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So it's my mom's 50th birthday this year. She wanted to throw a party for her colleagues at work in a big party tent in our garden. My dad was really negative about it and said "work people" shouldn't mean anything in her private life. My mom doesn't really have any friends and only interacts with family and people from work. She is the strongest woman I've ever known, and she's ALWAYS been there for everyone in our family, through thick and thin. (We've been through mental illnesses like schizophrenia, anorexia and OCD in our family, and she's always been supportive).
This, however, made her walk off and leave the room, and as she passed me, I could tell her eyes were red and she was tearing up. She just didn't want us to see.
My dad looked at me and asked what her problem was. I couldn't help but cry and said I was gutted for her because of what he had said, and I told him that after all she had done for us through the years, she deserved all the support in the world. After all, it's her 50th birthday, and it should be about what she wants.
He went off in a hurry, following her into the next room. I was so worried he would scold her while I wasn't there, but decided to give them some privacy.
When I followed them into the other room 5 minutes later, they were planning her 50th birthday party in our garden together, with food and music and all, and she had the biggest smile across her face. I have the best mom anyone could ask for, and she deserves the best birthday ever.
TL;DR:
It's my mom's 50th b-day party this year and my dad was being really unsupportive about it which made her cry. After I talked to him about it he apologized and made her really happy again.
I have the best mom in the world.
shockerslights
whyareyouaskingmethat
Nicely done.
somenerandom
Your dad is obviously a good guy and loves her, it seems his head was just in the wrong place momentarily.We guys can seem insensitive smtms
zeuswitanoose
blumpkinspicedlatte
Happy 50th to your mother! I hope she has the raddest party ever and gets everything she wants! my mom too is an angel among us. :)
rockjock29
I never understood having no forensic outside of work. I read don't talk to anyone at work about my private life. Work friends stay at work.
andaWoss
When i did the exact same thing all yhat happened was.. my dad showed up in my room with jumper cables that night
MarishkaGinny
Your mother is lucky to have such a great kid.
Boomer257
referencejoke
This made me so happy, thank you for sharing this.
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
I'm glad you're pleased too. I thought it was heartwarming. :)
ArtOfKarolMichalec
Straight men can be dorks. Source: a sensitive gay flower myself x
sweatybuttcrack
Let's hope he can get the money back on the secret world cruise he booked the week before.
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
Haha that would be a plot twist!!
notrollnoparty1
Barber family! Hope you all enjoyed a good birthday!
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
Ha, thanks! The b-day is in May :)
UndyingUsagi
Sounds like she has the best child in the world with what you did for her. :)
admiralawesome4213
Everyone can be thick sometimes. Sometimes people need an outside perspective. Or a swift kick in the rear
Quanda
Deanscream
As a guy, sometimes it's really as simple as not thinking about what we're going to say before we say it. I spend a lot of time quiet...
proto99trees
Exactly. Being married I try to keep in mind, you can never un say something.
Lasconik
You say you have the best mom in the world, all I see is you are the best child in the world ;)
Cerinna
Well done. VERY well done. I'm glad your dad saw the problem and went to solve it thanks to you. :)
maninthemirrorsayswhat
Op is the man!
squishcat
It's hard for me to understand why some people can't see another person's side unless someone flat out tells them.
BoxesofFoxes
Empathy and emotional intelligence are more innate in some people than in others, that's all.
MeInFakeLife
Can we send her birthday cards!
Beverlyhillscopisonrightnow
Fuck off kid
jbilly90
This would be great idea. @op you should do this
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
My mum is already so humbled and happy with all your nice comments on this post. I really can't thank you guys enough. :)
ArchQuantum
yeas please
MfxBloodxBath
Its pretty cool how understanding your dad was too.
barehandaflyingaidsrat
Ya no joke. My dad would have never done that.
Ryannihilation
Yeah. Everyone makes an ass out of themselves time to time, it's those who realize and fix it that are worth something.
Aillith
Sounds like your dad does does care - he may just not understand. Well done OP for helping them both.
jbu26
www.redhatsociety.com - if she's open to it. my mom and all her sisters joined for their 50th birthday parties. Making friends gets hard.
somenerandom
@OP
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
That looks cool, but as I live in Denmark I don't think it would be applicable. Anyway I don't think she would do it. Thanks a lot though.:)
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
That looks cool, but as I live in Denmark I don't think it would be applicable. Anyway I don't think she would do it. Thanks a lot though :)
MarishkaGinny
Do they have a version for the late 20s-early 30s crowd? How do people even make friends in the wild?!
BoxesofFoxes
You get a social hobby.
jbu26
Yup. Anyone under 50 wears pink instead. And, as someone in that age group, I have NOoooo idea.
