Personal observation

Apr 28, 2017 2:57 PM

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If you're suicidal there's a chance you're a lot like me in the sense that suicide and thoughts of suicide became an every day thing that your mind wraps around. You start talking about suicide and everyone wants to call the cops so you don't hurt yourself. Someone makes a joke about suicide or the idea of suicide idealization in a positive light and everyone loses their minds thinking it encourages it. When I heard Luis CK's new stand up special where he talks about killing himself I felt less alone than I have in a long time. I don't like Hollywood Undead but their song Bullet will always be one of my favorites because for once my darkness doesn't have to feel so dark.

That is one of the best songs in the last few years. Amazing writing, and the contrast of lyrics/music is phenomenal.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My dad committed suicide 9 years ago and the only way I could deal with it was by cracking jokes.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I have serious bouts of depression +anxiety and I love to make jokes about it .. doesnt matter if people feel uncomfortable thats the point

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

The whole world is full of people who haven't killed themselves.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Same scenario for me. I was emitted for suicidal thoughts. But I joke about it regularly. It is oddly refreshing to lighten the mood.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It was like when Aaron Hernandez was left hanging when his friends went to the White House...

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I've been struggling with suicidal ideation and thoughts, but I constantly joke about it. It's how I cope.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I like making jokes about it because it tricks people into thinking I haven't tried to kill myself." he's joking so he's fine" perfect cover

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

My personal favourite house joke is something like "stop, you cant make a joke about suicide" "oh no if I screwed up I would kill myself".

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

As someone who's dealt with that shit myself I couldn't agree more.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

If we can joke about the Holocaust and 9/11, we can joke about anything.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Which Louis CK special? I want to see what he has to say on suicide.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

the most recent one on netflix.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Depends on your place. I was so hypersensitive to it until I nearly shot myself; afterwards everything changed and I could joke about it.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

when you make a joke about something, you take the power away from that thing, it lessens the ability to cause harm.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Depends on the joke. I mean, bigoted jokes normalize hurting people. And some get elected.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

My mom is mentally ill & making inappropriate jokes about the things that worry her rly helps coz it helps her see how absurd her fears are.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Jokes are fab for presenting perspective.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm glad you found a way to cope, but not everyone appreciates this type of humor and we should respect that.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Especially if you fail at a real attempt. Laughter is the only way past it.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

O_o Not the only way. I haven't found a way to joke about it much.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yup, there's a difference between joking about something and diminishing it's importance or impact

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I think it's a grand idea, and have considered it for over 15 years. Every day, I get closer to giving up. Can't afford a gun yet, though.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

*hug* I'm struggling like fuck. Still hanging on. Got to therapy today. ^_^

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I guess I don't mind a joke, as long as you don't get mad at me for asking if you're okay . Are you okay?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm good. Better than I was when suicide was my every thought :) thank you though

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You should joke about everything. Just be aware that it may bother some people and if it does, stop. Know your audience

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Sometimes I feel sad and I cut myself... another slice of cake!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

That's because you know deep down you're sweet :) stop cutting, you're worth more than that.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

I don't cut, but thank you. I just like the line. Reminds m to laugh at myself. ;)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Same thing with "rape jokes are NEVER funny!" Yes, they are, and I knew I was starting to heal from my assault when I could laugh at them.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

George Carlin explains it well. And, honestly, it's never the subject of the joke that's the problem, it's quality, and implication.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Not having nightmares so much about my trauma, but... I don't really have a good way to be glib about it. Setup's like a dick in the ass. 1+

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

2/2 guaranteed to be long and painful.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Sounds to me like jokes about suicide offend people who try not to think about it. Suicidal people always think about it, so aren't offended

9 years ago | Likes 31 Dislikes 0

Now that I'm recovered and have gone through a fairly traumatic attempt, jokes about it make me uncomfortable. I'm not offended, but I

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Turned off CK's special because it held zero humor for me. I could sit through it but I felt no reason to continue watching it.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

fair point. we don't get to not think about it.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

And finding out that I'm not alone with my suicidal thoughts is weirdly comforting. It makes me feel less isolated, less like a freak

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Everyone is different, I get offended by it but I don't care if others don't or do.

