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Nights are really hard. I feel lonely and betrayed.
Jan 27, 2020 6:45 AM
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Nights are really hard. I feel lonely and betrayed.
PouncyKarmaKitty
Been there. You are not alone. It’s not your fault and a failed marriage does not make you a failure. Reach out if you need to chat.
imaginedagons
My wife filed for divorce two months ago. Thanks for the post and the comments.
SynthTwo
It's k. We will all make it, together!
DurendaI
I'm half the man I used to be.
victraflame
It will get easier and you are going to be okay. My divorce just finalized last week after a year of proceedings. Focus on you, rebuild ♥️
rebeccaINgreen
LovelyMover
You just gotta keep going, the only thing that makes it easier is time and that fuckin sucks but it does work
2fligh2high
Take your time to grieve but there has to come a day where you turn the page. Don't let it determine the rest of your life. Good luck op
ValhallaIAmComing
Sorry about that. Me too. Loneliness is the worst. Keep talking to your mates.
Vhyson
Couldn't agree more, the hurt, rejection etc fades a bit with time. But the loneliness is real. Least my cats all come up for snuggles now
alisa2089
I’m also going through a divorce. Husband initiated. Feel free to message me. It sucks, I know. :(
NussKnuspermix
Felt exactly like that with my breakup after 8years of relationship. Give it time and start beeing active and productive with new activities
dedpaen
It sounds impossible but try working on your gratitude list. I find it brings some balance into my perspective.
mrwthisusernameisavailble
You focus on you. We should all be ok being alone with ourselves because it means we're balanced . Also, no one is guaranteed tomorrow.
fromitalywithlove
A divorce is mostly a win win situation. Either the spark is not there anymore or the thing is one way only. You just need time.
randomwoman
Me too - it’s awful. 2 years since he left in and my divorce completed just completed. The sense of loneliness and abandonment is crippling.
HereDueToYourOnePeskyDownVote
It does get better, I have been where you are. It took me years to get over my ex. When you do you wonder why you didn't let go earlier.
misselfdestruct
It's worse than going back to being strangers, because strangers can still meet and get close and (1/2)
misselfdestruct
when a loved person doesn't love you anymore, it can never be undone. Good luck, hope it will get better soon. (2/2)
brunodiaz
Right there with you busy. It wasn’t ugly, but moved 7 hours away. I’ve learned her mum keeps coming down to help her cope. She left me.
not4chars
It gets better, hang in there.
Machi4vel
Epstein didn‘t...
not4chars
Oh, Epstein hung in there all rights.
7jaa
Some random people from imgur telling you it will get better is probably not that relevant... But i've bee there 6 months ago. >
7jaa
> and even though I'm still healing, believe me, it does get better. That's not just us trying to comfort you. Soon you'll be ok
Sagerider
After three strikes I’m out. The absolute hardest thing I have ever been through. The worst part is your going through it alone. 1
Sagerider
Rule #1. Don’t wear your friends out talking about it, they don’t want to hear it because they have problems of their own. 2
Sagerider
Rule #2. Don’t hate anyone and that includes yourself. Rule #3. Don’t use alcohol or any other substance as a crutch, don’t even have it 3
Sagerider
in your house. Rule #4. Learn from the experience, take it day by day. Rule #5. You will be happy again, I promise, it may take some time :)
PistonATF
Been there, and it felt like I died. For a long time. I now feel like I'm glad to have been rid of it all, but that's me. I like being free.
PistonATF
Embrace the freedom. Say yes to almost anything if you need to feel alive again. I did this for a whole. It helped me.
PistonATF
*while
PistonATF
Chat if you want.
Generalfertileloins
Ugh same, 13 years.
toasterSTRUDELicing
Ugh same 18 years and 2 kids. She wasnt happy and decided leaving our family and dating around will fix that rather than trying to get help.
toasterSTRUDELicing
Not trying to outdo you or anything, it all sucks all of it
personalspaceshow
I’m one month from the date we separated. Divorce already filed. It’s harder than I ever thought. But I stay strong for my kids.
personalspaceshow
Also don’t self destruct. Don’t drink or smoke or whatever. All that does is give them power over you. Just stay strong and positive.
personalspaceshow
Running has really helped clear my head. Everyone says go to the gym and I always rolled my eyes but they are right.
KiaOraFrog
Broken off a relationship when we both still love each other. This is how we feel right now
maynardrelatedusername
may i ask... what happened? i'm on the edge of being in a similar situation and i can't deal with the idea of us letting go while in love...
throwawaynumber82
Mh...it's been two weeks since i left my wife and only now I see my own failures and faults..
amoebasUNITE
Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. Notice when you're making toxic, negative behaviors, and destroy them before you assimilate them into new habits
Vhyson
Too late.
bandanafurscale
Never!!
amoebasUNITE
Remember, as much as this is an ending, it's a whole new beginning. Most people find themselves after divorce. I encourage you to take time
amoebasUNITE
to do the same
aproperspatula
i second this so very hard. impulses of self destruction are easy to give in to but therapy truly helps in getting your head sorted.
rmsrmsrms38
This is the beat comment I have read today.
mercbrit
That also applies to Alzheimer’s and partners with mental illness.
