franklamphy
198062
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Apr 16, 2018 7:24 PM
franklamphy
198062
3432
149
ISeeWhatIDidThere
Kind of a D-bag move. Unless of course she is also a D-bag. Still though.
wanderingsibyl
I mean...if I was his new wife I’d be a little hesitant about this, seems obsessive and excessive.
rockyhorrorisme
I'm starting to see where things went wrong
ohthatwordbumsmeout
This is like the millionth time I've seen this shit, maybe, and I'm just guessing based on these checks, this guy's a douchebag.
Bumbleflarts
TheAdventuresOfCat
"NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! I LOVE MY WIFE!!" Is the best part
Paul8783
MrsFlemm
shitty thing to do
WillemHellfire
After ten years, she gets alimony for life until she remarries.
LokiShade
Um...direct deposit...
SashaTheKitty
Petty level: 1000
FilthyRapscallions
I’ve been on the hook for $5k monthly for 5 years and even I think this is pathetic.
MadDrDrillBit
maby, depending on the size of the checks i guess.
APackOfExcitedGingers
No way man, that's petty level 9001 and I love it
Cats2cats
To be that petty does not speak well of your second marriage.
clownqueefs69
Ok so as a divorce lawyer (send hate mail), this level of petty hurts everyone, especially the guy writing the check.
burnsnoss
NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! I LOVE MY WIFE!!
Palindrome995
BITTER! Party of 2, your table is ready!
Shenaniganz80
Hero
Misslnformation
Herro!
MrRandom314159
I feel like this is just asking for drama.
n0n53n53
I doubt this relationship was drama free before he had the checks made. It's funny, but still a dick move
Rapturr
New wife new life
Toofwess
Maximum pettiness. I'd remarry him just to divorce him again.
PaulHolioTheGreat
Seems like a asshole move
niauropsaka
Oh, that's not his daughter?
n0n53n53
no, but that's her daddy
WaterUnderTheRocketAppliances
VashTS000
It could have ex wifes mom getting gang raped and she still cash that shit... let's be real
shortcakechuckles
Why are people still using cheques?
StrangeMeadowlark
1) Many small orgs aren't setup to handle electronic payments (HOAs, churches) or charge fees. 2) Many checking accts include it already
trigonman3
In this case, he has evidence she got it and cashed it.
shortcakechuckles
Which would also be the case if he used EFT.
Ilikecatsandbeer
I don't understand the concept. Dont americans have online bankaccounts?
shortcakechuckles
I moved to North America just over a year ago and was shocked at how outdated their banking systems are.
CascadianTwilight
They're old
Amousewithchees
Hrm... I do think I detect just a hint of passive aggression.
Wakborder517
The most delicious kind of aggression
WisconsinHome
Get over it
thecoon55
Kinda hard to get over it when the money you make from working goes straight to an ex...
WisconsinHome
Yes but he has a new wife
thecoon55
And he still has to pay the last one... How are you supposed to move on if you literally can't...
WisconsinHome
I get that but it seems childish and if he those checks for other payments he has given himself more reminders
thecoon55
It just seems ridiculous to me that a portion of my check would go to an ex. Maybe for 6 mo after we broke up...but for years..fuck that.
jayphat
And I'm sure she wondered why she divorced him......
zoezoebelle
Seriously, who the fuck would want to marry such a guy? Playing childish petty pranks on the mother of his kids, fucking asshole.
UncleAce
Who says they have kids??
bigbadaboomboom
and maybe she was rude and mean to him? we don't know their background
thanatos777
Good to know he is so completely, entirely, 100% over his ex-wife. Yup, hella over her.
trigonman3
If only the court system would let him get over her, instead of being reminded month in, month out. Get ya own job, woman. It's 2018.
thanatos777
Most women getting alimony gave up their own career advancement to help their husband. That's what alimony is about.
thecoon55
It's 2018, you don't need to give up a career anymore...my mom raised 4 kids by herself while working full time as a nurse...
bigbadaboomboom
its your entire choice to do so. you CHOOSE to. no one forced you. this aint the 50's
thanatos777
Most women getting alimony gave up their own career advancement to help their husband. That's what alimony is about.
trigonman3
I agree with this up to a certain year, in the US. Where do you draw the line? I don't think modern women need alimony.
mattshouse68
Love it... unless he was cheating on her with his new wife.
niauropsaka
Of course he was.
YesLikeWhatIDo
YouLookLikeAFruit
theBannedBandit
Don't worry, he was just physically abusive. No cheating!
Wakborder517
Oh good
Homophone
My uncle cheated and got some bullshit disease that left his unborn daughter blind.
OssiWestborn
ur uncle beard a child?
Homophone
No, his wife was pregnant with my cousin.
jumpingigawatts
Hopefully she was cheating on him. That would be deliciously vindicated.
