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So my wife just confessed to cheating on me after I kept telling her about my suspicions. She tells me she got tired of me being fat and playing video games after work. I was just tired everyday after work and didn't want to do much sometimes. We moved to a new town and I promised we'd go out more because everything was nearby now. I even started paying 90 a month at a gym with a trainer. The first week here she found a new friend and I was mad because she would ignore my texts sometimes while jogging and lie about where she was. I understood and let her hang out with her friend because he was just a friend and reassured me he wasn't a threat. She would go jogging and tell me ahead of time if I wasn't so chubby she'e invite me to jog with her. One day she came home at 5am high as hell and smiling/giggling when I spent the day clearing out our old apartment because she didn't want to come with and help me, so I let her relax at a nail salon to do her nails that day. I asked and she told me she hung out with him all night, from 11pm to 5am, but she did nothing and just got high. Three days later after we made up and we're back to normal, I get the text shown above. I thought this would be the woman I'd be with forever, and when she told me this I immediately changed forever. This is my worst nightmare come true and worse. Imagining it over and over in my head kills me more and more inside. I told her we have to divorce. I can't be with someone who would betray me in such a way and then come home smiling and happy about it plus hide it and pretend all is fine to 3 days after. I don't feel like I'll ever feel better and I think this will be on my mind for the rest of my life. How do people deal with this? I have no idea what to even do? I thought would die happy with her and this is what I get.
Tldr version
The woman I thought I'd be with forever wanted some friends because she was lonely so we moved to a new nicer town and she ended up having sex with one of them and was happy about it and now I think about it 24/7 and can't be with her.
Also there's a lot of horribly details I left out that I learned about the whole thing.
HeatherWhatever
Don't take her back. I took my cheating bf back and all he's done is make me miserable and string me along. She messed up, you didn't.
WideAwakeNightmare
Time and distance will help you heal. Accept the loss and let it go. Work on you. Cry, don't hold it in. Take care man, you'll get there.
AScholarAndAPervert
On the plus side at least she told you after 3 days and didn't lie about it for years.
ogotai
Imagine she told you just after birth of kid. Get out whilst you can. Clean and easy
perkdrip
She spared you a lifetime of being with her. It's a good thing. Now you can get in shape for yourself.
dejuann
Yea I mean you could have been with her for 30 more years believing that her secret friends are casual. At least now you get a real life.
DrMarioSThompson
Boom, right here. Your chance to double down on loving yourself and turn this aching wound into the motivation to be whomever you want to be
ShuttDHellup
Get that text to a lawyer
BEARofVALHALLA
A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on.
meagashira
Going to get tough. Life is shit right now but believe me time Will heal your wounds.
jse90
How old are you?
Frisbeetime420
No girl hangs out with a guy from 11pm to 5am as just friends.
dmmeyer4
Most of my lesbian friends do...
BillyYumYum2by2
False, I frequently do that.
The1579
She's a cunt, but you prioritized things that were incongruent with your relationship. I'm not blaming you, but you did little to stop it.
peoplecalltheromanstheygothehouse
Tear off the band aid dude, trust me, get single, start again. Hurts like hell but worth it in the long run.
HarryPotterReferenceProbably
Can't cheat if you don't go to an crushes house at midnight alone when you're married.
NOINOON
Look at it like this: she was everything to you but somehow vidya was still more important.
NOINOON
All I'm saying is that it takes two to make a relationship.
Sweetnlowdaddy
Pain is the best motivator there is. Use it.
Sweetnlowdaddy
It's the reason it's there.
anyrandomthing
Hell yeah I lost 75 pounds of fat in the last year cause my last girl cheated. Pain can push you harder than any trainer.
HarryHamwallet
this is true, i have had my heart broken twice and both times (after a few months of crying) i was so motivated to be and look better
deliciousdirt
This. This person knows what's up. Pain, that type of shit is one of the biggest blessings in disguise.
Sendmeyourpuppypics
sigh... why do people feel the need to share this shit on imgur... go to facebook or something...
dmmeyer4
Why do you feel the need to make us read your bitching about them making us read their personal shit on Imgur?
Sendmeyourpuppypics
or better yet. keep your private life private.
MuhammedLee
Cheating is always wrong but it seems you had different interests in life and it would've come to an end anyways.
imooforyou
Moving where she wants, doing everything she wants, and she still fucks someone almost immediately. She used him for a relocation package.
