Red is rad, blue is sad. Just for future reference of the meme! But yeah that’s a big ole red flag. Glad you found that out now and not months or years later!
so.. uh how long did it take for that to come out? im curious if that was also kept hidden or if you were about to try to go down a "i can change him" thing. best not be looking to change people.. find people that you can accept them as they are.. and i can no longer accept anyone that would vote trump as they are, the dick aint worth it if its just going to make me pop out babies i dont even want as if women were human cattle..
Argument could be made the colors are correct here, because you WERE happy, which is sad, but it's good he revealed his true colors early in so you didn't waste your time.
@OP walk around with them guns out and the dudes will be crawling at your feet. (yes, I creeped OP’s posts and found a Xmas selfie. You will now do the same).
Saw something on here that having opposite sex friends (assuming straight) is like a good review that they’re not a creep/weirdo, and should be desired.
Yep, just block them and move on. Last time I was single was 3 1/2 years ago and girls would try this crap too. They’d just get instant blocked and deleted out of my phone and I’d just hope the next one was better.
Unfortunately - men like that could become dangerous if talked to that way. You gotta play along until you get out - then let them know by phone or text.
4 weeks, I would think they have their own places. But be classy and just say no, not doing that. If they say anything else about it, say I don’t see this relationship working for me, best of luck to you and leave. Then block them.
That’s where the leaving comes in. If worried about violence, have convo at a cafe, somewhere public. Basically it’s saying you’re asking me to do something, my answer is no. A person who asks this will then demand you do it and then you say I’m not going to do that, and since it’s obviously important to you this relationship won’t work, have a good life. Then leave.
Why does every person fuck up this meme? It has the most repeated mnemonic on Imgur. I wish continued misfortune on everyone who does this. I hope your problems gets worse!
As his insecurity is a huge red flag be cautious of it. On the other hand years ago we had a room mate that had a ton of male friends and as soon as she became single they were knocking the door down to get to her. There were a few I was super surprised about too, I even thought they were genuine friends of hers. But the rest of them were obvious for anyone looking in from the outside. But there is always genuine friendship out there.
I definitely think it's a fine line between red flag and genuine concern. This guy asking immediately is definitely a red flag. My girlfriend had to cut her guy friends off (some) as they saw me dating her as a "oh shit this is our last shot better get in there" and kept trying to push. All were given chances to respect our relationship multiple times. They just couldn't keep it in their pants. Definitely fine with guy friends as long as they don't try and cross the line.
I don't think it's immaturity. It's the behavior of abuser who has to first separate her from her support network so it's harder for her to escape. First it's the guys, but he won't stop there.
It's not a dude thing, just an asshole thing. My bro had 2 girlfriends who demanded he remove all his female friends. Unchecked insecurity makes bad partners
As a dude, I don't get this mentality. But I enjoy doing witchy stuff like traumatizing the local Mormons by drawing a pentagram ritual in my garage to talk to a recently deceased friend(I'm atheist, but it's fun) and forgetting to clean it up. Using toys in the bedroom, don't mind being the little spoon, am ecstatic if my girl makes more than me. And want you all to have equal opportunity to me. So.. basically just not a Republican.
My last GF was mystified that I didn't want to check her phone, didn't demand she check in, didn't care if she had girl's nights at the bar, and didn't care if she hung out with guy friends. I'm like "Should I be worried? If you say 'yes' then what are we doing here. If you say 'no' then why would I need to." Yeah, that's putting a lot of trust in someone else's honesty, but if I can't do that why am I even dating this person. Only thing I might lose is someone who wasn't worth my time anyway.
3 of my ex-gf's got jealous every time i talked to any other woman friend I had (usually the one I was closest to before we got together). They never did the same thing as what OP posted, but it's just as toxic and part of the reason why they're all exes. Unfortunately, I lost all the women friends for each ex because the exes showed too much hostility, I never noticed, and my friends never told me about it until after a few months/years later.
Similar thing happened to me. Only I stuck with her for 5 years. And three of those were extremely bad. Learned after that she'd been sneakily hostile towards one of my friends.
Yeah, didn't mean to imply this is a guy-only thing. Turns out, people are trash regardless of gender. Man, it is hard to find a mature partner who isn't insecure.
