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danabell017
Wtf is wrong with that woman! Good men are hard to find. Get ur head outta ur ass girl
LaforgeMRA
"Someday she'll realize how much I care unlike those other guys"
aeouk
Damn Daniel!
psychotropicwanderlust203
I'm a female and I treat my guy friends too and buy them food and presents. It's a two way street if you are friends.Don't be quick to judge
Thesimpleman
I don't like guys who complain about the friend zone, but that's pretty god damn funny
stukamane
Why in the fuck is this reposted every fucking day? Need more original content.
limonchiki
it's because women are bitches, i guess, and if you are nice to us we owe you sex
Killrapture
Usersub has it. Not saying it'll be good
RodeHeks
Not so sure that guy is looking for a Gf....
Goodmerlinpeen
Turns out he is gay, she had a shitty ex and needed to be shown that she deserves to be made happy, so he took his friend out. maybe...
Killrapture
As long as she reciprocates that level of friendship it's good. Plus she isn't required to date him and he doesn't need to go that far
SerialChillinSpree
Ya cause 'friends' give flowers & buy steak dinners for one another & get ice cream. I would not do that w/friend. Don't use these poor guys
RoyFuckingMustang
You're a shitty friend I guess.
SerialChillinSpree
Hahah, I can show other ways of friend-appreciation for the ones that deserve it other than a gift-filled day.
Greyeyes1973
I have the best friends, all female. Two are married. I still take them on best friend date nights. That's what friends are for.
tyjet3
Friend dates is one thing. But her insistence of being single after all that is a red flag.
rocketturttle
nothing wrong with friends spending time together. I'll bet money you aren't buying them flowers and taking them horseback riding too
Greyeyes1973
I've bought them all flowers, special occasions, if they're having a really bad day, again THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS DO.
thisisprocrastination
Nuh-uh.
7grims
old, repost... common its almost 2018, lets not get back to what i assume was 2016
somethingmeaningfultosomeoneatsomepointintime
Women don't want men that skip leg day.
OliverKlozoff1269
Her chicken legs too...they should have went to an Old County Buffet get some meat on they bones.
WhiteningMcClean
They need to get ice cream more often
OctopusOccult
If she isn't attracted to him then that's it. There is no chance of a relationship.
dickbasedregex
but what if he's like REALLY nice to her for like a REALLY long time? maybe then?
OctopusOccult
Then you are probably good friends and should appreciate that
dickbasedregex
but he put all that time in. throw a sad boy a bone you cold hearted bitch. -sad young men
wlfman
guys, relax, he could be totally fine with this situation - we don't know
theyar
He's fine with it because he just knows, someday...
wlfman
aww :C you make me sad
dickbasedregex
twist: they are fuck buddies only. she's still looking for the one and he supports her until then
dickbasedregex
supports her with that big ol' meat-bat am I right? oh shit. I'll be on my way then.
FeelinLikeMoses
Well damn, after seeing his Twitter posts about it. Turns out he's just a kind human being. Hm, who would of thought?
thisisprocrastination
What else is he going to say, after that?
SerialChillinSpree
lol, that's his only move. Accepting adulation from everyone..he's tore up inside.
JMensch
Maybe if you weren't wearing capris and crew socks guy.....
Skizzlesnap
Tightrolled just below the knees.
devolution13
asmallcat
Holy shit, people, maybe they are actually just friends.
Fistytheclown
Doubtful. Most likely he's a beta male hoping all his gestures will one day earn him some sexy time with her. Sexual innuendo goes far.
RoyFuckingMustang
https://www.reddit.com/r/niceguys/
Fistytheclown
No no. This is the one he needs: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
CraggyIslander
Danial right now
JeezusJuice
Turns out he was looking to help a friend heal emotionally. https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
JeezusJuice
God forbid any man should ever be good friends with anyone and spend their money on them. No wonder you’re all so lonely. You’re assholes
AnnieBahde
So he was trying to be nice and made the date and the hashtag and she got heaped with internet outrage and abuse. Sounds about right!
