This shouldn't inspire people to be actors. It should inspire people to support the ones they love while helping them be mindful of their reality. He could afford to gamble losing another few months, thanks to her support.
I told my Mom the same thing when I got into UArts for music. She told me to go for it! I came close to doing the rockstar thing and love where I landed. *Thanks Mom! Xoxo*
For every story like this, there's a thousand exactly the same except they don't book the office at the last minute. They go home to whatever job and never go on TV to tell you about not succeeding. Survivor bias.
I’m telling you to give up on your dreams yourself because I can’t tell you to give up on your dreams. But ain’t that telling him to give up on he’s dreams???
He's not telling it as inspiration, as advice, so it's not his fault, he's just talking about his own life. But this is a prime example of survivorship bias. Try to balance this sort of thing with sunk cost fallacy. Giving up too early sucks, giving up too late sucks, and you will never know which is which and need to make decisions anyway.
I told my Mom the same thing when I got into UArts for music. She told me to go for it! I came close to doing the rockstar thing and love where I landed. *Thanks Mom! Xoxo*
I work maintenance in a hospital. Fire extinguisher inspections were today and I unlocked a Doctor's private office to inspect his. Dude has a huge poster of Pam's face up on the wall across from his desk simply captioned, "Pam Beesley The Office" No pics of his wife and kids, no "hang in there", cat motivation posters...just a big ass picture of Pam's Face. I just checked the extinguisher pressure and got the F outta there before he arrived and made things awkward.
I don't think giving something your best shot means you failed. It means throughout your life you'll never think "what if". There are many people out there who never gave it a go at all, and are filled with what ifs. Life is long, give it a go.
Yup. That’s the thing about certain motivational speakers. Like oh do the right thing with your money and anyone can be a millionaire! Anyone? Maybe. Everyone? No.
To be honest, this is true if I remember properly. You can statistically make all your losses back in some stuff... as long as you have an endless supply of money to go at it...
yeah as long as its not mathematically slanted or with limits like in a casino lol, you could always just continuously double down until you eventually win
Statistically, it's not. This is like the Bo Burnham interview where he says "people like me telling you to follow your dreams is like a lottery winner telling you to buy Powerball tickets, it works!"
If you really want to do the thing, you might as well go for it, but expecting a big break into fame is not realistic, maybe you should go for it anyway but have to enjoy it regardless of whether you become a but celebrity or not, because most likely, that won't happen.
They are awesome, at least they should be. My mother has been/is so good to me, even more so when I really didn't deserve it. This is because she knows I've been hurt. She was enabling me, to a point, but seeing her sacrifice was more than enough to get my shit right. Don't get me wrong, she did some suspect shit, as well. But don't we all?
His mom is. Mine was a violent, physically and emotionally abusive piece of shit that screamed profanity at my child when they came out as non-binary and cutting my mom out of our lives was the best decision I ever made.
As a mother of soon three, I am acutely aware of this. I try SO hard, and still feel like I come up short too often. It's the absolute best but freaking hardest job I've ever had.
As something of a guide, I think a good measure would be to think back on the memories of your own mother and the memories that had a lasting impact on you. There are usually times we can be aware that this is a moment that is going to last for someone. It's often not even really big moments. Just a small coal of a moment that burns for a lifetime and those moments are when you need to really be aware of how you make them *feel*, not even necessarily what you say or do.
Unfortunately, my mum was not a blueprint for loving care. I feel like we've come very far, and have found our own way, but I still catch myself in high-stress situations defaulting to the authoritarian, tough-love schemes I grew up with.
Yeah but that's all the more reason to check in with those moments that you still remember that she made you feel guilty, or defeated, or ashamed just for being yourself, or perhaps for some mistake. Then you'll have an idea of the kinds of moments you must be the most aware of yourself and aware that what your children see and feel in that moments is going to last. For better or for worse.
So true. Mine unfortunately was a force for empowerment but source of my sadness. I used to think I was a bad kid...I'm 46 now. Got divorced 3 yrs ago and she and my dad have not visited me. I invited them multiple times and moved twice. Been in my house for 2 yrs - but they visit my brother every few months. Not complaining (maybe a little) but at least finally after all these years I know it's not my fault for everything.
