AnorexicSpermWhale
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We have been planning this trip for several months and I'm kind of close with his girlfriend but we have never spent 96 hours straight until now. She felt excluded when we would go out and he and I would meet people since we are semi-social and apparently she's not. She starts treating me like shit and getting mad all the time, it got to the point where we all had enough and so I called her out. My friend takes her side and we all decide it would be best if I go alone and finish the trip so they can have a romantic trip.
I'm traveling to London - Fance - Italy - Austria - Germany. If any of you know cool spots or want to grab a pint I could use a friend.
I just find this entire thing ironic since the problem stemmed from her feeling left out and now I'm left alone. Fuck.
Mooseman1991
Sorry about your friend dude but ultimately I think you win
crabbybabby
Your buddy will be the one that regrets it later
northdpole
Late commenting, buuuut seems like a great opportunity for a London imgurian meetup. (Even better, imgurian meetup anywhere OP shows up to)
njullpointer
never underestimate the power of trim to horny people. your friend is being a dipshit and his GF never wanted you there. remember it.
pgdave
It sounds like you wanted to go on a trip with your friend and you treated it like you were with him+1 rather than with two separate people.
GuciGucci
I happen to agree with you on this one. Not fun to be the 3rd wheel as the girlfriend I'd imagine
Sublimesymmetry
You're gonna have a sick time without them, especially with this story to open with, get out of London and go to Bristol, I recommend.
ImDreamingofaShiteChristmas
That's a shitty way to treat a friend. I'm Cambridge (U.K) let me know if you visit, I'll gladly buy you that pint. Good luck fella
TheSweeneyyy
@AnorexicSpermWhale oooh when when are you in London? Will never turn down the offer of a pint!
AnorexicSpermWhale
Tomorrow!
Rookthebaggins
Fuck both of them off, your buddy is an asshole and his girlfriend is a shitty human.
theonewithanaveragebeard
Don't know if your still in london or not been yet but I'd be happy to grab a pint with you
AnorexicSpermWhale
I'll be there tomorrow
martyblue
@op come to Amsterdam, i'd show you around, I'd like to see the faces when I'm walking with an AnorexicSpermWhale
Rosselini
From Rotterdam, but if you're heading over I'm inclined to join in a pint
AnorexicSpermWhale
Hit me up!
AbsoluteFuckingWaffle
He's been whipped, son.
NOTaSpanishInquisitor
Whipped like the family pig
mymetalbraisthelaw
Yo! I live in London. If you fancy grabbing a pint just let me know! Or if you want interesting non tourist places to go to x
LydianLeopard
I'm also London based, always up for shenanigans, and have a spare bedroom if needed
laikIfUCryEvrytme
@op
sludgejunkies
i also live in london and want in on these shenanigans.
HowImetyourmumma
I live in London, I could show you some hotspots and grab a pint with ya' anytime. PM me.
GuestChrist
She didn't feel "left out" because she wasn't excluded. She was jealous. Now that you've learned a lesson go make some cool new friends.
WellBehavedZombie
This is it, also doesn't appear to be a backpacking "type" it seems like a trip for the guys that she insisted on coming along to.
xoverthirtyx
OP said she felt left out because they would literally go out without her :/
ImWeezering
Because she didn't want to go out is as he stated it. Either way, if the trip was originally planned with just the two friends 1/2
ImWeezering
She should have backed off, I literally got put in a similar circumstance recently, and have been on both sides. It sends red flags not to.
xoverthirtyx
They're backpacking Europe. The whole trip is 'going out'. If she wasn't a social butterfly imagine how much more isolated she felt by 1
xoverthirtyx
Being left behind in a foreign country. Dude was right to respect his SO's feelings. 2/2
AwesomeMixVol1
He worded it poorly but I believe all 3 went out and she wouldn't be social
dogfoodtom
Where you going to in Italy?
AnorexicSpermWhale
Well we were going to Rome now I'm thinking just one place then going up to Austria.
UnTale
@op I was going to ask the same...
JudgementalChair
I've successfully pulled off a trip with my gf and best friend before. The trick was not drinking on the trip
IndigoWendigo
The trick is "don't date a selfish cunt"
Camelspotting
So not worth.
BelfryBats
Sort of sounds like this trip was doomed from the start, with you being the odd man out and all...
shhep
Disagree. She just sucks. Spent long trips with my buddy and his GF, THEY kept asking if I don't feel awkward with just them, I loved it
BelfryBats
Not saying such things can't work out, just that there appears to have been signs of it being disastrous from the start.
shhep
for the entirety of our time. Just gotta land the right people and it doesn't matter how many of you there are.
anubisfike
Yeah being the third wheel is only awkward if the people you're with aren't really your friends.
