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laurenlovesazul
But also, marriage can be amazing and beautiful and fun. So there's that, too.
darearkin
As someone who's watched most marriages around him end unhappily or drag on miserably, I'll admit I'm massively skeptical.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
No fucking kidding. I dont get the feeling this was made by anyone who has actually been married.
WolfPackMedic
Very true, I love my wife and couldn't imagine life without her next to me
iamlurkerllama
Marriages have their rough spots but it is up to both parties to remain faithful and try to work them out if that isn't possible then 1/2
iamlurkerllama
Then maybe it is a good plan to mutually depart
WhenISpeakGIFsComeOut
Ooof, my h-heart...
kaidell
So many people, men and women alike, deserve better than what they've got
KayakStuff
This is so true.
kaidell
And some don't.
ikbenlike
Fucking synths
ikbenlike
Fucking synths
ikbenlike
Fucking synths
IntoxicatedUnity
This is about as accurate as saying... only women get raped.
rianocerous
that's a lot of baggage right there.
lastfairdealgonedown
That...was...intense.
Wineinabox
Feel better OP? Therapy dude.
kingjames1979
'MERICA!
Braco
Nope this is how happends im mostly all the world
KimfromNorway
not the wife gets all, and allomony thing cause thats hella stupid.... thats only for murica
BryanCroson
I feel emotionally destroyed just reading it
Philks1
Same here. This is disgusting. But its reality for some and it scares me.
CreamySeaman
Don't get married. Problemo solved.
RaulwickLegendsinger
I... I gotta call my dad.
THEThadJarvis
You really should. Damn near step by step this is what my wife did. Call your dad. Nothing brings a smile to my face anymore except her call
JapaneseStudentTadashii
Something similar to this happened with my parents, but I find this kind of one sided.
Somedaddy
Well they are sharing a personal experience and they are only one person.
lorkidorggoborkbork
It terrifies me to see this happening in real time...
Somedaddy
Just remember that no matter what, our kids still need us.
ilikethisplaceyouguyshavecats
This is one marriage. Not all marriage.
ilikethisplaceyouguyshavecats
I just object to the idea that women are always the bad guy. People are shit, and treat each other badly, but that's not gender specific.
ThePenguin111
more than one %
Mattkarov
not to burst your bubble, but it is, look up the laws in divorce women get fucking everything, its retarded.
Somedaddy
This is about half of marriages. You can always tell the guilty one because they hook up right away.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
Half of marriages end in divorce. Youre implying every divorce happens for exactly and only this reason?
Somedaddy
Why don't you ask if he needs to talk instead of arguing national divorce data.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
What are you even talking about
Somedaddy
This happens extremely often, but not to you right?
Somedaddy
When your friends kill themselves after speaking to you, just keep arguing empirical statistics. Winning is more important than caring.
Wombatish
You seriously need to talk to someone who isn't the internet. This was presented as a general commentary on marriage. OP was never married.
TheShiftyEyedDog
its so brutal that some guys actually see women like this
ABillionDucks
Well, if you see women doing this in real life, it's hard to trust anyone.
TheShiftyEyedDog
a lot of people are manipulative, both men and women alike
ABillionDucks
Yeah, but courts don't favor men in these types of situations, so it's not even like there is justice.
PenguinsAreFish
I grew up a child in a situation like this, I never knew if it was my father or mother who was wrong,i basicly grew up without a father tho
Verminburner
I had the exact same upbringing it's hard and reading that comic makes me worry about my dad :(
WowSoSparkly
My father was an asshole, my mother stayed because she had stopped working and basically having a life to be the perfect housewife. Such bs.
Verminburner
I had the exact same upbringing it's hard and reading that comic makes me worry about my dad :(
Verminburner
I had the exact same upbringing it's hard and reading that comic makes me worry about my dad :(
sestgut
Hey I can empathize there... Didn't meet the man till I was 16, turns out he's not too bad of a guy :)
Anirra
I grew up the same way, but now I know it was my father who was wrong. He just didn't care about anyone but himself. He cheated on my mom1/2
Anirra
multiple times, and even stole $2000 from me that I was trying to save up to go to college. Seeing as I grew up poor that is a lot of money.
Pattosaurus20xx
Connor?
LuckyWristbands
Ayyye I know your feel, brotha. Both my folks are weird and fucked up. It's not SO bad though
Malkiot
I did too. I told my parents they were both full of shit. I then told CS that I wanted to spent half my childhood with one then the other1/?
Malkiot
CS made them agree to this or they were going to through a hissy fit, so that's what happened.2/2
flamadiddle
My mother tried her best to turn my siblings and I against our father, and for a few years it worked. I still resent her for that.
chinesewarlord
My parents divorce was mutual. They put my brother and i as #1 priority. My father did his best to see us everyday i feel blessed
Somedaddy
I'm glad that they put you both first.
johnvictor
When you get older, you realize they were both at fault in some way. Rarely is there 100% innocence to someone. Still no excuse though.
