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Sep 6, 2017 12:01 PM
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Zalor
I have never encountered had a date where the woman didn't offer to split it. Is "man pays" even a thing in modern society?
szepasszony
2nd wave feminists started the trend of 'going dutch' in the 1970s. http://www.innovateus.net/innopedia/how-did-go-dutch-originate
APairOfBrownEyes
Pretty sure most people this day and age split the bill. Sometimes I treat- sometimes he treats.
Piornet
I swear to god Imgur is just Tumblr for teenage boys.
truflehunter
I love this because in the UK going Dutch is customary on first dates. As a girl a like it. Makes me feel like I'm not using men.
Fprops
well you'd be surprised of the amount of guys who refuse to split the bill. And I always split for exactly this reason.
Fprops
And I refuse when strangers want to pay me a drink. I don't want to "own" them anything.
BlacPill
Alright...
brotheralphonse
But honestly, as long as both people are getting an income, it makes sense to split.
BlacPill
If you're married, sure. Dating, the point is to show your value as a provider.
BlackBirchOwl
My husband pays for everything. Granted we have a joint bank account and both work but he still pulls out his card.
OrangeCountries
When you have a joint account, why does it matter who pay? Genuine question. Is it the gesture?
BlackBirchOwl
It's just the gesture I think.
fuegofish
That's not even how this meme works.
darknesses
My bf pays the bill almost every time. I offer but he insists /shrug. Doesn't mean we're in some unequal / horrible relationship.
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darknesses
I guess, but no one ever mentions it before marriage. I just wanted to point out its not necessarily a bad thing to not pay 50/50
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
Keep beating that dead horse!
Moontato
We never split the bill, either of us pays full once and the other one next time.
MagpieNI
That's the most logical thing - removes the awkwardness of figuring out the exact split, so long as the price doesn't fluctuate too much.
stormegedendarklordofall
diablosword
I just make her pay 70% what I do.
hollllllandia
Pay gap isn't a thing. If it was, it is illegal and people should be reporting their employers to whoever deals with that kind of thing.
Noughmad
Also, if it was real, some companies could just hire only women, and save 20% of wages.
Applepotamus
CleverClavicleCleaver
Username is relevant. I pay half the food bills, too.
CleverClavicleCleaver
Also, I don't make that face while paying.
asmallcat
Oh good, the circlejerk is back on!
damspam
It ever stopped?
Predicto
this rollercoaster never ends
Herecomesjohnny
i've never met a girl that got offended at splitting the bill. Is this maybe just an american thing?
ShoesAreHatsForFeet
The only people I ever see talk about this are the people who don't actually go on dates.
tardis63
Has this actually every happened to anyone though?
theletos
Went on a date with someone who spent the whole time mansplaining gender inequality to me. She suggested we go somewhere to eat.
theletos
She was visibly offended when she realized we'd be splitting the bill. Such a parody, but that's the only time it's happened to me.
Getsoft4u
http://thefinancialdiet.com/honest-qa-girl-goes-tinder-dates-free-dinners/
tardis63
That's not quite the same situation but I can see how it's related
SoberAndBored
I had an ex who invited me out for a meal to talk about staying friends (we had similar interests). I agreed, as long as we each paid our
SoberAndBored
own way going forward (I'd paid for pretty much everything all through the relationship. I was a lot younger and more naive then. And so was
SoberAndBored
my penis). She agreed that that was fair. So when we'd eaten, I put down the cost of my meal. And that, as they say, is when the trouble
SoberAndBored
began. I'd never been harangued before. It feels exactly like deciding never to see someone again. She carried on (and on, and on) outside.
SoberAndBored
I just kept walking and trying to ignore her. To my great surprise we ended up outside the Imperial War Museum, which she was eventually
DynamicWeight
I've suggested splitting bar cover with girls when girls get in free. It was met with pretty much exactly this face.
tardis63
Curious, on dates or as friends?
DynamicWeight
A FWB and her friend. The three of us went out to a bar. That was for, like, 6 bucks? To be fair, going out in Vegas, when cover has been
DynamicWeight
20 for girls and 60 for guys, I have gotten the same reaction but also gotten the group to split the total cost for everyone.
tardis63
I mean, that is still your cost, and you can't really expect a FWB to be chipping in on your costs
Discoduck
Well yes. People are people, and many people are entitled assholes when they think society is backing them up. Feminism is still 1000% valid
tardis63
Societal norms are pretty harmful in some way to everyone, yeah. I just mean I've seen people complaining about this on the internet (1/2)
tardis63
(2/2) but I've never known a girl who has been upset at splitting the bill or a guy who has complained about such a girl in real life.
Canofminus
Ah! A new meme about "showing her real gender equality" constantly reposted bythe dateless. I look forward to seeing it 10x's more this week
Blahblahhh
Seriously, I imagine these anti feminist dudes in this thread also somehow can't get dates and don't understand why.
gunter
So, you are saying: If the men doesn't pay for the food, he should get a date?
szepasszony
I met a guy like this once, he complained about this, but when I offered to pay 100% he took it as an offense to his manhood.
damspam
You think it's bad now just wait until valentines day approaches
TheConformityInCommentorsHereIsAstronomical
Or international womens day. "IWD is such a joke, bro!"
