vladrichdemaclant
77363
2357
107
(And i don't even understand why she is filming and posting the situation, why are people doing this?)
Dec 18, 2024 5:31 PM
vladrichdemaclant
77363
2357
107
(And i don't even understand why she is filming and posting the situation, why are people doing this?)
ShinoXIII
Wow, what an insensitive person. Poor guy :(
rabbihimself
Before my wife, I didn’t know what it felt like to have my feelings validated. She may not understand why I get sentimental and emotional over something, but she always acknowledges those feelings. The woman filming this video is demonstrably awful.
sittingherethinkingthinkingimsittingherelisteningtoyou
The moment you realize your life is unwinding and coming to an end and your wife gives a fuck all.
KamakaziSloth
Showed this to my wife and she said “That fucking bitch!” I love my wife.
camn333
IdiotSavantTinker
"WhY dOn'T mEn TaLk AbOuT tHeiR FeELiNgS‽‽"
horseWnoname
my dad is a musician and made a similar conclusion about getting gigs. one of these jobs is going to be the last one...
chefsoda
I’ve had this conversation in my head with similar items that were bought casually a very long time ago and it just suddenly hits you out of nowhere
charondaboatman
I completely understand.
nachowifi
He should start another spool with someone else.
OliverKlozoff1269
Ooooh snap!
MzRafferty
Came here to say this. Seriously though…
Rabidbacon
People wonder why we stay quiet and don't open up.
pandasmakemehappy
I'm a man and I do wonder why so many men can't talk about their feelings.
dankymang
They aren’t taken seriously. Mocked just like this. So we don’t.
Rabidbacon
Yep. I had a gf years ago who asked me to be more open with her, especially about my mental health from years of military service. I foolishly took the bait. Weeks later, I came home early, and she was in the bedroom facetiming with one of her friends and said "his mental health problems are pathetic". She didn't know I was home. Broken hearted and gut punched at the same time
That was the end of the relationship, and I never opened up to any partner ever again, only to my homies and therapist.
imagine1day
Gaslighting and belittling your husband isn't cute. She should be ashamed of her actions, and even more ashamed that she posted them on the internet for everyone to see.
MzRafferty
Definitely this. Poor guy.
westPAguy
Like wire on the spool these are the days of our lives.
amp99
So-crates!
TheRedBaron8
What a complete cunt!
ThePunishersVengefulBrother
No lie, my dad died young and I inherited his spool of wire. It's from the 1960's i think. I use it when I need to, but I'll probably pass it down to my son.
raftus
Theres a time for jokes and a time for recording something for clout. That was not it, on both accounts. She could have very easily pivoted her plan going out there. Also, not put it on the internet.
crapybarra
A seriously deep thought by a person who knows it's so critical but abstract and what makes him so fundamentally human. The magnitude is terrific, both because it is grand but also because it can be terrifying. An echo of a thought throughout mankind's existence whispered in his ear that day.
VaginaPedant
I know this deep in my bones. I remember my dad's tools & supplies looking old, like from another age. I come across stuff like that dude's spool of wire now and I remember when I got them new. My stupid brain is all "this can of cutting fluid is almost empty and looks so… old. I remember when I bought this thing. How can this be?"
jalcantara88127001
Our emotions have to go somewhere
MasterMookie
Suicide statistics. Men is in the lead by 4 times as much. Woooooo... I hate society.
xRHIN0x
Speaking as a fellow man, fun fact if didn't know, they don't! Any time you feel Emotions™ just suppress those little guys deep down and trap 'em in a bottle! Then you can neatly organize and store them away with all the others on cute little shelves inside the gaping black hole in your chest! You will slowly die on the inside and lose your sense of self and desire to live but everyone around you will be completely fooled! Subscribe for more life hacks~
Circe007
It was like if he were saying his life is running out, just like the wire. Sometimes I feel that too
Quizz25S
And she's just like "oH YuR sAd cUZ spOrTsbALL"
DarthWaiterSE
You hope you've used the wire well. You hope that it wasn't all spent on one task, that you got to do some things that were fun, maybe even frivolous. Some people didn't respect your projects, your efforts, and that's their fucking problem, not yours. You know the value of your wire.
madguy50
I hope you are a brick in a very tall wall. I hope you have laid other bricks on top of you to make the wall taller. I hope you have taken such good care of the mortar in that wall that removing your brick means the wall keeps standing. On top of your empty brick may stand thousand others who may now take care of this wall. Without you. Because of you.
MookieWilsonIsAlive
Funny. I had the same sentiment when my work bag/briefcase busted last week after 30 years (I'm nearing retirement). Like what's it all for?
glovelyday
"Unspooling" as it were...
pareidoliaperson
Well I had some moment to think but I'd ask him what he did with those wires. And he could like start telling me his life story. But the beauty of it would be that he realises I actually asked about how he spent his life. Boom! I'm a good, non-existing, rhetorical friend.
crcinau
The amount of things that wire has fixed and improved over the 40 years... The number of lives it has made better because of its use over time.
