TobyistheScrantonStrangler
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I know it's wrong for men to prey upon women --just like its wrong for people to steal. But I still lock my doors at night....ya know?
You are responsible for taking steps to keep yourself safe - regardless of if you're a man or woman. Make smart decisions and don't put yourself in dangerous situations with people you don't trust.
Please take this how its intended. I'm not excusing sexual assault at all. It is against the law and those *found guilty in a court of law* should be punished for it just like any other crime. However, it is still your responsibility as an adult to avoid dangerous situations whenever possible. This would include strangers hotel rooms after you've been drinking. Let's raise our young women to be advocates of their own safety instead of victims.
PeriwinkleBlueTick
Glad someone still has some sense and understands that everyone is responsible for their own actions.
HalTheMisinterpretivePornStar
This is not an unpopular opinion
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RatBasil
Absolutely.
Schooner8642
Great post!
Goateman
There isn’t enough modesty or good decisions in the world to defend against predators
ricklepickbitch
Hurr durr that’s victim blaming. But yea makes sense
GodzillaBoomingMarketOfDiabetes
Hey, this is called, survival, and applies to everyone.
TormentedPenguin
When a person with power flirts with some one.. to them it's flirting. to others it's a dilemma.
KeyToTheTardis
And regret does not equal victimization.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
omfg YES
KeyToTheTardis
A generation ago, our "rebellious youth" wanted fewer rules and more personal freedoms. Today, they want protected from their own decisions.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Well-fucking-said comrade
1mshadowbanned
Until recently this was taught to girls as part of being a lady and guys were taught to be gentlemen.
Wanderingmaniac
Very true. Now it's i can do what I want and expect nothing in return. And *ahem* wear *ahem* what I want.
CaffeineManic
I have no idea what Pamela Anderson said.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
if you google her name its all over the news
Pmic1987
It’s so much easier to play victim right now, not just sexually assault, a lot of theses Hollywood cases sound like quid pro quo
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
I think so too
TerryFoldFlaps
"He told me to take off my shirt, so I did. Then I bent over the chair and we had sex till I passed out" - Lauer chick. Maybe just leave?
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
I can't say I know much about the Lauer situation... but it does concern me as a citizen that he was immediately assumed to be guilty.
TerryFoldFlaps
I'm not saying he is or isn't. But still... Maybe just leave before taking your top off and bending over?
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Yeah really!!
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Let's not let due process be pushed aside just because the media is having a frenzy. That's what I'm sayin man.
angelsichor
Yeah, it's common sense. Everybody onows what "come to my hotel room" means.
TormentedPenguin
YU-Gi-OH battles! I'm so down for it
PartTimeMemeDealer9
Hey you too? Wanna come to my hotel room?
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angelsichor
I didn't say they deserve it you sensationalist. And I didn't say they gave consent either. Sarcasm is a great way to get your point across.
MrInconspicuous
You know how we tell kids not to take candy from strangers? Same principle. There are always gonna be shitty people. Protect yourself.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Uh oh. Looks like someone here gets their news from buzzfeed.
JustALamp
Careful with claiming people deserve things. Makes you sound like an ass
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JustALamp
Shit my bad
grammarfairy
Andy, you missed the fucking point.
spookyactionatadistance
What. No. Just like going home with someone doesn't imply sex. Consent can be removed if the situation changes.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Yes it can. And those women could have just left.
IAmAwayInTheOcean
Not if they thought buddy might try and physically force them to stay which is often the case
spookyactionatadistance
Ok. What I mean is for guys who think that if a girl comes back to your place consent is given. First that bs. Be respectful. If you start
GCostanza
Let's raise our young men not to sexual assault. Or both. Both is good
Awesoman66theCactusLord
Do you think they don't already know? They have for a long time. The assaulters just don't care
scnottaken
Also, call it out when you see it, as a guy. Be that change. Don't turn a blind eye when your friends are dicks.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Yes i agree. Well said
JustALamp
Yeah you’re right my mom and dad raised me to be a horrible rapist just like most young men. Fuck morals right?
GCostanza
Why go to the extreme? Honestly sexual assault is something as simply as grabbing someone's ass.
EasyAsAB
How do you avoid unwanted sexual advances OP?
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EasyAsAB
That isn't representative of all unwanted sexual advancements.
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
If a man who I don't want to have sex with invites me to his home or hotel room.. I say no and leave.
EasyAsAB
But that is not representative of all unwanted sexual advancements
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
If I am already at their home and they make a move and I'm not interested I call and uber and leave. If he physically forces me I call 911.
KeyToTheTardis
A single unwanted sexual advance isn't a crime, harassment, or a problem per se. It's possible to remove yourself from such a situation.
EasyAsAB
Like rape? That kind of single unwanted advance?
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Buy a dictionary. Thats not what the word advance means.
EasyAsAB
Interestingly enough the U.N. calls rape sexual harassment. Therefore in this context harrassment and unwanted sexual advances are the same
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
Honey, re-read what you just wrote.
KeyToTheTardis
I get your point, but that's not an advance. That's already a crime. How do you avoid being the victim of any crime?
EasyAsAB
Any unwanted sexual advance is a crime? That's not my point. I'm against O.P. suggesting such a simple answer to stop such a complex problem
IhaveWAYtoomanyfetishes
I don't walk around with my butthole spread open. I'm doing my part
TobyistheScrantonStrangler
I do but only because i actually like anal THAT much
TheBoredBoner
Well hello ;)
ThatChadGuy
IhaveWAYtoomanyfetishes
Sex with me would make your day, but anal will make your hole weak