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Mar 14, 2021 8:12 AM
MovieCaveDave
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SpiceSlag
Been there. Happy to say that it's not as bad anymore but it took a long while to get here, lots of psychotherapy and my own efforts as well
sonicfusion2k
Fuck, right in the feels.
EastofPeoriaSomewhere
TheGoodKaren
heh... Time to take my meds
etherbunny41
"I want to do so much, but my body won't get up."
LieselSkywalker
I’m in this picture and - meh
Hellrzr33
Me
milkymilkdrinker
Well put
OneTARDIStoRuleThemAll
Best way to work on this is to face these fears willingly. You don’t become less scared, you just become braver.
RickRollable
Good description
jixathejinx
This too.
PhantomOfSaltLand
I relate to this on so many levels, i hate it, i wish i didn’t feel this way.
DumbShitIsMyTrigger
Ok but how do I stop please
1newb
Break the cycle. Make a list of things to be done to better yourself. Start small. i had the simple act of flossing my teeth to start
Morepicturesofcats
Fear of failure but no urge to be productive. God! Being self aware makes this so damn frustrating!
cutepiku
Hey, that's what I have!
NullifiedMatrixEntry
If only I didnt do THAT back then.... I wouldnt be here right now, but over there. Freezes in place in hyper speed.
iii900
This describes me except I don’t feel like I am anxious or depressed.
cals10
I hate it so much.
redstang1
Have come to the conclusion that's exactly what I'm going thru. Massive fear of failure but little ability to take action.
MovieCaveDave
Lack of motivation is a very key sign, as is fear of failure and needing to please, we are all here, ignore the haters, you are doing amaz.
redstang1
Also - the knowledge that like, half the population battles this so feel like I shouldn't complain adds to the stress in a bizarre way.
WoofBastard
So, it's a Tuesday, is what you're saying.
DanielTheCanadian
Yo... get out of my head
AlanaCheesePrince
This, is too relatable
Mellayellafella1441
Voydom
I noticed something was wrong with me when I saw person on TV having a heart attack and my first thought was what a lucky guy ...
Voydom
So now my new moto is IDGAF. I do my best and if it is not enough, so be it.
ImAGrower
Yup me too. Have got to a point that work isn't important enough to be affecting my health so much. Been working 45hours avg out in
ImAGrower
public through this who pandemic and nothing from work to show thanks for it. And I've reached a point I'm going to start getting my life vs
ImAGrower
Balance back no matter what and if they don't like it too bad. They lied to me during my interview saying they had good balance...
RideTheStimutacs
It helps finding a person you want to be around even when you feel like that. Unfortunately I found that person in early March 2020.
MovieCaveDave
Exactly, having someone willing to put up with your good, bad and inbetween is so so important, it makes life a little easier ??
RideTheStimutacs
Yeah, like I said though, I found them right before the pandemic. Worst timing in my entire life.
Yick
Any advice for someone suffering the above?
johnwilliams123
I recommend acceptance-based therapy if you haven't tried it. It turned me into a new person! Google radical acceptance. Also, the cause>
johnwilliams123
of your depression is likely in your upbringing, so I recommend psychoanalysis. I study clinical psychology and therapies, so clim88>
johnwilliams123
or anyone needs psychotherapy or anything, feel free to contact me. I know the struggle, so I try to help people :)
PandaPie
1) What works for me: persevere and double up on self-care: stick to a routine, make the bed, eat nourishing meals, cut out unhelpful
PandaPie
2) thoughts and habits. Also, it will pass. I now see it as a cold. Yeah, it's hard to breathe but it won't always be like that.
DogLuckyLuckyDog
Start with trying to do ANYTHING that can break the cycle, then get a therapist. If you can't afford the you have to actively try to change
johnwilliams123
Try "shadow work" and/or "parenting yourself"
Frogfox
For a simple place to start try a sudden burst of cold. Rub snow on your face or take a quick cold shower or put your hands in cold water.
Frogfox
This can help kinda reset or snap you out of physical sensation of anxiety which makes it easier to the steps towards the more difficult
Frogfox
Things like finding a therapist or reaching out for help.
EpilatorAlligatorBothReduceGrowth
Therapy and medication. My antidepressants makes it possible to lift my head up of the water and get out the door to have one social interac
EpilatorAlligatorBothReduceGrowth
/2 -tion a day, plus able to cook a meal or two and take care of my daughter and dog, and work. Like almost normal, but much slower.
sickandtired365
I added asthma on top of that. Figuring out if I’m having an anxiety attack or an asthma attack is a fun little game we play.
iwilldownvoteyourcat
asthma, the medically accepted term for anxiety
BearsDontCare
I hope you aren't serious.
iwilldownvoteyourcat
this is imgur, i don't have to be serious. here's someone who was serious tho https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15184694/
BearsDontCare
Evaluating comorbidity =/= asthma is anxiety.
iwilldownvoteyourcat
not for everyone, no, but perhaps it does for a few more people than you're aware of. we'll figure it out eventually.
