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TL;DR at the bottom.
He was in his early/mid-twenties, always had people coming and going since he lived alone and his parents bought the condo for him (to keep him out of their hair) so he had free reign to do whatever. There were a couple of dealers who moved in last summer and there were anywhere from 5-10+ different people coming and going every day and I'm having to leave my SO and our newborn alone to go to work. After they left it was basically a carousel of people staying and despite almost a year of complaints, his parents wouldn't step in and do anything at all. Even after his father said if he got too problematic they would kick him out and sell the place he called back like 2 hours later and basically said there was no problem with him "having friends over."
Two weeks ago, a guy who'd been living there off and on for about 2 months was parked right in front of the building dealing drugs to some rando while our neighbor was in the passenger seat. The dealer got arrested like an hour later but they'd already taken my neighbor to work so he skated by untouched. My landlord informed his parents but they never responded and never bothered to even come by and check things out.
Until 2 days ago.
On Friday, his parents finally came by and dude was dead. An apparent overdose. Estimates are he had died some time on Wednesday which weirds me the hell out. Nearly 2 days of playing with the baby on the living room floor, sitting on the couch playing playing games, watching tv, talking to my SO, and the whole time, he was dead on his couch 10 feet below us...
I'd even had the thought that morning that it was really nice how quiet he'd been the past couple of days.
TL;DR Problem neighbor overdosed and lay dead downstairs for 2 days before he was found.
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I spoke to a member of the Home Owner's Association a little bit ago. It seems, since arrests were made, the HOA had the evidence they needed to force his parents to do something, so they sent them an email basically stating that because arrests were made involving people witnessed in the company of their son for extended periods of time, they had to act.
They showed up to find him about 2 hours later. I don't want to think about how long he would've sat down there if not for that email...
xuriV
and to that I say: it is what it is.
TheCarolingian
Available condo then?
notamurder
Tl;Dr I am assuming you killed your neighbor.
nothingtosomething
Better 2 days than a month. During a heat wave. Decomp is a smell you NEVER forget.
MajorPredator
It’s ok to be relieved AND mourn the death of a young man. You can be glad you don’t have to deal with him AND be sad it ended like this.
chunglungus
those parents enabled their son to death. they absolutely suck.
DoughnutJimmy
He's dead......problem solved....move on.
Faryor
Means he ain't coming back either, sounds good to me
NoUserNamesLeftToChooseFrom
Fenrix
RobearGWJ
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
lovingspace
If not for the email, he would have sat there until you had smelt it. Unless you had covid. Then it could have been a really long time.
NEVADO71
I was a residential landlord for 15+ yrs. At least 4 of my former tenants are dead.
heyrelaxfellayouneedarestguy
Why don’t you have them picked up?
EveryonesCousin
It’s okay to feel relieved while also sympathetic. Just because he died doesn’t make his shit stink less
HeirElfSquire
Meh, fuck him. Live your life
poopsingroups
My heroin-addicted cousin stole from my grandma, threatened her. He has 2 kids (that we know of). Always in jail. He is shite
DWolf
At least you know it and aren't enabling him. I hope he can get his life together for your sake.
Sheldonian
Awful situation for everyone inlcuding the dead neighbor, wish we had come up already with a better way of treating addiction and depression
Goldenteckel
The poor guy wrote his own story, and made it a short one. Alas, there are many like him.
LifeConfessionguy1
Now he gonna haunt the condo....
Fenrix
Flowerlady0
Put some signs up for the drug Seekers so they can be turned away and buy the condo below you and make a super condo.
polarbPilot
Death. The one thing we are all guaranteed.
shufflindrudders3
The IRS has entered the chat...
CurbYourClassWar
*Only for poor people
GODofHUNGER
I used to be in that life. Just because people do drugs doesn't make them shitty people
staceBugTerror
U are right. Please read my post
Kagenical
Drugs are fine. Having 15-20 random people coming and going at all times isn't.
NotaCPA
9 times out of 10, you're a shitty person, you just don't realize it. It's ok though, the "normal" people around will do their best to help.
Sheldonian
This
terriblethunderlizards
I like how the person doing the drugs may not be bad but it attracts a criminal element if hes dealing, which is bad to have near your home.