LongDongShiverGiver
Preach!
magnificentbastard
He gained weight and played video games after work instead of spending time with her. She shouldn’t have cheated but he neglected her.
AxeDoIt
Find an outlet, mine was Rugby and one night stands. Sleeping will still be the hardest though. Nothing you can do about that.
FriedSnoCone
ShartShrapnel
Go get tested. ASAP.
cleverbeans
I get the impression they weren't having sex anyway. Might be no reason to get tested.
ShartShrapnel
Good point. But at this point he can't trust that it hadn't been going on for a while.
TheGhostOfFutureDisappointments
Get tested in about a month. It can take 3-6 weeks for any STD's to show up on a panel. Getting tested ASAP would be pointless.
ShartShrapnel
This is trusting that she only did it the one time. He has no way of knowing the truth.
fartbender
Get tested ASAP and then again in six months. And then six months after that. Some things take a while to show up.
SpaceCthulhu
A thousand times this. Too often a confession like this is just the tip of the iceberg. Even if not, once is enough.
secretlibby
Keep that gym membership. Get ripped, get hard, make her regret not taking you jogging, get all the bitches, break their hearts and laugh.
MissSiesta
Apart from 'getting all the bitches' and being a dick, I agree. Get ripped, find someone who treats you like you deserve.
TrijezniMujo
No, definitely do the "get bitches, break their hearts" part, that's central to being a good villain. Why halfass it.
melodytofunkytown
I say now you have the chance to find someone who wants to play video games with you.
fully472
Yeah! Find that gamer woman who'll slay all day then fuck all night, or fuck part of the night & get some sleep too, whichever.
PumyraExplainsItAll
...and likes fat guys who invent reasons why they're never wrong.
melodytofunkytown
I don't think anyone can presume anyone is wrong, because we weren't there. I didn't say she was a bad person for not liking his lifestyle.
PumyraExplainsItAll
Fair enough.
MooseTraxxx
Don't accept her back. I did after mine ex cheated and it happened again a year later. You deserve better OP
Dipauli
Yup same here. She need space. We had a "time out". She used this time out to fuck someone else. got back together year later cheats
Raisehellpraisedale
From the comments I lucked out. I only lasted 2 weeks after she cheated. I was just like fuck this she'll do it again so bye Felicia
IMadeThisAccountForMyBoyfriendAndMe
Yep!
SMODomite
Yep happened to me too, no idea how many times I was likely cheated on in between, oh well, fuck that cunt.
db17k
This
Serephucus
This. Happened to me as well. Just don't do it. Impossible to see from the inside, but it's just not worth it.
iancarry
yeah ... same here... cheater will be cheater ..
Redefiningme
Seriously, @OP if you haven't seen this yet, pay attention.
graboids
Same happened to me. Not worth staying.
NoTouchie
This. If they do it once, they always have potential to do it again. Don't care about the excuses. They knew what they were doing.
zeetsmageets
What they said ^
TrijezniMujo
Don't accept from others what you wouldn't accept from yourself. If you wouldn't cheat, don't accept someone who does.
Raja55
I honestly wish there was a randomized controlled study to show if people who cheat once are more likely to cheat again. Just curious.
NoTouchie
Interesting idea! But if the results concluded that people are more likely to cheat again, then all sorts of hell would break loose :/
Raja55
Thats what most people assume anyways. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and such.
PMmeyourshatteredhopesanddreams
You neglected yourself and your relationship, ignored all the obvious signs, and then act "betrayed"? Take some responsibility for your life
destinoz
Anyone that believes hardship excuses betrayal should simply avoid getting married. Times will not always be great, there's no avoiding it.
somenerandom
A serious relationship isn't a fucking high school fling.Talk.Communicate.If one partner isn't up for it anymore, break up.But fucking 1/2
somenerandom
2/3 around because your partner is too exhausted from,as it seems,catering to your every fucking whim-no.A relationship is support.It is 1/2
somenerandom
3/3 not bailing out at the sign of weakness from your partner.That's not what mature healthy adult relations look like.
lentcent
It's amazing how easily people are willing to blame the victim for being cheated on. You can't make someone cheat on you.
cleverbeans
Well I don't see him as a victim. It's obvious he held on too long when they were both unhappy. Cheating was a gift.
somenerandom
P.S; Everyone has tough periods.If we can't count on our spouses to support us then, what's the fucking point of it all?
pursuant2me
#triggered.....jk, you have a point.
pursuant2me
Harsh, but a valid point nonetheless.