Maybe the real joy is the projects that wire has contributed to all along.
Circe007
And if I were him ID say, with a sentiment "thank you friend!"
warmhandsduke
"All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in the rain."
jayman0123
It's a terrible day for rain.
ThisNameUnavailable
Time to die.
ChicksDigTrucks
I want more life, fucker.
HamDangler7TheLuckOfTheDangle
Totally get that. That man needs beer, comfort wings and a hug
nailpounder
and a wife that gives a fuck
SoGrosslyIncandescent
This is staged, right? In it's own way, what he was saying was so profound and meaningful, I just can't imagine someone actually responding the way she does.
bks2000
I’m thinking it was staged because of the close-up. Seamless in the conversation. And also because no one is that insensitive. Right? Right?
mcodger
you've lived a sheltered life
SoGrosslyIncandescent
I guess I have, in all the relationships in my sphere of friends and family, men and women have been respectful and treated each other as whole, complex human beings.
marvelousx
That’s not the statistical norm, unfortunately.
Perfectlynormalhumanbieng
He was being so deep and profound and then the wife just ruins it.
JosXII
the fact that she is filming it says enough, she came out "to check up on him" with a camera...
Deadflower394857
He must feel very alone, I feel bad for him.
AlwaysDownvotesDogs
Dude was reflecting on his life and the passage of time... and she made a joke of it.
MasterMookie
He was crying. He was sad about his life coming to an end.
burningcouchwv
We all are my dudes
KiddR78
I kind of hate her.
Frederf
I hate Voldemort too
3rdoption
Why can't people just let people feel things?
helljack
1) The internet is a thing.
2) Some people think other folks feelings are just meant to be used as fodder for their internet points.
3) Some people are horrible and lack any form of empathy.
Kitehammer
4) some people try to use humor to cheer up a person when they are sad.
b1candy2
3ł most*
StarscreamAndHutch
OliverKlozoff1269
My dad has a silver plastic jar of silver anti seize... I remember it since I was a kid. (Im 46 now) as we were working on my 49 Plymouth I noticed it was gone. Just scraping the jar, trying to use what was left on the brush. I feel the same way. Pa is getting older, and like the antiseize, soon may be gone. Thanks Pa, love ya.
PectorialMuscles
Hey, you're not alone. It'll be when my Leatherman breaks for me. Big hug.
drizztx
Leatherman... break? Inconceivable. I've had mine for 23 years, and can't even imagine it breaking...
StarscreamAndHutch
Thx my dude. Back at you. May you and your leatherman expire simultaneously and gloriously a long time from now.
PectorialMuscles
I might fall on it one day, lol
Kyzyl
I feel sad for this man. Wife is worried more about what's on his head, than what's going through his head.
[deleted]
[deleted]
SteveMcCroskey
It'll be ok, it's all made up anyway
MyWifeMadeMeJoin
Well said.
thesnow
Username…checks out?
Deadflower394857
Wife is more worried about turning him into online content than anything else
itwasababyox
Euchre
And this is why divorce exists. Shed shitty, toxic people - especially when you end up married to them.
helljack
I don't like this woman, and I believe she will eventually try to post something about how this was just a joke or prank or something and not real and she actually really loves her husband.
I will still not like her after that.
xizar
She might actually love her husband. Doesn't mean she knows how not to treat him like shit. (lots of people are broken and fucked up.)
Euchre
Which doesn't excuse her, and entitles her to divorce papers. If she loves him truly and enough, she'll learn not to be shitty to him, or she'll lose him. You can swap genders, make them the same gender, in all I said above, and it remains true. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they're good for you.
Shuey
Yeah... I won't believe her
wtfylat
I mean it's obviously a bit
BurntRamen
Oh come on, ragging on people's favorite sports teams is 110% an American tradition.
NotACanadian
You triggered the incels, bro, don't trigger the incels
Matty3D
Found the wife.
rusrsdude
Even after someone opens up to you about how they perceive their own mortality..? Your username should be BurntKaren instead
MasterMookie
Making fun when your partner is crying and having a hard time facing mortality. Yeah not the best fucking time to joke.
NotACanadian
Bro, this video is not real and the Jets joke was meant to be the punchline.
MasterMookie
Yet it makes fun of a real issue.
NotACanadian
And now that the windmill is destroyed you guys really tackled that issue. The MGTOWs are proud.
mikeatike
Fuck her because he was sad and she wanted to help?
