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Arkell Graves and Dana Griffin-Graves tried for 17 years to start a family but had trouble including miscarriages and a stillbirth. They gave up on their dream of a baby 5 years ago. But recently she found out she was 5 months along, totally unplanned, and decided to tell Arkell by hiding buns in their oven along with the ultrasound photos of their soon-to-be baby boy.
Congratulations, lovebirds :)
SOURCE: http://www.buzzfeed.com/stephaniemcneal/a-dad-to-be-wept-uncontrollably-when-his-wife-told-him-she-w#.vqLw2BJYx
VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9nviJhPZTA
Motherclucker
Man went full turtle, what a happy moment.
PawelBilinski
But really... It has to feel like winning millions in lottery.
TheGruGruxKing
Watched the video. Every single "related video" was how to make buns.....
Mikesane
That's dad material right there.
HerrHerman
Thought he was going to take his shirt off.
ignimbrite
Hey, I do that "scream with my shirt over my face" thing too!
steve196
As someone with a similar story who just kissed his 6 month old baby boy before going to work, I'm so excited for you! Enjoy every second!
Arynnis
My mom didn't sign my permission slip for this feels trip
DrOfMachetecine
I would lay down every penny I own on this man turning out being a fantastic father
PleaseMindTheGap
Right in the feelings
AUserByAnyOtherNameIsStillAUser
17 years.... now that's dedication.
fromofelia
This is how a new child should be awaited.
gmoney4321
they going to be some good ass parents..
LazyLexiconographer
This was me, and then the doctors tried to convince mom to abort due to risks. 1 in a million they said, huh, well bitches here I am.
SusanGoGetMyPants
Well you sure showed them :)
THErockinRobin
I hope these two have a happy healthy baby I think they are going to be pretty awesome parents
KittyShades
So happy he went turtle mode
Shittbutt
aww that little wiggle he does of joy!
beepbeepmeow
That's what got me too, Shittbutt. :)
5700
Preheats the oven for a DiGorno, ruins announcement
bananaranch
That's why you always check first!
sivartnitram66
I have a crazy soft spot for large black dudes crying. Don't know why but I alway have. Congrats to them. +1
hwatL4bloopy
That shirt thing is pretty funny and you can tell that house hasn't had children
rdvlvt
For real. Say goodbye to all your nice stuff, folks! Congrats to the parents to be!!
gimmesomthingtoshop
Seeing 6 buns in the oven made me think she was going to have more than one kid.
rckchlkjyhwk
I love it. Confusion, disbelief and (tears of) joy all in one video. Congrats to the mama and papa to be.
MERGATROYDER
I'm so happy for this couple. Wife and I have been trying for a year. Dieting, working out, sleeping better and we've had no luck.
Jyrroe
2 years here, never give up!
beepbeepmeow
Keep trying man! And don't stress about it :)
ugunaeatdat
Bet he's glad he didn't preheat the oven.
xanthio
Well, I made that mistake twice now, I won't make it a third time.. the second time it was a cast iron pan I left in there, and I.. 1/2
xanthio
..didn't open it because I remembered, I opened because I wanted the pan. I didn't connect the two things until I grabbed the pan.
wheresmyelephant
I'm sorry but this was my first hearty chuckle of the day!
xanthio
Well, let's put it this way, there's no scarring so I can laugh about it now. It was preheated to 500 so it wasn't so funny then.
ChairmanOfThePEN15Club
I'm going in my shirt next time I'm overwhelmed
CanadianMooseRider
Wait thats an odd thing to do? I always do it xD
AMooPointIsACowsOpinion
Seriously, I like this guy's strategy.
sweaterpuppies
Which I imagine happens often with you chairman's duties.
OverRedundant
I do it all the time, actually. Especially post-beers.
madamehatter
I moved yesterday. Totally overwhelmed. Stuck my head into my shirt for 45 seconds (or so). Trust me, it helps.
heatherkb85
That was really sweet when he did that...that's a regression to childhood behavior. I've seen a hundred little boys do it.
HulluSteve
Yeah, because it fucking works!
turbotricycle
Never go full turtle.
unappropriate
Like tucking inside your shell
MacTavishSon
I read that as fucking. I think I need to sleep now.
MrPornProfessional
That is one happy motherfucking turtle!
BritaThePurifier
http://imgur.com/jkanFGd
ButIDidntDieThoughItWasAJoke
Here's the youtube source so you don't have to go through buzzfeed https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9nviJhPZTA
ImCheesecake
Oh. My. God. WHEN WILL PEOPLE LEARN HOW TO USE THEIR PHONE CORRECTLY??!
ArgentJordan
Realest. MVP. Ever.