TheCrazySucculentLady
O.o said it was originally just the two of them- before they started getting serious. He decided to invite her to tag along...
TheCrazySucculentLady
So really she's the odd man out
BelfryBats
That didn't come out till later. Though it seems like there were plenty of warning signs.
xoverthirtyx
I think OP & friend "planned" on planning a trip but dude got into a serious relationship & as a part of his life now she was included 1
xoverthirtyx
when actual plans were made. You don't just plan to leave your life behind for a month & oh gee, honey did you want in on this? 2
xoverthirtyx
You know, just to tag along while me & my friend hang out together? 3/3
ImWeezering
You seem hardcore to be siding against OP... ????, why? Why are you so upset by this? (You can pm if you want)
TheCrazySucculentLady
This too would make sense
germanWiener
Are you going to visit Stuttgart, Germany? I own a beer garden, and it is in walking distance to our beer fest ;-) @AnorexicSpermWhale
BavarianBarbarian
Vienna, Austria here. Hmu if you need a couch or wanna hang out.
dontyoudaregohollow
Great username, +1 for Liquid reference
matschyrious
Vienna here too, msg if you want to grab a second beer
catiethecookie
Wish I knew this when I went to Vienna! @OP it's a beautiful place, definitely enjoy it
rezeptpflichtig
I'd have a beer too
Jasperman62
Hi... Fellow Bavarian.. Ex Wurzburger here.. In US now
beatlestarbearlactica
In California now. I miss Wurzburg.
Jasperman62
Us army dad.. Mom and I born there.. She's going back there with my dad later this month.. I'd kill for the small brats in the market
biffboy6000
I'll be in vienna in 2 weeks. Hostel southwest of downtown. Cant wait!
dan144
Vienna's dope op, see as much as you can.
RudolfK
True that
ReturnofthePLK
Read that as "bang." I thought, "my, that's awfully forward"
SpongeBert
Hit up the Travel Shack in Vienna. Tons of tourists there to hang out with
nooowhaaaat
The classical musician in me is jealous
BavarianBarbarian
Vienna Imgurians unite! I'll make a post when the beer grabbing goes down!
randomdood
Hit me up, vienna here as well
toffi
vienna here too, msg if you are around, maybe grab a beer. cheers
Lucerto
Vienna is a fun city with really great food and beer
derekmatters2
ooh and sausages!
Imalumberjackandimprettygood
Op go to Vienna best 4 months of my life so far
JannikArtuso
Enjoy a cold delicious beer at the Oktoberfest in Munich ????
animaline
if you come to Paris and want to grab a beer hit me up :)
awbobsaget
seconded - going there all next week
aroseisaroseisaBITCH
I'm in Paris too! Totally down to meet up
Jasperman62
One word Octoberfest
TheConformityInCommentorsHereIsAstronomical
She's your friend's no1 priority, which means making her feel comfortable/included should be pretty high up on your list as well.
kittykat25909
oh look someone actually intelligent.. thank god. all these comments are like "your friends shit and she's a bitch" instead of the facts..
Delta2Almanac
That's a big trip for some. I'm not calling her a b, but damn that sucks the friend couldn't find a meeting ground.
darkdragonempress
Eh, she pushed to come along on someone else's trip and if OP is right didn't try to have fun. I'm not very social but I make an effort 1
darkdragonempress
To be when I'm dragged along by friends. The fact she wanted to turn the trip into a romantic getaway when that's not what it was does 2
darkdragonempress
In fact make her a bitch. 3
TheConformityInCommentorsHereIsAstronomical
The problem is that you believe @op on his word. He obv had a bad time and he is looking to put the blame for that on someone else.
Ross2075
your buddy's girl be like:
missojennie
DarkAtlasRising
And @Op is like
kei86
Her left thumb is weird...looks crazy long.
AutomationLayer
Would still smash without hesitation.
AutomationLayer
Smash
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HtCtiwtchyk
She's making an odd fist. I can make my hand look the same but it feels uncomfortable (nails digging into palm).
Jimmyb3121
Girls generation?
lozzcowell
Yup. Deffo Yoona ;)
techpariah
Yoona best girl.
27yoUGLYvirgin
Does anyone here speak English?
rrlyrae
아니!
CongratsYouAreHereNow
@OP, i traveled alone to australia when my buddy broke his leg. i banged ALL the chicks. traveling alone is the best you meet way more ppl
AnonOmis1000
You only meet more people if you're the social type.
