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Mar 11, 2022 2:14 PM
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theamazingmrbiggs
I don't like this picture because I am in it
TheLesserOfTwoWeevils
That is always something to consider yes but it's not universally true. Sometimes people say 'I'm all right' Because they are.
chaosundivided
unicornprotectionagency
Relatable for women too
MelfsAcidArrow
f**king cares
SomeKindOfEye
I'm doing the worst poop right now and I do not feel good
lostknight0727
I'm all right
moonsaves
If you ask me how I'm doing and I say "I'm alright", I'm probably doing alright.
Acrage
I strongly relate.
WellThatsOriginal
Truth
InDogsWeThrust
therandombagofmeat
I am living plan D, having already passed though b and c
PikaChunin
Plan D(ay to day.)
SomebodyGet2020APuppers
We need to normalize being static. What's static? If I say I'm static, it means I'm not okay, I don't want to pretend like I'm okay, I don't
SomebodyGet2020APuppers
Want to talk about it, and I want all of that to be okay. And if I do want to talk about it, that should be ok too.
treknor
I am nearly at the end of my therapy.. I won that fight.. but it was a close call. so if you battle demons..I just want to
treknor
let you know, YOU WILL WIN THIS. it takes time. it is hard work. and the road to victory has its downs, too .. BUT you will make it.
rowanmc
Hey I'm here!
Invisibleman1921
Thanks friend.
wigglefluffticklebum
It's money and loneliness, it's not difficult to imagine at all.
finetoroastasimamarshmallow
A lady friend once asked me how I was doing and I said not so good. She immediately replied that it was just a form of politeness… 1/2
finetoroastasimamarshmallow
I was apparently supposed to say, fine or ok as that is the appropriate response. If I need help now, I STFU, fix it myself or pay a pro /2
kerBamf
So a lady acquaintance, then?
finetoroastasimamarshmallow
After that, yes. Shallow.
Cedri
I need to see this every day.
TharrickLawson
I recently got in trouble at work because I would give an honest answer when people asked how I was doing. I got told off for making
TharrickLawson
the environment uncomfortable. so yeah. now 'I'm alright' while I keep on trying to convince myself to keep going
Bacxaber
Fuck that shit, keep being honest.
TharrickLawson
would love to. but now it's on my yearly appraisal, so I'm putting pay rises at risk if I don't just 'I'm alright'
DarkConspirator
Nobody cares whether you are man or woman.
TheRicM
I feel you, brother
ScrewYourLogic
One of my favorite conversation jokes. "How ya doin?" "Can't complain...no one would listen if I did." Polite giggles insue.
ScrewYourLogic
I did this until some thoughtful asshole saw through the joke and hit me with the "I'd listen if you need it." I started crying. Shit's real
kerBamf
Sounds like you needed it.
ScrewYourLogic
No doubt about it my dude.
monas3
My reply, "I'm here if you need me to listen," without attitude. Some of us see through the jokes.
Canofminus
"battling demons you could not even possibly imagine." I can't stand this sad tough guy BS & toxic thinking like that is gonna make it worse
PikaChunin
I can't tell if you're agreeing with the post or disagreeing with it. But please, do go on.
Canofminus
I agree w/the the point a/b toxic masculinity stopping men from being able to communicate they are dealing w/issues. However, stating 1/?
Canofminus
that those issues are so great they are beyond understanding & empathy is just further toxic thinking & counter productive to the message2/?
Canofminus
he's putting out there. It's a step forward and then a step back. 3/3
PikaChunin
Hmmm. I could see that not accepting the possibility that your experience is imaginable by others could be harmful. Seems a minor issue.
westPAguy
Cazzobello
Trust me!
whoneedsanoriginalname
But you really need to listen to me, because im telling you the truth, i mean it, im okay
IPlayForBread
Lie to me
IMainReinhardt
Trust me
presequel
Time to head to YouTube and watch some old MCR music videos.
valdbagina69420
Ghost of me and you is a great one
brianthefly
The Ghost Of You video is one of my favorites
presequel
Oh my emo heart couldn't pick one. BUT my favorite non single track is Mama.
ScorneontheCob
Was vampires will never hurt you a single?
presequel
Oh absolutely, one of their first. *in my opinion, don't need people coming at me.
IEatAllTheFluffyAnimals
Living the dream!
