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Hey imgur, idk how many people will read this but I just need to get it off my chest so here goes. This is my son he's 5 months old and is the absolute greatest thing to ever happen to me. This kid literally means the world to me. And what tears me up is he couldn't mean less to his mother. I'm not on here to bash my child's mother I'm just so upset about her choices that it's eating me alive. 4 months into her pregnancy she cheated on me with a random guy she met on fb. To top it off it was on Father's Day. Great right? So the fool I am I took her back, married her, and have tried everything in my power to try to keep my family together. Have bent over backwards time and time again for her. 2 weeks after his birth while I was at work she was home alone with the baby called me crying saying the baby was crying and she could calm him. I immediately offer to come home and help she told me no she could handle it. We get off the phone she calls 911 and says "I can't calm my son, the only thing that's calming him is the more upset I get I think he's possessed by the devil" so she has to go to a psychiatric hospital for evaluation for 3 days. Trying to be a supportive husband I visit her each day to try to comfort her and tell her well get through this. When she's released child services is involved in our lives now. A safety plan goes into effect stating that she is not to be alone with the baby and he was not allowed to sleep at our home he had to go to my moms at night for his safety. Again I tell her I'll stand by her side and well get through it. So about 3 1/2 months go by on the safety plan and child services finally feels it's time for the baby to start sleep at home with us and she can be alone with him again. Of course soon as that happens I'm getting frantic calls at work again and end up having to come home early on multiple occasions. End up losing my job. About a week ago she decides she just wants to up and leave so she just left without even saying she was leaving and didn't come home for 4 days. The whole time she was gone she did nothing but party and get wasted and hookup with more random guys. When she came home she brought a cop in an attempt to have me thrown out of our apartment. When he said he wasn't going to do that her next goal was to just leave with that baby luckily she and her mom didn't bring a car seat and the cop said I didn't have to give them the one in my car. So I ended up leaving with the baby and went to my moms house when I returned she was gone and everything of the baby's was gone too. The next day I filed for and was grated emergency custody with another court date 4 days after. That date was yesterday. I was grated primary custody and she was grated 3 supervised visits a week for 4 hours each. (Which honestly she doesn't deserve) but I'll just have to deal with it. This will be in effect until the pre-trial which is August 22nd. So she hasn't seen our son since the day she took everything of his from our apartment and hasn't even asked about him either. You'd think that kind of thing would tear a mother apart or at least bring her to tears. Nope she just out running around from guy to guy sleeping with whoever looks her way. I really hate to admit it but it's killing me thinking about her like that. I've tried so hard to help her and keep her from living that kind of life but it's no use. All in all I'm ecstatic that court has ruled in my favor so far because I know how hard it is for a father to get sole or primary custody but at the same time I'm so crushed that someone I loved so much and have stood by with through countless obstacles can have a complete disregard for her own child. Well sorry for the sob story.
Tl;Dr evil woman.
cptnjackharkness
Take notes. Un bias. Non emotional. Factual notes. Like you're a cop. Trust me on this.
Bigol
What does he taste like?
theninthmike
Protect your kiddo, above all else.
cptnjackharkness
Email them to yourself. Save in a folder.
krugle
Paragraphs!
cptnjackharkness
It's your word against hers but theses notes will save your kids life. It did mine.
cptnjackharkness
No emotion or opinion. Just facts. Dates, times, people involved, location. What happened.
Teh4ChanHacker
Sooooo... fetal alcohol syndrome?
sodoffyousoddingsod
As the first time father of a 7.5 month old this hits home. I can't imagine what you're feeling. Good luck moving forward.
theinternethasruinedme
+1 just for the tldnr.
Helmabear
Not evil... Just sounds really in need of some psychological support. Sounds pretty manic actually.
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IMadeAnAccountSoICanPostComments
Just his heart? What about the rest?
ThisIsALovelyRoomOfDeath
I actually read the whole thing (shocking because this is the internet) and I'm so happy the court is in your favor! Best of luck!
AWolfWithShades
I read just enough in to know you should've left her LONG ago.
airplanemode
Trust me I know.
cptnjackharkness
Left you some advice. Good luck brother.
oneiroisgrip
Start documenting everything. That attempt with a cop to get you thrown out is a warning shot. I've seen some terrible cases.
airplanemode
What do you mean by a warning shot
oneiroisgrip
I've had 2 friends go through terrible legal ordeals at the hands of ex-wives; false accusations used to try to regain child custody.
oneiroisgrip
First time a woman falsely brings cops into it, that's time to start documenting your activities & any contact/behavior she directs at you.
airplanemode
She was a half hour late with her first visitation.
airplanemode
I have been documenting everything since that day. She has just been digging the hole she's in deeper and deeper.
oneiroisgrip
I am sorry you're going through this, but glad you took the advice to document. Best of luck, and hang in there.