CarbonCarnageGlitch13
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Treasure each moment and reassure your partner.
May 2, 2021 3:01 AM
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
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Treasure each moment and reassure your partner.
PervertedWizard
Lucky man
Thisisbullshitalready
I'm the cryer in my marriage. Wife holds it in. Not ashamed.
SubtleSun
AnotherReplyToIgnore
Zahnradfee
I always thought it was normal to cuddle and hold your boyfriend when you have one. But I never had one, so what do I know...
BastofBelial
It's a wonderful feeling to be trusted like that.
ClownSteakTasteFunny
Took a nap with a girl I was dating a while back where I was the little spoon. That was one of the best naps I've ever had.
ItsDandySpaceDandy
Getting held,
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
So freaking true, I loved it the time I had it.
LivingDecomposition
dunlapk33331415
More men need to do this and more women need to experience this
CloudsandRainandSunandWind
I love that feeling; to protect and care for my husband. I cherish his vulnerability as much as his strength.
dogmatix
It makes me sad to think that anyone - male or female - would be either afraid or ashamed to share their emotional vulnerability wth another
IdiotSavantTinker
DraconisNoir
That looks nice. One day, I guess
MisterMagooCanDance
Just hearing those three words after a shitty day... Single life sucks.
Rehjee
BerrySelective
Sorry to hear that. Hope you find the right one soon!
Clyptonix
I love being held, but it rarely happens. Women want to be held, but keep in mind equivalent exchange. I think I'm out of parts to give.
PainGwen
My husband had a friend die recently and when I hugged him and started to cry it was like a switched turned on. He sobbed harder than I had
PainGwen
Ever seen him, more emotion than I’d ever seen from him in a decade. It was like I gave him permission, which was sad and good at the same
PainGwen
Time. I felt sad that I had to be the key to unlock his emotions, but glad to be there to do it. Men need more real emotional support
InfOracle
As amazing as sex can be, I truly enjoy the embracing experience that takes place post sex. Then I pay them and they can then leave.
Thatknifeguy
I mean, I know odds are you’re joking, but there’s nothing invalid or shameful about doing that
InfOracle
I was serious about the first part. Joking about the second. Yes, nothing wrong with either one.
InfOracle
Firm believer of do what makes you happy as long as nobody gets hurt.
Mcmaclassie
Ladies, take note... we want to be held sometimes too.
FabulouslyTiti
187cm tall guy here, so I'm always expected to be the big spoon. When it is turned around (and especially if my partner becomes the big
FabulouslyTiti
spoon without me asking) I'm just always so very happy. ♥ Talk with your partners about what they prefer, it is a game changer. ♥
Aibell125
Hubby is 6’2, 200 lb battle hardened marine. I can physically feel him swoon when I’m the big spoon
Willowhisper12
You be his little trail backpack
ThemotherfuckingTeresaofdeathmetal
I wish you all this kind of affection. Men can also tell other men that they love and support each other. More hugs and lofe
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
<3
Vendronica
Is this REAL?? So most straight women never hold men? Have I been a weirdo this whole time for doing this?
idiotcube
No, you've been in the right. It's the rest of society that needs to catch up!
DASSANATOR
you're a good woman (I'm assuming) many of us spend our whole lifes searching for something close to what you have.
AnaelTheRoseAngel
I can’t imagine ever being so mean to my husband that I wouldn’t allow him to feel his feelings around me. That would be utter hypocrisy (1)
AnaelTheRoseAngel
I am probably 3 times more emotional than him and it took a couple years before we came to an understanding about how intense my (2)
AnaelTheRoseAngel
emotions are, and how long it takes me to process them. I’m working on shortening that time every day, and I do my best to not be a (3)
AnaelTheRoseAngel
burden while I deal with my shit. With that in mind, I give my husband complete freedom to express his emotions. Anything less is cruelty.
PhilKenSebban
GF hugs me in bed. Her body is like 400 degrees, have to scoot across to get away. End up on edge of bed so I dont sweat to death.
GussDeBlod
Some people pay to go to Saunas!
sleepingnudie
My last bf opened up to me one night on how he was groomed and molested as a homeless teen. He cried and I held him.
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
I had a similar, not the same, experience, but after I told her, she was not as kind as you... I am sure what you did meant a lot to him.<3
sleepingnudie
I hope so. His injuries and trauma kept him from fighting for our relationship but I was always there for him to the best of my ability.
sleepingnudie
I hope he is well now. I tried to stay friends after we broke up but he won't let himself love. it was hard to let go. I wanted to save him
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
Sometimes, we cannot save everyone, especially, those who do not wish to be saved. I do hope he found happiness. I always try to say that1/2
CarbonCarnageGlitch13
We either learn from the past or become damaged by it. All of us can come our a little damagedz but it is important we learn too.
AllistairTheSpaceNinja
My son has panic attacks at night. I can’t imagine what it’s like at any age to go through one without just being held.
skellington01
One minute you’re wondering if you’re havin a heart attack & gonna die alone. The next you’re wondering if u died and this is literally hell
TheSongofRiver
Mu daughter and I both have panic attacks and when one of us has one, that person becomes a 'no touch zone' until meds start working. She
TheSongofRiver
Will come to me when she gets an attack. Sit on the other side of me crying. I am not allowed to touch her or speak until she is more ok.
TheSongofRiver
So I will turn a youtube video on of something she likes and I wait until I'm allowed to comfort her and we can talk.
