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The Family Place is a nonprofit organization centered out of Dallas that helps men, women, and children fleeing verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. In previous years, women and children have stayed at their on-campus housing, while men were placed in hotels by the charity. The organization realized that it needed to increase its ability to serve men fleeing abusive situations, so it has opened a shelter dedicated to serving men in the area, with 21 beds and private rooms.
There is a huge stigma around men being abused, and The Family Place hopes that opening a male-dedicated campus will help raise awareness of the issue, as well as help increase respect for the men enduring violence from their partners. (used this gif bc all the stock images of men crying were silly and over-acted; case-in-point).
If you're a man or woman in the Dallas area in a dangerous or difficult situation, please call 214-941-1991, family place's crisis hotline. You deserve safety, love, and respect.
If you'd like to donate to their cause (I have!), you may do so here: http://www.familyplace.org/donation/donate
Here's a list of their other important services: http://www.familyplace.org/ourservices/our-services
Yay for equality! We have a long way to go with this issue, but this is PROGRESS!
Source: http://texashillcountry.com/texas-first-battered-men-shelter-dallas/
SwaghettiYologneseWithMemeballs
Strange question, but is there a live feed of the street across the shelter?
genericusername20
I'm from Dallas!
Faaaaantastic
I know I'm a geek because I read this as "first transmit shelter..."
Evergrey
As a feminist- really glad to see this. Hoping some day there will be one in every city.
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Fellow feminist - same! :)
thestarchaser
Hopefully this one won't get shouted down. Genuinely heart-warming to see someone who cares
danielsan1977
I'm a SJW, extreme far-left liberal, and other names that are not for polite company these days. This is a great idea and want more of 'em.
mokzin
Wait so men finally have two shelters or is this still the only one compared to the over 2000 women's shelter?
ifoundthisonthetwitters
It's progress. You have to start somewhere.
ashgrave
Deep Ellum Brewery just realesed their first sour. Dak is the quarterback. Dallas is becoming the city Texas deserves. Feeling homesick
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Amen. It'll be here ready for you when you can return
gaugetx
Always upvote Texas!
SavageRancor
ShermanPeabody
TFP is a wonderful organization, love seeing them extend their services like this.
allihearisnoise
in the uk research indicates DA/DV is 50/50, yet the view is is still predominately biased on women. this abuse destroys and kills
ifoundthisonthetwitters
I wonder if men are less likely to seek help bc of the stigma, or bc of the sexist idea that women can't abuse men.
lulzbian
Likely both.
allihearisnoise
@op and @lulzbian, agreed, research indicates its both and society having those ideas, be glad it will change as more are aware of it
ERJockey
Good to hear. I was abused by my ex fiance and it took me short of killing myself to finally leave her. Moved back home for a bit 1/2
ifoundthisonthetwitters
I'm really glad you're alive and safe.
ERJockey
Same here. Her bullshit wasn't worth losing my life over.
ERJockey
but I'm back on my own again. Her bi-polar became unbearable, especially since she refused meds. The beatings and cheating finally got old.
IsaacTiday
What if I'm not from the Dallas area, or in danger?
InnocentReever8
Then you can call me.
Homophone
Tell your mother. As a mother, can confirm we can and will whoop asses if you mess with our boys.
Kellboy69
What if I'm a woman, and not in danger? Im not, but i have a friend who is a woman and not in danger and need to know what i should tell her
asm80dfa8sdfj
You should tell her, "Keep being awesome, cause you really, really are"
emmargerd
Volunteer or donate to your local shelter :)
asm80dfa8sdfj
Donate hugs.
Megarith
thank god, only took a guy to kill himself over it.
asm80dfa8sdfj
One?
AdamantlyDislikingAllDogs
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/04/29/earl-silverman-dead-suicide_n_3179850.html
asm80dfa8sdfj
I ask because men have double the rate of suicide compared to women, and it's not really a coincidence.
thecolonels
The one in my city closed down. Wasnt used. Not because men dont get abused (obviously it is less significant abuse usually) but generally..
thecolonels
..dont seek help. Hopefully shelters arent seen as feminine as much
Rodeodoc
Did a ridealong with a cop and got a call to a domestic. Cop was ready to arrest the guy automatically but when we got there I knew../2
Rodeodoc
...the couple. Told him it was probably the woman that was the aggressor. I was right. But she didn't get arrested.
erischilde
There's a women's shelter in Vancouver that even won legal rights to not take trans. Sounds basic till you find out they actually don't /1
erischilde
Believe trans are women, call them men, accuse them of risking the abused women. Petition for right-wing Christians on bathroom bills./2
erischilde
There's a form of radical feminism called TERF where they disavow all trans, call it mutilation, and that they are men moving into /3
erischilde
Their "safe spaces" as part of the patriarchy trying to control them from the inside. It's fucking crazy. And some of these women make /4
erischilde
Us and Canadian policy. So yeah, these poor guys are going to get major dozxing and hatemail. One is good. It's not enough! /ens
xtraa
It's sad that your government does not care so you have to rely on NGOs.