Syng420
This is very true, but it doesn't fit the 'poor men being tricked by evil women' narrative that Imgur loves.
TheDivineUsersub
I grew up with both parents, but my mother was violent and very angry. She would tell me every horrible thing in the book about my father -
TheDivineUsersub
- in her rage. My father never once, even to this day now that I'm an adult, will not speak ill of his son's mother... I'm proud of him.
Somedaddy
I'm sorry for that, I swore it would never be my son. Then she left me. 76% of divorces are filed by women.
FHyland
Probably both of them
Wombatish
Having been in the same situation and having more perspective now, this is most likely (like 80-10-10) the right answer.
mountainofpuppies
i had an insane father (he still is) and my mum refused to talk negatively about him until he wore her out yrs after the divorce w/ his shit
LionHeart31337
For me, my mother tried to brain wash us into thinking my father was a horrible man. Turns out she was psycho. He is the best father ever.
smoochmysnoot
Similar..I really feel like I missed out on getting to know my dad. I miss him. I want him to meet his grand babies.
morri6
If he's still alive, make this happen somehow. For us.
smoochmysnoot
I give you my word, I will do this.
ICanChangeMyUsernameWheneverIWantButIDontBecauseIAmGodDamnLazy
Similar situation I have right now. My mom cheated multiple times on my dad for years, but she always finds a way back in the house. (1)
ICanChangeMyUsernameWheneverIWantButIDontBecauseIAmGodDamnLazy
From what I gather from my sister, my mom's friends on Facebook support her and act as if she did nothing wrong. Really aggravating. (2)
LionHeart31337
My father did the same. He kept her, so he could still be with us. Not having us wasn't an option. I assume your father is doing the same.
ICanChangeMyUsernameWheneverIWantButIDontBecauseIAmGodDamnLazy
Actually the opposite. My sister, little brother, and myself are with our dad. Mom left. But my dad keeps bringing her back time after time.
UhBell
Saaaaaaame bro. Fucking same.
SteelIsTheAnswer
When I was just a little baby boy my mama used to tell me these crazy things.
frosty147
Happened to my Uncle. Thankfully one of his kid's re-connected with him before he died. My aunt can rot in hell as far as I'm concerned.
Eowyneb
My husband's uncle is in this mess rigth now. His wife cheated on him and turn his kids aginst him. He loves them so much but they hate him
jaggerjigs
My mum was the same, after 12 years of her bad mouthing my dad I moved out of her house and into my dads, feels great! My dad is awesome
Bombofclusterfucks
My mom handle divorce better then my dad she never talkd badly about him worried itd change our perception of him but he did that on his own
Voodoomancer
Alternatively, before marriage, make sure your potentially significant other is not an acidic asshole.
BigForNothing
People change over time. Interests change, and relationships and people you used to love make you crazy.
dycern
I'm so thankful that my divorce didn't go any way like this. I just today spend 30 mins talking to the ex about his work and upcoming move.
n3cr0fag0
Are.. are you ok OP? Need to talk?
iamlurkerllama
What a bleak view of marriage....
Somedaddy
Maybe if this didn't happen half of the time.
senoranderpants
This is probably what it's like to marry an asshole, but not every marriage ends like this.
SoybeanLumberjack
This isn't the only situation, yes this happens but this is very biased towards men.
roseofsharoncassidy
Imgur, always making us ladies feel part of the community. From hating all fems/fat women to fapping to almost underage girls/celebs. Fun!
ingelri
You've certainly got a talent for scratching out new ways to be a victim. "Imgur hates women", kek.
Reemy420
Don't forget the racism people claim doesn't exist on here.
Schmuck4hire
I was just thinking the same. Imgur doesn't seem to want to discuss issues to gender-based boundaries. It just seems to want to vent about1/
IWannaDipMyBallsInIt
I'm a humanist. I dont give a fuck if you're fat, black, purple, mexican, half-lizard or identify as a cheese pizza. Don't be a cunt.
rexzeer
IWannaPipMyBallsInIt is my spirit animal.
alink2thepast
Yea, and they're only single bc women choose douchebags over nice guys like them! (Please note sarcasm)
Schmuck4hire
how awful and wrong feminists are. 2/2
Syng420
Ironically proving that casual sexism is still alive and well.
Schmuck4hire
It's like during that whole Gamergate charade. Anita Sarkeesian would discuss how there's sexism among gamers, and some gamer would say 1/
ecalred
Wow, imgur doesn't like women. This is not what marriage is like.
mhgrim
Only half
ZombieZoidberg
Actually it IS what marriage turned into for MY parents, and most of my childhood friend's parents.
pleaseatme
Your own personal experience does not reflect all women.
