MrFancyPanzer
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I'm having a minor existential crisis about it. I kind of feel like i havent accomplished much in the last decade, covid destroyed any sort of momentum i had. everyone around my age are in relationships, getting married and having kids, not that i want kids at all. I feel like im stuck in traffic and everyone else is driving past. Having autism and social anxiety its very easy to get stuck in one's comfort zone, same routines every week. i feel like i dont have any direction, i dont know what i want in the future, i just know i want to be happy.
Edit. Righto, I'm now officially 30, thanks for sharing your thoughts and words of encouragement, you lovely bunch of people, it did make me feel better.
Mrpipboy3000
Your 30s are fine. If you don't work out, START!! Take care of yourself in your 30s to enjoy your 40s.
ScarecrowSticks
Why we a week apart in age?
drduffer
My father was a newspaper owner, editor, reporter, etc until he was 40, then he went back to school for a Master’s and a PhD. This was in the 1950s.
30 is young. You’ve got time.
DeadeicPrints
Ah I remember those days... enjoy it now.
starkeclipse
FWIW, my 30s were the decade where I hit my stride. Try not to let the number worm its way into your fears. It's just a number. Just take some time and think about what would make you happy. Once you have an idea of what might make you happy, you can take action in that direction. It doesn't matter where others are in life. Only where you are and where you want to be.
Yufer
30 wasn't so bad for me i hope it goes well happy birthday 🎈🎂
Goldmarble
Perhaps you need to seek assistance with maintaining your tracks if you are having trouble keeping direction, or finding traction. I do advise to keep clear of enemy forces using drones, or mines, those are always problematic. But I hope you find good fuel, plentiful ammunition, and a trustworthy crew.
DrewThe3DPrinterGuy
CanIGetSomeExtraSalt
Congrats on 30 trips around the sun
Littledirtybirdyfeet
Develop a growth mentality, and you won't fear aging anymore. Set out to learn new things and skills.
sirava
Being happy IS the goal. If that's family, professional fulfillment, travel, or just living peacefully that's fine. Do as much of that as you can. No need to compare yourself to others.
MrFancyPanzer
Finding my direction is the difficult part, I'm thinking about moving to the city for more possibilities.
LeekofLegend
Well I hope your birthday goes as well as it can! Stay safe
deathandtaxes1
You are gona lose 50% total body flexibility overnight, your everything is gona start hurting and you’ll find yourself groaning when you bend over, don’t worry this is completely normal.
randomnumbers23
You will wake up and realise you feel the same as you felt today and then relax in the knowledge you have an entire decade before reaching the next stressful milestone
Thesaya
Do what I did, when I was going to turn 24 for the first time, just turn 29 again. Great for irrational number angst. I turned 23 three times, 24 thrice, 25 twice, etc. Warning though, it makes it kind of tricky to keep track of your actual age. ;)
horseman05
30!!!! LOL.
0xBADA55
AIisAbutnotI
Yeah, I did the same thing turning thirty. Then nothing happened and I turned thirty-one. I never worried about getting "older" after that. Good luck!
MrFancyPanzer
Thanks!
Jawesome19
Sounds exactly how I felt at 30, now I'm 36 and it's good. I did already have a kid at 30 and now I have two more but that's nothing to judge or compare to. We all have seperate journeys.
ExquisiteConundrum
Bro... I turned 43 last week. I didn't even get my drivers license until I was 30. I finally graduated high-school, not the get, hs diploma at 30. Your 20s are for fucking around and figuring shit out. 30 is when you start to get comfy and implement all the shit you've learned. You're going to be okay dude! Happy birthday!
MrFancyPanzer
Thanks fam
MadLogTheGr8
Well right now you should feel 29ish
vystral
Nah you’re good. I didn’t meet my wife until I was 30. Bought my first house at 34. You’re still on track.
FeloniousMonk13
Fuuuck man I'm boutta turn 47, only wish I could be 30 again
METROlD
Aah you'll be fine. Youre basically still a kid. 40 - 42 is when it hit for me. It was like adult puberty, the Grim Reaper literally hit me with a fat and ugly stick one day and all of a sudden I could grow a beard like a motherfucker. Enjoy the last 10 years of being able to drink like your 20 without feeling like youre going to die and being hung over for 3 full days.
EdelwoodHikes
I've been talking to my therapist about similar issues, and I'm about 10 years older than you. There is still time, mate. It may not be easy, but this I promise you, there is still time, as long as you live.
MrFancyPanzer
Thanks man, I know it's mostly in my head, but i can't help but feeling a bit melancholy, it was the same when I turned 18
EdelwoodHikes
Oh, sure, that's life, and that's my point, it's fairly common to feel this way, but you've got this.
13andido
Enjoy the last decade of youth… before you know it there will be a blue finger up yours
MrFancyPanzer
Hey, i have already had a finger up there, not for fun.
Rips4w
In contrast to the usual platitudes, allow me to inject a little nihilistic optimism.
Your end is as indeterminate as it always has been. Assuming you have an end date relative to your years on this planet is as pointless as fretting about its premature cessation.
Just live.
Happy Birthday.
UnluckyLunkhead
I remember thinking that someone who was 30 was really mature/old/responsible. Ha!
MrFancyPanzer
I remember as a kid thinking you were really an adult when you hit 24
SquirrelWithATophat
Almost 40 now and I can confirm this legend is bogus. Of course in my case I went thru a long period of time where physical intimacy with a woman would have been near impossible due to a crippling fear of women caused by decades of abuse. Having completed intensive therapy a short while back I should be able to handle it now if I ever decide to try dating again.
SquirrelWithATophat
The point of the matter is, even if our past sucked it is still possible to build up a better future for ourselves in terms of our mental health. Sometimes you don't need a clear destination in mind when moving forward. Oftentimes it's enough just to move in a direction that doesn't feel as bleak. My therapist had me approach this by focusing on little areas to improve on, and it helped me move out of a very dark place in my life one step at a time.
SquirrelWithATophat
In my case, I ended up finding that journaling positive outcomes each day has helped figure out what things do and don't work for me, as well as helping me to see more of the positive things in my life. Each day I write down some of the key positive outcomes or achievements (even if they seem trivial) of the previous day. This can help counterbalance things when we see the negatives in our life draining way our mental fortitude on bad days.
Lassannn
I'm 43. It only gets worse. Be happy.
TheMoonBnuuy
It's just a number. Another day. Nothing magically changes except that assholes younger than you will stupidly start associating you with a generation born in the 1950s and 1960s.
But it'll be their turn soon enough.
CanIGetSomeExtraSalt
damn kinds and their crappy music too
MrFancyPanzer
It's not so much hitting the 30 mark, it's more that I feel like I have been doing nothing for the last 5 years.
TheMoonBnuuy
We can't all be Alexander the Great