TheOneManBukkake
Y'all with the "he good" "friends" "thirsty fucks" posters are cray. I have platonic female friends. I'm not taking them on dates.. (1)
RoyFuckingMustang
There is literally nothing saying you can't do that for your friends, female or otherwise. I would totally take my friends horseback 1/2
RoyFuckingMustang
riding if that was what they were into. 2/2
TheOneManBukkake
You know what we do? We hang out. Go to the bookstore or see Star Wars. There are no flowers or horseback riding. Romantic intent (2)
TheOneManBukkake
She's jacking his feelings for a free ride of feeling desirable while keeping him arms length. Unhealthy on both accounts.
egaode
I just assumed he was gay...?
charliegrs
For his sake I hope he is
inkpod
My gaydar is saying "Oh he gay girl. He gay."
ILikePugandFrenchiePictures
Your gaydar and mine appear to use the same technology. That is one extremely gay man.
BESTtaylorINAUSTRALIA
Than She does not have the power to make him swap sides
anthaneezy
Then*
dafawkudoin
Can never find the reaction when I need it *insert Steve carrel ‘Thankyou’
fatmanandthrobbin
I mean, if you wear THAT in the country to a horseranch you must be gay.
callmethelizardqueen
I bet he is, but she’s still hoping!
ImFunAtGrammarParties
Seems most plausible to me. Only a complete idiot would put the "still single tho" hashtag there if he was straight.
StarshipHector
Seems obvious, right?
xj4low
Looks like they can swap pants.
tobyisagoodboy
It looks like she has bigger pants.
r0b0tc0rpse
I read that as "parts".
RunsNakedThroughSwamps
How else do you choose your friends?!
boodloop
Did we just become best friends?!
xj4low
Frinds with RunsNakedThroughSwamps? Don't think he has pants to swap with? From which to swap?...ain't got no pants.
RunsNakedThroughSwamps
You got me, I was just after their pants!
booknerd42
https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
Mimsey
Either gay and in the closet or these two are so uber-christian this is step 1 in a 3 year platonic courtship.
greatbrono7
So he hella gay but is in the closet cuz he got the Jesus in him?
dickbasedregex
could be they don't want to out-and-out out him in a judgmental community as well
SjorsM
Amen!
AnnieBahde
rbudrick
Aint no jesus in closets as deep as narnia.
MidiArbite
Yeah there is, he's just lion-shaped.
Dogebert
Never heard of a gay guy going all out on a friend date like that.
egaode
Why not?
Notme68
Younger gay men are often strongly attached to their female best friends. Gay in high school is a terribly awkward place to be.
MarinShatterhand
Some people can genuinely have that much affection for their friends.
Dogebert
Yeah some people, but not a really young guy.
TheSadCafe
I wonder if she went through a bad breakup and he was trying to cheer her up or something.
Flamingle
It’s 2017 he COULD be gay
RoyFuckingMustang
Or maybe they are actually just friends. Why does a guy have to be gay to do nice things for his friends?
Flamingle
It’s just easier for these guys who believe in the friend zone to wrap their head around, really.
silentwolf1999
Or just rich, or both.
JeezusJuice
His clothing and posture certainly suggest this.
JeezusJuice
Turns out he isn’t... https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
darkdragonempress
Well he might still be gay. He's also a good friend.
mynamesbryson
You could be gay in 1996 too.
LetumComplexo
He could even be gay in 1996 BC.
thisisprocrastination
Then he wouldn't spend all that time, effort & money on her.
darkdragonempress
If she's his best friend he most likely would. If I could afford it I'd definitely take my best friend on outings like this.
JustAnotherRandomCommenter
why not? maybe she's just had a bad breakup and he's distracting her. and you know what? maybe he actually enjoys doing those things too....
thisisprocrastination
Did this post hit the FP?
JustAnotherRandomCommenter
yep
thisisprocrastination
Ah, that would explain your comment. Cheers.
vagari
He might if she was his best friend.
AroAce
Why not ?
soapydux
So we not talking about the length of his trousers
RunningForEverAndEver
It's a thing now a days in high school to tuck your pants in to your socks
smurfster
They did that in the early 2000's when I was in high school
the0thermrt
Men's flood joggers. I don't get it but it's "in" right now
IndigoSlam
Reckon you hit on the real ish here,friend zone be damned the dood needs some trousers that don’t make him look dicky
SmurfEggs
You mean like he take dicky
IndigoSlam
Nah, jus like they make him look a bit of a dick, but not so harsh, so a bit dicky. Can't crush the guy, trouser, haircut, no more dickyness
SmurfEggs
Lawwl true
CardboardStomach
Supposedly that's a current style for men lately. Although, it's usually accompanied by cool socks to show off, not white tube socks.