BeerAndChips
Clerk at a Circle K said that to me once. He was working night shift. Probably wasn't even supposed to be there that day.
IamnotSpartacuseither
Nightmares again? ... yeah. I get it. This is my go to response.. either this.. or the ubiquitous "I'm alright" shown above.
Cazzobello
Struggle, challenge, and rise to struggle again!
ScoobyDoobyDeuce
Dude this is my fuckin catch phrase
synthetichug
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fRCwWqasrU
SirAegis
Hey look. It's me.
therandombagofmeat
If I was doing any better I’d have to sell tickets
thegreatatuin
"just about stumbling along, thanks"
Muzzah27
I too am living the dream. Hang in there man
Mxlespxles
"One nightmare at a time!" Or, alternatively "SOMEbody's dream, anyway!"
Octavion1973
Yip , dad passed away yesterday I fly to Scotland and have 4 days to sort everything then back to the rig in Africa, bills still to pay
subparsubpoena
My condoleances, dude. Hope you have some good memories of your old man. Saying goodbye is an important part of dealing w/ loss either way.
Octavion1973
But I'm alright ...
HeroesDeserveRecognition
My condolences. Do your best to take some time just for you. I know the pressure of life is real, but that time for yourself is important
dilgar2000
Sorry for your loss, the pain subsides but never goes away. I miss my parents every day.
Invisibleman1921
Getting divorced, everyone keeps asking, calling and texting if I'm all right. On one hand, I feel good. Good knowing I have the support ...
Invisibleman1921
that I have. But at the same time, I just want to lay down and cry. Cry with the knowledge no one will pat me on the back and say: It's okay
Invisibleman1921
I just need to do that once. Just once and I'll be better for it. Then I do what I've always done: pick myself up.
ajxlucky13x
It's ok op. You're feelings of feeling better and those of loneliness are both valid. There's a silver lining to everything. But there has
ajxlucky13x
To be a dark side of a cloud to have the bright one. You will get through this. Focus on tasks that need to be delt with, stay hydrated.
CecilyBumTrinket
Same as after my Dad died. "How are you?" ".. I don't know, the world just fucking ended and how TF is everyone living like it's normal??"
BoopedYourSnoot
It's hard to explain it to other people if you've not been through it. I lost my mom in 2015 and I was furious just that the world continued
BoopedYourSnoot
as if nothing had ever happened. And it took a long time to accept that I could feel happy again. Virtual hugs for you. :)
CecilyBumTrinket
You too friend. It'll be 3 years in May but it still feels like yesterday most days, but it gets a little better every day.
PikaChunin
"A pillar of reality I thought held up the world just crumbled beneath me and I have been falling ever since, yet here I stand motionless."
CecilyBumTrinket
That was really beautiful and 100% what it was and what it still feels like sometimes.
IMainReinhardt
That is a fantastic line. Is that from something or did you make it up?
PikaChunin
Thank you! I wrote it off the cuff because their comment resonated with me a bit.
TheRicM
At the same time, many people ask "how's it going" not expecting a deep answer. It's often asked as just filler. The whole setup is surface
CandidGamera
Not "many people", that's what the phrase MEANS. It's a purely social conversational item devoid of informational value. And that's not ->
CandidGamera
<- "surface", that's how the majority of social interaction functions, and that's good, because guess what, non-stop verbalizing your ->
CandidGamera
<- emotional state and debating the vagaries of life with every single asshole you meet would be fucking exhausting.
Xenarion
Which is why I hate this question, and make sure to not ask it unless I'm really ready for a sincere answer. Weird social norm.
Dude229
My standard reply to that one is "It's going. Don't know where, but it's going" which is an apt metaphor for my life in general.
DeKetsendeRechter
**DEPENDS ON CULTURE**
thedysentery
I'd be so uncomfortable if someone answered this honestly. Just say "livin the dream" at the office and open up to friends when they ask.
PikaChunin
"Hi, I recognized you exist and hope our interaction is brief and inconsequential." "Thank you. I acknowledge your greeting and existance."
MoochieMan
Its completely contextual. If its a greeting, "How's it going" is basically "Hi." But face to face over a beer, "So hows it going" is diff
Feanordidnothingwrong3000
Working retail, I never ever wanted an answer, it's just a neutral greeting. We got a line and I don't care about you, I don't need a story
GoldAnthroWolf
I often tell people, 'Terrible, dying" something other then 'fine' cause most of the time I'm not.