Sconels
By "act betrayed" you mean they were actually betrayed, right?
ruslerim
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't take her back, you deserve a lot better.
mynameisnotalice
I know this is unpopular here, but often it's worth working things out. It's natural and completely reasonable to feel hurt and betrayed (1)
mynameisnotalice
and what she did was horribly wrong. Lying and not being honest and straightforward with your feelings is unacceptable. She also seemed (2)
TrijezniMujo
By definition, if something is unacceptable you don't accept it.
mynameisnotalice
The behavior is unacceptable. Not the relationship itself. And 'not accepting it' and 'getting a divorce' are also two different things.
TrijezniMujo
No... no it isn't. Cheaters never reform. If somebody cheats, they don't appreciate the relationship and are just wasting their time.
mynameisnotalice
And that's just not true. There is no secret unchangeable 'cheater' personality trait... Where does your opinion come from?
mynameisnotalice
to have put you down a lot (what has being chubby to do with the capacity to love you or the ability to jog??). But now as the underlying(3)
mynameisnotalice
problems resurfaced maybe you can use the chance to work them out? I would at least give it a try before you decide to break up. Maybe (4)
mynameisnotalice
the damage is beyond repair, but maybe both of you can fix it and you'll never find out if you don't try. (5)
TryToRememberForget
I never understood why Imgur's only solution to cheating is to leave, when there's evidence that things can work out with therapy etc.
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cinemeasctha
This terrible but remember none of this is your fault. You need to get your shit together now and get away from her
xSquirrelly
Okay, that's bullshit people. Listen, it takes two to create a bad relationship. What she did is terrible, but this is a learning experience
cinemeasctha
If it's terrible why is OP to blame. Maybe I'm old fashioned but you don't cheat.
scragly
Stuff off. I'd understand if she broke up with him first but instead she betrayed him and cheated on him. There's no excuse for that at all.
xSquirrelly
He stayed in and played video games all day. Certainly sounds like he played his part. She should have just left him, but he is no way clear
scragly
Still ain't an excuse for cheating. There's no excuse to do it at all. He might play a part to a failing relationship, but not to cheating.
xSquirrelly
Okay, when do I condone the cheating? You clearly aren't reading at all what I'm saying. This is a learning chance and he should take it
xSquirrelly
To simply try to brush it under the rug like he didn't do anything to contribute is blind. This is an opportunity to grow and become better
xSquirrelly
Next relationship he can lay off the video games as much and do a bit more. Not stop entirely, but he played his part too. Time to learn
NotTheTanuki
Agree with you completely. I feel bad for OP but at least he has this chance to make a good life change and learn now.
graboids
I agree. I was dumped because of my terrible communication skills. Now I'm overly communicative, which works in my current relationship.
yassskween
"If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you'll love the right one."-got me through breakups, I hope it helps you too.
thedogemperorofmankind
well damn. where were you seven years ago...
yassskween
Making unwise romantic decisions as well, but now I'm older and...that's it.
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yassskween
+1 to you for making a note to remember!
jumpercat
Damn son..
yassskween
Yeah, it hit me hard too the first time I read it.
IGiveOneFuck
Thank you for this, you can have my one fuck given.
yassskween
http://imgur.com/hCp8RHg
TheRealAmer
Wow! That's the most powerful thing I've read in a while
yassskween
I completely agree! I can't take credit for these words as they aren't mine! But I hope it helps you on a bad day just the same.
aitchjaybee
Holy shit, I needed to hear that. 6months trying to get over a 5yr relationship & that just woke me up! Thank you.
yassskween
You are so welcome! They are not my words but I'm so happy it helped! I sincerely believe the right person is out there waiting.
KiloRen
Holy shit that's an amazing thought.
yassskween
Right?! It always hit home with me.
falseidonotmisshim
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you
yassskween
You are very welcome! It's not my words but I hope it helped just the same.
falseidonotmisshim
It really did. Gave me hope
selfawarebanana
Thank you!
yassskween
You are so welcome my dear! Spread it around like a self aware banana would.
wookienipple23
Wow, upvote take it!
yassskween
As long as you take mine too!
