TheyCallMeSunshine
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Whelp, I guess I need to find a new recommendation last minute.
I was recruited by a Dr. who worked in the hospital I worked for. He approached me with a job opportunity with the knowledge that I was applying to graduate school. Because of my plans, he threw in OR shadowing time and a letter of recommendation. Now that the time has come to write my letter, he told me to write it myself and upload it. I don't like this. I didn't want this. I know there are people who would love this opportunity, but I just feel cheated.
gurglingsteak
Weird thought....doctors are extremely busy professionally and have personal lives. He is essentially giving you a blank check. Be grateful
minionsforscale
Have been on both ends of this. Not unusual. Write the letter!
DarwinsFlinch
SomethingOffensive
Just write the fucking letter and have him sign it. You can give yourself a glorious review. Quit humble bragging about your "morals".
happyrabbitzz
I usually have this as a requirement for any reco letter I write. It reminds me of context and info I might miss. Just do it.
ImGoingToBeRelevant
If he reads it and signs it then he agrees with what you said about yourself.
kneepit
JoePaul10
That’s not an uncommon practice the dude is busy and he’s pleased enough to trust you to write it. Take the opportunity
squeakingpips
As long as he signs it you'll have the recommendation of your dreams.
skipweasel
Last time I had a job interview (about 20 years ago) I needed a reference. I wrote my own. About three years later my new boss asked me...
skipweasel
"Did you write your own reference?" Ah - what gave it away? "The bit about not always suffering fools gladly".
ThinkingOfOneTakesTooLong
most people do this though don't they?
TheyCallMeSunshine
None of my other rec writers have asked me to. 1/6
friendswithfire
I actually really hate when people do this. If I ask you for a letter of rec then I’m asking you (not myself, not your ta/assistant, you)
TheyCallMeSunshine
Thanks for being the only person not trying to make me feel dumb:)
friendswithfire
It’s an unpopular opinion (because most ppl will take any chance to make themselves look better) but I’m right there with you.
friendswithfire
MidnightLibrarian
Jesus Christ. He trusts you to be able to write it, and he'll read over and pass it on. Stop being an idiot and write the letter.
chefdp1
this is totally standard. if you want it to not sound like a form letter, you write your own.
rmsrmsrms38
This. Ghostwriting happens ALL THE TIME in any business. This means he trusts you that much.
deadguyshadow
This.
skipweasel
I quite like this idea - you do have to be realistic, or they won't sign it, but you do get to allow yourself to shine.
TheyCallMeSunshine
When you say it like that, it sounds like nbd. But he wants me to write, upload, and submit it. He won’t even see it. It just feels weird.
Minebeasties
He has to sign it... No one will accept it as a recommendation otherwise. Just write it and give it to him
cptnjackharkness
Think of it as a final test. Write the letter, this is an exercise in self reflection. He wants to see you have the confidence he has in you
MidnightLibrarian
Then you're an idiot, and should include that in the letter.
TheyCallMeSunshine
Noted!