Dumps of Unusual Size 28: ADHD and the Spectrum, Part Two

Mar 20, 2025 4:42 PM

Schadwen

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Neil DeGrasse Tyson speaks on things like this: https://youtu.be/JCe-Y-QvvaI?si=kMf6RqoOzlMNue1P

Prove this is a triangle.

Bro, look at it!

We just had our fridge die, and the new one makes different sounds. It's quieter, but I can hear the fan go off when I open the door. Also, the ice is a different shape that packs differently into my blender cup.

Can we also ask the question: where did the "d" in "fridge" come from? There's no "d" in refrigerator.

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#3

1 year ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

#4 oof, my emotions

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

#20 "wait a moment, I need to translate what I want to say back into my mother language"

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

#7 what the shit… I got way better at math in college when the professors didn’t give a shit if you showed your work.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

#13 I don't know what it is, but it definitely isn't songbirds. How can people stand that shrill nonsense? Give me some crows.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#7 I was the opposite. I did very well in math until I got to calc in college

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Same

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#16 oh, normies can't hear that the fence is on? That explains some stuff to me.

1 year ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

#7 Lots of neurotypical people do it this way too. I mean I wouldn't do it for ones I have memorized, obviously, like 7+6. But if I was trying to add like 872+567 I'd see that 872 is 28 away from 900, so I'd subtract the 28 from 567 which gives 539, and then it's 900+539 which is easy, 1439. It's an extremely common way of doing mental math.

1 year ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

I did the 9, then saw I needed to get to 14 at the front, then 7 and 6 to get the 3

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yesssss!!! So much!

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#2 Oh my favorite is "nauseated from the exertion of cooking, so can't eat the meal I just cooked." Happens once or twice a week for me. At least my family gets a good meal.

1 year ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

This happens to me when i take too long to cook or was too hungry when i start cooking, so the hunger makes me nauseated

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#2 hungry for a specific food - not entirely sure it has been invented yet or is even possible to make with current technology

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

#7 yeah… gonna need a source in that one cause that doesn’t seem remotely accurate

1 year ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

I do add like that (up to 10 then do the remainder) but I thought it was 'normal' i.e. usual

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

This is the internet, so any behavior is considered a sign of neurodivergence.

1 year ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 2

hmn. One sign of a blood sugar crash that may be neurodivergent: looking at food and not recognizing it as food. Hunger isn't present. You just don't perceive food as something to eat. Your mental functions are rapidly shutting down. Recognizing that as a warning sign is key. Having dairy products, such as cottage cheese, any cheese, milk, yogurt - eating a small amount will magically return food perception to "I'm hungry, that's food, I need to eat something now even if it's not that."

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Okay I stole all of these to share with my friends oh no

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

#7 As a teacher: We activly train kids to do this. So most kids do it, because it´s just easier.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

7+6 is thirteen because it is 1 less than 7+7, which is 14. 7+3+3 feels extremely unnatural to me

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#16 I drive my wife slightly mad with this. "Wtf is that noise? Yes, I know it's the fridge, but it sounds different today"

1 year ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

"expensive analytical instrument is going to have an outage within a few days"
How do you know?
"lab sounds wrong"

1 year ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

It has gotten better since flat screens don't scream like banshees the same was CRT's did.

1 year ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

"Pop" "wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee"

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Mind you, I'm old enough that I can't tell if it's a CRT or just tinnitus these days.

11 months ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I suspect the "d" in "fridge" comes from the word "frigid", not "refrigerator"

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

It is my understanding that the extra letter(s) are added so the abbreviation sounds the same as the full word. "frig" & "frige" don't sound right, but "fridge" does. Similar for the gerund of "picnic" which gets an unexpected K: "picnicking" so it doesn't sound like "pick nye sing". (picnicing)

11 months ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I think it came from Frigidaire, a refrigerator brand.

1 year ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Yeah, but they got their name from "frigid air," so it all goes back to frigid.