HolyShitZoom
We're thinking about it, you're talking about it.
Pr1meKn1ght
I'm no horse rider type, but looks to me like his pants are tucked in to his socks. I do that on a bicycle, there must be a reason.
ValueBear12
Now that I see those pants, I would friend zone that guy too. Clearly he has poor judgement.
fadedcharacter
Thank you! Elephant in the room!
icommentwithasurprisedfacealot
That's why he's in the friend zone so bad
TheBrickumentarian
lintypuppy
I’m less worried about his trousers and more the fact his legs are as skinny as her legs.
Touchyhorse
“Fashion”
alpinej0e
Aren't they tucked into his socks?
screamingshits
i'm not sure that's any better
PostMoThoin
Maybe tucked for horse riding?
Seventythird
Unless he is English or a tosser he'd best untuck them quick. That look works on nobody
Taluien
They are a high water mark.
skeletonsimpleton
Maybe men shouldn’t let themselves be taken advantage of and get a backbone
thisisprocrastination
Agreed. Same goes for abused women, who return to their abuser. "Oh no, that's completely different"... Uh-huh.
skeletonsimpleton
What?
thisisprocrastination
"shouldn’t let themselves be taken advantage of and get a backbone" applies there just the same.
skeletonsimpleton
Exactly
darkdragonempress
Abuse is different. For men and women it fucks with your mind. So stop spouting such bullshit please.
thisisprocrastination
Lol, I even made your comment for you, but you still had to repeat it.
darkdragonempress
Sorry your phrasings stuck me as the opposite.
malexmatt
Emotional manipulation IS abuse.
darkdragonempress
It certainly is. But being "friend zoned " doesn't qualify unless they are actually manipulating the guy.
malexmatt
Which happens A LOT. It doesn't seem to be so in this case, but treating 'nice' guys as all entitled abusers when they're 1/
CreagHutton
Dear imgurian ladies. Single or married. I want to know what you think of these friend zone situations. Have you ever done it to someone?
RoyFuckingMustang
Stop treating this like there is a victim here. There is no such thing as the friendzone.
AmazonEmma
friendzone is bullshit, because you like a girl she should like you back inevitably ? what about her feelings ?
PhunsukhWangdu
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LadyNight36
Lesbian who's HS sweetheart's with her wife so no sorry
Tabrias
friend zone is somewhere you put yourself. tl;dr, don't spend inappropriate amounts of money on women you're not fucking.
wallyworld83
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WarKittyKat
It's so vague? Like, some guys seem to use it for where you're friends, but they like you and you don't like them that way.
PrattleSnake11
I don't think I've ever heard another definition for it. Seems pretty clear cut. The term speaks to that mismatch of intentions.
WarKittyKat
That's just kind of a thing that happens to people though. Guys or girls, sometimes you like someone and they don't like you back.
ilovecake
Lady here, and I think the “zone” is BS. Can’t be attracted to everyone. Sometimes it’s just not there. We have every right to say no thanks
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
Not a lady, but a friend of mine was in one these situations. A guy who liked her just would not accept no, kept showering her with gifts
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
despite being told multiple times directly that she wasn't interested in anything more than friendship. Every time their group went anywhere
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
he insisted on paying for her. He just kept throwing money at her hoping she'd change her mind and he was eventually so embedded in
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
the friend group that she didn't want to believe as rude as she would have had to be to MAKE him stop. Finally ended when the graduated and
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
*be, not believe
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
she got a job in another state. He still mopes around the college town and talks about "the one who got away".
flapperfemmefatale
The friend zone is bullshit, and any guy who thinks they deserve sex for being nice is a creep.
gunter
True, I also think that for the first 3 dates the bill should be split 50/50, this way no one has any expectation.
gunter
If you expect the man to pay for you then you owe him sex. If you don't and offer to pay then you are on an equal playing field.