ZombieZoidberg
I never said it did.... however it is a pretty good sample size when you add dozens of childhood friends.
pleaseatme
No it really doesn't. There are 7 billion people in the world.
Malloth
Of course imgur doesn't like women these days, all the outward misogyny bled over from reddit.
Malloth
It's what a crappy marriage is like. Granted, I've only been a spectator to some of those...
slinkywafflepants
Great conclusion to draw from a single image out of millions
emuthegreen
As the daughter of two terrible people, this fact shocked me when I met my bf's parents
aegeryn
Sure they do! As long as they're really hot and half-naked, or spouting anti-feminist rhetoric.
Malloth
Of course imgur doesn't like women these days, all the outward misogyny bled over from reddit.
tryin2figureitout
Misogyny has got to be the most overused word on the internet today. And totally hypocritical, you can criticize men all day long.
TheDivineUsersub
Agreed. I think with all the fuss of 3rd wave feminism, any man who criticizes it gets labeled a misogynist.
Malloth
That being said, I've borne witness to some of this image. Not in my family. Neighbors.
PieisKing
Mental health issues + a system that caters to women in the divorce courts makes some of this fairly accurate. My mum tried brainwashing me.
emuthegreen
I'm an adult! Both parents like to brainwash me.
emuthegreen
Luckily I know they're both awful humans, so its fine!
AwwYissMothaFuckinProcrastination
My mom tried taking me while my dad was away on business. I was 13 and knew something was fishy. She was being too nice.
PieisKing
My mum tried to take me at the same age to the other side of Australia. Never really forgiven her.
AwwYissMothaFuckinProcrastination
Same. What's the point? Family doesn't do that. My step mom is more of a motherly figure than her. Family is love not blood!
AwwYissMothaFuckinProcrastination
Bitch took every dime he had. Blew it on a vacation in Hawaii. Courts gave her nothing because she was hiding $ for years in secret.
TheDivineUsersub
My mother would hit me, break shit in the house, call my father every name in the book behind his back and to my face. To this day, -
TheDivineUsersub
he still bites his tongue and refuses to speak poorly in regards to such a vindictive bitch. Very good fathering.
Cyrakhis
This is exactly how my father thinks it happened with my parents, but he was an abusive shit in reality. =(
AlternateSteve2
Sorry to hear that! =(
WhatRaySay
This is a terribly sad story, but it need not be an excuse for a belligerently sexist circle jerk... oh, too late
CreamySeaman
How is this sexist? It could go either way.
AlGoreSexTape
It technically could, but it's often used by a lot of RedPillers to make sexist arguments and so is kinda associated with that.
pukeachew
A reasonable person, I scrolled so far to find you.
mooseboots
We are few and far between on this site.
Syng420
We must band together lest we lose our souls too.
lornabird
Also a teensy tiny bit racist.
RainInTheFace
Thank you for existing.
wadatahmydamie
My favorite part about MRA's is the part where they forget who wrote the laws in the first place.
wadatahmydamie
My second favorite part is how they have no interest in equality. They just want to bitch about the few areas where women have the advantage
Syng420
They don't do their cause any favors, that's for sure.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
This post is retarded. Im sorry youre so far down here
JoanRiversVagina
imgur and the internet in general don't need an excuse for one
acunninglinguist
This is almost exactly how my divorce and custody have turned out so far. My ex wife is a colossal bitch.
TheDivineUsersub
All I can say is focus on your kids and they will one day grow up to see her for what she is.
acunninglinguist
Hard to do when she moved them 2 states away - without my consent and without the consent of the courts.
TheDivineUsersub
Can't you use that to your advantage? I don't think courts like custody agreements being violated.
ABillionDucks
Nah, the courts know women are better care givers 100% of the time without exception.
TheDivineUsersub
Gotta love reverse sexism. Well, all I can say is keep fighting the good fight. If you don't win, keep trying. The kids will one day grow -
acunninglinguist
I went to the courts. They did nothing. The fucking judge gave her legal advice in the middle of our hearing to prevent her from saying >>
acunninglinguist
something that would lose her the case.
LollipopsAndCandycanes
Am I the only one who finds this post kinda sexist and generalizing here? I mean it's completely unfair to women
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IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
Easy to say. If i make a graphic about a man staying out late every night while she cleans, cooks, raises kids and eventually he cheats (1)
LollipopsAndCandycanes
Well to each their experience, right? If I were to generalize marriage based on the couples I know, it would be the reverse situation!
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
just as sexist as this tripe. (3/3)
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
the stereotype would be roughly identical, the result the same, and everyone could still insist it was mostly the case, and it would be (2)
lowflyingbombs
Then flip the genders in your head and see if it still works.
