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Mom blames transphobic law after library blocks her disabled son's restroom use -
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2023/05/mom-blames-transphobic-law-after-library-blocks-her-disabled-sons-restroom-use/
ensensu
Can 'adulthood' be based on maturity instead of chronological age? I feel like the way this is handled amounts to a glitch that is abused by a large number of Americans.
CoarseAndSalty
No, it's not a mishandled customer service moment. It is the law. Same with Mom's bringing their infant son into the Women's room to use the changing table. It's a fuck-you law.. it fucks you.
StrangePaegan
What kind of asshole is offended by a parent helping a child of any gender--- oh, oh, yeah, I remember, THAT kind of asshole.
coderay
Uhh... article says another woman in the restroom objected to a male entering, and that the library suggested she just use the available gender neutral restroom. That seems perfectly reasonable. Seems like maybe the library isn't to blame here.
StylesRockman
How bananas is it that a literal Wild Karen is in the right here?
TheFastpaws
ALL Republicans are Nazis. Those that aid them are collaborators with no value.
thatiswhyyoushoulddoityourself
By "slight uptick in unsafe activities" in the library restroom, did she mean sex? ‘Cause that’s the only SLIGHTLY unsafe use I can think of.
DonL9
The GQP doesn't give a fuck about collateral damage, as long as the people they want to hurt are hurt.
robincaid
Oh no! the cis gendered are being effected by these bigotted laws too? Boo fucking who. These backwards shitholes in america, i don’t live there or will ever visit.
STGxDante
How long until conservatives are going to attack airlines for only having a unisex bathroom in planes?
Ceistebi
When we said these bills wouldn't hurt JUST trans people, this is a prime example.
noeditfunction
Next time just help him piss in the floor
Jace99
Depending how old her son is, it’s going to become a problem everywhere eventually in restrooms that aren’t oners. There needs to be family restrooms for kids with disabilities. That said, they could have just let them use the staff washroom.
JumbleberryFields
trans people have been saying that anti trans laws with negatively affect cis people too for ages. hopefully more people realize it.
AnonOmis1000
We need to get rid of gendered bathrooms.
TunnelRat13
So, quick question: Do they not have doors on the stalls in the ladies restrooms? Cause guys have them. Ya'll should demand those.
doctorId
This is all baked into the law itself. Laws like this aren't just passed to control trans folks, they're meant to control everyone. It's just easier to pass them in the name of morality or decency against "degenerates". This law will be used against cis folks at any opportunity and more wide-reaching laws will be right around the corner to make it official once these ones become the new norm. It won't stop unless we stop it by force.
SamuthNBS
A Karen Wild appears... and seems to be correct
uwill1der
This is a bit of rage bait. The library had 3 gender neutral bathrooms for use, and employees pointed them out to the Wilds. Karen Wild didn't realize they existed.
IlluminaBlade
I dream of a world where every location just has 2~4 single occupant unisex bathrooms with at least one clearly labelled as having a changing station.
EvilMandrid
Wild, Karen?
Crimx42
Yes. Bad laws hurt a lot of people
DdCno1
The entire intention behind these laws is to hurt people.
YoWilykat
Soon 2 year old boy would not be allowed in women's room with his mom because of dumb law. Let the 2 year old try to use bathroom by himself and hope there's an available male employee with strong constitution to clean up his mess. Wiped his ass on the wall? Not mom's problem because she can't use men's room and he can
YoWilykat
can't* go with his mom in women's room
chatawillybilly
The library should allow use when the restroom is empty. Wow, security guards for restrooms. "Help security, I made a Loch Ness monster and it won't flush."
nomorehate
Restaurant I worked at in Durham, NC just had two bathrooms with no sign on either, baby changing station & disposals for feminine products in each. Never had any complaints, but it was a pretty small place. As long as you're not pissing on the seats, I don't care who used it before me.
Cabreza
Does Kansas really have bathroom security guards now, or was that just added to existing security guard duties? Imagine that line in the job description: "Identify birth gender and enforce gender specific bathroom regulations."
YoWilykat
Flat chested, short haired women? Must drop pants to prove she's a she or use men's room instead and violate the law? Law is really stupid
girlyBIRB
And if she drops her pants to prove, then she is breaking a different law.
SkaerKrowe
Found a second job for all those Catholic priests!
Alfadorfox
Chaotic Good moment: apply for that job and then simply collect a paycheck for doing nothing and by doing so, do a great good.
quzar
It makes it seem like the security guard barred their entrance, but it might make more sense if what it was relaying was that another woman in the bathroom at the time complained to security and then the guard told them not to use that bathroom. If the guard was there to stop them, it's kind of weird that a woman inside the bathroom would be complaining? Maybe it's describing multiple trips?
Lulabel73
Besides all the politics I’m surprised the library doesn’t have a disable access toilet or whatever you call it in that area.
