ShearWind
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Apr 12, 2017 11:20 AM
ShearWind
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uberdooper
From all us suckers that went through the same thing, good on you bro keep doin that good shit
Mentleman
but mommy told me im pretty! make sure she doesnt become arrogant because nobody likes arrogant people, otherwise good idea. :)
WinterGrasp
Until her crush tells her otherwise
JayTheUnicorn
My family didn't hug me, but they did tell me to learn how to cook or I'd die alone. I worked out great! *rocks in a corner*
SmugCat742
Cocacoladinosaur
What a confession! Must have been really hard for you to admit this.
squip
You tell her. You tell her she is good, she is kind, and she is important.
19931117
Well you had a baby with someone so someone thought you were beautiful
Vectorman2
beautiful *enough
Sistergldnhair
Make sure you tell her you love her no matter what she looks like. Nurture her character not just her self esteem.
ArchChancellorRidcullywantstoseeyourboobies
tell her she's smart too, don't want her to think looks are all that matters
KarmaRaven23
My mom told be all she wanted was for me to get out of HS w/o getting pregnant. I want slightly more for my daughter.
whooshby
My daughter is super gorgeous & everyone has told her constantly since she was a baby. Now her self esteem is tied to her looks.
IfYouAreOffendediWasJustJoking
Truth hurts so they say
ShearWind
Indeed it does....but maybe a tiny lie would've been helpful, ya' know?
TeenGirlSquad
I thought this was going to say, "I tell daughter she is beautiful, but honestly she's kind of homely." Glad it went a diff direction.
Falsie
Paha, internet shit ruins us on what to expect now. I thought it'd be something jacked too.
SKELETONMAAAN
Just be honest. Give them a realistic image of themselves. Don't treat them like they are the best human being on this planet.
Candyman216
"Sweetheart, you're a solid 6, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise."
notargeto
But what if she is ugly?
mrgrynch
The fact it worries you worries me.. wait..
SweetSouthernPeach
Make sure you tell her she is smart more than beautiful. Children try to mimic what they believe themselves to be.
Falsie
This. Kids always try to upkeep the thing they're praised on so they'll keep being special for that. Give her compliments in general & GJ
threecheersforsweetrevenge
Also let her know that she is no better or worse than others. Let her know how much she's worth. How amazing all of her traits are 1/2
threecheersforsweetrevenge
I struggle to trust people who call me pretty, and when I'm told I'm good enough. This is a wonderful thing to do for your baby, but 2/3
threecheersforsweetrevenge
Also let her know that she is more than just looks (btw, not judging or preaching. I just wanted to give my input) 3/3
Ostinisdehsechz
i tell my 4 yo she's beautiful all the time. now she's extremely vain. GOTTA KNOCK HER DOWN A PEG.
smoothoprater
Your use of cap locks worries me
Ostinisdehsechz
the fact it worries you, worries me.
27yoUGLYvirgin
I wish I had had someone like that in my life when I grew up. Especially as a guy, we never hear that. I believed I was
27yoUGLYvirgin
abhorrently ugly all my life. Nobody ever told me otherwise, not a single time in my entire life. Now at almost 30 I found out I'm
27yoUGLYvirgin
apparently even rather attractive. But now that time is gone and nothing can undo all that pain and self hate and loneliness.
DelicateMenstrualQueef
This. This why as someone who dates dudes, I've made sure to tell them, repeatedly, what I like about how they look.
purple0king
Op is beautiful, a faggot, but beautiful.
xBenoitBallsx
On the inside
SarcasticComment
OP is the most beautiful faggot of the bunch.
Testicles
Ehhh I get where you are coming from, but saying that everyday will give her a false sense of like trust in your opinion on things. Like
Testicles
From personal experience, my mom and family always said I was handsome when I was younger and growing up, but I was told otherwise by
Testicles
Everyone at school at whatnot. So whenever I ask my family about their opinion on things like if I look good in something or even if I'll do
Testicles
Well in a competition, I know what they are gonna say and don't take it to heart because they are just being nice. I would much like a more
Testicles
Honest Criticism and follow up advice so I can learn.