NotSoFatTony84
She went out there to film a joke. She didn't care what her answer was she was waiting for him to finish so she can post something "funny".
NotSoFatTony84
Didn't care what his*
StellarJay77
Filming it and asking irrelevant/stupid questions of him is not helping.
certifiedllama
Wanted to help??? How the heck did you extract that from the video, she asked a question about whats wrong and then when she recieved the answer she was negative and non-sympathic. She didn't help at all
ElectricSlideOrchestra
"I don't understand why my husband won't open up to me and talk about his feelings." -this obnoxious cunt
WeaponizedJerk
If you can’t tell this is staged, then the issues lie with you.
Youcantsaychickswithdicksanymore
I married one
OliverKlozoff1269
Same. But after 26y I ended it. Much happier now. My brother, if you've need, hmu. 👊🏻
donpat
it's a skit. please god. give me some sign that people don't actually believe that this is a real conversation between people.
barrocoyote
Yes, it's obvious. People on this site are extremely gullible.
donpat
I despair for society sometimes. Where's the "I feel like I'm taking crazy pills" gif from zoolander when I need it.
Septcanmat
It may be a skit, but that doesn’t detract from the fact that it reinforces certain attitudes and biases that people are getting tired of. It’s no different than how jokes about hating your wife have fallen out of favour. They may just be jokes, but underneath the joke is a suggestion that it’s common and normal for men to resent their spouses, and people no longer accept that premise. Similarly here, people no longer accept the premise that it’s ok to use a man’s vulnerability gains him.
marvelousx
If this is a skit, the husband should be on screen next to Leonardo DiCaprio. Take a second to actually evaluate the human emotion portrayed, don’t just dismiss what’s in front of you. I don’t think it’s a skit based on his behavior.
donpat
https://www.instagram.com/p/DDu7CWvSQY4/ This is two posts later on their instagram. It's 100% a skit. There's no sensible way to dispute it at this point.
GTimgur
Maybe! You can tell by the comments, however, that the reality is something all too commonly experienced.
Frederf
Right... that's why someone would produce a skit. Is this not obvious?
Alientongue
Is this what we are doing now just calling everything a "skit"
donpat
If by "everything" you mean "things that are absurdly obviously not spontaneous interactions between people". then yes. That is, in fact, what we are doing now.
Alientongue
Interesting, so you can understand context?
donpat
I understand that this is just rage bait and everyone just ate it all up.
Thornaxe
When we want to belittle the reality that the skit represents, yes. Sadly.
JustAGamerDreamin
Yes, this is likely a skit. But the conversation this represents is so real.
VikingsAreNinjaPirates
It's been a while since I've blocked anyone here but, looking at your comments, you are insufferable.
Frederf
But he's right
daSilverBadger
Do you have sauce for that comment? Or are you simply guessing and giving her more credit than is due?
Frederf
It's a skit. They're playing parts. Much evidence points to it. Here is a video framed exactly to pontificate and her response is on theme. Why is she filming this? It's not an unreasonable conclusion.
Agreement2agree
It's obvious, but media literacy is at an all-time low
Frederf
-153 votes all-time low apparently
donpat
there are far too many dangling participles in this statement for me to understand what you're saying so that I can formulate an answer.
bluntforcedrama
Yes yes
gfunk01
Ah, they call it the Kiefer.
Ctidz
There are only two participles in that sentence and they are both connected to the subject, "you". I don't see why you are having trouble.
donpat
There's a third.. her.. and it's definitely dangling. Is the her the her in the video? or the person to whom I was replying?
Frederf
SHUT UP
donpat
This is the same couple just two posts later in their instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/DDu7CWvSQY4/ So yes. it is 100% a performance designed to get exactly the reaction it's getting here.
Agreement2agree
I love how people downvote you for pointing out they were duped.
donpat
People don't like to feel stupid. Even when they should. You only learn from your failures. I hope people will learn.
powwerbottom
Doesn't really feel like he's in on the skit tho huh
Frederf
Yes they call that acting
donpat
Like dude.. he *really* is in on the skit. This is two posts later on their instagram. https://www.instagram.com/p/DDu7CWvSQY4/ You got hoodwinked.
donpat
It really really does. Like really really. And it makes me sad that people can't see that.
Mindshard
Why is "it's a skit" the new "it's just a prank"? No one could possibly just be a shit person, exploiting the emotions of others for social media, it's just a skit!
Agreement2agree
They are exploiting emotions for social media - yours.
WeaponizedJerk
Jesus fucking Christ do you also hold a grudge against actors playing the role of villains? Go touch some grass.
Mindshard
Frederf
It's not. A staged vignette is quite likely. It's a rational conclusion.
donpat
I'm not sure if you're agreeing with me or not.. but I'm definitely not saying "It's *just* a skit" in order to make it seem like the people in this video aren't acting like assholes. I'm saying "it's skit" to point out that these people are being assoles and rage bating everyone and so many commenters here are eating up the bait, the hook, the line, and the rod.