itsabouttogetspicy
Never under any circumstances does a human "owe" sex to someone else. Wtf kind of trade off is that? Does it work in reverse? Do you 1
itsabouttogetspicy
explicitly make sure they know before you sit doan to eat "btw if I pay I expect you to have sex with me tonight just so that's clear" or 2
flapperfemmefatale
Agreed. I never expect someone to pay for me on a date, and I'll usually insist on paying for myself.
randomguy153
Wanna kno Whats funny..shes gonna settle for a guy who wont do half that shit lol
saboten13
Half those things would still be pretty good lol
RoyFuckingMustang
Women don't owe you sex cus you do nice things for them. Women are allowed to be attracted to whoever the fuck they want.
cattingtons
Maybe she'll fall in love. Maybe he'll be clever and funny, and fantastic in bed. Expensive dates don't create chemistry.
Garouleloup
Haha woman amiright eyyyy
PunkassUnicorn
Be nice to women but don't be a chump. Same goes for women, really...
ShiftyToaster
Do you have a neckbeard, by chance? A fedora maybe?
Rengii
Maybe she wants a boyfriend, not a butler.
AmazonEmma
OR she will actually settle with for a guy she has feelings for and loves her back ?
DonaldTrumpsFlaccidHairpiece
But he'll be hot, which is what she's waiting for, the hot looking guy.
RoyFuckingMustang
https://www.reddit.com/r/niceguys/
DonaldTrumpsFlaccidHairpiece
Lol why is some form of this always the response to pointing out that women want hot guys? Men want hot women, whats the diff?
ClearancetheWhale
TRUEEEE
CherylCarolCherleneTunt
Found the r/niceguys comment section
BreakMyFuckingNose
MFW I continue reading the bizarre replies.
Fistytheclown
She'll be back to cryin' on this guy's shoulder tellin' him all about how the jerk-asshole she really likes treated her like shit once again
RoyFuckingMustang
https://www.reddit.com/r/niceguys/
Fistytheclown
No no. This is the one he needs: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
Idoitallforthecookies
I would feel crazy awkward if a guy did this stuff for me. Makes me feel like he wants me to owe him or something, see him as a prince...
Foopfoop
Bingo.jpg
RoyFuckingMustang
That sucks. It sucks that society has convinced everyone that you can only go above and beyond for someone you are trying to fuck.
Idoitallforthecookies
Also, not talking about fucking. I would feel like they want me to be in emotional sentimental debt to them from all that. I’d rather fuck.
Idoitallforthecookies
If a girl friend did this for me it would be fucking weird too and I would suspect ulterior motives. It’s not societal conditioning.
Foopfoop
But he WILL do other things
dickbasedregex
like induce attraction in her.
Thatwhichhasnolife
Like beat her
kodiak931155
MisterTrashPanda
Other women
Taleboblen
kodiak931155
tehaoer
superawesomeguy
Like eat that booty
OliverClothesoff70
I’d bet real money the guy in this photo would go above and beyond trying to do all those other things.
TGWeaver
Except maybe telling her he's romantically interested in her?
OliverClothesoff70
I get your thinking, but him giving her flowers was a HUGE tip. She could’ve and probably did understand his feelings for her.
ihateimgurffs
And she probably told him she isn't interested before, but he keeps throwing money at her because he is a little bitch who can't take no.
flapperfemmefatale
Still just a tip. He needs to grow a pair and ask her out.
TGWeaver
So it turns out if you keep acting like someone's friend, sometimes they'll treat you like a friend! You want romance, say so up-front.
nicepersonbadbreath
Yeah but at least he won't be some pussy that crawls on his hand and knees for her like this clown
ilovecake
For some people, that’s a fetish. Doesn’t make them a “pussy.”
nicepersonbadbreath
Fetish implies understanding from both parties
WhiteningMcClean
Exactly. People don’t want a servant, they want a partner.
LeadByBadExample
I bet my apartment would be a lot cleaner if I had a servant. In fact, I do want a servant. And I don't feel ready for a partner.
jubsea
Not the way I would word it but he should be honest.
Skizzlesnap
Crawl your hands and knees to make it easier for her to shit all over him.