PhailRaptor
You can usually tell immediately which is which, though. And let's be clear, there's a lot of overlap between drug use and shitty people.
ineedtotalkaboutsomethings
It can when they’re addicted and do shitty things to others for it. Dealt with it before. Shitty family members still shitty after it.
watts001
dead and given a wooden onesie !!
DiesOnLoadingScreen
Wooden onesie.. I'm stealing that
sweatybuttcrack
So there's a condo going cheap below you then?
staceBugTerror
Dick head
idontfinishmysentences
Buy it and live in a super condo
Flowerlady0
This is a good idea. However signs must be put up to run off the drug Seekers for the next year or so
notthemostoriginal
Weird how this is almost the same as what happened to us...only our neighbour was on his sofa, other side of the wall rather than downstairs
notthemostoriginal
If you hadn't said he was downstairs I would have believed you were the neighbours two doors down from me ?
Fenrix
lol, yikes, that's so much worse! I'm just glad I didn't follow his dad back downstairs. I never would've shaken that image from my brain.
notthemostoriginal
We found out because police were outside our door at 2am with his cousin and they were being pretty loud... Thought police had gone but ...
notthemostoriginal
They were still there, so what my partner assumed was them being loud as usual was actually the police so they came knocking after he...
notthemostoriginal
Shouted at them to be quiet as it's the middle of the night (but not as nicely) ... They then took his statement ?♀️ they didn't follow up
Revnis
Honestly, had his parents actually checked in on all the reports you gave them they may still have had their son... So this isn't on you.
TheExpertAtEverything
Definitely not on OP but I think it's a bit unfair to blame parents either. Could they do more, yes, but it was his fault.
c0dengo
The neighbors parents def. enabled him and hopefully are self aware enough to realize their role, altho the guilt will eat them alive.
thelaaaaaw
Parents who do that, often 'secretly' wish he dies so he can stop being a bother.
gatorwatch
He may have refused treatment previously as well, we don’t know. They enabled but most ppl have a hard time making their child homeless.
rayvn
Is it bad that I hope they realize this? It's probably bad, I'm a bad person.
DWolf
As a former cops/courts reporter, I saw most convicts have doting moms: "my boy could never have done that. You're just out to get him."
rayvn
As a former teacher, I saw a lot of parents say the same; I'm sure many of them would go on to be the cases you're thinking about.
DWolf
I also taught. So many kids I wished I could just take home & give a structured life. So many parents want "A" grades kids never earn.
TheNerdFonz
His poor parents. They were CLEARLY told again and again and now they have to bury their son. I assume they’re RACKED with guilt.
LuminoZero
That's the funny thing about life, you can ignore reality all you want, but it doesn't care. They KNEW there was a problem, and likely 1/
LuminoZero
that he was on drugs as well. They refused to act, and so this happened. Their refusal to accept the reality put them here.
oprahslovechild
Maybe, but drug addiction is hard. He was an adult and nobody can help you until you are ready.
bekindtoanimals
Judging by the way they reacted to complaints I’m thinking they put it all on him
c0dengo
I'm sure the guilt is made worse by the tiny bit of relief they are not able to suppress.
PhailRaptor
Depends on the context of the situation. They may have had no idea what he was involved with.
Heisanevilgenius
Damn. I feel that.
staceBugTerror
A parents love is uncditional. I feel for them too
asdykeasadutchdam
I have learned in my life that things like that will work themselves out given enough patience.
creechville
My parents said that about my dad's mom before I was even born. Now my dad's dead and I'm grown and his mom is still alive.
ramarins
I live in a rough neighborhood, and this was weirdly inspiring.
VulpineEmpress
Causing a lot of potential damage meanwhile.
Avrune
That sounds like it’s not their problem. Good riddance.
mikenco
Could be any of us, given a few poor life choices.
MoschopsUK
Yes, any of us could move somewhere with a problem neighbour. We should be thankful.
Scuttlebutte
Or choking on a pizza roll at 2am alone.
OddOod
Google self heimlich. It's not hard and might save you from dying the dumbest death
Scuttlebutte
How am I gonna google it when I'm choking to death??