Mindshard
I'm not. No one is agreeing with you. You're claiming with no evidence that it's just rage bait, rather than the kind of situation many of us have personally experienced, which is insulting, and minimizes our own experiences.
Agreement2agree
No way you're a dude in your 50s.
The5oClockShadow
You don’t think this is a conversation that could and does exist in the world, even if it was staged in this instance?
donpat
I'm 100% sure that it could be". That's not what I'm commenting on. It's everyone reacting as if it was real. "See! here's proof of why men won't talk". It's nonsense.
Alientongue
Dude nvm you dont get the context then lmfao. Even if this is a skit the only thing making it a skit is it being relatable to real life otherwise what exactly makes this a "skit"..... Conversations like this actually happen and 100% are why the men who go through something like this wont open up again or atlwast not easily. What exactly are you trying to "prove" here?
donpat
I'm not tryign to "prove" anything. Merely calling out the nonsensical responses to a fictional interaction and believing it's real. heck even the OP said as much in their comment about not understanding why she's filming. It's the people who belive this is real that I'm ridiculing here.. not the notion that men have a tough time sharing their emotions sometimes. How's that for context?
Agreement2agree
No one said that. At all.
Frederf
"This is fiction." "You don't think this fiction is representative of the human condition?" Thinking this is a play is in no way saying the depicted situation is made up. Why would you suggest that?
richardstinks
"I'm having an existential crisis after seeing a visual representation of my mortality."
"Is it because of sports?"
"Shut up, Sharon."
unsneakyLurker
https://www.smbc-comics.com/?id=2612
AlwaysDownvotesDogs
Dude was reflecting on his life and the passage of time... and she made a joke of it.
Ass.
PicassoCT
Sharon is karen..
IhopeUgetwhatUvoted4
Grounds for divorce. Full custody on anything that has that wire in it.
newsguycraigevans
The Jets are a hot mess tho
cardinal29
Their fans are driven to despair.
dingoflickums
You could probably drive around the their stadium and find like 10 fans doing that exact thing
AtmaDarkwolf
Ya i think she was being purposely cruel and dismissive, idk why, but ya, she UNDERSTOOD his feelings at that moment, and decided to stomp on them. She GOT it, but ya... was like decided to use that moment to hit him where she knew it would annoy/hurt. maybe for the internet funnies.... idk. But he seemed quite genuine and ... I feel u bro.
Zoomoth9000
She started filming it EXPECTING it to be about sports. She probably didn't think there was anything on his mind except The Sports. But she was so committed to laughing at his choice of entertainment that she never thought to abort mission and be there for him for probably the first time in their relationship
TinaEveFox
I also have tools that were my grandfather's, I have one of the first Stanley punches made, and a hand powered drill (you kinda jerk it off and it drills the hole). Every once in a while I open that tool chest and just hold them, stuff that's been with you for so long I get emotional thinking about it.
Spidermonkey969696
I have a set of hand wood carving tools from my great grandfather and a high chair made by my great-great-grandfather on the other side of my family. Both are so precious to me. Though the tools get a lot more use than the high chair, lol, it doesn't exactly meet modern safety standards. But they both make me feel so connected to my ancestors and to history, I get emotional thinking about it too.
bluejolt
The jerk off drill is called a Yankee hand drill. I have one from my grandpa too. It's awesome for random projects. I get now why my grandpa would always get so upset if I snapped the bits when I was a kid, cause now my kid snapped one and they are a hassle to find replacements sometimes.
queefteef
When my grandma passed I chose the hand drill and any hand tools. Have a handle hand carved wubba wubba saw that puts power tools to shame
TinaEveFox
I had a little black knife on a keychain for about 25 years, I had sharpened it so many times it was kinda useless I just had it forever. I went to England and at the airport I didn't even think of it and the guy made me take it off and give it to him. I'm like come on man I've had this for most of my life I don't really want to give it to you. Had to, I'm sitting on the plane and I fucking cried.
betwitched
I feel your sadness 😔
MantisTobagganMD
Uncle had a similar (nearly exact, sorta) thing happen. Pocketknife he was given as a gift that he forgot about, TSA took it. He was super bummed out.
usermainboredom101
you know what would be cool on such causes? Having a airport service to actualy send such items at home with the cost of few dollars (or whatever currency).. you cannot take it in the plane but it will be shiped to own home. Thats a realistic idea.
Tonberryc
I've had an airline do this in the US, but it was years ago. I forgot to take the metal compass out of my school backpack when flying back for college. They wouldn't let me take it on the plane, so they shipped it to my house in a flat rate box.