WhatADayWhatALovelyDay
That was low but accurate
BobbingThroner
Well this was kinda sad. And the sadder part is that people go through this a lot more often then you think we need to all understand 1/2
icantthinkofanythingclevertonamemyself
Fuck you! I was looking intently for that other half of that. I passed through every comment and I wasn't going to accept that 1/2
icantthinkofanythingclevertonamemyself
Deez nutz
icantthinkofanythingclevertonamemyself
Deez nutz
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
1/2 I fought for 6 years to get shared custody of my son. In the end finally I got it because her second husband stepped in after realizing
kastabbin
I honestly believe that you saying this might very well save a guy from hanging himself because of this exact situation.
JarethTheGoblinKingsBulge
This is my life exactly. Still fighting for equal rights after 7 years.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Don't stop fighting!
nopejustnope
Nearly the same story with me and my ex's ex. We just don't meet for beer. And we're both supplying her new husband's ex wife with info.
MagicDad
I am in the process of fighting to get custody of my two sons. Hearing news like this is great
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Make sure you have a good lawyer and keep at it. And continue to be a magical father! ;)
MagicDad
thanks, I have a lot of things going for me. one of the biggest things is that she has disobeyed judges orders about 5 times since
MagicDad
the last court date, and I have documented proof of it
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
That will work in your favor. Good luck!
AaronCornwall
I love happy endings +1
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Thank you.
aslightlymoreoriginalusername
ME TOO!!! oh wait... You meant something else
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
2/2 her accusations of violence were bullshit. He even appeared in court for me. Then divorced her. We meet for beers on Wednesdays.
Weentit
Stores that didnt happen
Slagurth
You need to form a league of her ex husbands
whoopsywoo
Marry him
joeyjojosharknado
Things is, women don't just make these false accusations, they convince *themselves* they're true (with the aid of echo chambers).
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Yup. She was absolutely convinced that I was a horrible dad. Nothing could convince her otherwise.
mcginger72
What a bro
nodisco
As much as i would like to believe this is true.......I do believe it! Cheers to you and Wednesday bro
CardboardPizzas
I love to hear stuff like this.
keurah
you both got fucked by the same woman in more ways than one
lokitoki81
In the end, it seems like they doubleteamed her.. Guys 1, Woman 0
Duendes
That'll be interesting if you both end up parenting your kids under the same roof. "We're the Millers but we're not 'together' together"
FrostyOblivion
Very nice.
Rylanodory
what a fucking bro
FrostyOblivion
Very nice.
ElPenedeMuerte
Cool ending to a shit story
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
I got my kid in the end. That's the important part. I've let go of the rest.
codetoast
http://i.giphy.com/VxXfaHgK5GQ5W.gif
Nickandrus
I am in a simmilar boat minus the truly standup new husband / ex-husband. Truly TRULY happy for you my. I also have gone through the above
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Thanks. I hope it came to a positive end for you.
GodEmperorOfImgur
Husband him. :P Establish dominance over your shared ex wife.
dickable
You should husband him... he sounds like a good second parent!
IAmJonSnowAndIWearATinFoilHat
Someone should make that into a movie with this romantic ending and shit.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
I would watch that!
FunJokeGoesHere
That's a nice eskimo brother!
Spaceygirl84
Oh noice
notDylanOBrien
Great story +1
rexzeer
Except for the 6 years fight for fucking shared custody. Boy, the family court system is so biased!
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Horribly so. Upon our divorce she was automatically given custody because our son was under 1 year old. It was a fight from the start.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
The guy was a great step dad. He worried more about my son and his daughter than his wife. He has my respect for that.
morri6
What a fucking excellent man.
Bezaid
NeverGetsTheNuke
Bravo.
Mcstringer
I feel said I can't up vote this more than once.
ZorkFox
This is the kind of story I always hope for.
physxisphun
I signed in just to upvote this
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Thanks
greymouser7
What along, painful, heartbreaking road.
johnvictor
I don't understand the mentality of life already sucks for the guy, why make it worse by denying him custody to his own children?
VaguelySatisfying
Because of that untrue and retarded stereotype that mother will take better care of them/love them more.
xbxoxy
wow!!! awesome how good things ended for you man, congrats!
gummibearslayer
My ex's wife is the one accusing me of violence, and he's fine with it. Our battle has been going on for almost 2 years now.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Horrible what lows some people will go too. Stay strong and remember who you're doing it for.
gummibearslayer
I'm trying, dude. I get those weak moments where I miss my boys so much, but I know they'll see when they get older what their father did.
wabewalker
TomWebb10
that's awesome to hear.
Pyllymysli
1/2 My divorced dad's been in custody battle over a yr for my underage sister now. Mom's alcoholic, jobless and married to a very bad drunk.
Pyllymysli
2/2 socials are very reluctant to give sis to dad cos he is male. Dad is the stable person, absolutist, owns a house and makes ~4k €/month.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
That's fucked up.