PooPooInSpaghettiEveryoneUpsetti
I love how the video propositions at the end are all "How to make buns".
DigitalGuru42
OMG his squeal near the end! So cute, so adorable! Much happiness to them both.
StephFreitas
Seriously ur awesome. I wish I had more upvotes
QuadrilateralEnix
Literal tears.
omgshutup
So can we buy them something? I feel like I need to buy them something for that kid.
thelastpistachio
Aww she should have dropped the phone and hugged him when he asked.
AsinusAdLyram
RIGHT? I actually said that out loud, "Gitcherass over there and HUG THAT MAN!"
SonOfThunder723
Well, there's is my dose of feels for today. Thank you!
takedatbabydatbabyaintmine
Doing god's work
beepbeepmeow
Yeah that would have been smart. I'll go ahead and include that. Thnx
IAmShithead
This guy gets it.
popculturella
Yer doin' the Lord's work, son.
GodsWorkSon
I'm here, did I miss it? What did I miss?
popculturella
Where were you yesterday morning, man?!
GodsWorkSon
Get's busy sometimes, y'know, answerin all those prayers...
PandoraWraith
Just hit yes to all.
Manorexia
Touching story but to find out 5 months along is kind of terrifying. Spinal Diffidus(sp), FAS, other things I am forgetting. Also period?
tinkerbug
Some women don't get periods for all kinds of reasons (other meds sometimes stop them) Also some don't get morning sickness
ReptiRosary
I had a really easy pregnancy. If I wasn't regular I deff could have gone without knowing till around 3-4 months when she started kicking
jowonka
I was 16 weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I had only missed one period. It happens.
dandep24
Because every woman has regular periods... Just wish them the best
Miasmapup
She probably didn't notice until way later.
tempuslynn
Some women also have their period while they are pregnant. I have a cousin who had that both pregnancies.
luckycharms4life
She probably suffers from a condition that limits he periods. I went 60 days without a period and my friend has gone longer.
jowonka
Also, detailed ultrasound can nearly rule out most major defects. I worry about the previous stillborn. Good luck to them!
SchrodingersSchrodinger
I had a client who found out at 7 months. She thought she was entering menopause so went to the doctor who came back saying congratulations!
MadamPuddifoot
One of my friend's mom was in to get a hysterectomy, they didn't do it and when she asked why they said "uhhh welp, yl
MadamPuddifoot
... Wtf? Anyway... They saidsaid "uhhh welp, you're pregnant." SURPRISE!
SchrodingersSchrodinger
Oh my god! That is crazy! I have never had anyone too that story. Well done! *tips hat*
Fenomenoide
Irregular periods. Also stress is a big factor in missing periods. I spent my whole thesis semesters without until dissertation day.
AlwaysChinchillin
Oh good lord that's awful :( New grad student here, now I have another reason to be scared of my thesis.
Gnorknik
My sister-in-law found out at 5 months. She has PCOS, rarely had periods, doc previously told her she'd never be able to get pregnant.
mountainofpuppies
thing is, now she's pregnant, one of the best alleviators for PCOS is pregnancy!
Meryl89
Same here. I'm afraid that if I ever get pregnant I'll find out when I go into labor.
luckycharms4life
Yeah. Doctors are bad at predicting that. I have PCOS too... found out at 6 weeks cause I got sick.
mountainofpuppies
not bad at it, it's just bloody difficult.
fufuwewe
most logical thought would be she kept it from him because of her past miscarriages until she was sure it'd stick
Midniteoyl
This^^
BiteTheHandsThatThieve
Definetly this. My gf's sister announced later due to past issues.
abesapien2000
Same with my cousin. You end up not wanting to let others down too
Maelchry
I agree. Makes most sense to me.
thatget1
my sister in law didn't realize until 5 months along (spotted the whole time) and drank like a sailor til she knew. Baby is 100% fine. Weird
ReptiRosary
God that's terrifying. Glad SIL and baby are fine though
thatget1
not that I would recommend boozing while preggers.
natasharostova
Some birth controls get rid of your period while you are on them..just fyi
MrSpanksworth
Why would she be on birth control if they've been trying for 17 years?
theshieldthatguardstherealmsofmen
People take bc for lots of different reasons (eg hormone regulation)
MrSpanksworth
Yeah but wouldn't that defeat them trying for 17 years?
Okibi09
"They gave up on their dream of a baby 5 years ago."
KingTrashmouth
I get one period a year. I wouldn't know until I developed a sizable belly, probably.
RedPaws
wow thats weird. how does that happen?