Lesbiansass
You got downvoted but you are right. That dude needs to tell that girl to fuck off. And do better and dress a bit anappier, get his groove
Lenthas
What he needs is self respect and balls to tell his feelings, and endure if its not reciprocated, basically GROW UP...harsh but true.
Lesbiansass
True! I thought it was explained to her it wasnt a friend thing I was confused
kodiak931155
Copy comment. Delete comment. Reply, paste, edit.
Lesbiansass
Was on mobile :c
TGWeaver
Instead of telling her to fuck off he could always just tell her how he feels?
Lesbiansass
I was operating under assumption she knew. I thought she was just a bitch. It seems hard to imagine anyone so clueless.
TGWeaver
Problem with a lot of 'friendzone' shit is guys come on acting like the girl's best friend and hoping she'll just know instead of saying it.
Lesbiansass
Snappier*, sigh. Edit comments made 10 seconds ago please!
ClassifiedUsername
Maybe he is just a good friend and he doesnt want sum fuk
Garouleloup
Yeah right
ElbowdeepinElmo
She seems to be very, very insistent on mentioning that they're not dating though.
alvastar
In the thread they explain that it was legit his idea (including the hashtag) to get her to respect herself after a bad ex
TheMightyJoe
yeah right he steals her underwear at least
Wormbo2
"Men literally want only one thing, and it's fucking disgusting!"
thisguy79
I would be willing to go along with this theory if he didn't do so much on one "date" and the flowers. I think the flowers show intent.
MossyMoose
Yeah right
Laimbrane
ALL guys want sum fuk. Even if they pretend otherwise.
TheLesserOfTwoWeevils
Especially the asexuals
Laimbrane
That's just next-level pretending.
thatskipguy
Ohhh he want sum fuk.
dafawkudoin
Friends are people you haven’t had sex with yet. “Close friends” bone. Beware when she says “He’s a close friend”
fluhatinrapper
Lol
JeezusJuice
WHAT! MEN AND WOMEN CANNOT BE FRIENDS! If a guy is with a girl, there must be sex! There’s no way it’s her gay BFF either, those don’t exist
orangecicle
I've gone out on friend dates with a straight male friend who has said straight up we would be terrible together. I don't get where >
orangecicle
people come up with the idea that men and women (who are both straight) can't be just friends. Honestly lol
daellat
or be a non-gay BFF, perhaps he is not single or has had girlfriends or just isn't romantically in love. who knows. we don't.
ColonKoala
I'm gonna assume you're a woman and not a man. Cause I can guarantee dinner, flowers, and horseback is not just friends lol
Shitposting2017
Gonna have to agree with you on this one
tyjet3
Name one time you heard a "friend" take a friend out for dinner plus ice cream, flowers, golfing and horseback riding... alone. I'll wait.
orangecicle
Got a buddy who gets taken to dinner, strip club, and a bar by a buddy of his... alone. Latter pays for all. Your move. I'll wait.
tyjet3
No where near the same thing. Sharing experience =/= making it all about the other person. Paying buddy likely has money to blow is my guess
orangecicle
So in this post the guy isn't horse back riding or eating ice cream? Lol. Yuh okay buddy.
JeezusJuice
I’ve never taken a date out for all that, so it’s irrelevant. In one case, a guy was in a relationship, and a mutual friend of him and his
JeezusJuice
Gf had a bad streak with guys, so he took her out to show her how a guy should treat her on a date. In all other cases, the guy was gay.
Rkhbusa
Well there was this one time I did it, but I was kind of intent on turning I’m her into lore than a friend.
tyjet3
My point exactly ;)
darkdragonempress
Minus the horseback riding I've done stuff like that before. And the horseback riding would definitely have happened if I had the money.
doiknowyou
Taking someone out to dinner on you and flowers seems a little over the top for just "a good friend"
orangecicle
Not if you or she are gay
WardSharlow
Oh baby youuuuuuuuuuuuu. You got what I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed.
GlitterInTheDarkNearTheTannhauserGate
Here's what he has to say https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
ImADoctorNotAnImgurian
Very sweet!
ajpimpsalll
well he's a lil nutty himself...
LokiDoky
Guys don’t dump that much cash on ANY friend, man or woman, without some kind of agenda. Lol.
orangecicle
Disagree 100%. I know a guy who has shelled out hundreds-thousands for himself and friends at a bar, then strip club, then taco Bell.