KinetoPlay
In the US, they'd just need a stack of those "If it fits, it ships" flat rate boxes. Grab one, fill it out, pre pay, and the mailman picks them all up once a day.
PirateRubberDuck
I am pretty sure that is a thing in some places, but I can't remember where.
Carlo1973Munich
You can do that in Germany for like fifty bucks . Wellsend you your Knife
dohcohv
What's really f'd up is that she was recording this and you know she posted it somewhere too and didn't see a problem.
I'd give odds that she was using as proof that her husband just "blows her off" when they try to talk.
barrocoyote
She's filming because it's fake, dude.
Bertfisch
He doesnt seem as hes acting mate
cuzitsthere
I'll give you insensitive and mean and all that, but your second sentence is a hell of a stretch.
dohcohv
Well I'm pretty sure she posted it because she was recording it. Most people wouldn't post a video that makes themselves look bad so she probably thought she did nothing wrong. This person also seems out of touch with other's feelings. I don't think it's that much of a stretch.
cuzitsthere
She might use it as a "he has no sense of humor" context, but the "my husband never wants to talk to me" angle is some boomer humor stretching.
richardstinks
Maybe it was a joke that landed poorly? But yeah, it doesn't make her look good. Next time she cries, he should ask if it's her haircut.
Paradox1111
Or her period.. they love that
MAN9000
Although, acknowledging highlighted emotions at certain times can be helpful, as long as you aren't trying to dismiss their underlying concern.
Cozysockdrawer
It seems toxic masculinity occurs in women too.
vcgetdown
Everything has to be mens fault even the shit women do that is fucked up.
spittytrinkles
It so does.
NotACanadian
Consider: It's all staged
Bertfisch
His part doesnt seem acted
NotACanadian
Probably because you're projecting a little too much of your own insecurities onto him.
Bertfisch
sure sis
richardstinks
The script writer should get fired. From a cannon.
cjorl
Into the sun?
AidanPrydeCork
And that is why men don't talk.
IjustsaywhatIthink
Or cry where even their spouse can see them.
LollipopKid
That is really poor of her, anyone can see he's in his feelings there. All too common.
ThrowAwayAcct0000
My husband talks to me all the time about stuff like that. But we also don't feel the need to film each other when one of us is crying either.
ComoSeIguana
MyWifeMadeMeJoin
Thank you.
KawaiiInari
Honestly I hope this is staged bc of how she responds to all that. That's a human brain contemplating time and it's impact on our lives. It either needs reassurance or silent understanding. She was rude.
DaveSamsonite
You're not wrong.
JaTheRed
Feelings? How dare you
HeHeHebieJeebies
Watch everyone's storm daily, but never allowed to be the storm.
WhoUhz
certainlynotaserialkiller
JackHL01
Absolute gold, we all /should) have relationsships like that. Even if it only makes us laugh as hard as this!
wodansring
this
daytimepajamas
yep
ahbrannon1
I have been married for 43 years and you are 100% correct. Silence is indeed golden.
pandasmakemehappy
Sounds like you have a toxic marriage
xRHIN0x
Silence turns into a cancer that eats you alive from the inside. I've known too many men that have suffered silently and alone. 9/10 times you don't even find out until it's already too late to stop. But sure, just keep putting on the mask and wear that hollow smile to dissuade others from concern or worry if that's what society has taught you.
Sorcatarius
The problem is hiding your problems isn't behaviour that we're born with, it's behaviour we're taught, and most men have been raised to believe their problem are theirs and their feelings are to be bottled up.
TomahawkJackson
I've been married only 9 years, but it took me *46* years to find one that isn't like this.
JustAnotherCynicToo
"I've been contemplating life, and how something that's a constant part of it will eventually come to an end."
"I thought you were sad cause your sports team stinks."
"Nevermind." Proceeds to rebuild emotional walls.
davideight
Honestly, that broke my heart a lil bit. Guy's over here pouring out his soul having a real life moment and she hits him with some cringe tik tok bullshit for likes. I'm sure she's a nice person but he looks like he deserved to have that moment and it was stolen from him.
WeTheI
THIS. Don't tell us that our feelings matter then punch us in the face with a joke because we "surprised" you with our depth.
JustAnotherCynicToo
Once I was in a situation-ship(?) with a woman. Friends with benefits, she said at the start it was just about the sex...
Well, one evening, we're watching a documentary on children being taught bible-science, and how it damages them in the long run.
She had opened up to me previously, and this doc gave me an opportunity to open up about my past.