Testicles
I think I explained that right...
Frisbeetime420
My line to both my kids (4mos and 2) is "Hi its your dad I love you" i want "dad" and "i love you" to be inseparable in their little heads
AnalBumCoverFor7000Alex
I ask my boys, "who are we?" "Gentlemen!" "what else?" "Fierce warriors!"
AnalBumCoverFor7000Alex
Oh! Forgot the most important part: we grunt and flex too!
Frisbeetime420
I love it! If I steal it and we scream it before attacking a trampoline I'll credit you :D
AnalBumCoverFor7000Alex
You're quite welcome to steal it, as long as you flex and grunt too!
ClimbThemCrimps
I study behavior therapy stuff. I like this. Keep that up.
MrSpankalot
I tought my 4 year old daughter to tell her mom 'It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again' when she gets out of 1/2
MrSpankalot
The shower. It is the longest English line she knows (we are Dutch). What does your education tell you about that?
ClimbThemCrimps
That's a great big sentence for her to know in another language at that age! Great job!
mobiustwo
Not a confession bear
Mairoa
Adults telling me I was pretty or something was good when it wasn't taught me I can't trust ANY compliment, and positive= lies
letstalknews
Doing this also has a negative backlash as well, it be like telling your kid they are the best ever...if they fail its a catastrophe.
Redwind007
you need a bit of both,, I tell my girl she is beautiful and reinforce her as much as i can but if we're playing a game I don't "let" herwin
Redwind007
(not always anyway)
KarmaRaven23
You tell them they are great, and you call them out when they fuck up. That is how you raise balanced kids.
letstalknews
O yes too much 1 way or the other is bad.
Schmedes
So basically everybody growing up nowadays with their participation award?
letstalknews
No more like occasionally you tell them doing anything everyday has negative backlash....
dannyb85
Agreed, I did this with my daughter and thought it was a good thing, but had the oppposite effect, she now feels she has to be the best 1/2
dannyb85
In everything she does all the time, so now we're trying to teach her losing is ok and that you learn from making mistakes, but now 2/3
dannyb85
I regret going down this path. Some encouragement is good, too much is bad and leads to trying too hard to be the best everytime. 3/3
letstalknews
Im at this point with my child i put them in track so they can see that losing is ok & hard work can change your outcome.
Sebastan
Moderation. No one, including me, ever seems to know what it is anymore.
letstalknews
Very true tough thing to get your head around as a parent.
Mtnmanmike
knowing and practicing are not the same.
skelitor120
I don't think that his daughter is gonna wake up one day and suddenly be ugly to him, though.
letstalknews
She mite to herself if she gets pimples or acne or a weight problem happens
threecheersforsweetrevenge
Or just starts comparing herself to others, and starts to feel like she isn't good enough
letstalknews
Yeah that too.
MadmareMally
i am the one who calls me ugly. what do
pleaseletmetouchyourbutt
What do gooby
Neintendo
Gooby pls
seentoomuchdeath
You make your life great for yourself, have fun, build your confidence, and someone will find you very attractive!
Vectorman2
U-G-L-Y, I aint got no alibi, I'm ugly!
GeezMomEnlightenUp
My fix for this, I stop and ask myself if I would say the same things about another. Be as generous with yourself as you are to others.
NoLongerFoamingWolffo
Hey. @MadmareMally ... You're beautiful :)
PrincessWasabi
What's your favorite thing about yourself ? Find something and focus on it! You are beautiful and amazing :)
popejubal
Know that you are loved, even if you're ugly and even if you don't feel like you deserve love. You are still loved.
ChallengerDeep
I'm not going to blow sunshine up your butt and tell you you're beautiful. But I know fat people who got married and ugly people who 1/2
ChallengerDeep
2/2: got married. If you really want to find someone, they're out there. But champagne taste on a beer budget = forever alone.