OddOod
...that's why you google it now
KitchenClean
Ultimately it was on him. But it looks like his parents were enablers. Drug addiction is a disease and addicts need a good support system.
CalvinisHobbes
Addiction is a disease. Full stop. The rest of that sentence is ignorant dribble
AFelineMassofEyes
Yes, this smells of morbid affluenza.
Kbantar
Generally before one can change, one must face consequences. It seems his first real consequence was death.
AFelineMassofEyes
Well you are right, his learning curve was way too steep. My diagnosis was mostly from his parents' style of enabling
userfriendly19777
Lying dead for two days is weird with all these 'friends'. My guess is that none of his guests was eager to talk to the police.
kyleischevy
Had living this sort of lifestyle when i was younger, your right. Which is a shame because the likelihood of you getting in trouble for
kyleischevy
Calling an ambulance because someone is ODing is really low.
tgwil3
Reminds me of Jesse pinkman's house post Gail
iftheworldsatlarge
This happened to a buddy of mine. He overdosed and his "friends" looted him and ditched him. A head injury was cause for more investigation+
iftheworldsatlarge
And they arrested a dude for obstruction
Fenrix
Wow. Yeah, I was really hoping against hope that he was alone so it would be an overdose and not something more sinister.
iftheworldsatlarge
They didnt really know whether he hit his head on the way down or if someone else did
iftheworldsatlarge
Bet lots of kids could be saved if they werent so afraid of getting in trouble instead of getting help when your friend dies in front of you
Mother0fCats
My brother was ODing one night and his friends locked me out of my own house and took my cell phone because I wanted to call for help
ript11
It’s a sad thing. He was probably trying to horde the loneliness with drugs and ‘friends’
Fenrix
The more we saw him and his interactions with people, a lot of it seems it came down to that.
Fenrix
Just found out a few hours ago that he was hitting heroin hard. I thought it was crack or meth, but he was deep in a spiral. Sad.
ript11
Yeah really sad
Fenrix
He practically refused to be alone. Even when one person left, hours or minutes and someone else was there to stay a few days.
Fenrix
And for basically nobody to pop in after he died makes me feel pretty strongly that someone was with him when it happened.
experiencemike
It was Walter motha fuckin White. He was there.
tgwil3
Typically when people are using very heavily, they want to have someone with them so they can watch each other for ODing.
tgwil3
Obviously it varies, but this is not uncommon. Addicts aren't as oblivious as one may think
MilometersKilometers
They’re people too, but also addicts.
Bardcrest
I am honestly not sure what the proper response is to this. So let's just assume I gave it, okay?
Chimponzoo
So, you neighbor is single now, right?
ubatuba3000
Exactly
Vilgashem
Same.
MrKnowItAll1903
Sorry for your loss!
GoIIum
Move on!
Neinas
squreky
Congrats on the sex?
Andersen81
Wrong kind of stiff, but i'm not you superviser.
LovesToSpooge517
For what it’s worth, I’m 100% satisfied with your response.
PineappleIsDeliciousOnPizzaFightMe
Let's further assume this is a reply telling you how thoughtful and spot-on your response was.
Fejerro
Beautiful, touching words. What impeccable judgment, as well as an amazing capacity for empathy of all parties. Bardcrest 2024!
Twyll
I think the proper response is vaguely sympathetic noises. Hard to transcribe into text.
SleepyKitten
We could all learn from the kind words of @Bardcrest . Truly a light in dark times.
VaultGirl69
There is no response. We need free, secular rehabilitation. Not punishment for users. Until that, deaths will be high.
PorneliusHubertII
Shit happens and people die. I wouldnt dwell on it.
JohnCheshirsky
If imgur has taught me anything, it's probably "that's rough buddy"
Flowerlady0
I think it's "Whelp!?" With your eyebrows raised and your hands and shoulders in a shrug motion
Fenrix
Fair enough.
Q269
Midnight Gospel is well worth the watch, they talk about death in a few episodes
mischivousmic
You've done it
youcantgiveAbabybooze
I feel kinda sad that all those people, he probably thought were friends, didn't even notice he was dead. Addiction is a lonely life
getcrazywiththecheezewhiz
I’m sure they knew but didn’t want any part of it. Still very sad.