ArchQuantum
Happy birthday to your Mom
shmekie
Happy birthday TO THE GROUND
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
Thanks a lot. I will do my best to make sure she has a good time and remembers it!
tropicalsunfish
Good! Sounds like she definitely deserves it :) my mom is my best friend, I'd do anything for her. Happy birthday to your mom :)
pergh
Maybe we should all send a card to his mom
ArchQuantum
Ok
Dullardo
I want to sign it after you, mail it to me first!
Dullardo
I want to sign it after you, mail it to me first!
ConflictedOnTheUserName
Relationships are hard , I am happy your dad realized that he didn't see things from her side and asked you about it.
Dumbladorable
OP is like a pair of spectacles for a person blind to the emotions of others. Good job @OP
CwissMe
Also, OP's dad seems to be a great husband. He hurt her unknowingly, but after realisation immediately took action to make her smile again!
wheresthesun
The way your comment reads it's as if he come to the reslisation himself. Good on you Op for sorting your dad out.
bumholiday
He knew he fucked up
DeepTrollin
We can all use a reality check from time to time. You can help people see things, but you can't make them see
jbu26
Dads need help, especially with strong moms that stay emotions for peace. I've had to explain to my da why things were mean or inappropriate
sufkutsafari
It's not just dads. Sometimes guys can be oblivious. Source: I'm a guy. Also a dad btw. We just need some help at times. That's all. Gg OP!
jbu26
I said dad because of relevance to post. Since dad's are males 99.9% of the time I figured it was implied but I guess I'm sorry
Redwood99
Dad's not so bad, either.
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
No. He can be an idiot sometimes but he comes around and can be very loving and caring. I love him and respect him very much.
somenerandom
Lots of good people can be idiots sometimes due to not thinking.What matters is he realizes it and fixes his mistakes.
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
I don't expect everyone to understand. It may seem odd. But my mom has saved my sister's life and dealt with things no one should have to.
ramenbrothersandsisters
Dammit, onions everywhere in this post, @OP. My mom just went through a stroke. Enjoy your mom's company, she sounds awesome!
Cummadumpster
Good mothers are treasures, I hope your mom has a wonderfull 50th birthday :)
DarrenIsWalsh
I understand more than you know. You've done a great thing :)
roqueofspades
i understand, my mom is just the same, dealt with my suicide attempts et cetera. Amazing mommies ftw
Vysard
Good moms are hard to come by. I'm glad you understand and appreciate yours, and can get your dad to remember that too.
chukichi
Pls give your dad a bit of credit-people can be stupid/oblivious. Pride prevents admitting their wrongs. He caused it but he fixed it, too.
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rhetoricalstagnation
Big strong manual labourer, this made me shed a tear and remind me that i have to do my best to comprehend and repay the unending love. Thx
MareArgent
We understand, OP. Give her the best birthday ever and celebrate her! <3 Best wishes!
user563235
Don't forget your dad.It takes a good man to realize one's errors.He swallowed his pride,listened to his kid and amended the mistake he made
merguezmoulefrite
Good work on your side OP. Good for you your father is not stupid. I tried this with mine. LMFAO, never worked *go cry*
TheGreatUnderachiever
I don't see how anyone could not understand?
beefstar2000
You re a great human being <3
Beverlyhillscopisonrightnow
Uhu
ThatOtherMacAvoyWoman
I identify with this 100% Happy birthday mommy!!
idonthaveanyideawhatthehelliamtalkingabout
she is a mom, most of us will understand :)
therealpaul9
Congratulations on making your dad feel like a right shit... Nah, just kidding. People like me are sometimes slow to realize this stuff. ;)
iwearlittlesocks
Sometimes we are accidentally cunts to the ones we love. It's part of life. Good on your dad for realising this and making up with his wife
LoveBigD
But she also gave her life
NeverOddOrEvenBackwards
She deserves the the best 50th birthday in the world.
mikeatike
Don't need to understand to know she deserves it. You are a good kid, op.
NeverNonplussed
Hey @OP, can I send her a birthday card? If you pm me your address, I'll send one and promise not to be creepy.
IamEOLS
Ignore any negativity. Your mother is a sweet, lovely, and precious woman. I hope she has a wonderful and joy-filled birthday!
amazonviv
She does! I Love hearing about great moms, mine was awful, many are. Great moms are special and deserve all the recognition
demon256
As one of my favourite quotes says, "Mother is the name for God on the lips and hearts of all children." Happy birthday to your Mother! :)
BoxesofFoxes
That quote broke me when I realized it was true, and all I ever wanted as a child was for my mother to love me.
Imguralterego
Thank you, I had forgotten this quote. It made me tear up.