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Jul 5, 2024 2:09 PM
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gizmoat14
As someone single, working a bar with no debt or health insurance, let alone a retirement plan, 36. The weirdness becomes passe, and you just start to just see people doing the best they can with what they have. We could all use a friend, and I wish I reached out more when I was a bit younger. Making up for lost time now ;)
Zootsoot
The party starts when YOU start it.
I swear- I met the nicest and most amazing people when I was sitting in a coffee shop after moving to a new place. But, I was super lonely as a kid. So I like to reach out in case others are lonely too.
klean9
I’m getting a coffee by myself at 70. I would love to have gotten with my high school buddies but one killed himself at 40, another died of cancer at 58 and my best friend dropped dead at 62
GrowinWildontheFunnyFarm
I was 31, a manager, just purchased a home, married 11 years with one child. I was fine. Now I'm 33, disabled, demoted then fired for the disability, cant drive, just had a pregnancy scare ON birth control, and had to update mine and partner's wills. Life comes at you fast.
or0b0ur0s
They were right about the breakdown of society, of social norms & mores, of relationships. They were wrong in that it's not a matter of immorality or progressivism or even technology. It's a matter of conservative economics methodically destroying anything that doesn't pad its bottom line. We will rebuild our society, our families & relationships, hopefully more inclusively this time... but only once the rampant exploitation of neo-feudalism is reversed.
1eudaemonia
“why is everyone in their 20s” me a 40 year old entering a hip coffees shop’.
trippingthelightfantastic
Jawesome19
This is society. If it took you into ypur 20s to realize the giant disparity between different economic classes then guess what, you weren't poor.
MustHailSagan
I keep telling all these youngsters stop buying avocado toast or you’ll be sorry it’s not like record housing rent and inflation or a recent global pandemic and worsening climate change has anything to do with your issues
IncrediRis
ouch
localdisturbance
you lost me at 'enter coffee shop'
SuperMarketAdventure
You're right, I always morph into a coffee shop when needed, no need to go to one
McJersey
Me too! To make it more accurate, it should have said, "I wrote this at a coffee shop."
evoroadster
You just described life. Most of us have had to fight to get where we are now. Some lose, and some win. You keep on fighting.
arikelrecords2000
I think that as children and going through public school, everything is structured. Everyone in your age group is going through most of the same stuff. Then you graduate high school and are told "Good luck!"
Now some people go to college, some get jobs, some live lives if relative leisure, your parents are in various stages of letting go. Most of all the next step, and the next , and the next are up to you and what you've been given. And that's hard.
TheMooseyOne
We are afraid to confront the reality that most of human effort is still focused on enriching the oil companies, banks, and military industrial complex. We feel lost because admitting we are getting robbed by these institutions every single day is brutal.
prawnklng
iwanderedlonelyasacloud
Oh I feel ya…so deeply
blancomeow
You, if you need to tell someone how you’re alone. I’m happy to listen <3
MimirOfTheBifrostTeats
"They're sharing a drink they call loneliness, but it's better than drinking alone"
deathmagiks
And the piano? It sounds like a carnival! And the microphone smells like a beer! And they sit at the bar and put bread in my jar and say "Man... what are YOU doin here????"
TI99Kitty
Sing us a song...
ByronGetronfree
When they hit their 40s none of these people will talk to each other any more.
koyote84
Do I have to be in my 20's to feel this?
taez555
Yeah, I remember feeling that way in my 20's. It's weird to think that was 20 years ago and now I look back on those as the good old days when things were easier and less stressful. God this world sucks. Hopefully the next 20 years gets better. :-)
alcamar
PosthumousExile
Sounds like I shouldn't hang in there honestly
slack3rdav3
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taez555
Thank god for Tequila!!! :-)
APassingPlasticBag
I remember thinking wow these adults have everything figured out and can do what they want to only realize that 1 no they didn’t 2 being 30 feels like it did being 20 except random pains and I make noises when I stand up, and also you’ll never have what our parents/grandparents did because they set the ladder on fire and stood over it laughing as we struggled to even achieve a fraction of what they did at my age. My dad built our house at my age with a salary equal to mine. I barely make rent
BeckyLookAtHerButt
Yeah. I don't think it was everyone that set the ladder on fire. I think it was wealthy / powerful people that decided that they "needed" more and starting tilting things in their favor. Your parents got lucky to buy property before the rules changed and they don't understand how much the rules have changed.
