MRW I can't tell if I've been cheated on or not

Oct 24, 2016 3:29 AM

LiteCow

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So I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months. We don't call each other boyfriend/girlfriend and it was never explicitly stated, but we've been seeing each other regularly for these 2 months, and I feel a pretty good connection with this girl. Now it's worthy of note that I haven't been in a relationship that's lasted for more than a few months. Idk if I'm fucked or whatever but that's beside the point. We got to talking about our sexual history and I asked if she had been with anyone else since we started talking. She said she slept with an old fling when she went back home 2 weeks ago. She says she hasn't planned on it, it just kinda happened and that she felt bad afterwards. Now it kinda irks me, because if it was right after we started talking and still didn't know each other I wouldn't be that mad, but this was a few weeks ago. Maybe I'm just not mad yet or it just hasn't set in. Even now I'm not that upset, just kinda confused; I don't know how I feel about it. I guess I'm just venting to a website based on made-up points to express my confusion. Since we never explicitly said we were exclusive, maybe it isn't cheating? What are your thoughts, imgur?

TL;DR- She slept with a former fling 2 weeks ago and we've been talking for 2 months. I'm not mad yet. Thoughts?

Can tell you after the first two sentences you weren't cheated on

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

You've been seeing her two months. Two. You barely know her.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Cool story bro! She a hoe!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 3

If you haven't had a talk about being exclusive then you are not exclusive

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Dude wtf is wrong with you? You guys were just talking

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

If she didn't think she did something wrong, why did she feel bad?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

This

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Cheating, not really. But if you two were sexually active before and after without her saying, then there's the risk of STIs. 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That part was reckless on her part, regardless of condom usage. But I think you're just upset about betrayed (unspoken) expectations.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Maybe I'm the weird one here but why the hell do people have to go on dates for months before it's considered official?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I think we would put a label on it when it felt natural to do so.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

If you're already jealous then you don't deserve her

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Not jealous, more nervous bc she is WAY out of my league. It's kinda awesome.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Does she even know that you like her or are you just in the friend zone?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I've eaten her asshole so yeah I'd say I'm not in the friend zone. Plus we talk about how we care about each other.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

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9 years ago (deleted Sep 11, 2017 5:15 PM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

It's possible. I prodded a bit further into that possibility in our convo, doesn't seem likely, but it could be true.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

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9 years ago (deleted Sep 11, 2017 5:16 PM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

Likely. Maybe I'm biased, but it seems like a moment of weakness more than "eh, im done with you."

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yeah but we've had sex many times since. And she's said and showed her enjoyment. Is it really possible that it's all lies? Doesn't seem

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I hate to say it but she sounds really easy. If you're cool with that then more power to you.

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