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Aug 24, 2016 3:39 AM
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magamilk
I love all these #nomanever posts in the comments that aren't about harassment
TheBearsMaiden
he followed me around the store saying how i have a nice bum and cornered me at my till because "I was his favourite" i knew he was the one
MantisHunter
Noting creepier than hearing someone behind you, then feeling them lean in close, and smell your hair. He got an elbow to the face for it.
Necrosemantic
"I want taco bell for dinner" #NoSensiblePersonEver
gnargnar99
+1
theflyingnun
When he leaned out of his car and yelled woo so loudly it almost made me pee my pants out of fear I knew it was meant to be. #nowomanever
basicwhitelich
1. Exchange numbers. 2. Sign them up for weird shit like dailydickpic or something. 3.block number
weasellina
Dude walked past me, grabbed my boob & laughed. I was walking back from the morgue after seeing my aunt for the last time. 10/10 would date
ciarusvh
Have had this in Britain, Ireland, Canada, USA and probably more places where I don't speak the language.
Lulabel73
I was browsing in a shop when a man heavy breathed down the back of my neck. I knew he was the one.
thatgirl2214
I personally find whistling rude. I don't care if you're a friend or a random on the streets catcalling, whistling at people is just rude...
thisguy79
I don't see how whistling at a friend to get their attention is rude. I see it as a useful tool in that situation.
thatgirl2214
Mm, maybe that's where we differ. I personally just can't stand it.
greenduck1928
"The first 20 times he called me "fine with a great ass" I wasn't interested. The 21st time tho, he got it right& we got it on" #NoWomanEver
LisaMegatron
I was paying for gas when he said he would like to cum on my face. We've been married for 3 years! #nowomanever
KiltedinSeattle
Guys- don't be these douche nuggets. Just don't.
TheBearsMaiden
a large amount of harrassers Don't even realise they are doing anything wrong.
MotionOfTheOcean
And don't consider it harassment. They think it is even flattering or nice to comment on someone. .-.
TheBearsMaiden
Exactly. It's about awareness
dontyouworrychild
A few months ago my dad had open heart surgery and I went out for my friends birthday, mum texted me saying all went well and while I was1/2
dontyouworrychild
Replying to her, guy came up to me and took my phone and said "Stop texting.. He isn't coming".Telling him to fuck off was very satisfying
RandomImgurian
...oh my god people like this exist? This makes me feel pretty ashamed of my gender :/
Bb4816
If you do these things, be ashamed. If you don't, there's no reason to feel shame. Just be aware and sympathetic to those that deal with it.
railgin
you can support these statements and by no means legitimate other behaviours male or female (for the eventual commentators)
napu89
THANK YOU. Supporting #nowomanever can also mean you support treating men like human beings!
LarthanDelaponte
Right? Women shouldn't have to think of men as insatiable dogs. They're human beings, and women should be able to expect them to act like it
miauwauwoll
When he asked me if my breasts are real or fake, I showed him my boobs right away #NoWomanEver
fussyoreos
One time when I was 15 some middle aged builder slowly followed me in his van making kissing noises, while I was on the way to school.
Sheari
Had a guy get my attention while I was at work once (retail) by kissing loudly at me. I felt disgusting and sick. I also had to go over 1/2
Sheari
and ask him what he wanted because I was the only one in the department at the time. 2/2
Mkminister
Thats actually really irritating to me. I really dont get why people get so upset about catcalling but this story is bad. Really bad.
stopshoutingicanthearyou
It just makes you feel uneasy when you know a stranger is viewing you in a sexual manner when all you are doing is an everyday task.
jinky74
Seriously! Catcalling is a shitty thing to do for more reasons than 140 characters can do justice.
Mkminister
As I said I don't understand. If see that it isn't a nice thing to do - hence I don't. But if you care to elaborate just message me.
BraveLittlePumpkin
When he told me I was only fuckable with makeup on I rushed to the bathroom and did a full face of makeup just for him! #nowomanever
intenseintrovert
For the longest time, guys were told to be more aggressive and some guys simply take it too far. When you can balance it out - you win.
purple13
I am so happy to see the top comments accepting these jokes as sad realities for many women and not damning statements about all men
1111111111113
I understand the instinct to insert men's issues but we don't have to tear women's issues down to do so. And vice versa. Yall crazy.
AlwaysandEventuallyHannah
I agree, but also bear in mind 'inserting' men's issues doesn't necessarily have to be stealing the spotlight; it can be commiserating
Deaconse
Not *necessarily,* no - but actually? Almost always....