Please don't apologise. This is a shitty situation and you are gaining clarity. That's painful. You are important and worth so much, I hope you find your peace with this 💕
giraffinator
Believe with a dash of realism, not a bad way to be
djangojazz
And three weeks later I got the office. And now you are a pretty big deal and married to Emily Blunt.
Sinmiedo1931
This shouldn't inspire people to be actors. It should inspire people to support the ones they love while helping them be mindful of their reality. He could afford to gamble losing another few months, thanks to her support.
CobaltAzurean
moxythree
Please stop with the stupid FUCKING music.
ShinoXIII
Music ruined it a bit
StellaMatutina
Usually does for boomers, soft ears used to out of tune victrolas
Tomadzo
And mom was like “thank God I don’t have to pay for him to live under my roof”
Blackfinity
Mom was banging the casting director for The Office?
corpofilth
JerzeeTomato
I told my Mom the same thing when I got into UArts for music. She told me to go for it! I came close to doing the rockstar thing and love where I landed. *Thanks Mom! Xoxo*
chronicbionictonic
unabashed CIA apologist
shitheadtookmyname
For every story like this, there's a thousand exactly the same except they don't book the office at the last minute. They go home to whatever job and never go on TV to tell you about not succeeding. Survivor bias.
Amazing mom tho
PerpetualExhaustion
Just like any other human, they are, until they aren’t
wylkyn
Lucky shit is so...lucky.
JesuisThor
I’m telling you to give up on your dreams yourself because I can’t tell you to give up on your dreams. But ain’t that telling him to give up on he’s dreams???
dasklaus
He's not telling it as inspiration, as advice, so it's not his fault, he's just talking about his own life. But this is a prime example of survivorship bias. Try to balance this sort of thing with sunk cost fallacy. Giving up too early sucks, giving up too late sucks, and you will never know which is which and need to make decisions anyway.
JerzeeTomato
I told my Mom the same thing when I got into UArts for music. She told me to go for it! I came close to doing the rockstar thing and love where I landed. *Thanks Mom! Xoxo*
McPuffinStuff
Sage042000
I work maintenance in a hospital. Fire extinguisher inspections were today and I unlocked a Doctor's private office to inspect his. Dude has a huge poster of Pam's face up on the wall across from his desk simply captioned, "Pam Beesley The Office" No pics of his wife and kids, no "hang in there", cat motivation posters...just a big ass picture of Pam's Face. I just checked the extinguisher pressure and got the F outta there before he arrived and made things awkward.
monkeyshines
He had 12 roles before the first episode of The Office aired.
paulhollywood9
Why is he wearing tights?
liefdevol
Nice, because it worked for him. But inspirational?
SayRamrod
same dude who started that covid good news zoom show to make people happy but immediately sold out for cash he didnt need.
AgainstMethod
I think "passionately pursue your dreams but be open to it if what you want out of life changes" is inspirational advice.
Fendeezy
I think the moral of the story is to not give up, cause you can be just 3 weeks away from living your dreams.
TomBrokaw
Well ain't this life just a temporal oddity - always only three weeks from living the dream!
samwyze
Dude, do you want hair grease or not?
kaboomdeactivated
I'm a Dapper Dan Man!
IdRatherBeOnThePlaystation
How many failed actors are there for this one guy?
ChristopherHallett
Pretty much everyone at The Daily Wire, for a start.
spacebaIIstheaccount
≥7
otiumCatulli
I don't think giving something your best shot means you failed. It means throughout your life you'll never think "what if". There are many people out there who never gave it a go at all, and are filled with what ifs. Life is long, give it a go.
Winterturtle
Yup. That’s the thing about certain motivational speakers. Like oh do the right thing with your money and anyone can be a millionaire! Anyone? Maybe. Everyone? No.
jonReremy9669
because they all gave up before winning the lottery!
JustTryingToLiveLife
Or you end up in such an absolutely shit film that it just destroys your career when it was just getting good
ClessAurion
To be honest, this is true if I remember properly. You can statistically make all your losses back in some stuff... as long as you have an endless supply of money to go at it...
ShamanOfHigh
yeah as long as its not mathematically slanted or with limits like in a casino lol, you could always just continuously double down until you eventually win
layinginbedfeelinglikeaquesarito
Now when is my break coming?