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

#1 When I met my online friend group, I was the only one with a diagnosis (AuDHD). Over 10 years later, over half of them has gotten adult diagnoses of various neurospicy types.

1 year ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

Sums up my friend zone pretty accurately.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You should get yourself a “Neurospicy Friend Group Patient Zero” badge made

1 year ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

I should! XD

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Our local Pokémon Go group consists of four types: diagnosed, undiagnosed, doesn't want to admit that they've been diagnosed and "are you that good at masking and don't drop it when with us or are you just a normie? If so, what do you want with us?"

1 year ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Hey, we have neurotypicals! They're just token ones now. Just like we have token straights. A couple of each.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#7 I don't think that this is true. It's how I was taught to add (and it drove me crazy because it was slower for me than not doing it).

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

7+6=1+6+6=13 isn't it normal though? looks like bullshit

1 year ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

As someone with dyscalculia, stop making me dizzy and confused.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

For #7 you go to ten because you have ten fingers and that's how you learned it when you were little. Is there a source for this being an ADHD thing?

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

"theres a 6 in the 7, i can do 2x6 without having to think means i just have to add whatever is left from the 7" - makes sense to me.

1 year ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Yes and no. Many children automate all sums up to 20. This is how they math fast enough.

1 year ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Yes. They literally teach it that way now. There are many others, since each only works in certain situations and different people prefer some over others. It's what they call common core math that everyone freaked out about like 10 years ago. They just formalized the ways people do math in their heads.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I do 7+7-1 = 7+6

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

No 7+6 is 10-7=3, 6-3=3, 10+3=13 (except I imagine little colored balls in my head and group them up (I do also have some brain damage, so there's that))

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

For me it’s 7+3+3

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More like 53+78=50+70+11=5+7, add a zero, +11=131

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I guess, direct with what they want, could apply to all relationships. Who doesn't want their partner to detail what they want?

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

#4 is this not anxiety instead of adhd?

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Anxiety is a comorbidity of ADHD. The way the meme reads, I think it's a feeling and anxiety from getting harped on and told they're lazy due to their executive function struggles. Yelled at for being too loud, rambunctious, impulsive, inattentive, and annoying their whole life.

1 year ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Ah fair

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#17 area people stick of me explaining my training if thought/action by saying "that's my adhd brain, sorry"

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#17, "You're not different, you're just not putting enough effort into school to pay attention and get better grades." Excuse me while I go have an existential crisis quietly in the corner...

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

"I hope you enjoyed today's physics class and the reality shattering consequences of what you learned today. Have fun in the geography test!"

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

adhd must mean something completely different from when I was a kid

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

Probably not; it's been fairly consistent since the 90's, but folks are only really starting to talk about it now. Part of the issue is that, at least when I was younger ADD meant 'Medicate the child so they stop making sounds' rather than something to be understood. Now it gets shared around so wildly with so many additional traits being added to it that half of everyone thinks they are now... Which isn't bad unless they start 'telling others how it is'. Like... Get diagnosed unless its unsafe

1 year ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 2

Kids who acted differently and got a diagnosis in the 80's and 90's were dumb kids who got put in the dumb kids classes. They didn't go to college or have any prospects, and they sure as shit didn't have any meaningful help or support. I should probably get my own stuff checked out, but the fear is still there. Most days are a struggle, but I'm not dumb, I put on my public face and my best to do the things.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

So, yeah, lol. Completely different.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Yeah.

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

“Preference for logic and fairness”

What, do “neurotypical” people hate that? And it’s “neurotypical” people who more easily accept and support systems of unfairness and chaos and hypocrisy?

1 year ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 0

I mean, think about how many times logic and reason successfully talk people out of something they WANT to believe? They only want logic and "fairness" when they get the most benefit from it. See how quickly they'll abandon it when they feel there's something to be gained.

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(I put “neurotypical” in quotes because it clearly means sociopath, in that example)

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There's been some studies that point to a preference of consistency over quality, which is not logical. It's actually why a lot of chain restaurants are successful. Also, neurotypicals have a preference for hierarchical systems and clear order rather than fairness, which actually just explains, well, most of history.