KingTrashmouth
Usually when I tell a doctor, they say I'm just too small for them. I also can't donate blood for the same reason
Evangale
For a lot of folks, a regular period doesn't happen. It relies on a multitude of factors. I only got a couple a year also.
ifavoriteallthingsanimal
My friend found out when she was 7months along. Had the baby a month later and he came out perfect.
ilovemyboobs
my mom had regular periods through her whole pregnancy with my big bro. he's grown up to be schizophrenic and violent. 1/2
ilovemyboobs
2/2 my mom is for sure the reason he is like this is because of her periods.
cmc8290
that's actually kind of interesting and i'm sorry you got downvoted.
ilovemyboobs
I didn't realize i had, and its ok!
paddythelion
Good for them, but I can't help thinking that after 17 years of trying, they're not supposed to have kids. Cynical like that.
Lulabel73
She could be 37
MrsZbornak
so does that means all those shitty parents that beat up , starve kids and kill their babies deserved to get pregnant.
paddythelion
Of course not; this way of thinking doesn't work both ways, so it kind of cancels itself out.
NurseCAT
Did you just say spinal diffidus?
IDontShutUpIGrowUp
Hey, it's almost bifida. Almost. And I choke on laughter every time I see it.
Eowyneb
Many woman continue to have bleeding as if they had their periods during pregnancy. It is not as much or as long as regular periods.
cmc8290
"regular periods" are different for everyone. mine last 3 days and only require a pantiliner. (1/2)
cmc8290
(3/2) for some women their regular period and pregnancy spotting might be identical
cmc8290
(2/2) my roommate said she bleeds like she's dying for 7 days straight.
yepthatsmyusername
I think you just gave me spinal diffidus.
Radagastthebrown
I can't breathe I'm laughing so hard omfg.
RonPaulWasAnInsideJob
Halp me. I gots the diffidus!!!
dandep24
HA! +1
causticcoquette
Is that a thing? Or is it a misspelling of Spina Bifida?
Manorexia
That's the one. I couldn't remember the name. I haven't had to use it since the pregancy unit of a nutrition class my Sophomore year in Uni
yepthatsmyusername
Pretty sure the latter of the two.
beepbeepmeow
I hope everything turns out great for them and that she and the baby are healthy. We don't know her situation. True story: when a woman +
beepbeepmeow
stops the birth control pill, sometimes it may take 2-4 months for her to get her period again. If she knows this and expects it, it could +
beepbeepmeow
be the reason why she was not looking out for a pregnancy (but could have become pregnant due to stopping the pill). But that's just one +
Eowyneb
Actually many woman can bleed during their pregnancy. They don't realice it is not their period even if it is ligther.
beepbeepmeow
idea. The article says she realized something was up when she realized she was the only one not losing weight in her exercise group :p
DragonLordG
Yeah, but if she didn't know for MONTHS? that's terrifying! Imagine how many casual beers she had with it.
Manorexia
I hope so too but still a lot can go wrong when it is unknown. Also I did not know that about birth control TIL
TheOtherSarah
A lot can go wrong even when you do everything perfectly. I had a miscarriage earlier this year, dr saw no reason why it happened. 1/2
TheOtherSarah
2/2 I was healthy, baby was healthy, it just stopped. Shit happens even when you're doing everything right.
beepbeepmeow
Yup. Learned that the hard way.
Manorexia
About birth control or everything that can go wrong? :/
restoredsoul76
I only get emotional when I watch other people feeling something for some reason, in real life I'm dead inside
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whydoeseveryonehaveacoolusernameexeptme
hey you used a Smiley though, it's a start
Escueleto
I can try to put a life inside you
hwatL4bloopy
Me too
yuyufan43
As someone who's been in 6 hours of therapy a day, 5 days a week for 2 months, you're not dead inside. There's something there. Feel better.
UonlyThinkyourDead
U work for the phone company too?
subject626
Naah, small IT-support company.
neongloww
you possess the necessary social intelligence for empathy. evolutionary biology!
uhhhnick
Same here, when my daughter was born, i was obviously happy, but couldnt show it all that well. But when i see sad shit on tv, I cry like a
FloridaWoman
I feel dead inside in real life but I also take things to close to heart..I mostly shut down my emotions but .. it's too hard to explain..
youresopredictable
But it proves you AREN'T dead inside. There's something in there living and feeling. We all express ourselves differently.
FlockOfWeiners
FINALLY! Somebody put it into words!
