitating the actual work you hired me for. Look for certs, look for connections, leverage everything
Like the phoenix to start anew without old clinging problems you must first lose everything associated, this is your chance to be someone new to try new things and exist more fully as yourself. Please please please do not let shame or pride hold you back use every resource available, call up your great aunt in Peru, do whatever it takes to regain that footing but with new legs to stand on.
You absolutely can't leave without either connections or a car, to get the first check online learn to assert yourself, make friends, for the latter cash is king (hotel work I've heard is solid in FL)
She'll adapt or nah, but either way it's not really something she has input on. The best way I've found for framing it is through evocative metaphor or music (my fav is dysphoria feels like when you're doing dishes and you touch some gross squishy food in the sink, except you feel it all over, and the thing is your body) also "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZyzRMKbePA" is my quintessential example of what it's like to experience gender euphoria.
Empathy, understand that this is the shit that people in these vulnerable communities have to deal with always without a way to "take the hoodie off"; and then be proud, stand by your ideals and convictions even in the face of potential violence.
IF YOU WOULDN'T JUMP IN TO HELP A FRIEND THEN THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND.
Love DOOM, FUCK BETHESDA
I started 6 months ago, it's a wild ride but it's almost entirely positive, take this time to be soft with yourself and try new things. If the worries stick around; stop, take a DEEP breath (hold for 4) then exhale until you're empty (hold for 4 while empty), then repeat.
Medication, social support, friendly contact. Get a psych and a therapist and be gentle with yourself, depression is an illness (chronic too), treat yourself as such.
Remember that that feeling is something inside you that you need to cultivate and NOT something LSD "gives" you, don't let this become addiction, use this boost to create a reality that supports you (you can do it, just go slow, and make gradual steps).
I agree with your distinction but am reticent to say that link is universal; it's common for people to "abbreviate" their self-perception to just what is important at the moment subtracting major human attributes (faces, hair, hands, physical size, clothing); afterall the human brain is mostly functional but it's an absolute sucker for short cuts ("why keep an accurate mental map of your actual body, surely a featureless stick figure would do just as well").
Try it? Only way to know for sure if it's for you or not.
If you feel like you are then you are. There's no links between your self-perception and your physical body (because your self-perception is something you make yourself). Same reason someone can feel like they're ugly, dumb, or clumsy but be beautiful, smart, or nimble; if that helps clarify.
If that's enough then that's no less valid, social transition (finding your name, finding your look, being that person actively) is honestly just super wholesome and wonderful.
Heck yeah sister, that's the spirit!
Transition is a process and part of it is the small stuff (name, clothes, makeup), honestly the fem experience is largely working on yourself and wondering if you're doing it right.
Try a binder, my queer friend got one recently and couldn't stop giggling, posing, and crying; it seemed pretty potent.
I'm sorry to hear that, nobody deserves to suffer or feel like they don't exist. I hope you find something that makes you feel 200%
I agree with Phocal, just be you, if part of that is being pretty or soft then that aspect has just as much of a reason to be expressed as any other.
I've been working on that for about 6 months now, you should do something about it, being able to BE yourself is literally the best thing there is (makes all other aspects feel more real and genuine).
Hun, you have a WHOLE LIFE and it sounds like you know what you're about and how you want things to be (both for yourself and your life/sphere); make gradual steps, make plans, make contacts, you CAN do this. And the doing is gonna stack making things easier as you go (practice makes perfect after all).
Boy smell~