CongratsYouAreHereNow
you're the social type if you drink
AnonOmis1000
I don't. Nor do I wan't to. I honestly have no idea why anyone likes getting drunk.'
ezzmann
Queer
CongratsYouAreHereNow
getting drunk is no good, getting a three drink buzz is good
Kelroth127
Don't go to London, it's the least English city in England. You'd be better off going further North to see castles, the lake district etc.
minant
i'm curious as to your scale for Englishness now.
AmirGarib
No true scottsman theory?
CallingYouOnYourShit
He's probably here for two days, arriving in London and leaving from London. If he's under 30 he should hit W1 and get fucked up.
aflamboyanceofflamingos
London's great but expensive. Spend a day walking round the main sights of Westminster and Covent Garden for the atmosphere & experience ½
aflamboyanceofflamingos
Then use it as a base to go elsewhere e.g. Cambridge Oxford Brighton The Cotswolds 2/2
ScotlandSaysFuckYouLongshanks
Or the real north
... Feeling like A wildling here
Ijustreallyreallylikeelephants
The Lake District is one of the most friendly places too!
HowImetyourmumma
Having lived here for 23 years, I would have to disagree with this statement. You need to know the city well though.
AmityvilleHodor
Sounds like it couldn't be helped. She's boring, but your friend likes her more than you, for w/e reason. I say just enjoy yourself
narddawg479
Tits. It's always the tits.
chimneyspooper
You can get tits everywhere but a good friend is hard to come by.
Shaows
Skip the rest of the trip and go straight to Amsterdam.
Braytac
Dont go straight to Amsterdam its a shity city
Kirol
Same goes for Paris; west / south coasts of France are best. Berlin is nice though, Austria is amazing, and 100% Amsterdam. 2/2
EndersdoyouthinkthisisafuckingGame
Check out Prague after Amsterdam! And word on the street when I was over there was to hit up Croatia.
Schroderian
ditch amsterdam, come to Rotterdam!
shano510
Oh yes yes yes
Abbagooochiete
oh god no. amsterdam is ok for 2 days max so it's seen, but seriously overrated.Berlin, Bruxells, Tallinn - all cheaper and better
Dubrtd
Or to somewhere fun
SirMotherfuckerHenry
As a person who lives near Amsterdam: stay there for 3 days max. There is loads of other stuff to do in The Netherlands!
saintjocks
what they say about rotterdam...no just no, go for gouda, delft,leiden,maastricht,bergen op zoom. just never rotterdam never
cantspellhealthcarewithoutthc
^This. Visit Haarlem, Rotterdam, Utrecht for example.
kalamestari
ROTTERDAMMMM
minant
Efteling; Chocomel; bitterballen; poffertjes; bike ride. Job done.
Blahmeistah
Stroopwafels!!!!
minant
You can get those in lots of places outside the Netherlands, though.
RockNDroll
Yes this guy is talking like a real friend would've!
beelzebob23
You should have known better. Ever heard the term "Third Wheel." Tagging along with a couple on a trip is not a good plan.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Nah, see, I have several pairs of friends who are couples who I know I could go on a trip with and have no problems.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Just depends on your friends.
homoerection
Only if the couple are a couple of assholes.
bringbakfirefly
Classic take of whore invites herself to a party and ruins everyone's fun.
llamalibrarian
it can be a lot of fun if everyone feels comfortable with each other. my bf and I traveled with his bff around Prague and had a great time
oglehole
It can be if the couple isn't shitty
PotatoIsland
This is true, I once went on a trip with my friend and her Girlfriend at the time to visit Lake George NY, it was a great trip
megabootydisaster
everyone involved has to be not-shitty.
AVeryVeryVeryVeryVeryVeryVeryLostDragon
Exactly. A good SO respects friends of their lover.
TheRamenWizard
Can confirm. Went to Japan with my husband and a mutual friend of ours. Tons of fun was had. We all want to go again.
Khanmots
I've done lots of vacations as a 3rd wheel with my brother and his wife. Key is being good friends with both (and not everything together)
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
Salt and pepper.... and cumin!
killer10347
The friend should know better. This isn't a "go to the mall" thing we're talking about here. This is a "you're not really my friend" thing.
rudejohn
The phrase is "fifth wheel" (which is the spare/extra wheel for a car), not "third wheel." Third wheels are necessary.
Mansooratyale
selfloafing
Had a friend who constantly third-wheeled to the point where she showed up on dates. Bf allowed it, she continued it despite me asking
selfloafing
them both to stop. They didn't. I dumped him. Still don't like the girl very much.
selfloafing
She literally said things like "Hey I made plans with your boyfriend! Want to join us?"
