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My boyfriend broke up with me a week before Valentine’s Day. Said he wants an “easy relationship”. I was really happy with him. We’ve been together for almost a year, we’re in our late 20’s.
Just needed to get this sadness out in a weirdly safe way. Thanks Imgur.
FP edit: thanks for the love everyone. Tbh I can’t blame him for leaving if it simply wasn’t what he wanted. And clearly I must have played some role in the ending.
Take good care of one another.
Sinia
An easy relationship? Those don't exist. The guy is delusional, good riddance!
Stenledsen
I assume that you made his life hard.
gratefulheart
Sorry to hear that, @OP. I’ve also recently going through a breakup. Be gentle on yourself. Remember you are lovable.
itsFlnkR
I feel yah. Girlfriend broke up with me cause I was worried when she was hanging out with guys I didn’t know.
InfinitySpade
MY two best friends just decided to start dating. Im in love with both of them. it feels like getting dumped....
ExistenceIsPainWasTakem
Onespeed
BoneThatTrombone
It's breakup season everywhere. Dont blame yourself, my woman cheated on me four days ago and today is my birthday http://i.imgur.com/e1AOb
boopsboop2
My ex left me for essentially the same reason. He didn't want to work at it. Their loss. Nothing worthwhile comes easy.
killer10347
This is valid to some extent, but sometimes it's more practical to work for 500 hours to get a new car than to fix an old one in 1000 hours.
Jamnew60
An easy relationship, really! Your ex did you a big favor.
oscarthemexicanchiacuauadog
Chin up! He’ll likely be back in 2 weeks
pantzequalpooped
I know all too well the pain. Depending on the relationship, it can pass and leave you with lessons and memories, or it can fester (1/2)
pantzequalpooped
for years and years as an unanswered, open question, that grabs your soul by the entrails and won't let go.
GraveSituationNation
Hugs to you. Hope you feel better. There are so many people who are expressing the same thing today. Must be something in the water
IamfunatpartiesIknow
I'm sorry. Did you at least understand the reason he left?
TeamCockAndBullz
There’s no such thing as an easy relationship...
TurtIeproof
@OP
russiandobby
He can have an easy relationship with his hand
killer10347
Sometimes that's worth it.
OiHelloThere
Same thing happened to me 2 years ago. Right now I'm sitting next to someone that I love even more and planning on buying a house with 1/2
OiHelloThere
2/2 somewhere in the coming months. Hang in there, it will only get better.
HedgepigsAndBeans
Wasn’t the right one OP, enjoy the good memories and don’t hold any bitterness.. you’ll grow from this :)
BustCheeks
RagtimeBetty
just got dumped after 5.5 yrs, he moved out today. This helped, thank you.
HedgepigsAndBeans
irenesaviolaki
Let him go ! Easy is boring . Look for the one and special for you .
2sday
It's going to be okay, OP. Gf pretty much left me b/c she had feelings for my friend, I choose to try to heal vs being angry, I deserve 1/2
2sday
better. I have awesome and supportive friends. It's also my birthday month, planning to make it amazing for myself. 2/2
RedWineLipStain
don't you think it was better to end it with you instead of leading you on when she had feelings for someone else?
2sday
She said she still loves me. I don't know if she wants polyamory, but the way she went abt it was messed up. I was going to marry her...
iamayellowteapot
Hey it’s almost been a year since I broke up with my ex (didn’t want to but he was manipulating me) and you will grow so much @OP 1/?
iamayellowteapot
Just take the time and you do you. Grow from that boys mistakes.
ShapesofKindness
I’m sorry this happened to you. You deserve so much better. For now, just focus on you and treat yourself well. Things will get better
Naturally90
How do you know this? She could have been making his like a misery
ghostys
Finally someone who doesn't just automatically take op's side
Tootsie1
If he shows up after Valentine's day, tell him you need a real man and to take a hike. He just didn't want to spend money for Valentine's.
killer10347
Yep, if the only reason he left her is because he wanted to avoid spending money on Valentines day without owning up to it, he's trash.
gigsra
But only AFTER he gives you flowers and chocolates. Free is free
killer10347
That's kinda pathetic.
gigsra
Apparently y’all can’t take a joke
HPCmonkey
What does "an easy relationship" even mean? Your ex sounds like a real confused dude. Glad you aren't tied down to him anymore, though.
geonerd
Is @op a magazine?
DeusExSpockina
It could be that op is high maintenance. It could be that the ex wants woman who will ‘take care of him’. Could be they didn’t quite fit.
Liquidbullets
If you're not even together a year and the relationship is hard, it's probably not a good fit. "Tied down to him" lol what?
30Jonseredi
It means a relationship between 2 normal, comparable, thoughtful, sincere and interesting people get together without any extra luggages>
30Jonseredi
>like lifestyle defining diseases/problems, mental issues and so on. Pretty simple concept as we're talking about short-term relationships.
Rhythmaster
It means he doesn't want to say the real reason...
CheetahFart
I wouldn't judge someone just from a random meme about them on Imgur. Sometimes thing don't work out.
Thaskippy
Perhaps he needed a relationship where someone wasn't shouting at him every day.
infinityLAO
Maybe he felt like him and op werent compatible anymore and it felt forced to him at that point and wanted something that just works natural
ghostys
That's what I thought as well, everyone is to easy to hate on the people without knowing the full situation
HPCmonkey
I didn't hate at all. I said he sounds confused. From the limited information we have it's the conclusion which needs the least assumption.