AllistairTheSpaceNinja
That’s good advice. My son sits in our laps to cuddle and then if it’s not too late at night he likes to go for a quick run around the block
mrsdowneyjr
I thought taking would help first my son from his attacks but it turned out it was over simulating him and I leaned that we don't ask need
InfOracle
Jesus Christ I've been reading the comments here. There's a lot of men hurt, me being in this group. We need a reddit support group.
InfOracle
I reached out to some co worker friends when my wife said she wanted a divorce. Most vulnerable I've ever felt. Also best experience
InfOracle
Of my life.
rabastan
Had a boyfriend. Boyfriend was sad. Cuddled boyfriend, reassured boyfriend, loved boyfriend. Boyfriend went out and cheated to prove he 1/?
rabastan
"was a man" and could bang a woman without crying. I told him he needed to find help, that I'd help him find someone to talk to, but 2/?
rabastan
I wouldn't and couldn't be with someone who cheated on me to prove something like that. He ignored me. Still have the ring I planned on 3/4
rabastan
proposing with. Ah well. Some day I may find someone who will let me be the big spoon <3 4/4
woflborg
Thats rough, but your response to the situation seems incredibly mature.
NutellaJar0
Man, it feels good to be the little spoon sometimes
grundlee
Yes!!
narniasreal
I always go to sleep being the little spoon, it's the best.
FuckingTurtleBear
It's so standard she roles over in her sleep and pats me, sometimes talks to me, without ever waking up, #littlespoonlife
RavagedByTheSavage
This. Little spoon is best spoon
TheMovieGalaxyQuest
My partner likes to fall asleep while hugging me while I read, and apparently at 4am in a daze from a good book, I turned around, woke 1/2
TheMovieGalaxyQuest
him up, and in a very solemn, deep and serious voice said "S p o o n m e". Best little spoon experience ever. 2/2
STGxDante
Best sleep I ever had
ThePsychologicalAbhorrenceofBeingEatenAlive
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQmgHrSReCM&ab_channel=KollektivetTV2
MrJelle
I miss my jetpack.
Stainawarjar
Am I the weird one for finding it deeply uncomfortable?
Tacosburritosandchimichangas
fuck no, you do you
FabulouslyTiti
Absolutely not, that is the definition of "different strokes for different folks". Do what makes you feel comfortable. :)
FuckingTurtleBear
According to the late great Quellcrist, any position becomes a stress position after a time
dobroweigh
Tf with all these tfw??
MeatPopsicleMultiPass
Mrw when all these tfw start popping up crazy af and I'm over here like tf?!
LoopStricken
mfw
Wessaka
I’m 31, at what point do I stop trying to keep up with all this shit?
dobroweigh
Seems about the right time. There are weak moments once or twice a year though when you google things.
gakio12
Never, the future is always now.
Hdhdjfkdkldjd
Yes
notdointhisatworknow
My ex literally told me to shut up or to go away sometimes when I was upset about something
Lulabel73
Was it her that you upset about?
Toofwess
Are they still single? Because they sure fucking deserve to be single.
TheManWhoDoesStuff
Same bruh. I once told her that uni was stressing me. She then immediately told me to shut up and quit uni if it’s such a big deal.
Silverforte
Same. She's someone else's problem now.
UpvoteTotem
Monster.
IraqiWalker
I can see why they're an ex now. Good for you.
thunder2132
Yep, my ex told me that talking about sad things made her sad, so I needed to shut up. Glad she's an ex.
IronCore
My ex-wife liked to do that thing where she pretended to understand then would use that information as weapon to really hit where it hurt.
TrueNorthernLights
Jesus. I'm glad they're your ex.
eiebe
My adoptive father passed and she told me to man up, her mom passed and she cheated on me.
TypedThisWithMyPenis
My ex-wife really liked the phrase, “man-up”....bitch.
NotWelcomehere
A little wife beating was at one point manning-up...I wonder if she realized that.
Tr1gg3rH4ppy
Yeah my wife kinda does that lol. I just go to the garage
homoneurotic
Y'all need to talk about that
Avanchnzel
Couples therapy. Both of you are hurting. Make it you two vs the problem, not you vs her.
Bristlecone42
Dude...
yerrific
idk how fucked up one has to be to treat their partners like that when they're down. :|
Silverforte
It starts at home. My ex's father is a real asshole, raised her horribly. Now she's as big an ass as he is.
yerrific
I get you but I don't think it's black and white like that. If anything, children that endure bad parenting or grow up in a bad environment
yerrific
tend to grow up more capable of empathy than you'd expect them to be.
TheBloodyLady
Sounds like a real piece of shit. Probably a good thing they're an ex.
whooptydoo
Seems like they and their new toxic partner are on imgur lol
Avanchnzel
*sounds like a really sick person who needs lots of help and therapy. Though I am glad you seperated yourself from that situation.
IdUpvoteYouButYoureAt69
And until they get the help they need, they will remain toxic to themselves and others.
FourLegsGood
You people need to stop jumping to conclusions based on one sentence. You look ridiculous.
ForTheBestReally
with the context its safe to assume the ex was in the wrong for perpetuating a toxic mindset. chill, you're the one that looks ridiculous rn
FourLegsGood
God you're so desperate to be a hero.
ForTheBestReally
??????? Go punch a wall about it
ForTheBestReally
seriously if you can’t recognize that dismissiveness as abuse you’re either in denial about your own abuse or you’re an abuser yourself ?