Account3577
They did, they asked her to use it instead.
Lulabel73
Thanks
skapanda616
The leopards eating people's faces bill was supposed to eat other people's faces.
graehall
"Surely there'll be an exception for me!"
wadatahmydamie
“But surely there’s an exception in the law,” says the librarian pretending it’s a customer service issue
TrinDiesel
I don't see anywhere in this article that she was pro the bill. She most likely was very against it, considering her niece is trans, and she is close enough with them to consider her a caretaker.
skapanda616
More pointing out that it's a bill designed to be cruel, that ended up being cruel to a wider group than intended.
Felinatrix
It's oppression, it's designed to hurt everyone who isn't the oppressor, all malice is intended
CatatonicCowMoo
Why are people so concerned with people peeing and pooping? I don't get it. Do you have gendered bathrooms in your homes, republicans?
Lp57
You could be molested by someone other then a cop or clergy member in there! We wouldn't want!
Magnasplit
As a man I support women only toilets so that they dont need to wallow in the filty fucking scummy toilets many men leave behind.
executivedisfunction
TBF, what happens in too many Religious Right homes (Sex and physical abuse) gives them real concerns about what could happen in public restrooms. Every accusation is an admission? Or, as one philosopher opined, "Suspicion of others is merely knowledge of oneself."
ArthurT
No, just a stamp for the forehead: "Shit for brains."
onlyhalfghost
they aren't. They're using this, like the trans people in sports thing (there's like four of us, total) as a wedge and to harm people
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
This is their current step, they want to regularize this so they can get away with worse stuff. The worse stuff? The shit happening in Florida where they're stealing transgender kids from parents.
Filanwizard
GOP is losing on a lot of fronts and has no policy, the Culture war against LGBTQ people is a place they can still achieve votes. The GOP only wants votes and power, they do not want to do what is best for all Americans.
Comet260
Republicans want to rule, not represent.
urboyevan2
Yep they enrich themselves and fuck over everyone else while they do it.
Harbltron
Oh they have policy, it's just so deeply unpopular to the majority of Americans that they have to shroud it in divisive, vile culture-war lies. All they have left in the tank is lies, hate and fear.
gdex86
It's also a women's rest room. Stalls. Nobody can see what you are doing.
cabalin
Republicans hope to change that
StellarJay77
Stalls are not sound proof and assisting family members in a public washroom rarely involves just using a stall. regardless, these laws are simply a solution in search of a problem that doesn't exist. It simply emboldens transphobe assholes into bullying trans people.
mrthewhitee
This is also pretty standard practice for any parent with a young child of the opposite gender.
MeatPopsicleMultiPass
Yup, was peeing in urinal and some dude walked in with his little daughter. Felt a bit weird, at first, but I thought to myself "wtf else is he supposed to do?" And carried on like a fucking adult should.
CatatonicCowMoo
Exactly
CarpetheCarp
I have an autistic son. He’s 11 and he’s taller than me. I have had to have the “he’s autistic fuck off” conversations so many times. He can talk but he is not able to tell me if someone touches him. He cannot protect himself. I fucking hate these people.
CreepyPhlox
Even after my son learned to use the bathroom himself I still took him into the women’s with me cuz there’s a high risk of him being raped or kidnapped in a public restroom alone.
AnonOmis1000
Is there? You really have that little faith in us guys?
CreepyPhlox
I have that little faith in PEOPLE. A small child or a child with a disability like the original post don’t need to be left alone in public places.
Taxicat
Yes.
urboyevan2
Umm do you not see the constant stream of ex police officers, evangelical pastors and conservative youth group leaders who are constantly getting arrested for raping and molestjng small boys and girls? It’s not me and you they need to worry about. It’s the predators who DO exist. It happens ALOT. Even incest isn’t uncommon in mostly deep red states. I’m starting to see a pattern hmmm
AnonOmis1000
Ok find me some stat on children being raped in public bathroomd.
NotSoFatTony84
I was somewhere around 8 or 9?... taking a shit in a restaurant/hotel bathroom. The urinals are right there next to the stalls. A dude comes and takes a piss then tries to start a convo with me, telling me my parents left and they sent him to come get me. Just meet him outside when I'm done. Short story shorter: I never went out to him. Point is, yes, things happen.
AnonOmis1000
Yes but often enough to distrust every man? Why not keep your kids locked up at home then, since theres a chance something could happen to them anywhere?
JanglesPrime
Take the L, Dude.
Whatwhatsomethingbutt
Buddy, that's a big jump from, "I take my young children with me into the bathroom so I know they're safe," to "I can't go anywhere at all for safety's sake." Like, you'd hold your kids hands while crossing a street right? You'd tell them not to talk to strangers? Boy, better not go anywhere because you distrust every driver or you distrust every single new person you encounter. Get a grip - it's not personal.