Xander4204
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yassskween
I hope it sticks with you!
ISmellManFlesh
Wow, this is really nice.
yassskween
You're really nice! And yes, I've always found peace in it.
ISmellManFlesh
Oh you! Yeah it definitely helped my mindset a little. Thanks man, have a lovely day.
beautalitious90
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yassskween
Thank you for making a note to remember this!
Rexsa
Oh wow, I'm commenting to always use this.
yassskween
I am so happy you have somewhere to return to to remember it because these words always helped me in rough times.
Rexsa
Best friend has been in a bad relationship since Jan. I knocked some (even more) sense in her using those words, hopefully she'll wake up :(
DrColdMolecule
Fantastic. Commenting to find later
yassskween
That's great! I really truly hope it gives you peace every time you read it.
Xanthus179
Except life doesn't work like that.
yassskween
http://imgur.com/32FMFYu
misselliecstro
This! +1
yassskween
Yes, so much right?!
Mpisinchanga
That's profound. Thank you.
yassskween
I can't take credit for the words, they are not mine. But I truly hope you remember it if you're ever in a sad place!
neurotictruth
Amazing, +1.
yassskween
I love it so! I sincerely hope it's your sunshine on rainy days.
AskAtech
thank you.i sooo needed this
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yassskween
I am so happy to play a small part in your journey back to happiness. You have made me smile now :) so thank you!
imamermaidgangleader
commenting to remember. i just wrote it down on a post it as well. this gives me hope.
yassskween
I'm so glad! When I was going through grief counseling I used to have a wall full of post-its with song lyrics and inspirational quotes too!
Draciusen
I've never replied to save a comment but damn, this is so good.
yassskween
I am so glad you chose this one because it is absolutely gives me such comfort when I read it.
Ruvic
Fuck dude, just went through a breakup. this is a godsend.
yassskween
I'm sorry dear, it's rough. I really hope this brought some sunshine in to help your heart heal.
Knufle
Dot
adeith
tru tru
yassskween
Preach friend.
cineres
<3
yassskween
<333.
nocturnz
Fuck that's a good line man :(
yassskween
No :(! It's meant to make you smile! But 100% agree on how deep it is. (These aren't my words so I hope that didn't sound full of myself.)
rockthekazbah
Hey... that's.... that's pretty cool...
yassskween
Yeah, there's a simple sweetness to it that I adore.
RamblinRedRooster
Wow
yassskween
I really loved these words, I hope you do too!
llarkspurrs
Good quote. Not to be used at funerals.
yassskween
Hahaha that reminds me of that Demetri Martin quote "I'm sorry and I apologize are the same thing, except at a funeral."
llarkspurrs
Haha, that's good.
jonigod24HUN
I don't know who you are where are you live what bad thing you have done or how much pain you have or hate anybody. 1/2
jonigod24HUN
you make my hearth broke in tears and i love you for that! Thank you!
yassskween
Wow, that is so kind! I'm a fairly nice girl from Texas & I'm just so so happy these words brought people comfort so you're very welcome!
defenestratemeplz
Bless you, laddie.
yassskween
I'm a lass meself, but I've always wanted to be called laddie. Hope it helps you like it did me.
defenestratemeplz
Bless you, lassie!!!
wolfsonne
Thank you for this
yassskween
They are not my words, but you are so very welcome all the same. I honestly hope it helps in some small way.
Sobeldy
Never be in love with a person, be in love with the truth first, then find someone who tells you the truth.
yassskween
That is such good advice, truly! I hope to find that one day.
OneBlueWolf
oh damn, that got me! Thank you for that comment, I needed that.
yassskween
You are so welcome! We all need words like this to give us that bit of encouragement to get us through rainy days.
Blankasbiscuits
This helps me so much right now, thank you
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yassskween
You're not! I don't know you personally but I genuinely believe if you have a good heart someone is waiting to feel all the love inside it.
Akselas
Bringing them quotes!!
yassskween
Bringin da noise! Bringin da funk! Bringin da social awkwardness!
rewiredlain
Also needed to hear this myself. Cheated on after a ten year relationship and going through divorce. Thanks @yassskween
yassskween
I am so very sorry to hear that dear but I hope these words give you peace. You seem like a solid person so I wish you so much happiness!
Hepwolfx
"remember that time you mistook a life lesson for a soulmate?"
yassskween
"Remember that time you got inspired to trust and love again and you found your soulmate?"