Pyllymysli
Yeah it always is. Luckily this is more or less over and sis should be moving in with my dad in spring when her summer holidays begin.
Arr0gantExp3rt7
Man that's really cool. Hope you and her new ex husband are friends now.
GrizzlyWicks
Nah guys a dickhead
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
ItsWaluigitime
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
ki2307
Judging by how many books he's okay in, I'd say they are.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
Glitchy day on the servers. Sorry.
Doucey
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
ikbenlike
You'll probably like part two lol
SpecimenSpiff
They probably are. I bet the dude's okay in his book.
ikbenlike
You'll probably like part two lol
CockOfTheNorth
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
lDoNotThinkltMeansWhatYouThinkltMeans
We are, we're married now.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
We are. The dudes okay by my book.
LoveAtFirstAwkwardMoment
Congrats on the friend. Hope your realizes how awesome his dad is
DorMin2
You should wife him.
TheMonsterWithinYou
I'm glad her bullshit was unveiled too many women use children as weapons in the relationship. Fuck women like that
Celebrimbor
Or rather, don't fuck women like that so they can't use the kids as weapons.
employed
somebody hurt OP
CreamySeaman
Yeah my mother not allowing me to see my father even though I knew she was the one cheating.
MilfordMan
So you're going to let your experience with your mother colour your perception of all women?
DrFawxy
I don't believe he ever said all women
MilfordMan
However this post seems to suggest this typical female behaviour.
DrFawxy
It details a real problem a lot of guys face, the fact this issue does exist in no way means every marriage is the same.
CreamySeaman
Don't like 80% of divorces end up like this?
CreamySeaman
Don't like 80% of divorces end up like this?
MilfordMan
Do I think 80% of marriages are like this?
CreamySeaman
Did you take 3rd grade reading? It says divorce.
MilfordMan
Thats not what Im asking. Do you believe all women are like your mother? Could you never trust any women in your life as a result?
CreamySeaman
Why would I think that? Also why would I get married. 25% of marriages go down the drain.
CreamySeaman
Why would I think that? Also why would I get married. 25% of marriages go down the drain.
PieisKing
I don't think never is accurate. But growing up in a household where the dominate female example is a lying Twat isn't helpful.
CreamySeaman
Why would I think that? Also why would I get married. 25% of marriages go down the drain.
Zer0th
It really sucks that the bitch took the dog.
devasto
That would be my murder line. Kids can be reasoned with, and have things explained to them. All a good boy knows is your gone
Polarbit
They always do, even if they hate it.
LargePenguin
Oh, Tugboat...
madcheddaryo
Don't marry cunty people.
TheAnswerIsAlwaysYuengling
Amen.
hartmonica
I feel like a lot of these marriages wouldn't happen if people just dated longer before tying the knot. 1 year not enough
Ericht
I feel marriage should just be a religious ceremony, the government should be blind to it.
RozyShaman
Better yet, don't marry at all.
TeeFour
Nope, everything's the woman's fault
snabble
I understood the sarcasm
Sheari
Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. My prior relationship ended because my partner didn't communicate and rebuffed my attempts. [1]
Somedaddy
I agree with you, she didn't agree with me. We were married 12 years, my son was 6.
Sheari
WoW and my ex's sister-in-law actually were the driving factors for me. Every time I tried to talk to him he refused to even listen to me
Somedaddy
I hate to hear that you went through that. Where is the compassion? How do people change so much?
Sheari
Last I heard he lives with her and his brother, babysits for them and works 2 jobs. He's a slave by his own design :/
ingelri
Communicate all you like, "there's no cure for being a cunt."
Sheari
That's when you walk away like I did...
Sheari
Converse often. Don't just talk, have a conversation everyday if you can. Make time specifically for it. My husband and I personally [2]
Sheari
have long conversations when we go to bed. Both to talk about the day and how we feel and to clear our minds to sleep better. [3]
Sheari
Do NOT put off conversing. If you aren't comfortable broaching a subject, simply mention it and say you aren't ready to visit it yet [4]
Sheari
but that you do need to visit it eventually. If your partner ever puts communication lower on the priority list in place of hobbies [5]
Sheari
frequently (like my ex did), re-evaluate the situation. DO THINGS TOGETHER!! This comic shows the husband doing shores on his own [6]
MostAwesomeUsernameontheInternet
As a woman I promised to myself I will never be this, so sad, so awful, I know too many girls like this that are fucking soulless
BobaFettisLove
I'm with you!
Psychethos
A lot of people are cruel and selfish, true.
rexzeer
The real problem is the system that enables them.
