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Fast and easy - 3.

Today I went to my first consultation with a gynecologist to discuss forms of contraception. I was sent to this woman via my primary doctor to specifically discuss tubal ligation. I FULLY expected for her to say no, given the amount of research I’ve done on other people’s experiences with the procedure and my societal status. However, I’m very bothered by her reasoning. I am a person who is extremely unorthodox and do not find fulfillment and value in traditions like most people. I explained to her that I’ve been through a lot of traumatic events in my life, and I literally do not have the emotional capacity to mother a child. In addition, I have tried other forms of contraception which did nothing but damage my mental health. I was on the pill for 12 years and it turned me into a hormonal monster. I know that I need to stick to my guns and remain educated and persistent in my battle to get my tubes tied. It’s just pathetic that I even have to battle in the first place. Luckily, the gynecologist is going to get me in contact with the head of the department so I can HOPEFULLY convince him. I have also made a document of the pros and cons of having kids from reliable sources, and my own personal reasons for not wanting kids. My philosophy professor always told me, “Never make an argument for those that already agree with you.” That being said, I will always consider all sides to an argument, and I will always do my best to understand. But if I end up regretting the procedure (although I will absolutely not), it’s my own regret, not her’s. Also, there are plenty of kids in the world that need a home that I would gladly adopt if I did end up regretting it. If anyone has gone through this same battle, advice or tips would be greatly appreciated !!!

****UPDATE*****
My gynecologist (who had originally said no) just messaged me and thanked me for the research that I’ve done on tubal ligation and said that if I still wanted the procedure in 3 months, that she would do it. AHHH, I AM ELATED RIGHT NOW! Thank you so much to everyone who messaged/commented with helpful advice. I appreciate you all tremendously. Your advice will undoubtedly help the many others who are unfortunately suffering through this same battle. This is the only form of social media I use regularly, and this is a prime example why. The Imgur community is the shit!
Also, this link has been mentioned in the comments numerous times, and is EXTREMELY helpful. If you or someone you know is trying to get tubal ligation or a vasectomy, I would suggest checking it out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/doctors/

THANK YOU AGAIN IMGUR FAM!!