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9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Username checks out

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

:( Good joke... but :(

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That hurt. Teared up a bit. Laughed like hell. 10/10

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

The only celebrity death I've ever really cared about. But I chuckled, I think he would have too

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

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9 years ago (deleted Apr 29, 2017 1:52 AM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

*slinging crack rock if you're referring to the Biggie song.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

Yes. Thank you. It's been a while since I heard it. This is my OC "so dark" joke.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

So dark the cops shot 6 times in the back

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I feel he would have approved

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....I don't get it. Batman can't Robin Williams? Robin kills himself? Robins dead?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

"Batman can hang upside down." Robin can only hang upside up. Robin Williams hung himself.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

As someone experiencing depression who has had/is having suicidal thoughts, I would much rather not hear jokes about suicide. It's too real

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 5

As someone who has failed miserably at killing themselves suicide jokes are fine. Why would I care nothing will matter soon anyways.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

to me and honestly comes off as insensitive and trivializing an issue that affects every aspect of my life.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 3

suicidal thoughts, and depression though I wouldn't say I do anymore. I'm with you, it's too real and I don't like them but if it helps 2/3

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

others out, I have to look at it from the other perspective, everyone handles and copes differently. Saying it shouldnt be done is wrong. 3

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yet for OP it helped to joke about it, different strokes for different folks, and not everything should be off limit. I've suffered 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

but maybe let the comedians like CK do it, in standup you can choose to watch or not, instead of making jokes everyday on the street. 4

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

comedy, either it's all off limits. Or nothing is. That's the only fair way

9 years ago | Likes 44 Dislikes 13

As long as it respects the material and has something to say that's not just punching down absolutely. But do respect your audience.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

But there is or should be a grace period for things that happen.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 6

Comedy equals tragedy plus time. I think that's a quote.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

"Grace Period" is very subjective. Some people or comedians have different take on humor and on how long something should wait to joke about

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

In theory, absolutely. In practice... well... people get offended, then self righteous, then social media gets involved... you know the rest

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

good thing the phrase "police what you intake" exists, its your job to avoid things that bothers you, not others.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The way Patrice O'Neal put was that half of the people should be horrified, half should be laughing. That's how comedy is.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It's usually the ones left behind by someone who committed suicide that can't joke about it. The grief clouds their perspective of the joke.

9 years ago | Likes 370 Dislikes 8

Not only grief, but guilt is almost always associated with being left behind. That makes it hard to find humor for sure.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I can to some extent. When they say its the cowardly way out i want to throat punch them. My gpa was no coward

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

So? I think your grief is much less important than my emotional well-being. Or do you think your feewings are more important than my life?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 5

For clarification, i agree with OP, and I am someone who previously attempted suicide and still struggles with ideation.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 3

I think you can think it's fun to talk about and someone else can disagree and you can both move the fuck on

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Mental health workers too. I can't joke about it because it's a reality each day at work.

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

Yeah I feel. I joke about it, but in a serious way that makes people uncomfortable. But actual haha jokes I can't really get behind.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 2

Yeah my gf lost her brother and cannot deal with talking about it very well or seeing movies/shows where it happens

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I think those people don't realize how selfish that person was being. Yes they have feels but never their fault.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 13

I lost my mom to suicide. I can't joke about it, but I can laugh at other people's jokes! Still brings uo rough memories though.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Same goes for cancer. Lost my dad to it. I don't stop people from making cancer jokes, but I rather dislike them myself.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Then doesn't that mean we should joke about it even more because they need to be reminded that its not their fault?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 6

That's not how that works unfortunately.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Not by that logic because it assumes so much.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I can't joke about it. I lost my brother.

9 years ago | Likes 91 Dislikes 4

I've lost a lot... but then I tell someone and they point to it on the shelf I swear I searched.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I can joke about it, but this could have been *my* brother making this comment :/

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I lost my brother and have been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. Laughter is the best cure for everything.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'm sorry to hear you lost your bro I know how much it sucks.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm sorry for your loss. I do have a hypothetical question if you're willing. Let's say we're at a comedy club where the comedian tells a

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

suicide joke. Obviously he doesn't know you or your situation. Let's say the rest of his set was pure gold and you found everything funny up

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

to that point. Does it completely ruin your experience with this comedian? Is it his fault for telling the joke even though he doesn't know

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

you lost your brother? I mean no offense and don't wish to start a fight. I'm just interested in your perspective if you're willing to share

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

thats mostly the way it is. rape jokes not funny to rape victims, racist not funny to blacks, cooking jokes not funny to jews.

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 5

Nobody else read your entire comment. I did. +1

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I dunno. I have a good friend who was a rape survivor and we use to make rape jokes all the time.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

It's all in how you process the material. I have a friend who killed himself. When I see a good suicide joke, I know it's not making fun of

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

my particular experience, but the concept in general. It can still be funny if your a "victim" of something. You just have to separate your

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

personal experience from the comedy material. It's not like the comedian has a biography of everyone they're telling a joke to.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

As long as you don't kill yourself laughing ....

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