LokiDoky
Maybe this guy's agenda is to look "rich" or be "liked". Just saying that there's very little altruism when people spend valuable resources.
orangecicle
None those things. He just enjoyed doing stuff with friends even if they couldn't afford to pay for themselves
rocketturttle
*humans
popejubal
I've dumped that level of cash on a male friend and my agenda was that he was in a bad place and I wanted to cheer him up.
dafawkudoin
Could’ve saved your cash and given him an over the trousers squeezy..
CuriousPurple
You did a great thing, but aplan is a plan. Guys plan on spending that much money or they are so rich it's nothing to them. He had a plan
orangecicle
What a dumbass comment lol
popejubal
Note - I'm a straight dude.
JeezusJuice
Of course, a man can’t care for a woman he’s not having sexy with, so you couldn’t do something nice to cheer up a female friend.
JeezusJuice
DESPITE that the guy in the pic is claiming he did just that. https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
kaztas
Yeah but taking a sad buddy to the strip club and treating him to the champagne room is another topic entirely! ;P
recoveringengineer
Her post is obnoxious, but this is a friendly reminder that women aren't vending machines you put nice coins into until sex pops out.
charbreezy
This!!!
booknerd42
https://mobile.twitter.com/__lanza__/status/829514920463126530/photo/1
dragonherder
The whole idea with "friend zone" is the girl knowing the guy has feelings for them and sorta "using" it to their advantage though instead
dragonherder
of just saying "I'm not interested in you that way" and trying not to string them along. Some guys do expect a bit if they treat a woman
dragonherder
good and the like that something might happen, but there is a difference if the woman is stringing a guy along for gifts, food, etc.
evbrew
where can i buy these nice coins?
IconicM
Friendly reminder that no one thinks that.
jaffa5
ome times women string guys along because they like the attention the guy gives them that seems to apply to this girl
callmethelizardqueen
No but women shouldn’t play with feelings. My friends daughter had. A friend with money who wanted to date her, she led him on for years
callmethelizardqueen
Using him for dinner, gifts, cash when she needed it. Then he moved on and she actually cried about, thought he would always be there.
SerialChillinSpree
So she accepts all the coins and then declares the friendship on twitter? I don't think he was trying to buy sex.
theyar
Except when there's a chance, and then they are exactly that.
Imthedroidyouwerelookingfor
Some are.
PardusXY
Because relationships are only about sex.
limonchiki
this always really annoys me. there's always two sides - he could always stop "buying" her attention and be honest; friendzone is an excuse.
jaffa5
It annoys me too she clearly knows he's in to her and she has clearly taken advantage of that fact by agreeing to go on a "date" with him.
RoyFuckingMustang
Make your intentions clear or GTFO.
RoyFuckingMustang
Was looking for this comment. Good job. Imgur makes fun of "nice guys" constantly but doesn't realize they do the same shit.
maybeialreadydid
Gotta know when to holdm, know when to foldm, know when to walk away, know when to run. But seriously, 1/
maybeialreadydid
this kind of infatuation ain't just about sex, its often hanging on too long to the idea of courting, winning affection, wooing. We .. 2/
maybeialreadydid
have a reasonable amount of romance culture around the "win them over" , grand romantic gestures etc that feeds these scenarios.
dafawkudoin
How’s that women’s studies degree working out for you? Shift leader at subway?
maybeialreadydid
Swing and a miss :p Mate, I know little about it, just laying some thoughts out. Would you like any drinks or cookies with that?
jibbbabbabachd
who are these fuckers that believe that shit? If flirting works then try hit dat, if not find another human who has dem sweet pheromones
flapperfemmefatale
Judging by many of the comments here, plenty of guys are learning this for the first time and really struggling with the concept.
BannedbyastupidMod
I dunno if this is even real, that above, IF she was 100% aware it was a date and said "yes" to the date, then it's sort of a dick move.
SerialChillinSpree
What non-date has flowers, horse-back, ice cream, quality dinner? She wanted that princess treatment w/out prince.
jaffa5
I wonder if she told him she wasn't intrested before or after the "date" or if this post was how she let him know. I suspect the latter.
flapperfemmefatale
I agree with that.