NoTouchie
If I could favorite a comment, this would be it.
yassskween
I'm so glad this could help!
HermioneGrangersLeftTesticlesFungalGrowth
Touch
NoTouchie
barbaavis
I have never screenshotted a comment to remember it before, I needed this +1
NoMrBondIExpectYouToDie
Good idea I just did that!
yassskween
Good idea! I always keep this in mind when I have breakups and I swear I feel like the sun shines a little brighter.
SoundOfRain
I'm a lurker who typically doesn't upvote comments, but that right there I had to stop and write down. Thank you.
yassskween
Oh man that is so nice, thank you genuinely. They are not my words so I have them written down somewhere too :).
Calculussucks
If she was willing to work through it, I would suggest staying, but she doesn;t seem to even care about the fact that she cheated.
yassskween
I most definitely agree.
Lonesumlunatic
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yassskween
I'm so happy you'd like to remember this!
Lonesumlunatic
dark times we live in haha
todayisthedayimakeanaccount
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yassskween
Love your username!
todayisthedayimakeanaccount
thanks I put a lot of thought into it. like five whole thoughts
todayisthedayimakeanaccount
Loved the quote btw, doted it for when I feel down LOL
yassskween
I'm so glad you did, I've always found such comfort in those words so I'm happy to spread it around.
CaptainSmartAzz
This helps a lot...I'm still looking for the right one and I poured my heart out to the wrong one
yassskween
Keep looking! There's plenty of lonely hearts out there just waiting to be loved completely.
TheShadowsAreWatching
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yassskween
Hope it helped dear!
TheShadowsAreWatching
It did. Thank you
KojackLeQuack
Damn, +1
yassskween
Word. +1 to you as well.
thewaitisover
Where were you with this little gem of wisdom during a 16 yr hell marriage???? I just got out and have found this quote to be so true.
yassskween
I was a young fool and was nowhere close to being this wise. But it's never too late to be inspired, right?
thewaitisover
You are wise beyond your years! Being out of the abusive relationship brought much wisdom and this comment was a beautiful sentiment
yassskween
I wish I could take credit for it but they are not my words! They have always helped me & I am just so so happy they are helping others now.
thewaitisover
I was just happy to read them. Made an even bigger difference after recent events in my life. Thank you!!!!
ReikoHanabara
Sure but it will be a different kinda love
yassskween
It will definitely be different! But it might even be better than before!
CowPrintPony
Possibly the best advice I've read in a long time
yassskween
I know it helped me when I first found it, I hope it does the same for you.
SedativeComet
Save these texts, go straight to a divorce lawyer, make sure she gets nothing
AGiantTransWoman
"YOU LOSE, YOU GET NOTHING!"
BugEyedLemur
I SAID GOOD DAY
Goreydar
Depends on what state he lives in, some states have a "no fault" divorce law. Meaning she gets half no matter what she did, and the kids :(
teambayern5
Makes no differnece
nominaltoactual2
Your right...He's fucked
ChaosAssassin2
save these texts, go straight to a divorce lawyer, make sure she gets exactly what she owns. don't juridically rob her.
Textuality
Pretty sure he meant "make sure she gets nothing of yours".
PMmeyourshatteredhopesanddreams
There is no "yours" regarding property amassed after marriage. Unless specifically put down in writing in a pre-nip everything is joint
PMmeyourshatteredhopesanddreams
This isn't 1801. Sexual behavior has nothing to do with property rights
MadMadWorld
AncientSeraph
What? Property rights were agreed upon under certain conditions, one of which is usually sexual behavior.
mugglesnuggle
My dad cheated on my mom and she had proof. My dad still got everything. In some states it doesn't matter.
Ryannihilation
To my understanding sexual behavior does matter in divorce settlements, as monogamy is usually understood to be part of marriage 1/2
swimbikerunrepeatswimbikerunrepeatswimbiwhatwasidoing
Speaking as someone who was cheated on, and have a child with the cheater, in Washington state it matters not with regards to the outcome1/2
swimbikerunrepeatswimbikerunrepeatswimbiwhatwasidoing
2/2 Who was sleeping with whom.
