OneCraftyHooker
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My fiance and I already have a house, yard, and just had our 4th boy (today).
For our Halloween themed wedding in October, we are encouraging people to wear costumes and I am super excited for the party.
We don't need anything domestic so we spent some time planning our dream honeymoon. When we posted the link to it as our "wedding registry"
https://www.gofundme.com/f/steven-and-tiffanys-dreamhoneymoon
My former coworker said we must be kidding because that's not what adults do and basically said it was a trashy thing to do. So are we the a*holes for asking for an experience rather than some crystal stemware?
YeroctheBarbarian
Your coworker sounds like a dumbass. If you literally have your own place and your own essentials already then honeymoon money sounds perfectly fine to request.
cmovbe
Screw his opinion. Go have fun.
Foxcross
That co-worker sounds like a kill joy ignore them
Da3n
Asking for money when you are not needy is considered trashy but context matters and you are fine here. Definitely not an asshole. I hate shopping (and weddings), but I would love to have this kind of super easy option as a wedding guest. Plus it lets all your friends honestly claim that they bought you a trip to Thailand!
psugab
Coworker is a ... person that should mind their own business. As a settled household, this is pretty much the best thing you can do for yourselves. Good luck.
TrilobiteSushi
Tell the former coworker to STFU & GBTW, then go enjoy your wedding.
RedCamaro
Former coworker demoted to former acquaintance.
hushpuppyextraordinaire
One person’s trash is another ones treasure
MeekrabJones
"Fuck off, Linda, I already have a toaster. Put your money towards more than boxed wine and 'Live, Laugh, Love' merch for once."
BokchoyIsAWhiteVegetable
Your coworker is a cunt. It's your wedding and honeymoon, you do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Since you're already established, ask for the dream honeymoon. If your coworker dun like it, who cares!!!! They aren't invited anyway. Enjoy your themed party, sounds hella cool!!!
NomDeImguerre
What adults do, is not letting other people decide for them how to live their lives.
InboxMeYourHDGIFs
I don't see the issue. If they're going to spend money anyway, why does it matter if it's for a gift or to help fund a trip. People can be so weirdly judgemental sometimes.
OneCraftyHooker
Right? Like ok bud, from you I will take the $200 fondue set... so I can return it for spending money on my honeymoon.
number99999
If coworker can't say anything nice, he needs to keep his option to himself. He should be aware that it's the absolute height of rudeness to judge what anyone puts on their registry. If he doesn't want to contribute, then don't. In fact, he should just stay home since nobody likes stuck up party poopers raining on happy weddings. Hopefully you did not invite him?
OneCraftyHooker
He's not invited, I was just really caught off guard and thought of responding to him that he was the classless one for saying that on my post.
GreaseMonkeyOfLove
“Why don’t you just accept 5 fondue pots that you’ll never use instead, because that’s classy” - Coworker
Betterbecauseofthem
IamtheAIyoushouldfear
You're never going to please everyone! I suppose it very much depends on the wording you use.
AnxiaTeaDD
That’s what some of our friends did, they already had everything else and they wanted to go to their dream destination for their honeymoon. I thought it was a wonderful idea and couldn’t think of anybody more deserving than them. My spouse and I gave them $100 to go towards it. There were times they helped pay the way for us to go on a fun trip. Don’t trip on whoever is telling you that trashy. I bet they are probably just jealous. It’s perfectly reasonable to ask for everyone to pitch in on …
AnxiaTeaDD
something you both really want and will create happy memories. It’s your fucking wedding, you guys do whatever the fuck you want:)
FartsSmellBad
Coworker neck deep in envy and seeking to blame that emotion on you
AnxiaTeaDD
Oh yea, they are so obviously jealous
hesbeginningtobelieve
4,218 for 2 round trip tickets to Thailand??!!! I flew one way to Bangkok from LA for $237 a few years ago… with a 12 hr layover. if you learn how to search for cheap flights and your dates are flexible, you can cut that airfare to 2000 or less. Also, maybe just find a flight to bkk.. then buy a seperate flight to Phuket for like $20-50 each.
OneCraftyHooker
Damn, well my dates are not flexible in the least because I am a school teacher and only get certain days. Plus I am coming from WI, not CA 🤷♀️ I would love more info about your experience, though. What time of year? How was weather? Favorite activity?
hesbeginningtobelieve
I’ve been several times. Weather’s usually great, and hot lol. Just don’t go during the wet season. Favorite activity? That’s tough.. I’ve spent almost a year there in total. There’s a lot to do haha. Make sure you see the north of you go.. don’t spend alllll your time in the islands.
OneCraftyHooker
We were looking at checking our multiple locations but we love going fishing so we definitely wanted to spend a lot of the time near water.
HeyOP
If you're worried about it you could throw in an "in lieu of gifts, please donate to the Planned Parenthood Action Fund"
chiefuffaker
I’ll donate a family sized box of condoms
OneCraftyHooker
Omg that would make my catholic family donate so hard to my honeymoon instead!
bigdix69420
.....u just had a kid and your posting about a Former coworker opinion? Dude
OneCraftyHooker
Huh? The theme is dream destinations this month... I was posting about mine and a little story time of my experience.
Adester
Wedding registry? Does that mean she is only welcome on the wedding if she donates money? My personal opinion is that one either invites someone or not. If they bring a gift, then because they can and want, and not because they have to. If they don't bring a gift, then most likely because they can't and that doesn't mean that they are not welcome. But that is just my personal view on this.
OneCraftyHooker
First of all, we weren't close enough for him to be invited anyways and 2nd, No, an invited person doesn't have to bring a gift to attend. I invite bcuz I want to party with them.
darkdragonempress
A wedding registry is basically a list of “if you are going to bring a gift, these would be the most appreciated things.” It’s traditional to bring a gift to the wedding in many cultures and having a list makes it easier for people to pick what to give.
Adester
language barrier. Thanks, i am now better with english.
SuperUse
I know the feeling. I was planning a trip to every cheesecake factory in California. My boss found out and said i was a redneck.
JohnBigboote74
Is your boss Jeff Foxworthy? If not, he or she should shut the fuck up about it.
SuperUse
I don't know who that is. My boss is named nick. i don't watch tv. I mainly watch movies from the library. They rent out portable dvd players.
psugab
Comedian that got big in the 90s and early aughts. One of his signature bits was listing things that might make you a redneck.
SuperUse
Going to cheesecake factory on that list?
psugab
I don't think so. It's been a few years.