Britishbrat
Make this into a shirt.
Fingolfin
Or you know, maybe he is interested in a real relationship? It's wrong to assume he's just trying to get sex.
recoveringengineer
What's the difference between friendship and a romantic relationship? Be honest, it's either about possession or sex.
thisisprocrastination
Not just wrong, but stupid. Dudes like that are obviously infatuated or think they're in love. Saying he's just out for sex is vilification.
Individualsocksinthewashingmachine
And maybe she isn't?
Catodactyl
But if my vagina could dispense ring pops after sex like "here's a nice prize for you, thank you come again", that would be pretty cool, no?
theyar
Fuck yeah it would. Hopefully they come out still in the wrapper though because eww.
SnookyDoWork
Thank you come again? Why dont mind if I do!
HPCmonkey
That is a romantic as hell evening for somebody who is "just a friend" and you know it. Poor guy is being used up for attention.
RoyFuckingMustang
I have friends that I rank far above any romantic partner I've ever had.
HPCmonkey
Do those friends take you on elaborate multi-event dates with gifts? Do they pay for everything at those dates?
RoyFuckingMustang
As a matter of fact, yes. It really isn't that weird. If you care about your friends, you do nice things for them.
HPCmonkey
Paying for everything is not "doing nice things." Joining you and sharing the adventure, sure. Buying souvenirs together, I can get that.
HPCmonkey
Most people crying "friendzone" are just meaningless whiners, though.
Yojoo
I obviously don't know the story here, but while what you said is true, one would also hope the woman would stop the "date" early if she 1/
Yojoo
/ wasn't interested. Dude's clearly making moves, so she should be open about her own intentions.
thisisprocrastination
That's what that post is, seems like. She's just too much of a pussy to do it face to face, or too selfish to do it before the date.
charbreezy
This post obviously looks like she sees him as a friend. Perhaps he should make his intentions clear in the first place
Yojoo
Maybe. Hard to say based on one thread. The addition of flowers makes me suspicious. I have female friends, I don't bring them flowers.
imshibagel
So she should blindly accept all gifts when clearly knows his intentions? It's fucked up. She's a POS
RoyFuckingMustang
Either A: he hasn't said anything to her about his intentions (so not her fault) or B: she did and he does this anyways (not her fault)
RoyFuckingMustang
Obviously there is a C answer where neither of them are interested and he is just being a good friend. What a strange concept.
ihateimgurffs
He was probably repeatedly told there will be no relationship. If he continues to spend money, that is his issue, not hers.
recoveringengineer
You can fault her on execution, and I do, but she's kinda dropping every hint she can to the guy.
thisisprocrastination
While accepting the gifts.
gilgameshish
while still accepting the gifts, thus encouraging further advances
RoyFuckingMustang
Most people are nice to their friends, yes.
recoveringengineer
She might be trying to be nice about it because she cares about their friendship. Decent people don't enjoy dishing out rejection.
Killrapture
Bring on the other side of turning down its not the easiest to do. Plus not a lot of people can take being turned down like a champ
IconicM
So they should use the other person instead, got it!
Killrapture
They should turn the other down to a void leading on, but I get why it isn't always the easiest. It's an important thing to do
imshibagel
Not turning down is one thing, but blatantly posting about it on social media? That's a new level of fucked up
recoveringengineer
Agreed. That's my major issue with her response.
flapperfemmefatale
Why is he still giving her gifts if he knows she isn't interested?
RoyFuckingMustang
Perhaps men and women can just be friends. Strange, I know.
ikindafail
Desperation and longing? Some people have a lot of trouble moving on I guess.
whatsisname
Because romantic comedies have taught people that persistence pays off. Reality is not so kind.
Thatwhichhasnolife
Does that mean rape is just shaking the machine until it falls out?
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Thatwhichhasnolife
Just joking, here's a +1 to help ease your points
NitroTheChampZach
Thats terrible but fuckin funny....imma just look the other way and drop this upvote like dropping food for my dog +1
Thatwhichhasnolife
And I'm gonna take it like an african child seeing food
nosbled
he's going for it, ladies and gentlemen!