ChallengerDeep
Also, no one else is going to look out for your interests. That's not their job. That's your job.
Stumpyz
Here's a technique that my therapist gave me for whenever I'm talking negatively about myself: If you catch yourself putting yourself (1/?)
Stumpyz
(cont) down, say two positive things about yourself. Always say one more positive thing than negative, and it'll help you to stop (2/?)
Stumpyz
(cont) falling into the habit of putting yourself down. Yes, you may slip up sometimes, but that's okay. Just keep trying.
JamieSmyth
Interesting...I'll let you know how I get on
MadmareMally
thanks for the advice
BurgerNippz
I don't have two good things about me tho hahaaaa
Stumpyz
Yes you do. It might take some searching and asking friends/family/positive influences what they like about you, but it's there. Trust (1/?)
itsthevoiceman
So...learn to lie about yourself, TO yourself?
boomdeadshot
Man... This sentiment resonates so much with me. I used to refuse to see any worth in myself -"I know myself best, and I KNOW I'm worthless"
boomdeadshot
Now, years later, I've begun to see that it's not true at all. That I have strengths, and gifts, and that my choices matter. It's a long
Stumpyz
Not at all. It may take a while to find positive things about yourself, but they are there. Just search for them, or ask friends/family(1/?)
Stumpyz
(cont) /positive influences in your life to tell you what they like about you, then hold onto those positives to remind yourself.
ShearWind
....try calling yourself pretty or sexy...?
FindusSomKatten
http://s2.quickmeme.com/img/53/53ebfa98cea7ef9d6e3efe87cff9df8cc7a518a37bc1b74944ebafcd272a9f8f.jpg
amira18
I snooped on op you look good, you also kinda remind me of phoebe from friends
ShearWind
TBH I started calling myself ugly too but then my current husband came along.I still do it but he does a helluva job convincing me otherwise
llortamai
Plot twist: Husband is blind. J/K, I saw your selfie, you've got nothing to worry about.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
Or just being honest with yourself? 2
OSCgal
This. I'm not conventionally beautiful. But I *do* like how I look. It comes w/ accepting that my looks don't "make" me.
RoseFaery
Please be careful of that around her, she's going to look a lot like you, & take her first cues about how to treat herself from you.
DunderMifflinInfinity
YES. My mom's own insecurities influenced me far more growing up than hearing my dad greet me with "hey pretty girl" every day.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
But what if you are "ugly"? What if you know you don't & will never fit into the conventional standards of beauty? Is it low self esteem 1?
liliantbn
I think it is because there's something pretty about you and you're not paying attention to. Learn to be less critical. In the mirror think/
liliantbn
2/ it's not you but a dear friend asking your advice. You want to help that friend feel better so you point to her the good atributes.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
And I'm ok with that. My husband loves me (I hope) and I have no beauty to morn when it "fades away". Shit thing is, my personality and 2
AngryVelvetUnicorn
My amazing autistic social skills keep most people away; I don't even have my mind to attract friends. Still wondering what hubs sees in me3
AngryVelvetUnicorn
Or maybe I realize that not everyone wins the genetic jackpot and I got the shallow end of the gene pool? I'm not pretty by any standards 1?
liliantbn
Then realize that beauty is overrated. There are better qualities. It matters more what one does and says. If someone is too beauty obsessed
liliantbn
2/ to care for you or like your other qualities then they are not worth your time or effort. Surround yourself with positive people.
sureasyourebornyourenevergoingtoseenounicorn
That's sweet op, but make sure you tell her she's kind,smart,hard working etc so she doesn't think her entire worth is based on her looks
Boobstuff
That's quite the non sequitur you've got there.
Fishticuffs
Only if she is all of those things. OP obviously thinks she's a hottie, but we don't have any info on those other attributes.
PaulLynde
/a/QQJJn
AGrammeIsBetterThanADamn
Came here for this!
hurdygurdybear
Make sure she knows how to confession bear too
mehlec
Excellent advice. Whole person approach
heymynamesterrylikethecloth
Obligatory "looks aren't that important" comment.