WeatherWiz
Red is rad, blue is sad. Just for future reference of the meme! But yeah that’s a big ole red flag. Glad you found that out now and not months or years later!
Chereazi
Step 1: Start a fabric shop. You'll get rich selling all those red flags!
Step 2: get the fuck away from that guy lol
fractalsphere
GIRL, RUN!
Problemwoodchuck
In the words of Iron Maiden, run for the hills.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
The colors on your meme might need reversing. Otherwise, start by blocking and deleting him.
Melonfish
Ghost him, ghost him now.
CoverMeInHoney
send him a message "Sorry, but I can no longer date a red flag"
MrFancyPanzer
That's a yikes from me dawg.
littlecoatfatguy
Dude's got more red flags than the Swiss Olympic team.
MicahtheMartian
Ugh. That's not ok. That's never ok.
Fatassfrodo
Atleast didn't take long to spot the crazy with that one
maxpower47
Have you slept with any of your male friends
MrHappySmiles
*Wierdo alert! Weirdo alert! Disengage!!*
Cobalt1
flags, flags everywhere
TheWombatStrikesAgain
https://imgur.com/Cp1EHep
keyblader1985
Barring legitimately harmful or toxic relationships nobody worth sticking with would ever ask such a thing.
killer10347
Which harmful and toxic relationships are worth sticking with though?
SomethingOtherThanMyRealName
Bigger red flag than an independence day parade in Moscow.
oozabooza
I bet I know who this guy will be voting for
Savd0gg
LOL YEP you are correct
LumpPump
so.. uh how long did it take for that to come out? im curious if that was also kept hidden or if you were about to try to go down a "i can change him" thing. best not be looking to change people.. find people that you can accept them as they are.. and i can no longer accept anyone that would vote trump as they are, the dick aint worth it if its just going to make me pop out babies i dont even want as if women were human cattle..
williewest12
Argument could be made the colors are correct here, because you WERE happy, which is sad, but it's good he revealed his true colors early in so you didn't waste your time.
TheOldSchoolisBack
@OP walk around with them guns out and the dudes will be crawling at your feet. (yes, I creeped OP’s posts and found a Xmas selfie. You will now do the same).
eadanke
Oh great, and now I've looked at their baby pictures and feel invested.
ProbablyNotASuitOfPlatypuses
A flag so red it even colored the meme. That's definitely time to say goodbye
AmbassadorOfAndrew
Saw something on here that having opposite sex friends (assuming straight) is like a good review that they’re not a creep/weirdo, and should be desired.
somethingsomethingwittyhere
AriDarmon
IAmDuckHammer
And if he shows any threat of violence or anything, get a restraining order.
P0sit1veTh0ughts
Yep, just block them and move on. Last time I was single was 3 1/2 years ago and girls would try this crap too. They’d just get instant blocked and deleted out of my phone and I’d just hope the next one was better.
yamamasyamaha
Red is rad, blue is bad
TheUnstoppableWampas
A red flag so big it blocks out the sun. Isolation from social contact is how abuser keep their victims dependent on them, and this is how it starts.
CrisprCAS
NATA5
??
CrisprCAS
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GFokXnCCMf8
vissago
make sure your eye blinking morse code skills are sharp
MadCat221
Unlike in that song when he was making red flags out of nothing, OP's predicament really *is* a red flag.
mechscientist
.... What do you mean, that song (both variations) are full of red flags.
Lugh314159
I dunno... wanting to sew a mouth to a butthole seems like a legit red flag to me.
mortrans
Three simple words. "No, fuck off."
NotSomoneElse68
Unfortunately - men like that could become dangerous if talked to that way. You gotta play along until you get out - then let them know by phone or text.
mortrans
I appreciate your comment, I had assumed a text message etc.
migratingotter
4 weeks, I would think they have their own places. But be classy and just say no, not doing that. If they say anything else about it, say I don’t see this relationship working for me, best of luck to you and leave. Then block them.
NotSomoneElse68
I was thinking this was a face to face conversation.
migratingotter
That’s where the leaving comes in. If worried about violence, have convo at a cafe, somewhere public. Basically it’s saying you’re asking me to do something, my answer is no. A person who asks this will then demand you do it and then you say I’m not going to do that, and since it’s obviously important to you this relationship won’t work, have a good life. Then leave.