ItWillAllWorkOut
Why do you you assume its the government's responsibility? NGO'S help willingly, better service and better community
xtraa
I like your idea of making money by giving it away.
APenguinNamedZach
As someone from Dallas, it's great to see some positive stories in the news. The poor city doesn't have the best track record
ohshitausername
I live/grew up in Dallas and I saw the skyline before the title. I was prepared for something fucked up. Yay we did something right!
lpooptoomuch
i know, as someone born and raised in D town. we are basically a president killing town that only cares about our superbowl trophies.
InnocentReever8
So true it hurts
VadersLesserKnownCousin
As another from Dallas, yep. However I love this city
midd1eearth
Me too homie.
GrImmgur
Is verbal abuse a thing? Like if there are a lot of threats does that count as abuse?
BerthaMasonIsInMyAttic
Yes, verbal abuse is very much a thing and extremely damaging.
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Verbal abuse can include threats of violence, but in my experience it's where they manipulate you into thinking you're worthless 1/2
ifoundthisonthetwitters
It's about changing your psych into one that thinks they'll never do better and isolates them from friends/family.
ifoundthisonthetwitters
I'm no expert, that being said.
saleos
Awesome theres one for men, I know a guy who's wife threw boiling water on him on purpose, ended up going to the hospital. Abusive cunt!
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Is he okay? That's absolutely horrendous I hope she's in jail for her crimes.
saleos
No, he was too embarrassed to say anything. We all knew, finally admitted it after the divorce while drunk. Thankfully he took the trash out
saleos
All down his shoulder and arm, accident my ass!
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Man, I'm glad she's out of his life at least. Hope he's healing (physically and mentally).
asm80dfa8sdfj
Fun childhood story. My oldest brother is a dick and kept messing with my sister (who later ended up on meds for being crazy). 1/2
asm80dfa8sdfj
She was making ramen, and walking past with the pot of boiling water. He reached out like he was going to hit it and she spilled a bit, 2/3
asm80dfa8sdfj
so she angrily threw it on his face. Now he can't grow facial hair on his left side. 3/3
saleos
Omg he is lucky it wasn't worse and got into his eyes or something, shit...
bayardthebloodhound
Kinda sounds like he was a dick as well. Not saying she should have through hot water on him but a hit to the arm yeah.
digitalist1
He said it was boiling water... so thats permanent scaring tissue. This reminds me of a similar inccident when a man poured boiling 1/2
IVerifyPeoplesUsernames
I hate to be that guy, but I expect a massive barrage of hate mail against the founder.
ifoundthisonthetwitters
I hope not. :(
dangerousDoc
Yeah there are already threats against the people who run the thing by feminists like any men's shelter
Evergrey
That's not feminists.
LeftBrainTrain
That's infuriating and objectively disgusting.
marysmithsmith
Source?
ifoundthisonthetwitters
I posted this article and I'm a feminists. People like that are abusing the world feminist and it's not cool. Boo them.
dangerousDoc
Boot them out off your organizations then. They use your donated money and resources to keep abusing people
ifoundthisonthetwitters
Ya, I'd love to. But how? Other than to disavow those people, not much your average person can do. Look for the good in people buddy :)
danielsan1977
Call me ignorant if you want, but why would there be hate mail?
AdamantlyDislikingAllDogs
Past experience. This is the best collection of examples I could find: https://pastebin.com/LyXcp2Ve
tehzpoon
I now feel nauseous. This is why we use the word FEMINAZI.
danielsan1977
*misandrists.
danielsan1977
These are not feminists.
hoboface
Keep telling yourself that, maybe it makes the problem go away.
danielsan1977
Keep telling yourself that they're feminists. Maybe it makes the problem go away.
ICarpeYourDiems
They are. That's why identity politics are so dangerous. When you support an identity, you support everyone who assumes that identity.
danielsan1977
They're misandrists.
dangerousDoc
They haven't been denounced and many of them are leaders in very large feminist organizations
danielsan1977
Even if true, it doesn't mean they're feminists.
namiasdf
Because people think sexism only goes one way. That ignorance is what really prevents the feminist movement from proliferating at the rate
dangerousDoc
The feminist movement these days is extremely sexist
namiasdf
There are plenty of good feminist representation that's agreeable and reasonable. Just that they are also equally afraid of the feminazi
namiasdf
Look up any feminist who speaks out against feminazis.
danielsan1977
Maybe it could just be an "abuse shelter" rather than "men's abuse shelter" or "women's abuse shelter".
dangerousDoc
There are plenty of unisex shelters and women's shelters but this is the only male shelter existing in the US after the last one was shut(1)
dangerousDoc
Down due to violence protests and threats driving the founder/owner/runner to suicide. I don't see feminists destroying the women's shelters
namiasdf
which it should in this progressive age. People are hesitant, because we aren't doing enough to oust the misandrists, with fear of being
namiasdf
labelled as sexist for doing so.
danielsan1977
Maybe it could be an "abuse shelter" for anyone, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, or otherwise.