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Your energy is being used to keep you going and you only have so much right now. If it;s keeping you going, you might not have enough for anything else right now. So don;t be discouraged if you don’t do anything else but survive right now, you are doing enough.
f1v3byf1v3
Thank you. I needed this.
VirtualHugger
Uselesstoy
Guys, if you are tired as shit, everyday, all the time, not giving a shit, rarely enjoy fucking anything. Then stop the stupid Toxic Masculinity making u suck it up and ask for help. Be honest to the doc for once and tell him you feel dark and like shit all the time. Then say I wanna try Wellbutrin. For me, retired Marine, I feel like I'm fucking 15 again with a permanent internal source of Cocaine like energy. I can do fucking ANYTHING now, when I was completely crippled before.
nelamvr6
Um, there are plenty of actually lazy shits out in the world. No one needs to hear that shit.
Net05
My dad taught me it was pointless to try so thats why I'm lazy and dying.
Grumpy72
I tell people "I don't care" a lot because it's easier than trying to say "I do not have the energy it takes to talk/deal/worry/learn about that thing/situation" and then explain myself. If I come off as a bit of an asshole that's ok because even that helps in the long run when they stop bugging me. I take care of the things and people I can and don't waste energy on things I don't have to.
Boppster
"I'll take "The Rapist" for $200 Alex"
lonelyrangerofthedreams
You are not lazy, you are just weak. Thank you buddy…
Chowphat
I'm not lazy, I just don't feel like doing any of the things I need to get done.
Come to think of it, I don't feel like doing any of the things I want to do, either.
But I'm not lazy. If I was lazy, I wouldn't have bothered explaining this.
Snooj
I'm not lazy, I'm just cognizant of the fact that at a certain point in my life I stopped feeling any sense of accomplishment when I completed something.
pauli133
Oh I assure you, I AM lazy.
JackieTreehornProductions
procrastination is a survival technique also - it ensures you don't waste energy doing something that isn't in the immediate need category or doing something that may end up not being needed by the time it's due. If someone says you're being lazy just say you're prioritizing limited time and resources... just don't do it while playing a video game or watching a movie as it tends to not land as well.
Junktrunkjunkie
So it’s only truly laziness if your enjoying it?
JackieTreehornProductions
Not necessarily, but it sure doesn't help the cause in other's eyes.
cepheidvariable
All the spoons.
Jules6486
I had only 2 spoons today but acted like I had more spoons and now I'm negative spoons and feeling God awful on my couch and feeling guilty that I'm not up getting stuff done. Fuck you autoimmune disease
itsjustplaid
SoManyWhales2
Not trying to be negative, but do any other disabled folks hate this unwieldy opaque "analogy?" It takes something EVERYONE can relate to (energy depletion) and needlessly makes the disabled seem weird and infantile because they have to talk spoons like they're some early-00s kid trying to look random. Disability acceptance is about helping people without disability empathize and find commonalities, and this stupid "spoons" crap just others the disabled even more.
cepheidvariable
I only brought it up because I learned of the analogy only a few months ago. I'm using my memory and knowledge before it flies away on me.
sunyudai
IME, it's been pretty useful to explain some of the difficulties they don't understand. I've not encountered what you are describing here.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
It was intended as a way to explain chronic energy disabilities, because it's not just energy depletion. It's hard to understand if you aren't living it. But it's been taken over to explain energy depletion, which I agree with you, is something people already intrinsically understand. I use it still to illustrate my disability. But depression is different, depression is more like the spoons are there but you are somehow stopped from using them. And some days you can and some days you can't. /1
SoManyWhales2
Yeah, to me all that just makes the condition more opaque and seem like a childish game in the head, rather than a very physical reality. It's extremely counterproductive, and normalizes the unfortunate way people with disabilities get infantilized. If that's how someone wants to navigate their life, that's fine for them, but I'm sick of it getting applied to me.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
I don't find it that way at all, I find it a stark illustration of a very shitty reality. Anyway, no one's forcing anyone to use it. I've found it helpful personally, both in understanding and dealing with the condition myself, and in explaining it to other people.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Whereas I'm stuck with a very limited number of spoons, I *never* get more. When they're gone they're gone and I literally crash out. It's like a dead battery. People don't understand it because that's not how energy depletion works in a normal person. If I try to use a spoon from tomorrow, I lose spoons for the next week or two to recover. It's not the same thing as having the energy but not having the ability to always use it. Anyway, it's been taken over to mean that now, so I kinda lost /2
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
the way to explain my chronic condition, which sucks. /3
BlastFX
OK, but you could have just said “energy” instead of “spoon” and anyone who understood this, would still understand. It's not a clever metaphor — we don't all just walk around carrying a bunch of spoons. You're substituting one abstract concept with another. If anything, that makes things harder to understand.