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Ever since 2 years ago, I was close to approaching 200 pds. My moment of realization was when at a strip club at 19 and I saw myself in a mirror. 'Wow I have let myself go'. The time to change was nigh.
Now I'm at a great 135pds and now currently bulking myself up and toning.
I feel healthy, I look great. The only problem, one last obstacle is my stance on height (pun intended)
I'm 5'6 tall and it's a little bit of a bummer seeing other guys who are much taller than me. Especially how society has deemed around or over 6' demigod status.
Now I know the usual 'its not about the height, make up for it in personality'. But my realistic side of me already knows first appearances are most important. I already have a disadvantage.
I suppose to feel higher; I really must strengthen my confidence and remember my height makes me unique. What are your thoughts? Any 'uplifting' words of wisdom?
Thank you for making it this far
Long story short: I don't have the high ground and I under-estimate my power
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Homophone
As a lady, I can assure you that height doesn't matter. It's a preference for some, but definitely not all.
bs3080foshizzle
Don't sweat it. A person who looks at you differently because of your height is not one you should know or interact with.
SejsbbkkrsNjjssJtdfnj
Come to my part of Asia , we are all like 5 to 5'4 lol
Vcx1
if anyone avoids you only because of your height then they arent worth your time bro
criticalhitkoala
You're fine. Prince, Bruno Mars, Elijah Woods, Al Pacino, and many more are all your height or shorter. Word of advice? Humor always helps
stargazer58
You cant really change your height, but personality is more important! There are so many jackasses out there.
Shadoweclipse13
5'5" dude here. Just roll with it. It sucks sometimes, but we have the advantage of blending in more. If you're confident, you won't have ..
Shadoweclipse13
/2 an issue. I've never had a lover I was with complain about my height. If you're cool, they will love you.
okalies
As a 5’ girl you’re perfectly tall for me! Nothing wrong with being shorter than your lady either though! So proud of your weight loss!
Execut1ve
Im sure you can find a delightful tall gal and spoon with her and you'll be her lil' jetpack
Whammo
That's the plan!
anonymousthumbs
Being tall isnt a personality. You do you.
Ialwaysupvotegoodpuppers
This <3
WheresYourSister
No point in worrying about things outside of your control, just continue focusing on things you can control brother
RaxianTheta
Want to correct the disadvantage? Volunteer to walk/spend time with a pup. Women will flock to you.
Ialwaysupvotegoodpuppers
Big facts.
sirlapins
tall ones are the easy targets, use them for cover
BNabs
5'8" here, 32, never struggled in the girl department, did struggle in the confidence department. In my early 20s I just stopped caring 1/
BNabs
For no specific reason. I'm great in lots of ways, if someone doesn't like you because of your height, they weren't worth your time 2/2
BNabs
As you get older and more mature, people don't care about that shit. Although I think half the girls I dated were my height or taller anyway
DrippingWithSarcasm
Don't let other people dictate your worth, only you decide that. Just keep looking for someone that sees what you have to offer.
JackedUpGinger
I’ll take this advice and pocket it. I’m in a similar boat as OP, it’s funky believing the court of public opinion and hard to live with.
DrippingWithSarcasm
Just find a girl/guy who appreciates you. Anyone shallow enough to worry about height isn't worth your time.
MisterVRT
5'6'' here, i'd say a little above average shape, confidence really is the key. LMK when you find it, i don't know how either....
Whammo
I'll get on your shoulders with a tall trenchcoat
fowly
Imagine a 10ft tall guy.
MisterVRT
Together we shall be unstoppable! Thanks for the laugh
lighterletter
5'9 and feel the same way sometimes. I've dated taller girls and can confirm, difference comes when a girl sees you confident in yourself.
ILIK3TURTL3S
Lots of tall women usually never get asked out. Ask my GF. I’m 5’7ish and she’s just over 6ft. It’s great, she can reach the top shelves!
parasztarcal
I'm attracted to tall/taller women, unfortunately I've seen about 3 of them in my life total, since I'm 184cm, so statistics is against me.
VillainousFiend
It's a shame. I'm attracted to short women and tall women but less so average height. Guess I'm just weird.
apollo1kitten1
Haha 5"6 dude! I'm 5"3 don't u worry, plus most of my friends are 6"1 and up, some ppl find it funny and u know what, IT IS. But so what
hotdudecurator
If it makes you feel any better, based on your christmas selfie, you're fucking sexy as hell
FrickinLasers
You can't let the things you can't change consume you. Gonna have a bad time.
criticalhitkoala
Agreed, but ironically there's a front page post with a Lady who did just initiate change (the Dwarf lady that did the break surgery).
cookieduster
Life is too short to worry. Don’t let the little things get you down. It’s tiny in the grand scheme of things.
sweetfeetpete
This comment really measures up.
filben7
Tom Cruise is like 5'4" and he runs a whole cult and makes like $40mil a year.
DesolateMirror
Don't try to make up for height with working out and muscles. I've known a lot of people try to do that. Be funny, smart
Wharglarm
Funny is hard for me in not really sure how to get better at it
storebrandproductmascot
Body building comes off like insecure over-compensation. Funny and smart just comes off funny and smart.
takedown751
Strive to be funny and smart, but nothing wrong with a strong, fit physique, girls like muscles too
Whammo
I've seen when people go too far, looking like Bane amongst munchkins
DesolateMirror
I'm not saying you shouldn't work out, jsut don't get on the juice and end up like a square lol
NoNameFred
SexualCannibal
“Tall for a chick” here to show my appreciation for guys that aren’t afraid to go up on us. Don’t believe the nonsense emasculation.
SexualCannibal
Also please enjoy this photo of Peter Dinklage with his family that I recently happened upon in user sub.
imgurmage
You're fine, the 6' thing is mostly a meme anyway.
