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Still get a sick feeling when I think about working there.
Worked there for a year (16-17) and the men harassing me were all 25 years old or older.
I laugh it off when I talk about it in person but... honestly it gives me anxiety to discuss it.
Aurosanda
I was sexually assaulted at 16 working a BK by a co-worker. Manager laughed when I told him. It was humiliating. Get Counseling!!!
aniceboulder
I'm sorry - dont turn to blaming yourself if you are having a difficult time. It can take a really long time to find a normal again
GeographyIsWhereItsAt
Sexual harassment is disgusting. Sexual harassment of a minor seems like an additional level of disgusting.
PactainCicard
People can be shit.. as long as you know it's not your fault and it's not bad to talk to someone about it. Stay strong
Audasity
gotta get it off your chest in order to heal and move forward.
AnbaricDragon
I'm a 26 year old male and I keep getting old men asking me what I'm doing after work. I cant eat my food in the lobby or else more try it
PunchyFromCleveland
Same here. My boss had a “friend” that would stop by and grab me all the time. Then, through my boss, offered to pay me as a “girlfriend”.
tegfdd77
Me too, 37 yrs ago. Still feel hatred. Deep silent sexism taught me that the same with racism is also real. Gave me empathy for black people
princessboombox
Get a counselor. Talk through it. Don’t let anyone ever tell you it’s not a big deal!! Sexual harassment is seriously damaging.
SeymouraButts
So sorry. Same. I was mature (but insecure) so the older guys took advantage and sexually harassed constantly. Fucked me up for sure.
SuicidalThrillbillyturnedLunaticChillbilly
Im 31 and I was sexually assaulted at work 3 years ago, and it definitely has had an effect on me. You aren't alone.
duhqueenmoki
I was sexually harassed from age 19-21 while working at Target. I reported it an got shut down. It still affects me in small, permanent ways
fnoigy
Gross ass dudes
tegfdd77
Yeah. Just yeah.
Mariguamar
canadianreserve
A woman who sexually harrassed me at my first job ran into me almost 15 years later and apologized. Felt good.
shortbutsquat
My first question, Is it still happening at this workplace?
neverborne
No idea
pieington
Sorry you went through that :c
Brightandshiny
Yea I worked as a bartender at 18, as a senior in high school. I thought it was super cool atm- the amount of shit I put up with was insane
zsar
I didnt realize how much some sexual trauma and harrassment affected me until years later, went to group therapy, its not ok and its good to
zsar
Acknowledge that its messed up and too common
abacab87
There was a guy at work when I was 17 who'd sexually harrass all the waitresses, I don't think anyone took him seriously, but it would never
abacab87
fly today.
Lulabel73
At 17 I started working in a bank. (1990) the men were all from the old school 60s and would give me a difficult time. One nuzzled into my-
Lulabel73
- hair when I was in the strong room getting money out of the safe. That was weird.
macrosss001
I'm sorry to hear that. It's hard to see it when it's happening. Only when looking back how bad it was. It's over now. Please do yourself a
macrosss001
Favor and don't let it define the rest of your life! You have a lot of it to live and a lot to look forward to!
HolyHellJezebel
I"m 45 and never had a job where I haven't been sexually harassed. Doesn't matter the industry. Don't give them power over you.
CorneliusTunt
This was heartbreaking to read. I'm sorry that you've had to deal with that
Klerk246
I'm really sorry you went through that. I'm gonna assume it was a service industry. Everyone should feel safe in themselves at work, always.
TheEvilHasLanded
Im sorry this happened to you
beasttubbs
Golf beverage cart? You never realize it until way later. Talk to a professional. It really really really helps. All the best
tegfdd77
I worked in the golf business. Old white fuckers are the worst. And when you are 18, they’re all old.
beasttubbs
I'm male for the record but yeah I've seen how idiotic and vile men can act around way too young girls.
itsthevoiceman
Check local laws on statutes of limitation for sexual harassment. Report it to the labor board anyway. Documentation and history matter.
neverborne
I dont think those people work there anymore
itsthevoiceman
Might still be worth it to have the employer [company] on record with sexual harassment. In the end, it's up to you, though.
aiuta219
One of my dearest friends looks like she's 12, except for her chest, which looks 28GG. She keeps trying to get normal jobs, but being 4'10"
aiuta219
and having the face she has, even at 25, and the harassment just does not stop for her, no matter what job she gets. She has absolutely the
neverborne
I'm 4'11 with decent hips. They nicknamed me Volleyballs.
aiuta219
Sounds like you could be my friend's cousin or something. I hope it got better for you.
aiuta219
most awful opinion of men because they've pawed at her for her entire life. She keeps coming back to dancing, which to her at least means
aiuta219
that she's getting paid for it. She's the person who goes out in a men's XXL hoodie in August just so men leave her alone and it sucks.
KittyAmin
Some counseling specific to this trauma may help you move on and ease your anxiety. Best of luck.
justdoingmybest
This is so important. Especially in order to have healthy relationships with the people you care about. Can’t emphasize that enough.
Leolove01
Check for free sexual abuse counseling in your area. The one here is called a rape crisis center but it covers all forms of sexual abuse.
curmudgeon91
My first job was at a grocer, I had customers who touched and stalked me. One time a guy called the store, and when I didn't recognize him>
curmudgeon91
>he screamed at me and threatened to come and fuck up my car and to watch my ass. Dude, customer service is SHIT when you're a teen girl.>
curmudgeon91
>I feel you, and I'm glad you recognize you need to figure out how to come up. I hope you figure it out and get happy. Love and good luck!
tegfdd77
Yeah. The old men think they’re so funny—complete strangers! When they come in from the cold and put the backs of their hands on your neck.
Pervaroo
WTF? Who the hell touches store employees? I won't even tap someone's shoulder to get their attention, much less put a cold hand on a neck.
tegfdd77
Well this was at a country club many years ago. Not a public store.