If this bitch didn't basically say, "Why haven't you hopped in a time machine and fixed those poor decisions?" Road blocking me from opening up...
donpat
you know that this is a made up skit.. right? please tell me you know that.
ontopofamountain
Thank you donpat. I remember when all of this started some years ago, people making theese kinds of videos and there was one or two comments and I thought "weird.. they can't see it's a skit". Now it's like every single comment. It's honestly bumming me out that people for real think obviously fake videos are real people in real situations caught on video. I really hope people just pretend it's real and comment how they would if the video was in fact real and i'm the one missunderstanding.
donpat
It's completely bananas to me. The internet has addled everyones brains.
daSilverBadger
Do you have sauce for that?
wookietiddy
Art imitates life my friend. It doesn't matter if this particular instance is staged. It can still bring a spotlight to societal problems, including trivializing men's feelings.
MasterMookie
It does not matter because it is true. I cried in front of my ex because I had a shit day where everything went wrong at work. She literally talked shit about me crying to her girlfriend behind my back. Found out when I read her messages. Also where I found out she was cheating on me so I don't really cared that much about the shit talk but it still hurts.
pandasmakemehappy
So that's her problem, not an indictment of women
MasterMookie
It's both men and women. Vulnerability in men is ridiculed. Do you live under a rock?!
pandasmakemehappy
Nope, I just didn't surround myself with shit people
HisDudness
And the old dog in 'Homeward Bound's being stuck in the mud is also made up. That doesn't stop it from making me bawl my eyes out.
Just because something is made up doesn't mean that it can't affect you.
donpat
As I've mentioned to others.. that is entirely not the point I'm making. Of course fiction can make you have an emotional reaction. But if you start saying "see!? this is what happens when you let your dog outside. He gets attacked by bears and gets stuck in the mud and nearly dies!" then there's a real problem happening.
HisDudness
I mean, I love up in the mountains and that is a real reason why dogs are kept inside at night.
disposabledom
It doesn't matter if it was. It's still making light of a man's existential discovery and treating it like it's a punchline. That alone should be something we can do better on than just "iTs jUsT a sKiT bRo..."
TinaEveFox
We know, it doesn't matter if it was made up it still brings attention to the fact that men don't like talking to women because they get made fun of. I can make up a lot of skits that still fucking hurt even though it's 'made up'.
neithermenoryou
We could also zoom out a little of the skit and consider previous interactions. How often has the husband told his wife she's overreacting or hysterical?
If we're only following stereotypes the answer is going to be well north of zero, so this could have been an attempt at petty revenge for all the times where her own feelings got trampled.
For many of us men a big reason why we can't get sympathy when we need it is because we only give vitriol when others around us need sympathy.
SneakECoyote
Can confirm nearly everything I've ever taken an interest in or had an emotional reaction to has been put on a pedestal to be joked about, or otherwise given negative attention.
WeaponizedJerk
Are the people personally insulting the woman in the video in the know too?
donpat
This doesn't make any sense. It's one thing to have empathy for the characters in a fiction by the nature of the fiction itself. But it's yet another thing (and complete nonsense) to hold that fiction up as an example of why real people do things and feel things. It's like using the bible to prove the existence of god. It's completely circular.
Qaetan
You're so close to getting the point here. Fiction is based on a foundation of experiences that are shared through story, and in this case this post demonstrates the reality that men are often met with ridicule when they open up emotionally. The fiction of this post didn't come from nothing: it draws on the experience of men being mocked for displaying emotion, and in doing so raises awareness of this situation. Unlike god this is real.
SoshiGenkaku
This makes me think of that whole “would you rather tell your feelings to a woman or a tree” thing that was floating around. Kinda hits on that, people gotta stop being so callous.
Bobbobbobobbananafanafobob
Neither, someone might hear me talking to the tree
TheNLK
I mean.. This is why therapy for men has often been just being in the outdoors. Fishing, hunting, camping.. All of that has done more for my mental health than talking to anyone ever has.
crcinau
I helped my folks mount a generator / cooktop box on the front of their caravan yesterday.... Doing something with my hands, and then having it turn out so well that the bolts just dropped into place perfectly when I'd drilled the mounts was super satisfying...
In that moment of success, the depression was gone and I was just happy in myself. It's the little things.
johneventually1
PosthumousExile
So the tree and the bear.aybe we should just cut out the middle man and go to the woods
baals
Man that trees always knows what to say
OverpricedCrayon
Never knew that was a thing, but I would rather talk to a woman. That’s probably because the most consistent women in my life have been my therapists. While I haven’t felt judged talking to female friends they also never seem to stick around for very long.
