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FluxSagrie
The worst part. Actually doing it, it taking so little time and actual effort to do. then you have that realization that all that couldn't be stopped and it was all pointless. Task just sat there for ages, need to do it, want to do it, it would only be a good thing to do it, still can't, finally do it after months, takes like 10 minutes, it is better and just have to sit there with that your inability to act made it so much worse over nothing.
EdelwoodHikes
Yep.
NKato
This is why I need someone in my life to pull me up and encourage me on my efforts, my goals. It is so exhausting trying to motivate myself on my own. It doesn't help you feeling alone in your efforts.
ImperialAceX
I call this ADHD Paralysis.
thereitis101
ADHD is so much more than people think. My son has it and pretty sure now I have it too to some degree. But seeing him fight executive dysfunction well, it’s a daily battle to move forward. Needs motivation. Reminders. Meds. Therapy.
everythingzed
The only thing I need those days are company, someone that starts the chores with me, or just talks me through it, then I can go on and be super effective! Living the single life makes it much harder.
TheEvenPrez
huh, so that's what that is
Unitedite
Misread this as erectile dysfunction. Very confused for a moment there.
WorldScaper
All day, every damn day. Medicated or not, indecision can still be my master.
Drasham
as a kid i was told i was lazy, was not trying hard enough, i needed to "push through", and so forth
as an adult approaching 50 that's not working anymore, and it's getting harder and harder and what is described above is becoming my reality
Sh4dowWalker96
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep/
icbkr
Had to check up when this wasn’t lasaan
TransFlavoredDepression
just this morning I was lamenting over how hard everything feels, how doing the most minor of things can be an actual literal struggle, and how I've internalized that it's laziness and not just the result/byproduct of a disability that medical professionals agree I have
cuttysark
From therapy
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/stop-dreading-stuff-just-done-184500099.html.html">https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/stop-dreading-stuff-just-done-184500099.html>https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/story/you-arent-lazy-you-are-overstimulated-160834473.html
DoctorTurkTurkleton
Had to hold my gf while she cried multiple times because of this. It hits some of us hard
Hippb
Idk if this helps anyone else, but i try to visualize doing the thing and all the steps involved when this happens
someginger
I thought it said erectile dysfunction since it mentioned being between 2 things and then I realized I should probably put my fucking glasses on.
AbsolutelyDramaticNutjob
For me, I can't do it for myself. I can't do it to better myself. I have to do it for someone else. If it will help someone else, then I can do it no problem. Also if I'm being paid, it disappears. Unfortunately it ruined a relationship very recently because there are things I apparently still can't get around to doing, even when my partner's happiness and trust are on the line.
hornyt2k5
I have been trying to make one phone call for literal months. It’s one fucking phone call. This is bullshit.
umbula
I feel you.
dribblingviking
Thank you.
SithElephant
For many sorts of cognitive problem, if you slow down and concentrate more, - if you're tired or confused or a bit drunk, or ... - you can perform nearly normally for a period. Executive dysfunction once it gets past a certain level removes the ability to get back to normal, even for short periods. It's a whole different class of thing.
SociallyInept1
Oh hey someone put it in writing
icbkr
In 2020
fknbastard
Yeah I look relaxed cause im lying in bed but internally screaming at yourself for 4 hours is actually the opposite of relaxed
Raeilgunne
And it even happens with things I WANT to do. 'Oh, you have TWO new video games? Now you can't play either of them.'
judyblue
Good thing, too, because I was never going to get around to doing it.
Zetalight
I've found myself occasionally able to turn to my spiteful side and say "I'm in charge, not this shit--and I'm going to get up." It's not as reliable as I'd like, but I've felt a bit better since I started doing it.
redditmcredditface
I hope one day you realize that you can control when your life gets better. Those little things that make you uncomfortable are usually things you can control. Don't let those little stupid tasks control you, you are bigger than them. Attack those little shits and make your life better. You don't need to do all of them, just one.
worm61
You completely missed the point of the post, and this toxic positivity bullshit does not help, and actually hurts people with debilitating mental illnesses. So kindly shut the fuck up.
executivedisfunction
If you are just uncomfortable facing challenges, you have entirely different issues than Executive Dysfunction. Pun intended.
SexyChemist
This has been me ever since the hurricane :/
Is this what depression feels like?
mirria
no, this is a major symptom of ADHD. But untreated ADHD leads to what's called "secondary depression"
SilverFoxChaser
Also mirroring is exhausting. Stop asking my why I 'get tired' after spending time with your friends and family.
OverthinkingThis
Fucking this. I often get labeled as an extrovert because I'm talkative and do my best to be an active listener. I am absolutely an introvert and just because I'm a good conversationalist does not mean I find it relaxing. I want a book and a hot tea at the end of the day, damnit!
imgurianitarian
this really struck a chord with me. My partner always asks why I’m so exhausted after being with my friends and not energised!
HollerinAtTheVoid
A fellow social engineer, i see
Silkyninja1
Look up obsessive compulsive personality disorder.
Hippb
I'm confused, how is this like OCD?
Nisu
Not OCD, OCPD.
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24526-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-ocpd
It has some symptoms that cause similar behaviour.
Hippb
oooh huh, yeah this does have some similarities
Columbus43219
What I have found works for me comes from both Special Forces training and Buddhism. SF are trained how to keep working when very wounded or disoriented, do the SMALLEST possible next step: not "stand up" but "put left hand on the ground...put right hand on the ground" The Buddhism thing was so Western and fake but still: Their final challenge was to get through a room with their greatest fear in it. The training was to take a tiny step towards the exit, do that and eventually you're out.
Ihmislehma
That's socks for me. I need to go do a grocery run but struggle? Once the socks are on, I'm "locked in".
Bansidh
That's a great strategy. I have to use it sometimes to unlock my "paralysis". Just one tiny step or gesture at a time.
skwint
I have literally screamed at myself before and still been unable to do an extremely basic task. It's extremely frustrating. Mostly only affects me when I'm stressed though.
TypicallyVigo
I executive disfunction because I'm stressed, and I'm stressed because I executive disfunction. It's a vicious cycle. Now if you'll excuse me, there's someone I need to get in touch with and forgive: myself.
teardropivyyearofthetiger
Or tired. Or overwhelmed with too much to do. Or tired. Or frustrated. Or angry or tired. Or interrupted.
sunyudai
Dealing with this right now.
tallyhoho
You need some help off the floor friend?
sunyudai
I appreciate the offer.
I'm pretty sure that I'm on the upswing now, just gotta maintain for the moment.
tallyhoho
Good stuff up check in with you in 90 minutes
tallyhoho
Are you still vertical friend? If so, you can prob take a break now. You've done good for the day!
Rathan5
The fact that you actually did check back in just makes me happy. Good on you both