Equanimous
The other side of the coin isn't any better - I'm a serial empath and it brings me much misery.
wolfswool
Do you feel what other people feel? I do and it's terrible. I used to not even be able to differentiate my own feelings from someone else's
Cameronkip
Really, all this means is that you have a high level of empathy for others, and are in fact just stoic when it comes to your own self image.
kaffefilter
I've seen my bf cry a total of three times in 11 years. All to the same movie. Because the dog dies.
penguinsandpuddles
I am the saw way and never actually clued in. Are we broken?
cradik
Desensitized we are
yerrface
I can force myself to feel things but without trying I rarely experience empathy.
hasalltheforeveralonebadges
I have never agreed so much with a random comment before.
opikal
Yea wtf, a commercial comes on, and it can make me weep, a friend/family member dies, nothing.
mustardman69
And I thought I was alone on this. Damn.
MichaelBgB
REVEEEERRREE A MILLION PRAYERS.
NSPike
also my first thoughts, but could only remember the line 'release a million drones'. Seemed totes inappropes
GruenerWeissKohl
Git gud, I don't feel anything either way.
Muttons1337
It's good that you have lots of empathy. Never lose that feeling.
BilldeTurlock
But... you're not, you know, otherwise you couldn't react the way you do. It is very likely to get better. Hang in there.
EatinButtsAndBustinNuts
I get you on this one. Most of the day I feel nothing. But shit like this gets me evrtim
merprincesspacifica
We can be friends if you want.
restoredsoul76
(y)
wellifyouhavetoask
And I thought I was dead inside alone.
CapitalNick
And I got emotional from just reading this.
Jusmar
Just wait until you stop caring about what other people feel. That's when the fun begins.
bluejaydesigns
It's sad how many upvotes this comment has. It means we can all relate.. What has happened to all of us?
caniteona
Join the club
Gaarwaronja
nice
MsCillaneous
I love imgur is full of people who are like me. Dead inside.
ugunaeatdat
Cheer up. You need to acquire someone to care about.
bschoolbrat
"Acquire"
mousecove
None of you jamokes are doing anything worth feeling about. Your life is broken, not your feelings.
usernameschmoosernamelosername
Thank you for this
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cptkipard
That's not quite what they're saying.
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Grumpyrico
This is so me. I cry when I see people hearing for the first time, but in real life I don't care about anything
WendyTheWendigo
I'm no expert, but sounds like you have something blocking you from feeling those emotions rather than a lack of them.
SJDanie
I was like this for years due to childhood traumas that caused me to build walls, then I met someone 3 years ago who knocked all my 1/?
SJDanie
walls down. He turned out to be a total idiot, but I learned that I was human so I thank him for that. I had to break to be whole again.
AnderCommander
You're waiting to feel for the first time.
Exabit
Same. Broke up with my favorite person. Felt empty, no tears. Last time I cried was 5 years ago this month.
iwillstitchyoulikeoneofmyfrenchgirls
have you tried vaporub in your eyelids? always works for me
balthcat
Real life is too important to care about. Who can afford to be that vulnerable?
WhatLikeAPuma
Start going to support groups. Not yours, just other people's. Might I recommend the testicular cancer survivor group? The hug sessions work
Imjusthereforthecomments
But stay away from ascending bowel cancer. I WANT ASCENDING BOWEL CANCER.
GlitterInTheDarkNearTheTannhauserGate
you can have the testicular cancer, stay away from my blood parasite group
Drougals
I'm pretty sure this is how fight clubs start.
KeyLimeAnxiety
Oh my god. +1
PotooGeatAndWise
His name was.... What the fuck was his name?
delafarles
Bob. Bob had bitchtits.
JJ717
HIS NAME WAS ROBERT PAULSON!
theretheyretheir
Jack's Raging Bile Duct
ThroughTheFireAndTheFlamesOnExpert
Pobert Raulson.
AFineDayForScience
As played by Leaf Moat
ChairmanOfThePEN15Club
Defense mechanism.
WATERBOTTLEFACE
Do go on..
BigTruckRegularPenis
This is me but I don't truly understand what I'm fighting off/hiding from. I feel fine emotionally.
cptkipard
It could be neurological rather than psychological.
CanuckyFriedChicken
I'm the same. I think people just have different ranges of emotion. Or maybe empathy is a different part of the brain than emotion?
Persianguy2
Could you please explain sounds interesting!
cptkipard
Commenting for later.
ChairmanOfThePEN15Club
A learned response from being hurt in the past. But still relate to others. Didn't lose empathy just built a wall for yourself..just a guess
ammarez
why didn't I think about that before? Thank you, seriously it may be just one sentence but it made me think and realise shit .
restoredsoul76
that...makes a lot of sense.
maymay1588
Probably means that they don't trust people and emotionally block people off so they don't get hurt. Speaking from experience.
ReunitedAndItFeelsModeratelyTolerable
I don't trust your experience
WATERBOTTLEFACE
But then why be so openly sad about things that aren't relevant to their life
cptkipard
It's in private? You can be yourself.