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bobthedoggo
Crimpwithyourthumb
Flip side though, it’s not your job to run your friends lives. Say your piece and let them live. In less it’s dangerous
unicornsdonotexist
Yup, especially when your friend is having a midlife crisis or considering cheating on their spouse.
lawideas
Eh... sometimes you have to pretend they're right when they're not. For the little things.
RupertR
Relates topic. The snitches get stitches mentality is stupid. If someone won't stop doing something wrong, find a way to stop them.
Maggiesperson
Excellent point
TheSnarkyDruid
You tell them. They do it anyway. I've learned to tell them when they ask or if it's something truly devastating. Otherwise, it's up to them
MylastaccountgotbandbecauseIpostednakedwomen
Or worse ruin someone else's life.
sderponme
As long as you don't abandon them
selfawareroomba
I’ll support you publicly if you’re wrong. Like well beat someone up and later I’ll be like “man you know you were wrong, right?”
dunkyclone
Stop being an idiot before you ruin your life.
jaakkopaakkonen
This comment about american politics took a really weird turn
thepicklebucket
This also applies to Presidents
Cheomesh
I tried that. Several times. I am without friends.
FerrousBuehler
Couldn't be more true
AHorticulturistIsJustANerdyGardener
Yeah, but IN THE MOMENT you back your friend's play. Wait till later to explain shit.
avertyereyes
I'll still help them bury the body tho.
SuperiorPosterior
Aye, exactly.
tsrivishnu
Same. But nothing is going to stop me from telling them they fucked up the entire time I'm digging a fucking hole.
DigitalKiwi
Hello, friend
Failingatdomesticity
1) It's tricky because genuine support can become enabling when you don't know much about a topic and rely solely on the other to make the
Failingatdomesticity
2) right decisions. Educate yourself and question the other's decisions accordingly. Even if it's someone you love, don't trust blindly.
FilYouWithMe
Yeeees! I fucking hate people who tell me I'm supposed to be on their side when they're being an idiot/asshole! I'm not your sidekick!
funfactnate
hm, then what do you call the person who holds the phone and your beer when you say "i got this"
ADeani
A witness.
OddOod
An enabler. We literally just went over this. Though hilarity usually ensues..
OddOod
Admittedly I strive to use the phrase "Hold my beer" as frequently as possible
Shuey
A side kick
ZuIthar
A best friend. They laugh at you doing shit and make sure you can do it again.
CottonTheClown
Or, sometimes, in legal terms, an accessory
CottonTheClown
An accomplice
imagineacoolnamehere
Friend of mine is in love with a douche, talk to her about it she doesn't understand so I stop telling her and decided to step back
OddOod
Step WAY back. Be like "when you come to your senses, I'll consider taking you back as a friend, until then, goodbye"
imagineacoolnamehere
Yp that's what I'm doing thanks for the advice OddOod
OddOod
Good job! That is the safest move.
Ameatyloaf
See the thing is...they don't feckin listen. People wanna be told that they're right. Even if they're SUPER feckin wrong.
Splinthar
I have more fistfights with friends then enemies. I am uglier for it, but I have friends who are better for it.
OddOod
....then ditch them. Those aren't friends, they are toxic people
RevvyDrawsStuff
Depends. Had a friend who was going to make a very bad decision. However, knowing her questioning the very bad decision would result in(1/?)
RevvyDrawsStuff
Her cutting off contact with me, and then there would be no one to help when the very bad decision went the predictable route. (2/?)
RevvyDrawsStuff
So I stayed quiet - things went exactly as I expected, and afterwards I told her that I'd known all along what would happen (3/?)