NitroTheChampZach
Chinese, Ethiopian, 3rd world country....take ur pick
AroAce
Yeah every time I hear or see the word friendzone I have to cringe like do you think people can be bought ?
thisisprocrastination
People can be bought, both voluntarily and involuntarily.
AroAce
Sure but I think we can agree that this is a different case.
thisisprocrastination
Yeah, this case is a dumbass teenage sap in love, and a woman taking advantage of it. Tbf to her, she prob thinks she's been clear enough.
ikindafail
It doesn't always mean that. It has different definitions depending who you ask.
ikindafail
Some people say it's like, if a girl likes you, but likes someone more, so she "keeps you on the hook" for when/if the first relationship
ikindafail
with the guy she likes better fails. You'd be her stable backup plan. In this instance, the girl is the bad guy.
ikindafail
Usually it's just a girl not being attracted to a guy for one reason or another, but the guy was more interested romantically.
BootyPaladin
I mean... people CAN be bought. Either through trafficking, gold diggers, Sugar Babies, and whores. >.>
recoveringengineer
To each their own, but I never had an interest in those types of people in the first place.
AroAce
Sure but I think we all know the differences between thesis cases.
FaceAaA
You forgot politicians.
callmethelizardqueen
That’s covered under whore.
FrancisBegbiesKnittingNeedle
Yes. Yes they can
AroAce
Yeah but this is a different case.
IconicM
That's not what friend zone means. It's literally unrequited love, having feelings for someone when they don't. Buying gifts for a romantic
asmallcat
Then why do people blame the girl for the guy being friend zoned? And why is it never women complaining about it?
IconicM
If you look at any of the advice for getting out of or avoiding the FZ it always actually blames the guy for not acting in ways that women
IconicM
are attracted to. Also it does happen to women, I've personally friend zoned a couple girls... BUT women find new relationships much easier
crazyspelling
Worse, friend zone is when the object of unrequited love knows about it, and is using the subject as a backup boyfriend couched as friends.
AroAce
So basically love makes blind ?
crazyspelling
Yep. Guys used to claim they were friendzoned to make it sound like they'd made a move and been rejected, but they hadn't actually done it.
IconicM
Interest is completely separate and very common even for married couples.
AroAce
Yeah but what is the point of doing that if the person doesn't feel the same about you ?
IconicM
Well if you know they don't, there isn't. Suitors have been showering women with gifts for thousands of years though so...
theyar
Every time I read a comment like yours, I can't believe how shallow and ignorant some people can be. "Friendzone" has never implied or 1/?
theyar
suggested that one can buy rights to a girlfriend with money or kindness. It does however suggest that all of us need to learn to be 2/?
theyar
mature and respectful and sympathetic when someone is going out of their way for someone that isn't interested, and help them get out 2/?
theyar
of this "zone" they'e in, where they think if they just do one more nice thing or buy one more present/dinner, then they'll finally win 3/?
MenaceToSobriety
To me, "Friend Zone" is a place of unrequited desire. It doesn't automatically indicate ownership or specifically sexual desire.
recoveringengineer
Makes it sound more noble, but does that definition recognize women as humans with their own agency? Most times, probably not.
MenaceToSobriety
I don't see how that definition deprives women (who can also be friend-zoned) of their own agency.
recoveringengineer
Might just be me, but I define love as a two way street. Calling it love if the other person ain't interested is kinda weird.
AroAce
Then why not just ask if the person you aim for is also interested in you and accept if the person isn't ?
elgambito
Because then dejected men would have nothing to whinge about. Because life's hard as a white Anglo Saxon man.
callmethelizardqueen
Women get it too, not just a male problem.
Steffn
Isn't getting friendzoned the moment where you state your interest and she says that she just wants to be friends!?
AroAce
I have no idea.
theyar
Because that can be terrifying, and the fact is that the answer to such a question never really means anything. One of my closest 1/?
theyar
friends had a friendzone guy friend for years, who she even called "creepy" and told him she wasn't interested. They've been married ten 2/?
MenaceToSobriety
Cyrano de Bergerac, Eponine, Jorah Mormont, and countless others (real and fictional) wish it was that easy.
TheSteamWolf
Yeah, but... if Cyrano had just told Roxane of his admiration, things would've gone much differently. That's what these dudes need to do.
AroAce
What ?