Ryannihilation
2/3 and a breaking of that agreement signals a lack of commitment to the terms of the relationship incl. monetary arrangements, >>
Ryannihilation
3/3 but I understand where you're coming from. Also, holy fuck thats a lot of downvotes. Imgur, if y'all are going to disagree, contribute.
nickg131
It does matter, though in cases of women accusing men of it in divorce, they don't need proof. Source: Ex wife accused me, no proof, I ended
MechaNinja
Breaking the marriage bond sexually does give better grounds for divorce and better results for the other partner in many jurisdictions.
MechaNinja
But also I'm curious why you would even think that. Divorce is widely believed to be a competition and whoever is in the better position...
MechaNinja
...is often expected to get the better settlement, at least in many jurisdictions.
StuckInBetweeen
Oh you sweet summer child
moxymox
Also, fly to the moon and eat the green cheese you find there, since this is Fantasy Advice Land Based on Nothing Credible at All.
DamnAutocorrelation
Not at all, a UK court (being I'm british) are more likely to rule towards the cheatee rather than the cheater. Due to the fact that a...
DamnAutocorrelation
Marriage is based on a written and binding contract of two people's lives. You break the agreement, you've done yourself no justice.
WhatIsThisImgurIHearAbout
Here in the States a judge just says, "Half" everytime.
fully472
Not true, marital assets are dependent upon a number of factors including who started with what, where it came from, who worked, kids,etc.
fully472
...depends upon who broke the contract, who has the best lawyer, EVIDENCE like texts, who has the best lawyer,did I mention the best lawyer?
fredgiblet
Remove women, acquire happiness.
TheManYourManCouldSmellLike
Break the cycle, Morty, rise above, focus on science.
KorditeAu
This... so much this....
ShartShrapnel
Hey, men cheat too!
fredgiblet
Did I say they don't?
NoTouchie
Maybe just *woman*... not all of us are that shitty. You'll find someone who deserves you OP :)
TrijezniMujo
Personally I'm going to try to be a misogynist or something. I mean, why not? I check all the boxes yet still less popular than cancer.
Prosecutrixxx
The fact that you think it's just checking boxes should be a good indicator.
TrijezniMujo
So yeah, I'm not one of those "be kind and they'll fuck me, but waah, they don't" kind of people if you thought that.
TrijezniMujo
I look good, am healthy, am stable... but again, people don't even want to hang out with me. Especially not women
Prosecutrixxx
I'm gonna guess you have no personality, since that's where boxes end and real relationships begin.
NoTouchie
I hate to say this... If you're "fixing" all these external things and people don't want to associate w/ you, maybe it's your personality?
TrijezniMujo
But I can't do that either, so I'm sorta stuck in limbo until one day (hopefully) something kills me (or I kill myself=.
Prosecutrixxx
Have you tried talking to someone (professional)? I'm guessing you're unaware of the areas that you actually need to improve.
TrijezniMujo
Well, checking boxes in the sense that I don't think I am a horrible human being. I make people laugh, I help them, I listen to them
TrijezniMujo
Consdiering I've been doing this self improvement thing for like 5 years, I should just start hating the world and accept dying alone.
thevoicesmademedoit
Remove people, acquire happiness. (Add fluffy animals)
TrijezniMujo
Getting ze flammenwerfer-
thevoicesmademedoit
? Trying to look up context but my WiFi is being a pain in the ass.
TrijezniMujo
Flammenwerfer = Flamethrower, me interpreting "remove people" in another way.
AbsoluteMercenary
thevoicesmademedoit
Lol, wow.
OopsImAPumpkin
First hint should have been the insults. She demanded change but was unwilling to help. Sorry about this though.
Wadup
This, I get that she was unhappy about him being out of shape. But not wanting to jog with him? That's mean
uummma
true
PhiIIipJFry
You don't know that, you have one very biased side of the story. Not saying cheating is justified just that you don't have the facts.
laps22
Facts about his activities dont matter...if she wasnt attracted to him, she should break up with him first, even if he wasnt doing his part
cleverbeans
Attraction changes over time and marriage is supposed to be about more than just sex. It's reasonable to keep trying to make it work.
LongDongShiverGiver
Reasonable but meh....
laps22
He still deserves the respect of leaving him first
PhiIIipJFry
Facts do matter if you want to make the claim "She demanded change but was unwilling to help." Like the person I replied to did.
laps22
That still doesnt change the fact she cheated on him? Even if she did try and help him and she didnt, why not leave him for being unwilling?