TheRealDrSteveBrule
My ex wife promised me and herself that she would never be this way, but she is exactly this way. I however have never changed since day one
Johnny5dicks
Take the hint bro
MostAwesomeUsernameontheInternet
Well jbeek there are those rare woman out there with the hearts of gold, just gotta find em
TheRealDrSteveBrule
I agree. She didn't ruin me.
rexzeer
Rationally evaluating the risks I'd say there's no reason for a man to get married 99% of the time. He wins nothing but can lose everything.
MostAwesomeUsernameontheInternet
Never be with a woman that says "if we don't get married, or you work harder/less im leaving!" (Hint of a crazy lady) that is not real love
CreamySeaman
For the record, nice guys are hard to find as well.
TheRealDrSteveBrule
In my experience only broken women want nice guys. There's a fine line between nice and asshole and women hate pushovers.
squishiebunnie
I still love my exhusband. I would never take his kids away. We are better seperate and both focus on the kids. No bad mouthing.
bentwrenches
My ex and I were like that. Now after 18 years, we are a couple again.
releasetehgoats
Good on you both for being decent parents
squishiebunnie
Thank you
Allonsy1289
It makes me so embarrassed to be a woman sometimes.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
Youre so cringy. Would it be normal for a dude to say he is embarrased to be a man because rape happens? Fuck no. Shitty ppl are shitty ppl
Psychethos
Are you serious? Why? I don't expect men to feel embarrassed about being men, just because some men are horrible people.
Allonsy1289
I would be embarrassed if only brunettes acted like this too. It's not a gender thing. I don't want to be associated with idiots.
Psychethos
Are you serious? Why? I don't expect men to feel embarrassed about being men, just because some men are horrible people.
Psychethos
Are you serious? Why? I don't expect men to feel embarrassed about being men, just because some men are horrible people.
tryin2figureitout
As a man, I grew up feeling embarrassed to be a man. It felt that from every direction people were telling me men were the problem.
Psychethos
I felt a lot of those same feelings about being a woman. Like I couldn't be good at a lot of things, like I had to always be a delicate (1)
Psychethos
a man. ALWAYS be pretty. Be thin. Be sexy but not too sexy, because then you're a slut. Don't give it up too easy, don't be a prude. (3)
Psychethos
flower. Never get angry, never say no, always be pleasant and smiling. Be good at cleaning and cooking, because otherwise I wouldn't get (2)
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Syng420
That is such fucking bullshit. My father walked out on us and never paid a dime in cs. My mom still wanted me to have a dad, so I saw him 1
Syng420
On weekends and he used that time badmouth my mom. Men do this all the time. You're full of shit. 2
Psychethos
Really? I don't know any women who have acted this way in any situation. Maybe you need to surround yourself with better people.
tryin2figureitout
Then you have lived a blessed life.
McSmug
This is painfully accurate and part of why the suicide statistics are so horrifying for men. Yet almost no one cares about mens issues still
flapperfemmefatale
actually, men and women attempt at about the same rates. men just tend to choose methods that are more effective.
ingelri
What are you, some sort of MRA neckbeard rape apologist? Check your privilege.
McSmug
No, more like a woman that is capable of giving a shit about people that don't have the same parts as I do. Injustice is intolerable.
ingelri
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TOASTEngineer
But if we start caring about mens issues all the resources for female victims will suddenly disappear!
htmwc
Men don't care about men's issues. Remember that.
atairov
They are socially prohibited from doing so. Can't show weakness, and any attempt to help men is viewed as attempting to suppress women.
McSmug
It really isn't even only that. When they do try to advocate for themselves they get shamed and sometimes worse. By women and other men.
sestgut
Especially male youths. Its always "man up" "show no fear" and its always the mans fault when a women is involved. Oh he was cheating! 1/2
GodEmperorOfImgur
And once they do show emotion "lololol crying pissbaby. Male Tears. Masculinity so fragile."
joeyjojosharknado
Man cheats: his fault. Women cheats: his fault. Absolving women of responsibility (and 'empowering' shitty behaviour) harms both genders.
sestgut
That's my sister from a separate mother. No you never met her because I haven't seen her in 6 yrs and she lives in Iqaluit. Sorry for rant
Khalgrom
Don't be sorry, men are treated like second-class citizens when it comes to family law. Not to mention all the other bullshit that comes w/
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
It's why I'm a big fan of the "No-Fault" system. Unless there is violence everything is split 50-50, including the kids.
Coyote8
How would they do that? I always have trouble getting a clean cut...
greenlandic
I'm really sorry to hear that, and it must be hard! But Iqaluit? *greenlander sense intensifying*
BlncSL8
Nunavut I think, Canada.
BlncSL8
Nunavut I think, Canada.
bennettsaucyman
Yup
Sharkbait13
While men successfully commit suicide more than women, there are more attempted suicides by women. so this point is kind of invalid (1/?)
tryin2figureitout
A lot of those aren't real attempts.