RevvyDrawsStuff
And why I didn't say anything. She admitted I was totally right to do what I did, and I still had a friend. (4/4)
adellGameCat
I recently became friends with a girl who is in similar circumstances to me, we are both young and live out of home
adellGameCat
She goes onto Facebook and Instagram in order to make herself feel good. She was happy the other day cause she go so many likes
adellGameCat
It was a photo of her on the beach showing off her cleavage. She's not a small girl either. She got a real set of bonhunkerberoos
adellGameCat
What I'm trying to say is she loves attention and she's a really nice funny girl, but recently she compared me to hitler
adellGameCat
She said she would blame me if she got raped at a party because I don't like parties and wouldn't go to hers
adellGameCat
Im too shy to stand up to her and tell her she's wrong and that way of thinking is wrong, she was probably trying to be funny but it was
CodyJC
In private. Telling them they're wrong privately but showing nothing but support in public even if they're wrong. Pull em to the side.
OddOod
That sounds... hypocritical
CodyJC
Hypocritical is telling them they're wrong then doing it yourself.
OddOod
I suppose I should say two-faced?
OddOod
I dunno. I'm still gonna publicly tell you your idea is shit friend or not
Atria
I just had to be this person with one of my friend. I couldn’t take the constant depression talk (going on 2 years now) with not 1/?
Atria
*no will or desire to do anything about it. He would just bitch at me all the time. Finally tonight I told him what was up and honestly 1/?
Atria
I should have done it a long time ago. I suffer from depression and anxiety as well and it took a village to get me where I am now 1/?
Atria
Only because someone manned up and told me what was what. So thanks @OP you made me feel a bit better.
Subtlelight
It might help with your friend too if you can explain that although you want to support them you don't always have the energy first -
Subtlelight
Amongst my friends of we wanna talk about a emotional topic we ask if the person has the space to receive that negativity first. That way-
nonsequitur
Also applies to parenting.
Herpinadur
Parenting is making sure your child has everything they need to be happy, even if what they want atm won't make them happy.
BarryInTheStreetsOliverInTheSheets
It's my parents who ruined my life. Maybe ruin is a strong word, but definitely set back a decade or so
iDrawStuff
And relatives. ಠ_ಠ
tomatocatsup
Depends
ZachsAnomaiy
Depends on if they care enough to want to listen. If they don't care, even best efforts can get you nowhere.
iDrawStuff
Only if they need them.
Failingatdomesticity
And your spouse.
GrogMetron
and pretty much everyone on the planet -.-
Failingatdomesticity
(Not yours specifically, the general "your")
iamthisguy247
Oh don't let Debbie of the hook. And you know he should own up to his enabling.
StringNotFound
Thor*
BadBunnyLadyOfRocksTreesAndDirt
Sadly I am this friend, which means anyone expecting me to sugarcoat, pity or flatter their ego either leave me or think I'm a shitty friend
brassknucklenerd
Get better friends.
skipperlink
My one real good freind has been like this, people like me me who are fucking messes need you guys. Keep it up.
Tentacooler
I just want a friend that will film me and say CHUG, CHUG, CHUG! as I get alcohol poisoning.
tomatocatsup
Just means they're not mature enough to realize the value of your input.
rab337
By all means don't be a dick, But its important to remember that some friends are worth having. If they want to walk, let them.
SuperiorPosterior
Fuck 'em then, you sound perfect.
ArtOzz
Im told Ive high standards. I just think I have a responsibility to fucking clean a bathroom I use on a regular basis, unlike my housemates.
Schokioki
Maybe you're just an asshole.
CmRock136
That's how I am. I'm a realist. I don't mince words or bs just to spare someone's feelings or emotions.
SomeGuyFromTheMostIsolatedishCityOnEarth
I’ll be your friend internet stranger!
damelamusica
The question is how much advice do you tell your friends though? Unwanted commentary on life choices ends poorly
Molder12
Yeah criticizing every mistake someone makes doesn’t help
BadBunnyLadyOfRocksTreesAndDirt
I agree. I never tell them what to do, only supply options and possible consequences, to at least get them _thinking_ rather than panic.
Rainuwastaken
Sounds like you're doing just fine, then. Helping them to see the right answer, and hoping that they choose it themselves.
0100101001010010
Just learned this today. I tried too hard to “help” my friend but ended up being the “shitty” friend because we didn’t agree
Failingatdomesticity
People like that aren't looking to do what's right, just for justification.
garfieldcfc
Or maybe they just weren't looking for anything.