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Came home yesterday to find that he had moved out all of his stuff from our apartment. We have been together for 2.5 years and have lived together for about 6 months. No call, no text, nothing. He was sitting on the couch and tried to explain.
He said he just didn't want to be in a relationship. Any relationship. I asked if I had done anything which he replied no, that this was something that has been bothering him for a while.
Strangely, I held it together just fine. We talked, I listened trying to understand what happened. It seems like he just doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want to get tied down.
Even more strange was the fact that we made dinner together last night after all of this. He held me, he kissed me, he did everything that he usually does. Which made it even more difficult for me to understand why he wanted to go.
I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I'm hurt, feel alone in this big apartment, and just need a hug. Hold me, Imgur....
Silverseuss
I've been there
Ragellian
I feel like this guy every day, but i just remember I love my partner and that shes the best thing thats happenId to me. I feel you OP.
chickieboomboom
He cheated or currently is.
unicorneyelash
oh, honey. it will get better.
reaper1gulf
sooooo.....you're single now?
MackJohnson
Went through the same thing except I was in a different country so she bought me a ticket back home and said its over.
PandaSkellington
From my experience in this exact same situation, don't let it get messy (like I did). He'll be an awesome friend if you want him to be.
mck60
Not sure what age you are, but as a 54 yr I just want to tell you that this is life, it happens maybe a few times, you will get past it
Cormaiyn
Commenting to remember to message you when I get home. Hang in there.
givemeyourdownvotes
I use imgur as my personal blog too.
EmJc
I don't think any words of encouragement will actually help and you're allowed to be sad! However, it's better to know now, and start 1/2
EmJc
1/2 moving on instead of being in something he's not. I'm sorry! Wish I could bring you ice cream... it helps more than words sometimes :)
DancingLikeaDervish
You will beat this shitty feeling. Stay strong.
RangerSloth
Fucking Rose Tyler. I hate when she cries, its ugly, to be honest.
imguroakley
My ex broke up with me with the same premise. She felt that way after her father died. Told me she just wanted to live and be alone.
Duros62
One thing I know. It'll be okay.
wookieelov3r
OP, It's always so hard, the end of something.. but just remember that with one thing ending, it means something else gets to begin! *hugs*
mijiza
Hey, sometimes these things happen. It's not fair to either of you to keep it going, you deserve love and he deserves what he needs, too.1/2
mijiza
You both need time apart to heal and move on, don't keep doing like you "usually do". He feels guilty and sad, but it will only hurt more.
OffWithMyHeaddardStark
I'm not proud to admit it, but I was in the guys position before. I've been single for 3 years and only recently started to feel like 1/2
OffWithMyHeaddardStark
I want to be in a relationship. It's awful, I've never felt worse than when I had to explain it to my ex. She didn't get it, understandably
ultimatew
Trust in that he said is true, it is not you, but him that needs to get his head together..
DutchTessa
OP, I know telling you that it happened for a reason is what I should do, but all I can say is that I hope you get through this, (1/2)
DutchTessa
I can't imagine how hard this is or what I would do in that situation, you deserve all the hugs you can get!
Iwillonlytakecatphotos
This happened to me(exact same scenario) it hurts but in the end it will get better.. I promise. Feel free to message if you need a shoulder
feelin
I have turned 20 and hearing and reading stories like this makes me so scared of all the heartbreak there is to come in life. Best wishes x
Elerich
I was listening to Theophany's Time's End while I read this.. holy crap. I got feels.
DishonoredUser
I would have been more sympathetic had you not used an array of gifs. You very clearly want to get this to the front page. Whore.
Icantknit
Whore.. You are a fucktard for calling someone such a name when they are obviously in pain.
enemynwa
If you ever need to rant, OP, hit me up. take some time for yourself. i was in the same place as you not long ago.
lesleybean
That's a lovely thing to say :)
lesleybean
not the sad part about you being in the same place but the nice part, you seem nice (I am drunk)...
foufidoumi
1) His behavior towards you clearly maybe never depicted what you translated it into. He was a nice human sure, but not a human in love.
foufidoumi
4) back, you will just know the difference. Just don't ever stop trusting your guts. Because deep down you knew. But be proud of loving
foufidoumi
2) Don't ever try to judge other people's feelings towards you based on him though. That was just him. Not the love you deserved, not the
foufidoumi
5) him all this time because that was your heart you gave and there is nothing to feel ashamed or repentant of. Do it again. No fear. :)
foufidoumi
3) man you deserved, not even the relationship you deserved. When it happens and love finds you, and your man loves you while you love him
Conflict
Here's my take. Be happy it happened. Be happy you were loved. Be happy you had someone that made you that happy in your life for that long,
Conflict
(2) be happy because there are a lot of us who don't know what that is like. What you had is still something to celebrate.
sbash
I like this take! Also, be happy you had one last night, I find that is the best way to end a relationship!
themanwhoisalternatelyrudeandpolite
Being loved is the best proof that you can love and that you CAN be loved. If it happened once, it can happen again, as long as you let go.
Conflict
Its why with every passing year I lose hope....Its why I wish people who had good relationships that didn't quite work out would be happier.
themanwhoisalternatelyrudeandpolite
Losing something great can fuck you up, sometimes you never move on and that's how it is. But you gotta keep trying. Never know what'll be.
bookwielder
I've been in both places and I gotta say losing someone was just as bad as when I thought no one wanted me.
Conflict
Well I'd take my chances. I turn 25 in late June and I've never had a gf.
bookwielder
I'm not arguing against relationships, but there's a reason so many people build walls when relationships go sour.