FancySharkDinnerParty
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I watched this first about 2 weeks ago and it fucking sucker punched my shit. My spouse is an alcoholic and I've been in basically this exact same scenario hundreds of times. It literally kills you to see them killing themselves like this.
If anyone is in the beginning stages of a relationship with an addict, my advice to you is that you will never be good enough to change them. At best you can cushion their fall with your mind and body, over and over again, but you will never change them. You will break yourself trying to save them but you will never make them into someone that they are not; only they can choose to be better. It might hurt to leave them to their own devices, but it's like trying to rescue someone who's drowning. You have to throw them a lifesaver; if you try to save them directly they're just going to pull you under with them.
dreammer243
"At best you can cushion their fall with your mind and body, over and over again, but you will never change them." Thank you for sayingthis.
NijuQc
Sorry do you have the name of that show? ty
FancySharkDinnerParty
Tuca and Bertie. It was on Netflix, Netflix cancelled it, and then Cartoon Network picked it up. You can watch it on HBO Max also.
tacopartyinyourmouth
I was wondering why there were never any more episodes on netflix. I'll have to look this up again
FoxlovesCookies
I'm married to an addict. She's wonderful when she isn't engaging, somewhat more challenging when she is. I have gotten to the point where I
FoxlovesCookies
Accept that she struggles and her journey isn't mine. It's hard t o wacth herake the same mistakes over and over. Risking her health.
FoxlovesCookies
and our dreams. It is interesting to see her seek solace is external answers, knowing that there is only internal answers found through
FoxlovesCookies
Doing the work that is required with a therapist or group or both.
Iaimtomisbehave
https://al-anon.org/
ExplodingPortaPotty
12 step programs especially ones rooted in "finding a higher power" have the lowest success rates among rehabilitation options.
ExplodingPortaPotty
The most successful options are ones that pair one on one sessions with a licensed therapist coupled with a medication regiment.
FancySharkDinnerParty
That would be ideal, but they have to want to change for anything to work at all.