TheBitchessOfScience
Yeah honestly 6'+ is just a sore neck waiting to happen. Source - am a girl. Leave them to the super tall girls.
52pickup
My fiancée is 5’9”; I know you’re a few inches shorter than that, but he also always was self conscious about his height. All I can say >
52pickup
> is, hes my favorite person I’ve ever met in my whole life, and theres so many other things I noticed about him, and height for me never >
52pickup
> factored into it. He is taller than me, but if he wasn’t, I still can’t imagine feeling differently about him. Adults love people for >
52pickup
> who they are and what they do with what they can control, and height isn’t one of those things. Manage your life on your own terms, and >
52pickup
> be open to meeting another adult (know the difference), and you’ll find someone that will wipe this insecurity off the board!
Whammo
I needed this thank you!
CarterTheBird
My husband is 5’3 and he’s perfectly sexy to me :)
ProAce
So far height (6'3) has only helped me bump into more stuff ?
ZeroLogain
As a 6'1'' guy, my outgoing fit funny 5'7'' friend always had a better time with women. Yes height helps, but its far from the only thing. 1
ZeroLogain
Find what does make you stand out - skin tone, eyes, hair style, fashion sense, and work it. No one has everything.
imgurmage
Also, the only women that actually care enough about height to not date you over it are too shallow to be worth your time.
Xannos
Idk bro I have a friend who is like 5’4 and IMO not attractive, rich, or fit- but the dude seems to just PULL like 5’10 baddies. He’s had
Xannos
Many girlfriends and flings. Isnt like super smart or funny or anything. Really think it’s a confidence thing. I also know some other
Xannos
Shorter friends who went the other route and got ripped, gained confidence from that, and have been killin the game ever since. So really
Xannos
I am very convinced is a confidence thing- and the being short bit just makes it harder to be confident in yourself. Get out of your head.
Xannos
And you’ll 100% see chicks who only date certain types of tall guys, but consider it a blessing cause those types are usually cunts lol.
TankGirl1988
Height is nothing to be self-conscious about..your heart and mind are what really counts :)
MyOcs5thContent
And your height!
21viking
And soul.
CSlice06
Yeah this is true, except to girls. The painful truth is that you’re correct, us under 6ft guys are at a distinct disadvantage.
vrflyer
And the size of your pene too...
AnalBeadsPulledOutLikeStartingALawnmower
I'm more of a rigatoni guy
D3C3PT1C0N4564
I agree with analbeads^
CSlice06
Yeah this is true, except to girls. The painful truth is that you’re correct, us under 6ft guys are at a distinct disadvantage.
Tigergurke
Exactly. Knew a guy that was really self conscious about his height, even after I told him many times I didn't care. Was one of the reasons-
Tigergurke
we never got together. (One other was jealousy, but that's another story). Fact is there are lots of women that don't care about height.
cuttysark
What ^ says! She's right!
CSlice06
Yeah this is true, except to girls. The painful truth is that you’re correct, us under 6ft guys are at a distinct disadvantage.
Zyrixion
Let's be real here, anyone who's gonna axe you on the basis of being too short isn't worth anyone's time.
CSlice06
Yeah maybe not, but it still cuts down the options by a whole lot for short guys.
SunnyPotato
5'7" here and I would tend to say your wrong. Uncomfortably so
SunnyPotato
On the other hand, I'm apparently an imcubus so not the best reference.
TankGirl1988
That's unfortunate ..that I'm wrong I mean.
SunnyPotato
If you're talking about your earlier comment I don't think your wrong?
surelyoneoftheseusernamesisavailable
I'm a 5'11" woman and have dated several man, long term, who were shorter than me (5'6-5'8"). Some even loved me in heels. Don't sweat it.
CSlice06
There’s always the unique exception, but we’re talking about majorities here. MOST women don’t even see shorter guys in the first place.
TankGirl1988
I'm very proud to not be part of the MOST catagory I'm 5'6 and have dated several men shorter than me
1metalnation
As a 6'4 guy who loves, LOVES tall women. I'm sad that I've only dated one girl that I had to go up on... plus I have knee and back problems
Wrath93
It's primarily an issue with online dating. It's a big meat market there. Tinder is especially bad for this.
surelyoneoftheseusernamesisavailable
I did online dating for a bit. It was hard convincing men that it really didn't matter to me.
Wrath93
They're probably used to wading through the "6' or taller only," "I like to wear heels," and "need someone to reach the top shelf." Profiles
MrSnowy
Nice job! But theres one thing that is bothering me about this story: using pds as a unit
Whammo
My apologies, abouttttt 63kg at the moment
eggmuffin
Holy shit. You're overdoing it, my man. That's not a healthy weight for an adult.
JaviDrift
I'm about the same height and weight and while I'm lean, I'm not particularly skinny. I wouldn't be concerned
ShittyMcFartPoop
That’s roughly 0.43 washing machines, right?
FillenniumMalcon
I don’t think that’s what he/she meant
StepRightUp
No? Well, it was bugging me too....
mrmayortheiv
The abbreviation is lbs, not pds, which is what I think they meant
Megapyton66
But the kgs is what we in the rest of the world understand!
How do u get “lubbs” (or how would u pronounce it?) as short f “pounds” anyway?
VagisilToothpaste
Ans do you say kigs instead of kilograms/kilos? Come on, dude...
tpgreyknight
whoosh
Metohlbird
Abbreviation of Latin 'Libra'
animalcrackersinmypoop
It’s an abbreviation of the Latin word for ‘pound’ which is ‘libra’
Wrath93
You don't pronounce abbreviated words as their abbreviation. "Etc." is always pronounced "etcetera".