Sharkbait13
why do you think this? These studies are taught in uni sociology/psychology courses, just because its unsuccessful doesn't mean its not real
Mirawatts
Women attempt because it's a cry for help, they want help. Men commit suicide because they know there's no help, he's just not a "real man".
Sharkbait13
its ridiculous to diminish women's feelings like this, its like saying "oh she didn't die so she must not not have really been trying"
Mirawatts
We're already talking about generalized percentages. The majority of attempted suicide is done by women, while the most successful suicide…
Mirawatts
…is performed by men. The correlation here is that when committing suicide men are the most willing to make sure they succeed in dieing…
unhingedscrew
Or it's a cry for help?
Sharkbait13
many women try multiple times but are often just saved from the outcomes due to their means of suicide
unhingedscrew
If someone really wanted to die they would do it. In my opinion in some shape or form some don't want to die.
Sharkbait13
riiighttt but wouldn't you want to die in the most peaceful way possible, like via a bunch of morphine or something?
McSmug
So more men actually die yet women are still more important. Just stop.
Prescottt
You really can't give men's issues 1 second in the spot light?! It'll really screw your cause that much?!
Sharkbait13
What cause? I'm just saying that suicide is a serious issue that effects everyone regardless of their sex and that this isnt a full picture
Prescottt
Male suicide prevention! Its an extremely serious issue and turning it into another, "yeah but women..." Is extremely offensive. Give them
Prescottt
The respect and sensitivity the Issue deserves.
Sharkbait13
women tend to attempt suicide through "less violent" means, such as overdosing, poisoning etc where men use violent means ie hanging (2/?)
Sharkbait13
I'm not saying that men's issues aren't important, because they are, but the issue of suicide is important to both sexes/genders and (3/4)
Sharkbait13
when someone says more men commit suicide they must have more problems/their problems are caused by women it creates a false picture (4/4)
KushalaDaora
1) I'm with you on this, I've learned the same statistics back in school. I wish people stopped posting these dumb, oversimplified comics
KushalaDaora
2) and started treating issues as they are: complex and hurtful to EVERYONE. You should have not received all these downvotes.
KushalaDaora
1) I'm with you on this, I've learned the same statistics back in school. I wish people stopped posting these dumb, oversimplified comics
Prescottt
Are you fucking kidding me??? A informative post about the suicide epidemic among men and you STILL have to have the attention on women?!
Sharkbait13
I said that its a problem for both sexes, why is that an issue? im not bringing attention to women im trying to promote suicide awareness
Prescottt
Self hatred to take care of that in the most violent of ways. Acknowledge for once that men need the attention, christ .
Prescottt
You literally made the claim that its a bigger problem for women. Let men have this one issue. Depression effects everyone and men have the
Sharkbait13
Ok so I'm just going to reply to this comment because it seems like you're making the same point on both comments (1/?)
Mutious
Attempted suicide is not suicide. Just as murder and attempted murder are different in the eyes of the law.
Sharkbait13
I 100% agree, its just that you cant say men have more problems than women AS EVIDENCED by the higher suicide rate (1/2)
Sharkbait13
nor could you say women have more problems than women AS EVIDENCED by the higher attempted suicide rate, everyone has problems (2/2)
Mutious
You can imply, as he did, that men are more often victims of suicide. That does not imply that they are greater victims of depression.
Psychethos
Feminists like myself care about men's issues. However, I want you to make sure you're not just saying "why aren't feminists fixing this!(1)
TOASTEngineer
The feminist movement as a whole and feminist organizations rarely accomplish anything in that arena, and most don't try.
Psychethos
Have you tried?
Psychethos
without doing anything about it yourself. Pick an issue you feel most passionately about, and then take action. (2)
GodEmperorOfImgur
As long as we don't try to open a male DV center, cause we'll end up like Erin Pizzey or worse, Earl Silverman.
Psychethos
http://www.malesurvivor.org/ htt">vor.org/">http://www.malesurvivor.org/ http://www.cadvny.org/2009/09/14/help-for-men/ Just a few more resources.
GodEmperorOfImgur
And to see how they're treated google "male survivor MRA" And read about how rape is a "patriarchal enforcement method" 1/2
Chabbados
Unbelievably accurate. I'm lucky i have my son 90% of the time
Hwy61B
That's great. I got full custody of mine in the divorce. Been 12 years now. Their mother...well not enough space here to go in to that.
Hwy61B
That's great. I got full custody of mine in the divorce. Been 12 years now. Their mother...well not enough space here to go in to that.
Hwy61B
That's great. I got full custody of mine in the divorce. Been 12 years now. Their mother...well not enough space here to go in to that.
bitchyouthought
I think the feminists would call this "toxic masculinity" and they're trying to do something about it.
ingelri
Toxic masculinity, what a load of blue-haired bulldyke manspreading-tier bullshit.
theartofselfdefense
Yeah, they're making "Male Tears" mugs and at the same time telling men their problem is they don't show their emotions enough *eyeroll*
McSmug
And where is that effort?
bitchyouthought
You can't see with closed eyes.