Chibo3000
Makes me think of the ending of the great Gatsby where no one shows up to the funeral and one guy is still living in the house but doesn't.
Guantanamobaae
Recovering addict here, those friends were not real friends. People you use with only want to keep you where you’re at. Everyone uses each>
Guantanamobaae
>other for something. In recovery life, I have real friends we all support each other’s growth. I have a career again, I’m a father, I’m >
Guantanamobaae
>self-sustaining and not a drain on society. You can’t get past the drugs without letting go of everyone you associated with. Period. It>
Neinas
This is the same on the top of the ladder to. The richest people don’t have friends, they have acquaintances and connections. No love or ->
Guantanamobaae
>sucks your neighbor never had the chance to live life without drugs again and resolve the issues he felt like he had to escape but he isnt>
coffeebaby
I'm glad they found him before he started to decompose.
funnystoryaboutthat
Thankfully it's not summer....
BigAZNMan
My sis was dead for 2 days before they found her and we couldn't do open casket due to decomposing.
Soberyn
Had a neighbor die and wasn't found for like a week. It was pretty bad.
PeacockFeathers
Had the same happen a few houses down from me. Bio hazard team had to gut the guys house ?
Soberyn
Yeah same here. Ppl in bio suits showed up to remove the body. They thought he was a black guy. He was white.
Cats2cats
I think you mean liquify, he was already decomposing.
Switchlight
It could be worse. Heard of an navy vet who bills were set to autopay. They found him in his apartment after he had been dead 3 years
OmNachoMama
Decomp starts immediately. My ex was find the same way by his sister during a welfare check. I had to help clean out the apartment. The
OmNachoMama
smell was still there even though he was not. He'd been there between 30 and 48 hours.
experiencemike
I got a story for that! My buddies needed extra cash, they worked for this guy installing flooring. He offered them more money from a 1/?
experiencemike
Side gig with his brother. So my two friends inquired and were asked to pickup dead bodies and transfer them. So they said why not. 2/?
experiencemike
They only went once. Full bunny suit and everything. They got to a house of a very overweight man who passed away on his couch 3/?
experiencemike
They explained his body was already about to burst from the gates on the inside and as they pulled and started to lift his flesh 4/?
experiencemike
Started to smear off his body and since he was there for maybe 2 weeks, his skin infused with the couch. So they were tearing his 5/?
Ghlargh
Here in Sweden, because a lot of old people live alone, they have found several people months or years after they died. Because of the dry->
Ghlargh
-> air and under-pressure ventilation in properly updated apartment buildings the neighbors rarely notice anything.
mcpwams0001
As a bio-recovery technician (dead body clean up) I can most certainly tell you they would have already been decomposing...
PenisOfDeath
Wait, how does one get into this line of work?
mcpwams0001
Definitely not the same as a 3 week old decomp but still not fun.
rowsbywoofsnumberonefan
My husband does this, too. Horrifying to me, but someone has to do it!
bouncebounceandtheclaw
Would you ever make a post about your job? I find that so interesting!
Ghlargh
And, i cannot stress this enough, without pictures please.
TODAYSNUMBERIS
I used to work for the coroner service. Can confirm. (At least he died on the sofa and not a heated floor or a full tub.)
superkavi
Is it true when you died , you shit yourself?
whooptydoo
Everything thats left. No muscle to hold your sphincter closed poo come out
Fenrix
You and me both.
Cats2cats
Was going to take over the apt lease of a co worker. She went to introduce me to the landlord(hadn’t been seen in 4 days). We called the1/2
Cats2cats
cops. As soon as they opened the door it was obvious from the smell. His bedridden wife was in the house. Not pretty all around.2/2
LesbianRedwings
Yeah, I wonder what prompted the check in just then
Fenrix
Found that out a few minutes ago: HOA sent the parents an email forcing them to do sonething because of the arrests that were made :\
Fenrix
If not for that email, I dunno when they would've shown up...
TheVampireDante
Probably the next time you called someone, to complain about the smell.