Popyachopinafan
I came here to say the same thing exactly !
Metroda
When my mom passed I was demolished, but knowing we would never go through Alzheimer's was a comfort.
pennetteAlfredoIsNotAnItalianDish
Gosh, you read my mind. My mother has Alzheimer and I miss her desperately.
CanadianCobraChicken
Yeah. My grandma's got dementia. She's already forgotten my University graduation.
SmergBlaerghl
As someone with ME, I grieve the loss of the person I used to be.
graehall
Alzheimer's is a fucking nightmare.
Emrys12
Literally
literallytryingtogetdownvotes
I work in a nursing home. Can confirm.
rosso65
or like any break up... ever?
Elsewhereisland
That also applies to Alzheimer’s and partners with mental illness.
Mustardbumps
Lewy body dementia is a fucking nightmare. I'd seriously rather see my father get run over by a bus. I want him to die but he won't.
kenomies
Also drug abuse case
thedmoninme
Oof
MorrighanWolf
Also terminal illness period
HunterCop
My Dad got sick with Dementia at the age of 68. He just turned 71. It's very hard to watch a man I'm looking up to change so much...
jzbstl
So sorry. My father died last week after about 2.5 years with vascular dementia / memory loss. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, not anyone.
011100000110100101100101
My grandfather is late 85 with dementia. He was once the most intelligent man I knew, but now he can't even handle a basic conversation
Eli93
Destructive drug addiction, narcissistic family members, homophobic family members... There is a lot of reasons to have to cut people out
shawnthor
Don't forget alcoholics. There fun to deal with
DanielRadcliffesDeliciousAsshole1
My dad is an alcoholic and we have some very strict ground rules but he also is a disabled war vet so it’s kinda fair to be a drunk
shawnthor
Tough situation
lukebpc
Just lost a loved one with dementia, feeling a mix of painful grief and relief.
Mustardbumps
I'm waiting for the relief. I can't grieve any more than I already have over 4 years. I wouldn't wish dementia on my worst enemy.
lukebpc
I hope you can find your comfort, it is a painful thing without equal.
BlueCanaryInTheOutletByTheLightSwitch
Alcohol and casual sex worked for me after my last divorce, but it probably wasn't the healthy way to get over it.
teasingtonka
The alcohol definitely helps. Need to stay aware of how much, but a few glasses of wine curbs the lonliness
TheJudgeHasItBackwards
That whole "best way to get over someone is to get under someone new" is cringy to say/hear, but it works more often than not for me.
AMissionaryMan
ditto, 5.5yrs of being single after a 20yr marriage... it's what's good for what ails ya while trying to find that one for a relationship
trueunpopularopinions
Not for me, both only filled me with remorse afterwards. Friends, work and hobbies were of most help, still took years to fully recover.
in70x
Do you think you’d ever try again?
trueunpopularopinions
Probably, but not likely to happen, dating is not much fun when 35+ and I have learned to cope with and even cherish living alone. It is 1/2
in70x
Word I am 30 I have a gf but I feel like I just made the cut
trueunpopularopinions
mainly the camaraderie and being able to share the small daily joys and sorrows with someone that I miss. 2/2
trueunpopularopinions
Good relationship is like friendship on steroids.
Vhyson
I wish I had advice for you. I just filed my response paperwork Friday after a year of her leaving. Nights are definitely the hardest. Tryin
Vhyson
To sleep in an empty bed that you used to share with someone that was the light of your life is next to impossible for me. I get maybe 1-2
Vhyson
Hours of sleep. A weighted blanket helps some. Snuggles from my cat help more. But usually if I only get any sleep on the couch. The hurt
Vhyson
Gets better with time. But it still can hit you like a freight train when you least expect it. The loneliness and empty home though..
TheLoyalVike
I find physically exhausting myself with exercise to be the only thing that comes close to helping.
saysomethingcool
I know the feeling. Went through the same almost 5 years ago. It gets better! Hit me up if you wanna chat
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saysomethingcool
Chats always open, and I'll see it. Just might not happen immediately with my work schedule and stuff. But it's good to get it out
Popprstoppr
You better. Stan ain’t playin. Ignore him and he’ll drive off a bridge.
humantoe
Remember when imgur was fun? Before the sob stories and amateur psychologists? Those where the days..
meknownothing
Post something fun!!
AlexjoneswatchingTporn
Dont be an asshole its the same its always been
vangopal
Yes, people need to speak to professionals. But at times, being heard and empathised with mean a lot.
vritramon
Could have made a new comment instead of replying this bullshit to some guy giving a hand. Asshole
notgoingtoenjoythis9000
The people here have saved me on the deep dark nights when my loved one has been unreachable, all due to illness.
EricFromAccounts
notgoingtoenjoythis9000
I wish you all the blessings of prostate cancer. Yeah, I know your type you insufferable inverted scrotal sack of self loathing.
wolfsonne
That was some epic level yet strangely understated cursing there. Are you a dnd player?
notgoingtoenjoythis9000
No, but i love to wax lyrical and fall into strange prose while drinking whiskey...
GeneralWho
Insufferable Inverted Scrotal Sack of Self Loathing is a cursed item for sure. Fleshy coin purse that forces a Fortitude save vs disease.