Fiadh
shuttlecockinakumquat
You is...
aquamaniam
Give credit where credit is due. Dont be a helicopter parent and think your child can do no wrong. When they don't work hard, let them know.
RawrImReallyNotGoodatThis
Or you end up marrying someone who has orange skin and runs for president..
Quelquefois
yep! good advice. My mom tells me I'm pretty every day and now it INFURIATES me because it means absolutely nothing at all.
Anklehurthumpthesink
And important
Kathalysa
lurkerconvert
Lesurous
Take out smart, replace with higher achieving. Remember a study that showed those that were told they were smart achieved less than other1/2
Lesurous
Kids who were told they worked harder, since they didn't believe they were ahead mentally than everyone else, nothing to hold them back. 2/2
dekket
This.
ThePsychicZombie
Or just don't lie to your ugly, mean, dumb, and/or lazy kids. Also, the best way to praise children is to reward effort.
Purplecrane
Came here to say this. Please build her confidence by complimenting her actual character, or prepare for huge self esteem issues in about 1>
Purplecrane
2 <... ten years or so.
Lilbush
for sure
BobDresden
This. My kid is really cute, but I always add his other good qualities too.
Zommie
only tell them stuff that is true though, otherwise you get a little shithead
XenoCore
You're kinda right, don't know why you're being downvoted. The best thing for someone right now is not always what is best for someone later
Zommie
because everyone is imagining me going up to a little kid's stick figure sketch, and slapping it out of their hand telling them they is shit
RobErtE87
Don't you remember Christina Aguillera?
jetflight
And never that she's objectively the most beautiful. That's just one-way ticket to needlessly inflated ego.
madamoizillion
Or crippling emotional distress over constant comparison with others.
jetflight
Or that, yeah.
eskamobob1
not commenting on OP at all, but there have been a lot of real interesting studdies recently on the difference between telling kids (1/2)
NoTrumpEver
beauty comes in the mind as well you know.
iamthisguy247
Good point. Sometimes as parents we over adjust based on our own experience and create a different set of issues.
inyeranes
Mom's parents was poor when she was young, so she gave me everything I wanted. I turned out spoiled and ungrateful. Wish that didn't happen.
gramma42ton
Everyone gets messed up psychologically by their parents. It's inevitable
Schmong
This reminds me of Dr. House for some reason
KleptoGizmo
Or you just transfer your issues onto the child
indrabar
As a parent, this is one of the things I am most terrified of: Foisting my own past onto my daughter and creating hell for her.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
This, exactly. And also they've found that praising children for things they do is better than praising them for what they are. Such as /1
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
"I like the way you did your hair today" rather than "you're so pretty", or "you worked really hard on this" rather than "you're so /2
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
smart". Although my daughter is 11 months old and I tell her like 50 times a day how beautiful she is, because I know I'll have to stop /3
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
once she understands what I'm saying. /4
icelandicsealbear
Being rewarded for intelligence is far more important IMHO
smoothoprater
Intelligence and looks are genetically determined. Being praised/criticised for something you cannot influence is unfair. It's more helpful
smoothoprater
to reward positive behaviours (hard work, open-mindedness, empathy, etc.)
icelandicsealbear
Neither of those are only genetic though. Hygiene is the easiest way to affect your looks, while studying a topic is the best way to learn.
smoothoprater
What you're referring to is knowledge then, not intelligence. Yes, knowledge should be rewarded. :)
icelandicsealbear
I guess I'm referring to the MIT Engineering definition. https://www.technologyreview.com/s/538341/debunking-the-genius-myth/amp/
Gayforbae
You is kind. You is smart. You is important.
kukupuff
SO TRUE. Some of us aren't good looking. And that's absolutely ok, we're not responsible for genetics, but we can build personal value.
DelicateMenstrualQueef
Yep. And even if you are one of the more pretty folks, looks can't carry you through most of the darkest times life has to offer.
kukupuff
And if we're lucky, we all age. Age is a great equalizer of beauty.