TipsyMcStagger
Less drama
Goatsarepeople
You fuck then eat then don't talk to each other till you need to fuck again. It's pretty simple.
Skizzlesnap
Ever think that OP might be a huge pain in the ass? Not everyone posting a break up sob story is free of guilt in the scenario.
HPCmonkey
I find that often very few people in general are without fault. I've yet to meet one such person.
killer10347
You don't know OP. You're just falling into a variant of the fundamental attribution error, in that you automatically take OP's side.
ghostys
AMEN
LeDrouais
That's some rare honesty here
bonafideassent
It’s true. There’s no way he was only to blame in this situation. Working on figuring out my role and putting energy into fixing that.
killer10347
If only more people were like this :) Good luck!
HPCmonkey
I hope you two can eventually end up friends, once the hurt heals a bit, @OP.
rusrsdude
An easy relationship would just be hookups and hanging out when he needs something. Etc..
HPCmonkey
That would be friends with benefits.
TheeRealDuke
Could be. Could also mean one with simply less constant conflict. Between friend groups, family, distance, job hours, school conflicts, etc.
HPCmonkey
That would just be a healthy relationship which has their scheduling worked out.
Ghost0fDawn
he wants something that doesnt exist.
vobra
Yea 3 years in and mines no sweat.
SheWolf04
Was just going to say this.
Naturally90
8 years strong and my relationship is pretty fucking easy with a few golden rules.
HeDaGeiBoi
I gotta hear these golden rules; they better involve more gold, like showers
Naturally90
5/ never point out negative things/nag and moan just for the sake of it, look for solutions.
Naturally90
6/ be fucking nice to each other, plenty of love and affection. So many snuggles! Plenty of laughing!
Naturally90
3/ it's how you recognise this within yourself and make amends for it that counts. Be understanding if your SO does the same
Naturally90
1/ My key rule is: don't sweat the small stuff, if you're gonna get upset about something make sure it's something very important, otherwise
HeDaGeiBoi
Tbh these golden rules really sound like counter-women emotional as apposed to logical response. Kudos young Jedi
Naturally90
2/ you need to let it go. Another, always admit when you're wrong and apologise. We're all human and can get irrational/unduly upset
Naturally90
7/ be as equal as you can, and pull your weight financially and at home. Pay things proportionate to your salaries and both do the housework
ikariann
You guys definitely know what you're doing!
Naturally90
If you want a golden shower speak to your SO about it when you both have time to chat about your needs/wants.
HeDaGeiBoi
No, because i respect my counterpart too much to piss on them like an Abu Ghraib prisoner
Naturally90
4/ talk through the tough stuff, if you feel strongly about something, talk about how things make you feel instead of passing blame
EatsBees
Girl, I have the recipe for the BEST chocolate chip cookies ever. Get friends, make em, drink wine, watch some movies until you pass out
puppup124
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slothrobot
May I have it as well, please? I've been super stressed lately, cookie-wine night with homies might help. :)
EatsBees
It's been posted!!
FoxkoxPrince
I love cookies, I could use it too
EatsBees
It's posted!! Enjoy!
Hamsammiches
May I join in the deliciousness of homemade chocolate chip cookies as well?
EatsBees
Check out my profile for my posts!
kieryu
Ooo! Can I get recipe too?
EatsBees
Posted!!
sazbazlaz
May I have the recipe please?
EatsBees
Posted! Enjoy
sazbazlaz
On it! Thank you :)
DontLookAtMeInThatToneOfVoicee
At this stage I think you should just post the recipe.. *eats a bee*
EatsBees
I did, just now!!
DontLookAtMeInThatToneOfVoicee
WOOOOOOOOOOOO!!
bonafideassent
Yes please :)
EatsBees
Posted!!
maxyinnyang
Can I have it too!?
EatsBees
I posted it! :)
Satherian
Consider me....interested
EatsBees
Let me know if you want the recipe! It's too good to keep to myself, I've spent some time fiddling with it
Satherian
Oh definitely! I could add it to my family's cookbook! Lil Sis would love trying them out
Darla626
May I have recipe too? Love a good cookie recipe!
Lemonaded
Are there any bees in these cookies?
EatsBees
None, I probably :)
EatsBees
Errr... promise
Arehel
Sooo... Can I have the recipe as well? I just screwed an exam I have been studying for like crazy for a month. Need cookies and wine!
EatsBees
Absolutely!!
MietzFietz
me too please! :)
EatsBees
Posted!!
MietzFietz
woohooo thank you :)
goombaguy
Could I also? I'm in a somewhat similar scenario, and the lead up to this blasted holiday is killer.
mischiefmanaged731
So, you gonna post said recipe? Lol. Imgurs need this recipe.
EatsBees
I absolutely did post it, thanks to you!! Love your username!!
amed1c
Yo send that shit my way (please and thank you!)
pennarsson
Seeing your username, I am a bit suspicious about the recipe...
EatsBees
No bees, I promise!! Just posted the recipe, actually. Probs in user sub
Foxsayy
If you posted it, it's not publicly posted.
EatsBees
Try going to my profile? Or search under the fuckdiets tag
Foxsayy
Lol I glanced at your posts and assumed the rad colorful pic was an art post. I see it
TheRealDurdan
Some people don’t have friends
EatsBees
Then you make them for you because we all need special treats, now and then!!
TheRealDurdan
I think this was a reply to the wrong person
EatsBees
Nope! I meant everything I said :)