DildoMussolini
Why does every person fuck up this meme? It has the most repeated mnemonic on Imgur. I wish continued misfortune on everyone who does this. I hope your problems gets worse!
QuitLookinAtMineAim
I hope your response was something like

kevbot5000
I'm not sure I can go further left, I've got communists to the right of me.
Penthesilean
I like this.
icouldntthinkofabetterusername2
MadamPuddifoot
My go-to is always "I'd rather shit in my hands, then clap"
Yupurineutah
Or "Your wish is my command? Well you can wish in one of your hands and shit in the other, then see which one fills up the fastest."
chittychittybangbanglovesustoo
Hey this is a good one!! Yoink!!
Pikkupanda
Make that a double! Yoink!
THESEVENSGUY
As his insecurity is a huge red flag be cautious of it. On the other hand years ago we had a room mate that had a ton of male friends and as soon as she became single they were knocking the door down to get to her. There were a few I was super surprised about too, I even thought they were genuine friends of hers. But the rest of them were obvious for anyone looking in from the outside. But there is always genuine friendship out there.
MehEdits
I definitely think it's a fine line between red flag and genuine concern. This guy asking immediately is definitely a red flag. My girlfriend had to cut her guy friends off (some) as they saw me dating her as a "oh shit this is our last shot better get in there" and kept trying to push. All were given chances to respect our relationship multiple times. They just couldn't keep it in their pants. Definitely fine with guy friends as long as they don't try and cross the line.
MehEdits
The broad strokes seem unfair when it's not always black and white.
RichardHardley
they're immature & not ready.
beccaalm133
yes they are not ready
floatationman
I don't think it's immaturity. It's the behavior of abuser who has to first separate her from her support network so it's harder for her to escape. First it's the guys, but he won't stop there.
abraxasfury
Start by blocking and removing him
eddbrowne
Rate of relationship failure is so high that any safe venue should be considered. Then
a careful process. Too many kids in broken homes.
BobaFettApproves
Why do dudes have to be such fucking pussies?
TsubakiTragic
fragility
certifiedllama
It's not a dude thing, just an asshole thing. My bro had 2 girlfriends who demanded he remove all his female friends. Unchecked insecurity makes bad partners
awkungen42
As a dude, I don't get this mentality. But I enjoy doing witchy stuff like traumatizing the local Mormons by drawing a pentagram ritual in my garage to talk to a recently deceased friend(I'm atheist, but it's fun) and forgetting to clean it up. Using toys in the bedroom, don't mind being the little spoon, am ecstatic if my girl makes more than me. And want you all to have equal opportunity to me. So.. basically just not a Republican.
BobaFettApproves
SadsPikkelson
My last GF was mystified that I didn't want to check her phone, didn't demand she check in, didn't care if she had girl's nights at the bar, and didn't care if she hung out with guy friends. I'm like "Should I be worried? If you say 'yes' then what are we doing here. If you say 'no' then why would I need to." Yeah, that's putting a lot of trust in someone else's honesty, but if I can't do that why am I even dating this person. Only thing I might lose is someone who wasn't worth my time anyway.
newyearworseme
It’s situations like this why I happy to be single
PirateRubberDuck
Same, I had to push my ex to lock her phone. I don't want to look through her phone and no-one else should be able to either.
rusrsdude
3 of my ex-gf's got jealous every time i talked to any other woman friend I had (usually the one I was closest to before we got together). They never did the same thing as what OP posted, but it's just as toxic and part of the reason why they're all exes. Unfortunately, I lost all the women friends for each ex because the exes showed too much hostility, I never noticed, and my friends never told me about it until after a few months/years later.
FabMcMuffin
Did you date the 3 simultaneously, though?
rusrsdude
Haha, not enough patience for that kind of abuse all at once!
farfie
Similar thing happened to me. Only I stuck with her for 5 years. And three of those were extremely bad. Learned after that she'd been sneakily hostile towards one of my friends.
SadsPikkelson
Yeah, didn't mean to imply this is a guy-only thing. Turns out, people are trash regardless of gender. Man, it is hard to find a mature partner who isn't insecure.