MyUsernameDoesntCheckout
I suppose we are all dust in the end *stares calmly into the distance*
Vectorman2
'Dad, am I pretty?' 'Listen Sally, Im gonna be honest here, you are GREAT at Monopoly! The way you get the railroads first? Top notch shit!'
SatansLover
You sound like my Jewish father
QueenSeaStar
This sounds like @SloppyJoe3141
FoxySpirit
"Dad, I am so alone ;_; " "Just stop being so weird."
irishnovember
Look unless she's using them as trade fodder railroads are useless. So Sally had better be drop dead gorgeous.
Blrp0
So she'd just buy them hoping that someone's dumb enough to want them.
DaddySchlongleg
Statistically railroads are the best investment in Monopoly
SomeDetroitGuy
No.
irishnovember
That's just not true
andergriff
not if you get them all.
irishnovember
They're railroads. Not pokemon. (I have no point. I just really wanted to make a pokemon joke)
GummyBearsDontHaveTeeth
Then they're slightly less useless
eskamobob1
they are smart vs telling them they did a good job, vs congratulating them for doing their best. Its a pretty interesting topic IMO (2/2)
HadMeSomeChickens
Congrats on trying your best with this post, but you really should reply to your own comment if it has multiple parts.
FlappyFeet
I'm interested in knowing more, do you happen to have the source nearby?
eskamobob1
http://www.uky.edu/~eushe2/mrg/MuellerDweck1998.pdf
eskamobob1
This is the only one I have on hand, but just look around google scholar on praising children and you will find quite a few
AngryVelvetUnicorn
So what was the best course? "Good job" or "you're so smart"? I wanna place money on "Good job" for turning out more well adjusted kids
eskamobob1
So basicaly, telling kids they are smart isnt a good move, but there isnt a clear direction defined yet. I think the general concensus (1/2)
eskamobob1
is that praising hard work is best, but we still arent sure other than telling kids they are smart leads to worse work ethics (2/2)
AngryVelvetUnicorn
Which would explain me. Lmao
OSCgal
"Good work!" > "You're so smart!" Kids who're told they're smart are more likely to cheat/lie to appear smart.
oceansapart
What I've read is that lately the consensus is to acknowledge efforts, especially when it comes to things like trying again when they fail.
oceansapart
Not the participation trophy type of acknowledging efforts.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
As a person who is aware of my abilities, nothing was more patronizing than a participation trophy, but nothing sucked(s) more than not 1
Nobody7713
There's value in things like "most improved" recognition, because that's a recognition for working your ass off to get better.
DreadZeppelin
I was too and now I don't trust anyone who says otherwise.
ProfessorYaffle
You say that but you're pretty keen on uploading selfies on Imgur so you obviously fancy yourself a bit
stitchesspellslotsandsummits
I know this feeling all too well.
MFDork
I'm sorry to hear that. I've been through the same thing. I still don't love my appearance, but I've learned to love aspects of my look.
The22ndDoctor
http://imgur.com/Z3pokyW
iamkyleh
Same here
ArtOfKarolMichalec
I'm just a normal guy, my boyfriend is ripped and stunning, makes me feel shit about myself
fuckyouandyourwittyusername
If your boyfriend is ridiculously attractive, lots of people would probably line up to be with him. There's something that makes you special
ItchyItchyshake
Does she look like you?
krispiporkchop
You are a beautiful human being, inside and out. I plan to do the same with my little girl, since I went through that too.
whatsamottowithyou
Same. Only it wasn't limited to looks- I don't believe any compliments I get, really... :(
OmgOptimized
Having told myself that I'm undesirable for years, it's a struggle to let others decide that for me, but is maybe a new POV of the problem?
Mckenzullz
Are you my ex?
DreadZeppelin
Are you Dutch? Otherwise this is going to involve more twists and turns than an m night shyamalamadingdong ending. And I'm intrigued already
Kizsurian
The level of distrust it gives you to anyone who says otherwise is staggering. I doubt even my husband most of the time, and I shouldn't.