SweetMystique
But etticate would dictate the person who invites the other will be paying. If I ask you to dinner I'm paying.
sympatheticDolphin
My bf and I just rotate who pays, sometimes I have more in my wallet at the time and vice versa.
LittleKnownOne
So he's step 1?
NorwegianCatLady
Same! Most of the times its me, and I couldnt care less. As long as hes happy and fed, im happy.
drbloodbathmc
I generally pay because I make more at the moment, as well as fewer bills.
ItsOnlyMilky
If you invite someone to dinner in a date context, you pay unless they offer. Doesn't matter who has what between their legs.
BlacPill
To be fair, that's probably going to be the man.
ItsOnlyMilky
Usually, but it works better as a rule than "the man pays"
BlacPill
Well, the rule still is, "the man pays." This is just vague rewording.
eskimowins
Yes but it's vague rewording that lets idiots internally justify their sexism. They need this!
ItsOnlyMilky
I'm sorry, but my rewording removes all mention of sex. How is it sexist?
rfrostmiles
But most men want to take you someplace very expensive because he wants to make a good impression. What if you can pay for it?
SweamSpoats
Caronemys can't really understand why both seeds see that as somethin regarding gender equality
SweamSpoats
Thats it I'm turning off autocorrect
CanadianFurr
Wtf is "Caronemys"?!
JettySpaghetti
Sounds like a type of turtle.
SweamSpoats
Yeah large prehistoric turtle
IllusivePanda
A particularly hostile carrot
HipsterFett
PlantainSuperNova
Imgur : most of us have never talked to a woman, but we're sure that they're the real sexists and not us nice guys. No siree
Ohhhlookaunicorneatingasamurai
I split the bill with my wife all the time. But to be fair I am the only one who works.
steam1218
oh hi dad you started using Imgur?
Repano
klystron2010
In bed too?
RayGiIIette
"Honey I think we are about to get mugged!" "Oh that would be a shame if they took MY money out of OUR wallets."
DefinitelyNotHavingAMeltdown
I'm the 1 who works and my bf goes to school, so that bill is all on me. But 1day I'll be living the dream where i live in a 2 income house
anarchomark
You need a contract.
CountessVonFingerbang
We just started being a 2 income house in February and IT IS THE BEST THING EVER.
therealVexed
my sister lives in a 2 income apartment which costs her annual sallary and he pays everything else.
IwentLookingForWhatTheBiggestIdiotHasToSayAndHereYouAre
"half my money, half our money that only I contribute to...."
IwentLookingForWhatTheBiggestIdiotHasToSayAndHereYouAre
"wait..."
AnonresponsivE
It's a good thing she can't do math, or this might develop into an issue
AgolfHiller
She can do meth though which would explain why she doesn't work... And why she married him
SlyMrFox
Right, next you'll try to convince me that goose-stepping looks good in plaid pants.
illuminerdy
Can you explain the joke to my friend...
DrYoloMcSwagmasterIIIEsq
He is the only one with an income, if she pays, its with his money anyway
TheConformityInCommentorsHereIsAstronomical
"This is so spot on! Way to show that feminist cunt! " -most of user sub
somekindafuckingidiot
if you dont identify with the women described, then youd have nothing to be offended about. its not about feminism its about hypocrites
mastikator
People, what a bunch of bastards
BlacPill
ticktockbent
+1 for truth
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
Never gets old, does it?
szepasszony
Even though feminists popularized 'going dutch' in the 70s, everyone knows feminists are TOTALLY against going dutch, right?
RoodKontjeAapje
'Women, amirite guys?'
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
Dames!
RoodKontjeAapje
Dames, kom op! Er is genoeg RoodKontjeAapje voor iedereen!
damspam
"Also, why am I single?"
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
SwedishRationalist
Considering the fact that there actually are plenty of women who DO think like this, you can stop your whinging. Accurate meme is accurate.
InaneOctopus
I noticed this just last night! Anything to make a feminist look bad just rockets up in points.
0112358132134558914423337761098715972584418167651094617711
You mean like that comment that has +356 points?
Blahblahhh
Feminists, BLM, anything involving a black person talking shit about black people in general
Discoduck
It's almost like they are organizing...a lil' army of vapid trolls with persecution complexes. I read about this in the Book of Revelations.
ashtranza
What's Black Mages got to do with this?
koopaya
I'm really glad I didn't have the internet when I was a developing adolescent.
EminentLine
Sweet, now I don't have to type this. Thanks!