ElbowDeepInAFurry
She was literally trying to include you too and that bothered you?
selfloafing
Yup, because my boundaries were constantly disrespected by both. I felt completely forgotten and ignored. I asked them to put some space in
SederHishtalshelus
Start there. But also realize your buddy chose sex over your friendship.
oglehole
Duh
runo
Honestly I don't think either of them are really friends with OP. That's shitty of both of them
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Mumalot
I don't I'd ever cheat on my gf with my best bro.
hajimedj
Holy shit she's insane.
therew0lf
Sounds like projection on her part.
GdSvThQn
Then that friend isn't really your friend.
beelzebob23
Nobody is "Really" your friend.
Jrex42
See, at first I figured there are two sides to this story...but damn! Wtf??
Jovelana
I thought that being serious means you try your best to trust each other and stuff, silly me
xoverthirtyx
You're not allowed to cry foul from the friendzone.
SneakyFoxxin
WOAH big red flag there!!
QuiXiuQ
Here's your sign...
Deadpoolio7
I think your buddy needs to see this
AnorexicSpermWhale
Agreed.
darren535
honestly, im so sorry about what happened but i hope youd still be his friend. its a hard choice and its one im sure he sad at making
Gaidenninjacat
Yeah, shes a cunt, and he aint your friend if he ditched you just like that.
PatronSaintofKillers
So she hijacked your trip, then tossed you out?
SaltheartFoamfollower
Basic strategy, divide and conquer.
PatronSaintofKillers
Happened to me. Turned my friend against me and now I haven't talked to either for several years now
laikIfUCryEvrytme
Yup, fell you there. Something similar, just I tried do mantain contact and i go visit him from time to time
SaFalken
Woo woo trust issues
ChristmasCookieMonster
Well, bollocks for both of you, he's dating a cunt and you're out a mate. Find some hookers and blow?
GdSvThQn
He's close enough to amsterdam to get some hookers and hash.
VonMochens
wher ther is hookers ther is blow.
orangecicle
Your friend is a fucking idiot and she needs a therapist.
killer10347
I wouldn't consider someone like that your friend.
Stacyanna
She sounds great. Stay away or your car tires will be slashed too
Shaows
Call your friend and tell him to ditch the girl somewhere, right now.
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ElbowDeepInAFurry
I'm curious why? If what you thought was your best friend on a trip you two planned, abandoned you is he really your friend?.
GdSvThQn
I would ditch the friend, too. If this was really a trip they planned together I wouldn't want to be around that person anymore.
chimneyspooper
OP should ditch both her and best friend. Bros before hoes.
somenerandom
Fuck that, his "friend" ditched him in another country on a trip they planned together. I'd probably cut ties there and then.
Cthulhuonabike
People who have cheated themselves are usually the ones that are the most worried about their partner cheating in my experience
ProgeriaProstitutes
True, they're posessive people
spiderisdeepinmysoul
Or people who were cheated on. I was, I still get jealous. Don't know why.
XxxAziexxX
Or people who just have trust issues for other reasons. For me it was because my mom constantly lied to me and broke promises growing up.
somenerandom
Not necessarily true. I'm not a cheater and not generally insecure but can be jealous as fuck at times. I've been cheated ON though, so..
minipancho94
I worried about it since everything I'm happy about has a tendency to get shafted. hell the guy I was supposed to intern under just died.
beelzebob23
The fact hat she has a vagina that your friend wants to be inside of means you will always lose this battle. Even if you are right.
anjunaspeak23
As a man of the rainbow cloth, this is 100% accurate. I don't trust anyone anymore because of this. I'm sorry you found out this way.
somenerandom
Honestly that speaks volumes about his friend. I have a strong disrespect for people that pull that kind of shit.
Orion1453
Yeah, my brother's best friend at the time slept with my brother's girlfriend. A lot. He gave my brother and his gf herpes, which is how>
Orion1453
>he found out
Glyfen
This. A real friend puts you before getting laid. If they don't, you don't mean as much to them as you think.
TheRockDude
So...bros before hoes?
Tovagliolo
Go visit Tuscany, in Italy. It's an amazing place!
GuciGucci
Any recommendations?
paklexx
San Gimignano!!! And surrounding area - so amazing. Get the Vernaccia wine (local white) and make sure to eat Florentine steak.
alpinej0e
Next week I'll be in Florence, Sienna, Lucca and Pisa. You could skip Pisa, but the rest are solid. Also see: Sorrento. If you get chance >
GuciGucci
Whaat! I'm going early Oct. and our trip is Rome, then Florence and then back up to Milan
alpinej0e
Never been to Milan :(. Florence is great - there's a viewing platform above the city. Go in the cathedral and over Ponte Vecchio bridge.
alpinej0e
head up Montecatini Alto. Accessible by a cool hill rail, it looks over a bit of Tuscany.
GuciGucci
That looks great, thanks!