Flashys
Same boat here man, I only recently discovered that in fact I'm not ugly but my confidence made me believe I was. I'm turning 25 :/
Conniefoo21
I remember coming home from school and crying to my mom that I was told I was fat and ugly and she never told me I wasn't. It happened >>
Conniefoo21
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Conniefoo21
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ProgeriaProstitutes
otherwise.
GreaterDog
http://imgur.com/lwRmUHu
DreadZeppelin
....I don't trust you.... ¬_¬
kkus
**whispers softly** otherwise
ResetButton
holyHamWallet
Me too. I feel like I'm being made fun of when someone calls me beautiful. No dad and my Mom was awful. Told me I need makeup at 12.
NotSoAngryGuy
Same with me except I was always told I was useless.
Guillo1985
Yup another one here. I can only think they are saying it to be nice
Guillo1985
And being honest same thing happens with the i love you's
gamingassassin
Same here it sucks
Midiosa
Exactly! And since I know they lie to me about that, I can't believe anything else they say about me or that they even like me :/
LearnSomething
I just have no idea if I'm attractive or not. Bullied as a child, ignored as a teen, joined the military and everyone wanted to fuck me.....
WillWorkForHeadpats
I never got the whole "in uniform" thing but glad to here you got something out of joining, congrats on the sex though (-ω-ゞ
LearnSomething
Oh I don't know if the uniform had anything to do with it.
Amazingamandaaaaa
Oh my gosh yes! I feel like they are lying or in a way making fun of me. Even family members told me I was ugly and fat. Still do!
AlaskanZelda
I grew up being told I was fat and now that's all I see myself as, a fat girl. I'm 5'2" and weigh 143 pound.
DreadZeppelin
That seems thoroughly normal. And yes, I'm a stranger on the internet but please try to let go of who you were made to be, I will try too.
AlaskanZelda
That like touched my heart. Thank you. I've also lost about 14 pounds since this comment. I'm at my weight from high school now.
Vectorman2
That's a good thing, don't trust ANYONE! Crab people live amongst us and we don't even realize it...
Beezlebubble
And when you turn down a compliment and people get upset with you
MoreLikeLawlSchool
Even though you're a ginger and a dude, you're beautiful DreadZeppelin.
HatofTacos
A ginger and a dude? My favorite combination.
DreadZeppelin
How you doin'
HatofTacos
I have a ginger dude sitting next to me, so pretty darn good
BrobiwanKenobro
Man my humor revolves around self deprecation. I HATE when people tell me im just seeking compliments. I dont even care about compliments...
Madcaplaughs84
This is exactly how I feel. When someone does say it, I assume they're up to something or just being nice.
Fiadh
Just gotta say - I love your username!!! I haven't thought of that band in a while.
DreadZeppelin
I didn't know the band existed when I chose this username, think about that =P
Fiadh
I hope you've checked them out. Hilarious yet good music.
unofficialrobot
I feel like the exact result is going to happen if you do the opposite.
DreadZeppelin
I don't get it. so if I trust people they'll suddenly start calling me handsome?
nosaucesbutapplesauces
Noooo... you have to be handsome, then people will trust you,
ResetButton
People commonly lie to children about their talents. That's when you learn to trust people who speak to you like an adult.
INameMyPetsAfterRedvsBlueCharacters
This. I love my parents, but I would never expect an objective opinion about my skills/talents/features from them.
tenebrisangelus
You're beautiful
HarriBurton
Oh yes, something I can relate to well. My husband tells me frequently that he thinks I'm beautiful, but I struggle to believe him.
iwanttomountndewya
I believe HIM when he says he thinks I'm beautiful. However, I don't think I'm beautiful.
MrPeebles
To be serious, if you trust him as your partner and take him at his word on other things, take him at his word on this. Let him love you.
xVancha
I feel like that's better than being ugly and refusing to believe you aren't beautiful.