KilleroyJenkins
This
Azerai
That
AxelYamanaka
The Other
ForgotMyOtherAcct
IMTHEONEWHOSTOLEALLOFTHECOOKIESFROMTHECOOKIEJAR
Thing?
supersomatic
"this bullshit is exactly what most men think" - most of female user sub
PlantainSuperNova
Or you know men who actually have empathy and who are not close minded little boys.
supersomatic
funny how I got downvoted, but the post I responded to got upvoted, even though they're the same comments, with the genders flipped.
Discoduck
Seriously. I don't remember imgur being this immature/ sexist back in the day but times change I guess. Bunch of ignorant little shits.
aesthesia1
9gag lost some people. I'm pretty sure they came here
PlantainSuperNova
In Europe suddenly know/thinks that continent has became a lawless caliphate. 2/2
KingKelloggTheWaffleHaggler
Imgur has been like this for years. Tons of racism ( both ways) Tons of sexism of all variety too. Lots of butthurt atheist as well.
PlantainSuperNova
The sexism and racism has really ramped up the past couple of years. The islamaphobia too. A bunch off assholes who have never set footb1/2
arcticWildlife
Feminism today in the western world is a joke. So I get the hate towards feminists.
Discoduck
Feminism is simply the idea that the sexes are 100% equal. That's it. Just because people can and do miss the point doesn't invalidate it.
arcticWildlife
The idea great. It's just that that's not what modern feminism is trying to do.
shadowex3
Immature was way worse "back in the day". You'd get people making multis just to harass you if you even said men COULD be raped.
segfaultytowers
Usersub always is, the FP is less so
Xplode441
You clearly didn't spend much time here then.
Discoduck
Been casually browsing usersub for 6 years now and the amount of 12-year-old sexism has definitely seen a spike in the last year or two.
Xplode441
Usersub hasn't existed for six years.
NorwegianCatLady
Ive been around 3 years or so, and I gotta say I agree. A lot of the users here belong to r/incels.
TheConformityInCommentorsHereIsAstronomical
imgur was pretty sheit back when i joined 2 years ago. Imo it's gotten a little better the last year or so.
damspam
the fuck is an incels? Spare me from having to go to that page please :)
Discoduck
Don't go! It's nothing but human garbage and people with mild to severe mental health issues.
StephanieWasTheTrueVillainOfLazyTown
An incel is a women-hating, (often) basement dwelling, far right edge lord "nice guy". Imagine pepe the frog as a real person.
damspam
Ah... so where does the name come from?
szepasszony
'involuntary celibate' (i.e. I'm mad because the world owes me sex and not getting it is everyone's fault but mine)
damspam
oh holy shit, "involuntary celibate"?! Hahahahaha! What a fancy way of saying "I can't get laid and I'm mad about it".
szepasszony
Where are all these feminists against financial independence? I've never met one, and I've known a metric fuck ton of feminists.
PardusXY
Mother in law, her version of financial independence is her husband paid for everything, she kept all her own money.
szepasszony
What feminist organization does she belong to?
PardusXY
Nice moving the goal posts there.
szepasszony
You're claiming your mother in law is a feminist who does all this, but she's not actually a feminist?
PardusXY
No, she identifies as a feminist and you are asserting that unless she is part of an org she is not one. #movingthegoalposts
MidnightRogers
I love splitting the bill for exactly this reason. It's super awkward to have someone just buy you food all the time. Like, I'm not a baby.
pablozzyzzk
Then how do you know if you
pablozzyzzk
've paid enough to get some sex?
gorillaClutch
I just play one on TV
TheBlackWindHowls
If you were a baby, that'd be pretty awkward romantically.
supernintendo64
And illegal.
TheGame21x
Gotta say, "awkward" was not the first word that came to mind in this scenario...
idontenglishsorry
yeah, the first thing that came was me haha
LootenetDan
Blurbsmith
Which is also why it's a strange term of endearment. Also daddy. I don't want to know where these people learned to dirty talk. Geez.
TheOlsenTwins
I concur.
PirateRubberDuck
True. Taking someone on a date to somewhere they can't really afford and splitting is not fair though. Take turns instead.
PirateRubberDuck
Or just keep it fair however works for you.
DangerTrain
Screw that. When it's my turn to pay my friends always end up at a much nicer restaurant.
nipplepanties
Women I've dated tend to disagree with you
Discoduck
Date better people
MundaneFinality
I mean, that's the only reasonable solution.
Bananasandwich03
Some people only want equality when equality serves their own personal interests.
OpenPalm
*most people (sadly)
mykeg
Yes, those people are called feminists...
TheWetLustyArgonianMaidRIP
*Third Wave Feminists*
Airhats
Must be rough being you
mykeg
I'm not bitching about it, just pointing it out. Please feel free to refute my point using evidence, facts, and/or logic...
Airhats
Because you provided evidence, facts and logic to begin with. journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0095399716636928
mykeg
This link had no evidence of feminists fighting for equality that doesn't favor them. (i.e. the topic of discussion, if you forgot)
Texantioch
Hey be nice, oppressed straight white dudes need love too...
Airhats
Everyone needs love; except for my cat the little shit.
Bananasandwich03
I don't know why this is being downvoted