nicko0
I’m using the WiFi to download torrents
Dinwiddie
''And the waitress is practicing politics
As the businessmen slowly get stoned... Sing us a song..."
snowinmyboots
Say hello to as many people as possible. Smile and connect
bananaspitz
So much of the internet is full of telling people what to do, how to think, what to be. It seems so many of you in your 20, 30 and even your 40s had such structured childhoods you never really got to find out your strengths. You really didnt find what you were truly capable of. Protective parents probably didnt help
sherlockhooves
The kid with a guaranteed car, job, and house is most likely the biggest douche bag you'll ever meet.
Bugguts1957
As the Talking Heads so eloquently put it “ Same as it ever was “
RowanUnderwood
I am absolutely better off now than I was in my twenties. Depression and anxiety under control, have a place to live, a tolerable job, a nice wife and amazing kid. Makes no difference . . . I still FEEL that it was better back then even though I know it wasn't. (German's probly have a word for that).
BeckyLookAtHerButt
Der nostalgia
TI99Kitty
Scheiße
betterave
Plot twist: it’s just as lonely and bizarre in your 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s. So far.
FloodingWaters
Written by someone fresh out of school, where they are grouped by age. Now they are in the wider world and as it turns out, it's bigger and more diverse.
zoeytg
In my mid 30s, I accepted things weren't just going to magically get better for me. I started asking help after realizing there are life skills I didn't have. Learned from others try things out for "fun" which was a new concept. Wound up meeting my wife eventually. Not so lonely. I had no idea just how poorly I was equipped for life. I had maladaptive behaviors and thinking I didn't even know where maladative.
ShutUpMeh
Aww, c'mon man.....
neverhappytoasterdog
Came here to say this too. You get more used to the feelings, so they’re not quite so intense, but nothing becomes magically easy or smooth or comfortable.
iDrawStuff
Where I live, I know of a PhD who scrubs toilets. I wish I was making this up.
Hurch
As a 64 year old, I see things happening in my country that I had never imagined could happen here. What the actual fuck?
PenguinRiderKing
Yeah just kinda changes but stays the same eh? Stranger hugs.
nicilaskin
agree 100% , we are all so disconnected even though we are constantly connected
HolyCringeLordBatman
I find the whole concept so bizzare. My wife and I are still in contact with our circle of friends we've had since highschool. We're on discord every single night dicking around and playing games, just like we have since highschool. Early 30s for reference.
Tarmaccian
The real reason people thing it's so weird being a young adult in their 20s is because they still think things will improve just because they'll get older. It doesn't.
That moment in your late teens when you realized that you are who you are, and that's not going to change? That was the last epiphany you'll get. From then on, it's just a daily grind of "slowly try to get stable" until you die. Welcome to adulthood.
madeejit
There's one more epiphany ahead if you're lucky; saying "Fuck Off" early, and often. So many problems are really other people's problems that they're trying to make into your problem. The fuck outta here with that shit.
PicassoCT
More so actually. You have seen shit. You have seen how they turned on each other in the office, stabbing each other in the back, stealing and selling out at scale, to climb over each other. You have seen family betray each other to inherit. You seen the real horrible ideas behind those steely smiles. You ve seen the things people are ready to do, to have the world in there head, match the world around them. You seen all those trampled, no longer with you..
PicassoCT
Would you talk to any of these people if you had a choice?
TheWombatStrikesAgain
But once I reach my 70s, I'll be golden, right? Right? RIGHT???
CedricDur
Well, golden years at least.
betterave
Well, I must say the IDGAF does increase with age, overall.
SaladinIskander
I'm only in my 30's but I've noticed myself looking forward to retirement lately. Never even considered it before. Now I'm wondering if I can even afford to retire when the time comes. I probably should have started planning for this earlier. Yet it seems so far away and not at the same time.
KuroFluff
If we keep trying to a better future, then yes, maybe.
Snooj
You mean *if* you reach your 70s. Also, no.
HubicPairs
True, that’s why they call them the Golden Years.