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Her career track has her taking on two major responsibilities by the end of the year at latest (though if she’s comfortable with the organisation it may be sooner), and the combined proposed salary uplift for both those responsibilities will put her over my salary.
We’re both hype AF for this. And the more I think about it, the more I’m sure that this hasn’t happened in either of our immediate families before.
I brought it up to some people in work and one guy asked “are you not threatened by this?” Like dude, no. Hell no. Why would I be? There’s only a net benefit for our household.
ReallyNotSure
nicce. time to upgrade for her.
mthrndr01
The most surprising thing here is that increased responsibility is leading to increased compensation
WaxDragon
I never understood being threatened. In a partnership, it's all 'our ' money. More money is good?
FirstInLastOut
"We're both prostitutes"
nullbr
threatened? Why should you be, if it were me I would shave and wear a nice lingerie for her
z1chefdaddy1
My wife and I have traded off making the most money for 25 years. She is always happier when she is making more and honestly then so am I.
bourbonandbaddecisions
I want my SO to make more money. I need help with my Lego habit.
BearRaid
My fiancee out earns me 2:1. I’m kinda glad because my salary sucks.
gdex86
Look if my wife could support us on her salary alone with our over due stress id fully be happy to manage the home cook dinner and be ready with her favorite drink in a cute outfit when she came home.
EllisBurksrocks
My wife put earns me by about 50%. Couldn't give a shit. She is amazing and I am lucky to have her.
SkaerKrowe
Time to become a house husband!
mypostsecrets
My gf earns 3x what I do, and deserves every penny.
AyatollahBahloni
Great attitude, and may you enjoy the added benefits!
nero4ty2
My wife used to make more than double my salary, which was awesome because we paid off all of our debt and started saving more. She left that job because it was toxic and we make the same now but get to wfh together and that is honestly better for us and our kids than the extra money
LeftRightThere
I, too, choose this guy’s wife.
senzykyo3004
Ok part of me clicked on this to see if the guy was unemployed
darkfirebrand
I out earned my ex husband for years. He as always very salty about it - and never supported me.
I’m glad you support your wife - that’s the way it should be
Flareside
My wife has been out earning me since she graduated college.
MizWeirdo
I'm not wearing my glasses and I was scrolling through pretty quickly and at first glance I briefly thought that top line said "My wife is ok crack" and I was like
"Damn dude, that sucks, but red is rad and blue is bad." Lol
GenesisAmadeus
My wife. :)
iusedtodream
Our wife=]
MAN9000
Tell my wife...
mikecaa
My wife earned more than me for 9 years while I started my business. Now that's flipped. Marriage is a partnership. My wife mows the lawn and does all the outdoor stuff. I cook dinner and do most of the shopping. We share all the house work. Traditional gender roles don't matter. It's what works for the team.
Schlumpfi
My wife absolutely out-earns me if she works full time (she doesn't because of our kids). And I'm fine with it—because in the field I'm in I'm doing what I like, and I earn top tier for that. I don't get people who have a problem that their significant other earns more than them. It's great, because they might be happy about it, and a happy partner is something everybody should like!?
WellThatsOriginal
My wife passed me a few months ago. Which is good because our property taxes are going thru the roof as well as every other thing...lol
commanderding
I make comfortably over 6 figures and my wife and my sister both out-earn me by large factors.. not a few thousands, but factors! They have the education to earn it! I like all the gifts I get :) lol
matshelge
My wife has out earned me since she got out of Uni. I knew she was a potential high earner when we meet and made that bet just in time to cash in. Now she makes double what I do. - Thanks to this wise choice I am moving into a 2000 square feet, 8 room apartment in a month.
AdventurousDonut480
Since she's on the right track, it's time to rail her.
surroundedbytwits
…in a sundress
ingridwebb88
That's the least you can do with her working so hard
DreadZeppelin
But no touching during the third rail
algavinn
Don't kink shame me
Gannon3d
PythonIndentAwwwYiss
Same, except I'm showing her baby goats for the farm
chrisjfinlay
Change Star Wars to Jurassic Park and bang on.
jdd2481
My wife earns a bit more than me. I hope she earns enough I can be a stay at home dad! For our dog… 😂
Iwouldbenick
This is my dream! I tell her all the time.
IzzyB13337
This is my fiancé's dream as well! I work from home, lol. I know he just wants to be here with us all day
sv1rr
But, what about you fragile masculinity?
Quizz25S
That simply will not do. You should kneecap her like Tonya harding vs Nancy karigan
Shadowkrieger
Real question is when her friends going to claim she is too good for him and request she divorces him
grhope
He can wipe his tears away with hundred dollar bills
awkungen42
Ahh shit! Wait I'm not a bitch made Republican. 😌
freakdiablo
My fragile masculinity would be thinking "SWEET! I wonder if she'd get me that neon CP2077 for the bedroom!"
HandoB4Javert
NoodleDragonSoup
But now she can buy you more Legos
SarcasticComment
but she will be less sexually attracted to you for you are not the provider
Tigersterne
I mean, my wife makes ~55% of the household income; neither of us could afford our lifestyle without the other. So really we're just the other's providers
chrisjfinlay
Had to check the username there!
alottosayaboutnothing
More of how she will react and how it will impact him and then he reacts. When the wife earns more she loses respect for him. Which hurts. So he reacts. Then everyone yells. Fragile masculinity!!
sfrinlan
If that's the kind of person she is, she wasn't a very good person to begin with. Further, even if she lost respect for him, he still chooses how he reacts to the situation. His masculinity shouldn't feel threatened even if someone stops respecting him. Her lack of respect is her problem. If she's chooses to be rude about his income, he can walk away without it being a "fragile masculinity" situation. If, instead, he turns whiny and passive aggressive about it, then "fragile masculinity" applies
Tigersterne
If my wife loses respect for me she'll have to do the cooking, scheduling, and housecleaning herself, plus lose half the household income. And a living and doting partner. Turns out cooperation and synergy is a good thing...