Tarumbar
What do you want to break?
AgainstMethod
September, I guess.
pashabigdog
ask your mom
Mithrandimgur
Or... or... hear me out... ask @op's mom... eh?
SrPootStank
I've got some bad news for you.
jonReremy9669
99.69% of gamblers give up right before they strike it rich, DONT GIVE UP GAMBLING!
Rhythmaster
Statistically, it's not. This is like the Bo Burnham interview where he says "people like me telling you to follow your dreams is like a lottery winner telling you to buy Powerball tickets, it works!"
Rhythmaster
If you really want to do the thing, you might as well go for it, but expecting a big break into fame is not realistic, maybe you should go for it anyway but have to enjoy it regardless of whether you become a but celebrity or not, because most likely, that won't happen.
TheSlurmFactory
Any day now
Myowngrampa
Whimmidity wham wham woozle
layinginbedfeelinglikeaquesarito
God I hope so. I have no idea how to keep going.
Edgarflaps
Aren't moms great.
HandoB4Javert
petresun
They are awesome, at least they should be. My mother has been/is so good to me, even more so when I really didn't deserve it. This is because she knows I've been hurt. She was enabling me, to a point, but seeing her sacrifice was more than enough to get my shit right. Don't get me wrong, she did some suspect shit, as well. But don't we all?
arfysdad
My kid's mom is. She's amazing.
raineryuzaki
My mum is certainly not
Foxsayy
No.
SchlongJohnson
I mean not all of them.
SybilCrawley
I sure hope my kids think so.
SomeDetroitGuy
His mom is. Mine was a violent, physically and emotionally abusive piece of shit that screamed profanity at my child when they came out as non-binary and cutting my mom out of our lives was the best decision I ever made.
trayal
Ehhh... mine talked me out of even attempting to follow my dream
MadamPuddifoot
Not all of them
CraggyIslander
Yours is.
PourMeAPuppersPlease
jonReremy9669
petresun
I'm sorry.
llortamai
Gottem!
Ja5per
Gorlami
ItsACrazyWorld
Not all of them unfor.
heroesblood
Came here to say this. People who truly love and support you are great.
Clayman8
Most of them, yeah...
Foxsayy
Judging on how well my mom appeared like a decent person in public, it could be soany more than we'll ever know.
LadiesInboxMeYourInsecurities
They can be. I might more accurately say they are in a position to have the most impact one someone's life of anyone. For good or bad.
howwouldyoudescribeyourself
As a mother of soon three, I am acutely aware of this. I try SO hard, and still feel like I come up short too often. It's the absolute best but freaking hardest job I've ever had.
LadiesInboxMeYourInsecurities
As something of a guide, I think a good measure would be to think back on the memories of your own mother and the memories that had a lasting impact on you. There are usually times we can be aware that this is a moment that is going to last for someone. It's often not even really big moments. Just a small coal of a moment that burns for a lifetime and those moments are when you need to really be aware of how you make them *feel*, not even necessarily what you say or do.
howwouldyoudescribeyourself
Unfortunately, my mum was not a blueprint for loving care. I feel like we've come very far, and have found our own way, but I still catch myself in high-stress situations defaulting to the authoritarian, tough-love schemes I grew up with.
LadiesInboxMeYourInsecurities
Yeah but that's all the more reason to check in with those moments that you still remember that she made you feel guilty, or defeated, or ashamed just for being yourself, or perhaps for some mistake. Then you'll have an idea of the kinds of moments you must be the most aware of yourself and aware that what your children see and feel in that moments is going to last. For better or for worse.
Lovegold1100
So true. Mine unfortunately was a force for empowerment but source of my sadness. I used to think I was a bad kid...I'm 46 now. Got divorced 3 yrs ago and she and my dad have not visited me. I invited them multiple times and moved twice. Been in my house for 2 yrs - but they visit my brother every few months. Not complaining (maybe a little) but at least finally after all these years I know it's not my fault for everything.
fartser
Lovegold1100
:)
Lovegold1100
(Sorry to vent here)
ChesterSnapdragonMcFistycuffs
Please don't apologise. This is a shitty situation and you are gaining clarity. That's painful. You are important and worth so much, I hope you find your peace with this 💕