GunLovingTreeHugger
My fave is being too drained to be productive and too riddled with guilt to actually relax. You just end up regretting having tried.
iCurse
So.. Weekends?
EpilatorAlligatorBothReduceGrowth
This. It is exhausting to just exist at times, having to breathe deeply just by the thought of getting dressed after a shower. Effing brain!
MuttleyMutterson
Mines finally getting a handle on the day at 9pm. Sitting down exhausted. Go to bed, anxiety for tomorrow begins, can't sleep.
pleaseuseotherdoor
The only real rest I get is when I'm ill. The only time I don't feel guilty for not being productive.
AmericanFamilyrama
Same here. Then one day I’ll have so much energy I literally clean everything. The next day I’m more mentally and physically drained (1)
AmericanFamilyrama
than ever. WHAT GIVES!?!? (2)
wulfricthewhite
Throw in a dash of perpetual exhaustion. There you go.
BagofSadness
Any ideas to... like? Escape the cycle??
GunLovingTreeHugger
I just make lists of like 5 small goals and then once they are done I call it good and start fresh the next day.
MadoraM
Start small, do 1 thing - e.g. Make your bed. Not change sheets, just put covers head to foot, pillows at top. That’s it! But do it every >
MadoraM
> day. Then when the ”you’re lazy etc” bit starts in your head, you can counter with “Nope, made my bed, f* off.” Plus it’s nice, to just >
MadoraM
>> get into a made bed. Once that becomes routine, add another small thing (laundry in basket, dishes in washer, etc). Not a whole chore, >>
MadoraM
>>> just part of one. Build up to a whole chore, then start building to another. Small makes it less overwhelming and less devastating >>>
fatguyinnalittlecoat
Holy fuck... this is exactly my life.
Bluekitten03
You are not alone
eggsiseggsss
Same...ugh!
AfterTheRainComesTheRainbow
Same. I've tried to study and my brain flips out when things get hard, I try and I literally can't do it anymore and quit
dorpjorp
This is mostly everybody's life. Those are just basic human emotion ranges. It's similar to how psychics and horoscopes lure you in. Common.
flamingflamingo
I used to think this way until I finally went to therapy. Found my new normal: relatively happy most of the time and not constantly scared.
ToughTurtle
That is my life too. I thought that this was everyone. I’m 31 this isn’t normal?
awildcharmander
I think it's more normal for millennials to be fucked up than for them to be positive, motivated people.
Lepercake
I'm 32 and rest assured we're all fucking miserable, and no it's not covid.
ImAGrower
Depending on where you live it much more common then other places. It's the life styles we have been forced into to just get by.
booboolouie
Mine too. But mine really became bad because my ex would constantly play mind games and was a manipulative gaslighter.
maddmaddie3
I need to slow down when reading. I thought you said gunslinger.
awildcharmander
haha, same.
johnwilliams123
It sounds like you were dating a narcissist. It means one/both of your parents were narcissist. You might have been abused as a kid >
johnwilliams123
and is now a bit codependent.
Mysteriouswaffle
Same. Now I’m so confused emotionally trying to date again is very stressful and I can’t tell how I feel half the time
awildcharmander
Seriously, I have no idea what to feel anymore, I just feel numb towards everyone I talk to, then guilty that I didn't feel anything
ShloobyRoo
Glad to hear the ex part. Hope you are doing better now
booboolouie
Not sure if I'll trust again. Is there not a decent guy out there? I'll be okay, just mad that I believed his crap.
Folio77
Yes fine... so how do I fix it?
hitthatbomb
Understand you are going to die screaming anyway and don’t have time for this bullshit. Now get off your ass and live.
johnwilliams123
Try "shadow work" and/or "parenting yourself"
CautiousAngel
Therapy and CBD.
katwa
Therapy and meds.
crapolacoaster
Cognitive behavioral therapy might help
grantavius
Oranges help, but not a lot.
johnwilliams123
I recommend acceptance-based therapy if you haven't tried it. It turned me into a new person! Google radical acceptance. Also, the cause>
johnwilliams123
of your depression is likely in your upbringing, so I recommend psychoanalysis. I study clinical psychology and therapies, so Folio77>
johnwilliams123
or anyone needs psychotherapy or anything, feel free to contact me. I know the struggle, so I try to help people :)
BlacknCrimsonRose
Talk to a doctor and be clear about everything you feel leading up to depression and anxiety episodes. They can be symptoms of other issues>
BlacknCrimsonRose
>like ADHD, autism spectrum issues, bipolar disorders, etc. These are found with behavioral health evals, not therapies. 2/3
BlacknCrimsonRose
Source: hubby's doc sent him for behavioral health eval to see if ADHD was the root cause of his depression.
attofreak
But so far for me at some point you just get bored of it & adapt around it. Human brain is amazing like that
astraecat
Are you like.. 80 years old and have found inner peace or something?
attofreak
So if I don't treat it as an insurmountable crisis, I committed wrongthink? Giving people hope that they can adapt around their situation>
attofreak
popped your bubble? Keep up with circlejerk