MAN9000
Yeah, I thought I was making high quality plutonic female friends in highschool and college but turned out when I didn't want to date or marry them, they vanished.
baals
On the other hand I don't trust trees..... They seem shady
EbuneezerSplewdge
thisisagreatusernamedontworryitswonderful
See if that was its own, independent thing, I'd be very understanding, but it was trying to be a rebuttal of the man v bear thing and it just doesn't stack up. The latter was a thought experiment to try and understand the kind of mindspace and social framing needed to make the bear preferable. The woman v tree thing misses that entirely and just is a basic "would you rather", which was NOT the original point
EbuneezerSplewdge
I would imagine the number of women who would use vulnerability as a weapon against a man is significantly higher than the number of men who would forcefully take advantage of a woman.
eeps
Probably, yeah, but those aren't comparable situations. And I've found that men are just as ready to use vulnerability as a weapon against women as women will use it as a weapon against men. There are a lot of shit people out there, regardless of gender, who will happily use vulnerability as a weapon, especially against an SO, but often against anyone in their life, including their kids and their friends.
EbuneezerSplewdge
Are they not comparable? I would think that both produce similar overlapping damage between the genders. Fear, lack of trust towards the offending gender, PTSD, antisocial behavior, suicide. The horrific actions themselves may not be comparable, but the inhuman narcissism required to perform either are comparable. Additionally, a man will almost always catch ire if they retaliate against a woman. Not so much the other way round.
thisisagreatusernamedontworryitswonderful
You're not making a relevant point here. Which one happens more or which is worse isn't meaningful to discuss. BOTH are bad, and BOTH are a problem, but to use one as a rationalization of the other is the exact thing that perpetuates both. The issue is using one discourse as a counter to the other, its not meaningful dialectic, it's trying to parry responsibility.
EbuneezerSplewdge
I'm not rationalizing the two, I'm saying that the attempt to under cut the validity of the "talk to a woman, talk to a tree" holds significant weight, and to say that it doesn't even compare to the "man or bear" argument is a product of the inherent dismissal and neglect that is pervasive in culture. No one ever thought that SA might be one product of the neglect that most men face throughout their entire lives? Perhaps men should pull themselves up by their bootstraps...
bound4doom
My dog, he understand me. If he doesn't understand, he patiently sits and listens, then will want to cheer us up by getting a toy to play with. This is the way.
EvilEmperorXurg
kodiak931155
Who would you tell your feelings to alone in the woods. Your wife or a bear.
painstream
tbf, me and the beau would both probably talk to the bear. lol
TyrannusEquus
Can we pet the bear's ears?
elmesito
Just once.
TyrannusEquus
*at least once. You never know, I could get lucky
MantisTobagganMD
Is fren shaped.
jayman0123
You can certainly try
TyrannusEquus
If I am to meet my end then I will do so chasing a worthy endeavor!
NinjaCongo
If you tell your feelings to a tree in the woods and nobody's there to hear it, does it make the sound of one hand clapping?
NightOwlRally
Well because I'm single and have been since 2012, there's definitely been the sound of one hand clapping.
NinjaCongo
*fapping
TheFuckYounicorn
Let burn those bridges when we get there.
crcinau
The bear would only emotionally maul me once.....
BDSMThroatHugs
Fuck that's kinda dark and sad, as a fellow man who's made the fatal mistake of opening up to several of the wrong partners they have infinite memory and no limit to their maliciousness.
BurntRamen
But to be fair, another man would gleefully jump at the chance to do this exact same thing. Except he would be rubbing it in a lot more when getting to the part about the Jets.
UncleVenoM
So people are different? Woaaah
snaek
Sure, but that's far easer to brush off. It's when your significant other does it that it really tears into you. The person that supposedly loves you and cares for you is not just -not- listening to your emotions, but actively ridiculing you for having them.
MasterMookie
100% true. Men are equally guilty in continuing the unhealthy habits men have.
xizar
Jets hat *might* prompt the initial investigation, but only a piece of shit is going to piss in his cheerios after hearing about the wire.
xizar
(and note, a regular dude (male or female) would come out just seeing their friend/SO having a moment like this.)
KrampusCopia
We are not a monolith of Chads. Some of us actually treat others with respect, as we wish to be treated with respect. I'm sorry you only know jerks
BurntRamen
I'm pretty damn sure this is a staged joke video. I guess the only way to verify that is to ask this guy if he was really feeling that bad. Or go look at the source social media account that posed it and see what else they have going on. But I seriously doubt this guy is actually upset.
KrampusCopia
You're probably right. It's very ragebait-ey. But it gets people talking, and secretly, that's my favorite part.
FallenJester
Me and my best mates have had many 'whiskey conversations' as I like to call them. The deep dark thoughts that you ponder over next to a fireplace with a pipe and a glass of whiskey. We're both vets, and we often will weep during these convos.
If you can't talk to me about real shit then you're not in the circle.
MAN9000
Yeah, my brother just ends the conversation, says he has to go or leaves if I go too deep. Same with my wife, actually.
TomahawkJackson
SOME != MOST
You're not like that. I am not like that. We are the exception, not the rule.