PredictablySilly
I earn more than my husband and because I married a person and not an ATM it doesn't change a thing about how I feel about him.
Seek therapy for either your insecurity or misogyny... not sure which, but definitely one or the other
Ree81
It shouldn't hurt. The genders are equal. The people making them unequal are.... well, people like you, who spread that opinion in the world.
Themusicguy
You’re so alpha
alottosayaboutnothing
It’s not me being alpha. My wife earns more and is made about it. Not me being fragile. But I guess my lived experience is fake
Oogibah
Yes, because as everyone knows money is the only thing anyone brings to the table.
Mikoshaman
Partner may not cook, may not clean, but let me tell you how they got that ring 🥰
spacecowboyein
I would looove it if my wife made more than me. Bonus points if she made so much that I can be a stay at home husband. Not likely, but one can hope.
sv1rr
That would be the dream. Give me an apron and call me a trad, uh, husband.
Aerina
If that ever happens, you have to do the trope where you welcome them home wearing nothing but an apron. It's the law.
maninpurple
Manga mafia house husband. It's amazing
maninpurple
Sorry sorry it's called way of the house husband
CorvidPrime
My wife has always outearned me. But, you know… She’s a doctor. She SHOULD make more than me. What’s BS is that I might outearn her in a few years because they don’t give her serious raises.
lichtly
Mine's a lawyer, makes more than me. I've gained more than she has by % recently because IT management, yt dude, etc. But she's still the powerhouse. Other than that I try hard to do my part for the house and kids, physically and mentally.
derrymerbles
I’m a doctor and my fiancee out earns me! When she got this new job, with only growth potential, I just about cried…from insane happiness! Watching her struggle with being under compensated for a shit job was awful. But that woman is a boss and knows her value and didn’t stop until she got what she deserved
VowelShiftBetch
Mine too! And for good reason. I've been jumping around between random corporate jobs while she hones her career at a fantastic small company. Her success is my success. Plus I get to make jokes about being a golddigger.
CarpetheCarp
I out earn my hubs. Because he switched careers to become a family man. He’s incredibly supportive and proud of me.
derrymerbles
We’re all proud of you!
hfctom
My ex made more than I (when she was working) and at first it was a bit weird, since I'd always carried the bills with my prior girlfriend. My current girlfriend makes more than I ever will and rather than worrying about it she's taking me to Disneyland for my birthday.
CorvidPrime
Awesome! I’ve never been… I hope you have a great time!
IllegalDuckling
Reminded me of something a bit different, how weird it felt that I earned way more than my ex's insurance broker mum, when I just had a part-time retail job.
The income difference between richer and poorer countries can be insane.
sfrinlan
Landed a doctor, nice! Watch out for the cold thermometer, though
Sleepsintrees
Canada would take her.
CorvidPrime
If I thought she’d be willing to move away from her family, we might even try… Living south of Canada is currently “uncomfortable”. She’s a doctor of Physical Therapy, and I work in Engineering (not an Engineer, but a BIM/VDC in the construction industry). Two STEM jobs, so we’re in demand… But she loves her family (despite them having voted for the guy who put us in this mess)…
Sleepsintrees
My cousins girlfriend is moving up with her mum who is a surgeon. You should look into it.
MagicToolBox
Mines a Veterinarian, she out-earns me _and_ she only works 3.5 days a week. She hates finances though so I do the household financial stuff. Ours is a partnership - we each have strengths and weaknesses. Together we are stronger than apart.
BabeAfett
Exactly this! It's a partnership.
FlatPlutoSociety
My friend is a veterinarian and recently got a big promotion and is now the medical director of a vet hospital. She almost didn't take the job because she wasn't sure she wanted to increase her work week to... four days a week.
sfrinlan
It must suck to have to look at everyone's dogs 4 days a week! The horror!
floatationman
One can only hope she survives.
CorvidPrime
Yep. Our deal is that I max out my 401K since my company offers 50% matching. That leaves me with practically nothing in take home finance, so she buys anything we need. She pays for now, I pay for retirement. We’ll never be RICH, but we’re comfortable enough, even in this shitty economy. Things are tight, but we’re not at risk of losing the house.
Sensiblyinteresting
50% matching? That's insane, I'm lucky to get 4% right now
HowmanytimescanIworkmycatintocoversation
I'm not sure what a 401k is but I have a retirement annuity that my company puts double what I put in! Their retention level is crazy high. People were getting acknowledged for 10, 15 & 20 years being there the other day
Sensiblyinteresting
401k is an American thing.
CorvidPrime
Yeah… And no cap. That’s why I’m maxing it out every year. I put in $22k, they put in $11k. I can’t touch it ‘til I’m 60, but it should provide for a comfortable retirement. I don’t love what I do, but I do love where I work… We actually get benefits, AND still have the occasional pizza party. Just last week they mailed me 2 Carhartt jackets as “thank you” gifts.
sfrinlan
Dude! Congrats on the sweet gig and awesome wife!