Itchy73
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Definitely believe him.
ZaeMillion
I think my wife is the most gorgeous woman on the planet. I don't think she believes me, because she was bullied all her life. Still say it.
krispiporkchop
Believe him. Every time I told my husband that I didn't believe him, it hurt him. You're absolutely beautiful.
BewareTheCrocigator
It's hard for both parties I imagine - you can't just choose to ignore your hangups, but it's also very draining when your compliments are
BewareTheCrocigator
constantly brushed off or denied.
Justathrowaway300
As someone on the other side: It was actually part of my struggle with my ex; being treated like a liar for saying I found her attractive.
thebenoshow
I was always told the opposite. I always get complimented on my looks from both men and women. I never saw what they saw and always thought
thebenoshow
It was some conspiracy and people were actually making fun of me. Only until recently I just stopped caring what people thought and I am
thebenoshow
200% happier for it.
stoffo
I know the feeling. But I am also really ugly :P
MrFBI
You're beautiful! @DreadZeppelin
drummergirl83
@DreadZeppelin. It's the inside that counts. Beauty within ❤️
Damnenginelight
@DreadZeppelin you're pretty hot.
SilentInSUB
@DreadZeppelin I'd hit that. Hard.
LowFatBatman
@DreadZeppelin if i were umwed, i would take you in a manly fashion ....... cause you're pretty
DreadZeppelin
That's gonna be some manly shit then, or you might be a girl who would take me in a manl;y fashion which I would definitely accept.
HeckuvaEngineer
@DreadZeppelin I'm not wed, I'd take you in a manly fashion. You pretty devil.
ShearWind
Oh yes.Getting told "this thing is red" every day for years and one day someone says "this thing is blue"
Justathrowaway300
Eh, beauty is subjective. You could be super ugly to most people, and there'd still be someone who thinks you're stunning.
MyCatLikesToFruitcake
Even when your dad calls you ugly as a little girl. You damn well believe it. I was a pretty fugly child.
Ohhhlookaunicorneatingasamurai
I read red as read.
Nerdygasm
I prefer this
llm0
there are... four lights
frootoftheloops
...I was told that I was handsome so many times by my mother that I figured she thought I was retarded or she was lying.
WhatEvenIsIt
Then again 'things' dont go through puberty amirite
ObnoxiousComma
Well, honestly, you don't have to listen or acknowledge what they say. Just gain self confidence and be proud of yourself.
unofficialrobot
See thing happens if you're told you're beautiful and then someone tells you yours ugly. Then what?
bamblebimble
Then you end up spoiled
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DreadZeppelin
It is not, actually =^P because of the fact that I'm a ginger dude.
Kichini
I clicked the link on accident while scrolling. My daughter (4) says "she's pretty. I love her."
DreadZeppelin
I guess it taught me humility in the worst of ways. But overall it might have made me a better person even though I wish I knew what (1/2)
DreadZeppelin
it'd be and more importantly what I'd be like if I hadn't been bullied.
OSCgal
People call it "humility" but I disagree. Humility isn't putting yourself down or thinking of yourself as less. It's accepting who/what 1/2
OSCgal
you are & not insisting you're something else, whether worse or better. And hang in there, okay? 2/2
PersonenschadenImGleisbett
you both are
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AdelineThatsMeYo
It's still weird for me to hear my boyfriend tell me he loves and wants me in his life. My parents used to tell me to kill myself.
whatsamottowithyou
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Nerdygasm
This is perfect
Refmylife
That happened to me. I am blue. But if I was green I would die.
Ihavemytowel
I was told I'm blue, I'm in need of a guy.
YouCantGuessMyTHIRDDDFavoriteColor
Maybe you guys are just ugly
THESALTYSURPRISE
Guess it was just bad timing, huh? Here you go
YouCantGuessMyTHIRDDDFavoriteColor
Gotta have the ugly to appreciate the beautiful
Raltsun
We appreciate your sacrifice.