1 year ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

"you have never been disappointed by McDonald's"

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yes, yes I have.

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Imo it is not that neurotypical hate it, it just becomes secondary to emotional responses / passion.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Is the implication that neurodivergent people are less emotional or better able to handle their emotions? Because my son has ADHD and I can assure you that's not true. He's extremely emotional and it makes life very difficult.

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No that is not the implication. Emotions are there, but in decision making, the answers lean towards logic over emotional response. Typically in personality test logic and emotion are opposite each other. Speaking as an adult with ADD and married to a LMFT, if your sons emotions are causing difficulty, it could be that things don't make sense to him in a logical way. For example, if a rule doesn't make sense to him, he may not follow it. Until the reason the rule exist starts to make sense.. 1/

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The task. It's so easy to get side tracked and just not being able to compete task. It's difficult to explain how you want to do something but your brain is just like na. And you just can't get started. Lastly I would say validation goes a lot way. Feeling understood is difficult when you are different. Hope this helps. It's just speaking to ADD/ADHD and my experiences. Feel free to DM if you want to chat more about it.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Once the rule makes sense logically, then he will follow it religiously and expect others to do the same. It's little things like not changing lanes in an intersection etc. If someone else breaks that rule then it is like "why would anyone do that it's dumb". This can cause an emotional response. There's also the issue with hyper focus. When he is doing something, a distraction can interrupt that focus and it's incredibly frustrating because you get distracted and may not be able to compete 2/

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's not the problem, actually he's never had any issues with our rules. The problem is emotional regulation, he can't control them and they loom larger than anything else. We were an hour late to his own birthday party once because he had a total meltdown about what if it wasn't fun. That's not logical thinking in any way. My spouse and I are both logic-minded even though we have the apparent drawback of being neurotypical. My son is logical when he's calm but it's extremely easily /1

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overridden by his emotions, and he simply can't get past them even when it's obviously harmful to him. In fact emotional dysregulation is a hallmark of ADHD so I find it surprising people consider them more likely to act logically. /2

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#3 and #6 is why I consider neurotypical to be so very bad at communicating.

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Look up the double empathy problem; it's not just us that struggle to understand them. They don't understand us either.

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

This, exactly. Neurodivergent people seem to think neurotypical people are being purposely obtuse just so that neurodivergents struggle. But that's not true. It's like we speak two different languages, and don't know each other's. When neurodivergent people ask neurotypical people to just be clearer, we don't understand what you're having an issue with, because to us it's obvious. It's like asking someone who only speaks German to speak to you in English and then getting angry when they don't.

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Exactly. I reiterate myself so much and still get misunderstood. What the heck are you not understanding? How do I make this clearer? Where is the disconnect? And I don't think I can make it any clearer.

We talk right past each other, saying the same thing without knowing we are.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Right, it seems like a lot of blame ends up getting assigned, which doesn't help. Like, the fact is there's a disconnect. That's the reality. Both people will have to work to overcome it, and even then they may not succeed. Sometimes two people just can't do it, and it's no one's fault. Of course there are people who are assholes who just won't try, but that's not because they're non-autistic, it's because they're assholes.

I get how exhausting it is. It's true for anyone who's /1

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

"non-standard" in any way. I have an invisible disability and it's fucking impossible to make people understand, even if they believe me. It's a constant struggle on my side and not on theirs. So I get it. But me being angry at them won't help, because for the most part they aren't trying to make my life harder. They just don't know how to help, or what I need.

Of course this only goes for people who are acting in good faith. I'm a woman in STEM, and that kind of non-standardness is /2

1 year ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

#4, Can't tell if I'm on the Spectrum, or I was just raised Irish Catholic...

1 year ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Lol, that was my struggle. Autistic or Finnish.

1 year ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

True, but being Finnish has more of a "I'll knife you if you don't leave me the hell alone" than Autism does.

1 year ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm more of a biter.

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