*AND*
Did you stop to think for a single second that *maybe*, just *mayyyyybe* you could just freaking *validate* and *empathize with* @burntramen 's **lived experience** instead of acting like OC's wife and belittling that shit?
You are ALSO part of the problem.
textilelover
Dude never said "some." He said another man would do the same thing. Implying that any other man would do the same thing. You're getting really testy about some reading comprehension differences, so maybe pause and ask before yelling?
TomahawkJackson
"Some of us actually..." - Uh...yeah they definitely did say "some" -
...whereas @burntramen said "another man would..." which broadly implies (or at least, I infer) "yes, yes, yes...absolutely some non-zero number of dudes wouldn't do this - however - the number who would do this approaches 100% closely enough as to not be worth explicitly drawing a precise explanation of what I really mean by that out like this with such a limited character count to work with in the first place..."
KrampusCopia
Do you yell at everyone that teaches something important? I even expressed my sadness at the very cause of his mindset. Also the irony of your comment applying to yourself
TomahawkJackson
SO is a clinical psychologist.
Your direct response "we are not a monolith of Chads. Some of us actually..." does have a technical term in a therapeutic clinical setting.
It's "invalidation of a person's experience"
It also has an infamous hashtag...
#NotAllMen
Deadflower394857
Because this one woman is completely psycho?
mmmerf1
You're giving complete psychos a bad name here. This woman isn't as dignified as a bathrobed Napoleon. She's something... worse.
JackieTreehornProductions
because if you get a hard time for sharing something emotionally significant you're not going to open yourself up to that again
MasterMookie
Has nothing to do with women. Mens emotion get ridiculed by both genders. This is reality.
vcgetdown
It isnt, though. There is a reason it got thousands of up votes because even if guys joke about it they understand it and will still often help out. I've never gotten anything but ridicule from women. You've clearly never expressed your feelings as a male to your male friends if you think it's the same. This isn't your lane.
MasterMookie
I have expressed it and got ridiculed. I have gotten better friends since then. You think all women would ridicule you? No. Go to whatever incel cave you came from. This isn't your lane.
vcgetdown
All women I have expressed myself to have, and guess what? welcome to their cave! You'll fit right in
mrthewhitee
It's not that uncommon for men to be made fun of by women (and men) for showing and sharing emotions.
TsubakiTragic
... it has gotta stop.
NeedlesslyPedantic
I wouldn't say women make fun of men more, but goddamn it hurts way more when a woman does it
Deadflower394857
This is true, and it's not a gendered thing. It's actually a symptom of the deeply sick society we live in
vcgetdown
The way women react to men expressing themselves is absolutely a gendered thing. Here is an outpouring of guys expressing why men specifically won't go to women for support and your best response is that it's not a gendered issue? It absolutely is and you're part of the problem here dismissing all these men expressing how they feel about it.
Asadsadsadclown
My ex-wife would constantly try to excuse her extreme verbal abuse by pointing out the friendly jabs and pitch black humor me and my friends share.
LoudBirb
Other men make fun of men for sharing their feelings, too. The problem isn't women, it's this social expectation that's been drilled into *everyone* from a young age that feminine traits (such as sharing emotions or crying) are bad, but they're especially bad when men exhibit them. It all starts with "boys don't cry", but boys aren't the only ones who hear and internalize shit like that.
mrthewhitee
Good think I included men in my comment then huh.
LoudBirb
Yep! Sorry, I didn't mean to make it seem like I was arguing your point. I was expounding on it. My bad on the phrasing.
SoshiGenkaku
Ya it isn’t like there’s been a meme and consistently and well known that men don’t feel like anyone is there or cares about their feelings or anything and that is easily searchable…it’s just one woman, just like it’s just one bad cop.
neithermenoryou
Men regularly discard women's feelings as hysterical or other nonsense as well. While it goes both ways, it's highly likely the women in this specific instance has had her own feelings belittled by her husband as well, and likely more often than once.
It's so normalized we often don't even notice it in the moment when we do it purely because that's how society raises us.
SoshiGenkaku
You make it sound like a zero sum game. That if a man has his feelings cared about it lessens women’s feelings or problems. Caring about men’s feelings and problems does not mean that “oh women don’t have their own”.
In this context and in many cases women are guilty of being callous and ignoring men’s feelings as are men to women. This reeks of whataboutism.
neithermenoryou
The bitten hand is less likely to offer itself up again. That is my one and only point.
Women get told they're hysterical when having emotions == they're less likely to offer emotional support to the people telling them such.
Men get told they're weak and sissies for showing emotions == they're less likely to offer emotional support and more likely to lash out at emotional people to appear like an alpha.
And so the cycle of abuse spins another round until enough people say enough is enough.