McSmug
Lol so you aren't going to point to a feminist effort to counter this that is more than just mouth movement? I have NEVER seen anything more
bitchyouthought
The thing about "feminist effort" is that it's usually not worth anything to people who hate feminists.
tryin2figureitout
Thats part of the idea that all problems, even men's problems are because of maculinity. What about toxic feminity?
DoTheToothsTeethHaveTeethToo
I would perceive toxic femininity as traits that are deemed feminine that are detrimental to the individual woman. Same as for men
nedioj
I find your ideas intriguing, and I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.
bond100
Fuck feminists. Either be an egalitarian or admit that you're sexist and you're just coming at it from the opposite end you hate so much.
Mirawatts
That bothers me. This whole "feminism isn't just about women, but general equality" is garbage. It's just the leaders of the feminism...
Mirawatts
...movement trying to stay relevant and "influential". Feminism is, by definition even, the advocacy of making WOMEN'S RIGHTS equal to...
Mirawatts
...MEN'S RIGHTS. Feminism isn't about equality for all genders, it's about balancing the scale between men and women.
notDylanOBrien
I hate that phrase. Show me the book on how to be a good man and I'll read it cover to cover. I'll I see is contradictory nonsense from 1/
notDylanOBrien
Feminists on what a man should and shouldn't be
Josiahkf
Feminism is about stopping the toxic behavior society encourages towards both men and women, so we can overcome exactly this stuff.
YourWaifuIsTrash
Really? The phrase refers to exactly that: telling men how to be "good men". I'd rather people stop saying "men should be A, women B".
bitchyouthought
It's more of a taught mindset, you know there's no book. I doubt you can read anyway.
bananemagik
wow that's savage, although you are right about it being toxic masculinity and that a book on how to be a man would be silly, 1/2
Vekete
And this is why people hate feminists.
cocoakoumori
But "toxic masculinity" is just about that. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter "good man" and forcing men into that shape is wrong.
cocoakoumori
4/4 The term has probably been butchered by SJWs but "toxic masculinity" is used to show how harmful adherance strict gender roles can be.
cocoakoumori
3/4 that which deviates from trad. masculinity is seen as feminine→weak, subservient, so on. Don't help no-one, nowhere, nohow.
cocoakoumori
2/3 It's toxic because it ultimately does a lot of damage when you shame men into conforming. It also damages women, too bc
Psychethos
The whole point of toxic masculinity is all these societal expectations for a "good man" to be this and that. Tough, virile, rich, etc. (1)
tryin2figureitout
Then get women to be attracted to that. Your never going to change anything if women prefer and reinforce masculine traits. And stop 1
tryin2figureitout
excluding women from blame for the paradigms they create and enforce or the actions they take. 2
Psychethos
Feminists like myself want to spread the message that you're no less of a "real man" if you aren't any of those things. You don't "lose (2)
Psychethos
your man card" if you're insecure, if you're hurt, if you're assaulted, if you want to be dominated, if whatever. (3)
amglasgow
This is a distorted narrative putting all the blame on the woman for everything this guy does.
BrianIsaac
Lol, get over yourself.
BrianIsaac
Lol, get over yourself.
MexicanHandOff
Spot the feminist!
amglasgow
You say that like you think it's something to be ashamed of.
McSmug
Where is the distortion and where is his fault? What did he do to deserve cheating, divorce, threats and parental alienation?
amglasgow
It is rarely only one person who is the source of problems in a relationship. It shows her 'loud noise lines' at him, but what did he 1/2
amglasgow
do that contributed to the decline of the relationship? This is entirely one-sided, and most marriages and divorces aren't like this. 2/2
McSmug
It showed what he 'did'. He was working to pay for their lifestyle and she was bitching at him. This is so common as to be a trope!
amglasgow
Yeah, a FAKE trope. Every guy who gets divorced claims all he did was work hard and she was never satisfied. Bullshit.
TeeFour
Don't fucking marry a shitty person. Its a partnership, and if you decide to have a shit partner thats just as much your fault as it is hers
221BDC
So to be clear by your logic if someone marries someone this is shitty/abusive but does nothing wrong they are at fault for getting hit?
delightfullyhardenthusiast
Many times you don't find out they're a shitty person until on day you walk in and find out that they are. Happened to me.
221BDC
So to be clear by your logic if someone marries someone this is shitty/abusive but does nothing wrong they are at fault for getting hit?
TeeFour
Yes, much like if you know a train is coming and jump on the tracks you're at least partly responsible. That's not the point though? Don't..
TeeFour
Yes, much like if you know a train is coming and jump on the tracks you're at least partly responsible. That's not the point though? Don't..