Paperstars
Wait...why would he pay her alimony if she was the one that cheated?
jumpingigawatts
You are definitely correct, and I didn't really think of that before commenting, but the comments below aren't wrong either unfortunately.
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The system is fucked? Idk
anddylanrew
Alimoney isn’t punishment. It’s so families can divide labor without putting one of them at risk of homelessness.
RoryBlack1
Lol. Say that to most people with well paying jobs that pay alimony. Shits fucked.
Larrimus1
Do you mean people with well paying jobs who receive alimony?
anddylanrew
Huh?
thedevil
Even if he was, alimony is an outdated bullshit policy.
LegalSeagul4
Yeah we don't use it in most cases in the UK.
natalie2k8
It's really that common in the US either. People just like to talk about it.
mattshouse68
Nah it is. I am paying it right now
pizzapanman
Depends on length of marriage and income disparity between the parties.
powershit
Fuck that
BeatsBearsBattlestarGallactica
Especially if a spouse put their career on hold for kids or decided to move for one spouse's job which caused the other to take a step back
ottotravel
AAAAaaaaaahhh, too much logic, too reasonable.
Declen
Hmmm, income disparity is stupid. If she wasn't with that person she would probably make the same amount anyway. Why should he support her
pizzapanman
You have a situation where wife kept house for 20 years while husband made bank, it makes sense for some alimony/maintenance.
cmh0114
If you don't work for 10 years because you're raising kids, that's 10 years of missed raises, promotions, and work experience, at minimum.
IWATCHDEATH
Don’t forget pension/retirement contributions!
TheLetterKay
I'm passing on a career right now because my husband makes more and any income I could bring wouldn't even pay for the childcare we would
TheLetterKay
Need. When I go back to work I will have work history gaps. Lack of advancement. And I'm missing technology advancing.
mattsall
Alimony is such a weird concept
Benegesseritwitch75
Made my ex pay me for the $ he spent on his mistress and selling mutually owned property before the divorce was done (like 10000)
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Brucecori2
The adulterer can be barred from receiving alimony. In some states, you must prove that adultery was the reason for divorce.
kevinbaken
Marriage is a weirder concept. We single people keep warning people to not get married lol
clownqueefs69
Not really. It just equalizes a playing field for two people post marriage. Also prevents divorce from being a huge drain on public programs
PedroBenecol
Checks are such an old concept.
SapientPearwoodChest
Why? Shouldn't people be compensated for lost potential earnings?
bigbadaboomboom
because no one forced them to do so?
SomeDetroitGuy
If the mutually agreed that she should give up her career, both garnered benefit from it. It's only fair she should be compensated for her
Christx30
What about if the husband begged her to get a job because they were broke, and she refused?
nuclearboner
How about the new tax law that the person who receives the alimony doesn't have to pay the tax, the person who gives the money does.
IDidntWantTheBetaVersionHelp
*or he.
maxstout808
Woke
SomeDetroitGuy
sacrifice to the marriage.
maxstout808
Reeeeeeeeee
knightswillbekings
Some Sacrifice.....
SomeDetroitGuy
Giving up your ability to earn money, seniority, and marketable job skills.
knightswillbekings
Oh, I stand corrected.
flassk
so when he loses his job after the marriage... and the court forces them to continue paying...
daqueso
you can go back to court to renegotiate the alimony if circumstances change...
flassk
i have this distinct feeling as if a lot of people don't know this or some courts ignore it. have heard my share of horror stories.
daqueso
I don't think anyone will ever feel like they got treated fairly, and dealing with courts/lawyers is a nightmare/expensive
Chaimgoldbergenstein
I have literally never heard of this actually working for anyone. Plenty of attempts, but never any successes.
overlordchris666
What if DIDN'T give up job, retired first and left?...does that mean you get part of the other persons retirement?
MufinMcFlufin
That would be interesting. I'm curious if there's any precedence for something like that happening.
overlordchris666
For a friend...certian states think "Yes" so even though the other person left, gets their own retirement, but judge thinks their entitled.
AwkwardKeming
In my state, you look a net spendable income available to both parties and start at a 50/50 presumption. If they earn the same, no payments.
SomeDetroitGuy
Generally, in divorce, you split all assets (including retirement accounts) 50/50. Obviously, situations apply and vary by state.
overlordchris666
Yeah, certian states don't Believe in the 50/50 rule, but instead in a 75/25 based solely off how the judge feels, not by facts.
xzhous
Can you give some examples/statistics and facts on this? Didn't know this. Curious to learn more
Natsumori
Split assets then, not alimony. Special circumstance provisions for long term/permanent disability.
overlordchris666
Yeah in this case, the one got medical disability, a settlement, and retirement of their own, and stopped working and left...
overlordchris666
...the other was still working, taking care of 2 of 3 kids, making mortgage payment. State says the one is entitled to part of c retirement