TarrkertheNewt
I legit despise that. Sometimes I just respond with "Good!" because I literally cannot stomach another round of "How you doings". -_-
Discordians
Depending on who is asking some people would also just use the "Good" cause they dont want the person asking to worry about their problems
iquestionthepinappleeveryday
But also one of the reasons we should “show up” when someone does share the breakdown. Because it’s so common to get a regular response>
iquestionthepinappleeveryday
>we tend to get awkward and uncomfortable when someone gives an honest reply. That is an honest opportunity to reach in humbly>
iquestionthepinappleeveryday
>and connect with someone who may just need that or provide care in a way you didn’t know was there.
TitillatingPterodactyl
I recently cracked from this kind of issue. My go to response when people asked “how’s it going “ was “well I’m here!”. It came off as
backrideup9
I dont even lie anymore. My day sucked. My week was shitty. My life is swirling. But yeah, nobody cares, they just stop asking.
drcurlyfat
“Still vertical today!” Is my “ha ha, but things aren’t going well.”
clevermotherfucker
I just say "terrible". I get a real mixed bag of responses.
Xenarion
I usually say "I'm alive". I hate that question, because no one wants to hear anything negative.
monas3
Ditto
purdhapley
“Can’t complain” because no one will listen.
HoldThatTHOT
"I'm vertical"
catbastard350
“Good enough”
Archeron
My normal response is, "well, I haven't been shot at today." As a vet, not getting shot at is a plus
hangar
When asked, "Are you doing OK?" you can't be truthful, because "I don't want to talk about it" doesn't lead to you not talking about it
hangar
And most of the time it's not the right context for a deep conversation
GrassssssssTastesBad
That was my go to at one of my previous, abusive workplaces
bcldonnelly1
"Good as any, better than many" nice non response
TheMershedPerderder
Still alive, I guess...
HeySweden
This is how I have responded to people for 20 years.
TitillatingPterodactyl
Yeah and for some, it’s probably innocent. I finally realized for me it definitely wasn’t.
HeySweden
Agreed
YureiKuma
“They haven’t killed me yet…”
NotABadLookingNarcissist
My friend Zach used to answer “better than not-great”.
FallenJester
My response is 'no worse than usual.' Because the usual, ain't that great. So if I'm no worse off than that, it's alright.
tzxAzrael
"i mean, it's only the usual amount of bad. i'm used to it, and at least it's not worse... yet."
Joeybats890
“Any better and I couldn’t stand it”
TitillatingPterodactyl
A joke, but it was the truth. I wasn’t happy. Stress and anxiety from work was at insane levels for the last few years and it was all I
TitillatingPterodactyl
Could do not to crack. Saying “I’m here” was basically I’m going through the motions and trying to survive. That’s how I am.
CraftyObligation
My go to reply, "Im alive and upright."
markiel
Yup, recently had massive bout of depression and worry due to possibly becoming homeless and that was the only real way i could respond
Liwithekaleontherocks
I usually say "well.. Im still alive" so you can take a wild guess how im feeling.
MeshHatMafia
Hear ya man. I usually say “we’ll I woke up today” hang in there dude
blahblahblahks360
You're not alone. I've used that phrase for the last couple of years.
afflicted456
Same
MadeItToFavorite
I have a really good friend who responds similarly to those questions. I know he’s not okay, but I don’t know what to say? Any suggestions?
MadeItToFavorite
I usually say, “Im here if you need to talk,” but I want him to know I really mean that, and I’m not sure what words would help
TheRicM
So how do you respond now when asked?
shankelstoff
"FUCK YOU TOO!"
seane4fingers9
Well I woke up on this side of the grass. Can't be too bad I guess
TitillatingPterodactyl
It’s still my default out of habit but with those that know me, it’s “getting there. Slowly but surely”.
TheRicM
Good to know, thanks. Wishing you the best
JustJoshinya9001
Right there with you bud. Hope things start to improve for you soon!
TitillatingPterodactyl
Hey appreciate it. Got an appointment later this month to talk to someone. Moving on from the job to something better for me overall.
JustJoshinya9001
That’s good! I’m just focusing on trying to lean back into working out/smoking less often for now. But therapy does help most folks!