Who knew?

Who knew?

Story time,

we met through the same gaming club, and due to both our relative experience, we got put into GM positions and we had the same interests so friendship happens.

Things were not smooth however - friend was to put it mildly, quite lazy and would constantly put off meetings and prep work, or would suddenly recall that she had coursework she had to do so she couldn't make it.

Then the tantrums started when we try to meet without her anyways, because she didn't know what's going on despite our offer to send notes (and admitted to a mutual friend later that she couldn't be bothered as I discovered later). She was nice otherwise, so I thought maybe she might prefer it if she doesn't have the responsibility of being a GM.

She threw a fit, no one dared to broach the topic again and we ended up working around her, and this was when I started to have terrible, vice-like headaches that made it extremely hard to concentrate, and would leave me whimpering in pain. Most members of the club were understanding of my headaches, but got told to suck it up and play on so I try.

Then I started to date another member of the club, and I discovered friend only *acts* nice, as my girlfriend was being pressured by "Friend" to play their character a certain way, and then as my GF was going through sorting out their identity, the "friend" would keep misgendering my GF in private since "they can't hear me who cares?" and other people started to come forward that the co-GM and friend was also pressuring them to play a certain way.

That was enough, the rest of the GMs and I ended up confronting friend and gave an ultimatum: Apologize to the players or Leave. She chose to walk out, yelling about how we're bullying her and can't understand the academic stress she's under and how much she was doing for the club. After that display, I chose to remove all my contacts with her (and discovered she blocked almost everyone else).

About a week after, I realized that my near-crippling headaches were gone, and I was actually having fun for the first time in months.

tl;dr: Friend turned out to be such a toxic POS that the stress was literally making me sick.