1111111111113
wanting it. We can have both. And it's the same sexism hurting both genders, just in opposite directions. 2
Sheari
Exactly. I was standing right next to my husband when a random girl loudly offered him sex at a convention in a crowded hallway. He's an 1/2
Sheari
upstanding guy already and this was a very new experience for both of us. He'd never really been harassed and I'd never been a witness 2/3
Sheari
but I had been harassed in the past. He looked to me for guidance because he didn't know what to do :c 3/3
1111111111113
Women get sexually harassed more, and more aggressively. But men who are sexually harassed have less support, and are shamed for 1
canonlyturnright
In Rome..local fuckwit grabs my daughters ass right in front of me. No remorse at all and called her puta or some shit. I dropped him...
canonlyturnright
...cops were shitty with me until a Senior cop showed up decided he didnt want to deal with a enraged big hairy Aussie. Fuck
canonlyturnright
Them...the point is I cant believe the crap women have to put up with as some men just dont have any shame.
ErogenousEnigma
I was 11 the first time I remember being catcalled, I didn't even really understand I just knew I was uncomfortable and wanted to get away.
kungfucatattack
Was 9 when I developed. Never felt sexy, just embarrassed and weird. Children
sausageseeker
Have you read Bossypants? It talks about this, how girls knew they were women from being yelled at from a car. (Instead of an achievement)
symbicord
As a grown ass man, this made me tear up. The World is a fucked up place
TastesLikeHealing
Yup, age 11 for me too. Worst part looking back was when family members didn't step in...they'd just joke about 'entering womanhood'
justanotherfartinthewind
yeah i think being catcalled and uncomfortably sexualized is one of the earliest developmental moments for girls. which is so so depressing
kungfucatattack
I was 9 when I developed. I was always embarrassed and awkward. Adults had no problem with comments, sexual and shaming.
Angelova33
Started happening to me at the age of 12, and I was a total tomboy. :(
Sheari
13 when a guy at my parents' church blocked my way, leered at me, and said "Hey good lookin'". My mom didn't think it was a problem.
NoSleepTilBrooklyn
I developed early & remember a creepy guy in a store telling my mom that she'd have to watch out for me, because my body was "dangerous".
kungfucatattack
Developed early too (9). I got stuff like this. And shamed. Weird feeling ashamed for your body when you don't even know what sex was.
HalfPintBabies
What a disgusting scumbag.
quinderegg
I was sexually assaulted last night and i don't know what to do
PrincessWasabi
Do not shower, talk to your doctor or trusted family member. You might want to pick up a kit from your local pd for evidence
maniacllyappathetic
You should talk to someone close about it and/or see a counsellor, i dont know the specifics but it is the first step to dealing with things
1111111111113
Your gynecologist, even your general practioner is a good place to start. Healing takes time and it is not easy. But it can be done, and 3
1111111111113
Go get help. Confide in someone you trust. If you're not ready for that seek out a professional, a support group or website. 1
1111111111113
You will be ok. Get help, it can be painful to ask for support at first but it makes a world of difference. I'm sorry you have to go 5
1111111111113
https://www.rainn.org , http://">g">https://www.rainn.org , http://www.woar.org/counseling-and-support/ , if you are female try women's centers in your area or contact 2
1111111111113
through this. Take care of yourself. 6
TheLastZombieCat
When a street vendor looked me up and down and whistled as I waited for a crosswalk, I invited him to dinner immediately! #nowomanever
Mkminister
When a group of girls touched my butt in the club repeatedly and laughed whenever i turned around i was flattered #damnactuallyme.
Deaconse
I have a rich fantasy life, too.
Mkminister
Happened in Stockholm
mishmashmish
Why do you feel the need to discredit other people's experiences? Just because you were okay with something, doesn't mean everyone is
doctorbees
"I really enjoyed when you walked up to me in a bar and smacked my ass so hard it left a handprint," said #NoWomanEver
ABillionDucks
Really? No woman ever?
doctorbees
Not from a random drunk stranger in a bar, no.
ABillionDucks
Now you're adding more qualifiers to it.
doctorbees
No, I'm not.
ABillionDucks
Yeah, you are.
30GDD
Oh my god that would so be my excuse to finally get into a fight. I think I'd lose my shit if someone did that to me.
doctorbees
I honestly didn't know what to do; I just froze. My friends kept him away from me and got him kicked out of the bar, though.
30GDD
Damn, good on your friends, and I am SO SORRY that you had to live through that. What kind of fuckstain thinks that's an OK thing to do???
doctorbees
My friends are good people. The guy was super trashed, and the bouncer said he'd been trouble all night and that was his final strike.
greenduck1928
Feeling uncomfortable walking the street is not a feeling that anyone, man or woman, should have to deal with.
PleasantPeasantPheasant
As someone with social anxiety, Amen to that.
IHuggedaCorgiToday
Welcome to my life
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Milchsteak
Okay I see how my sarcastic comment lets me look like an ignorant anti feminism asshat, but it was a joke guys.
Forensickle
Yeah, men totally get beaten as often as woman get harassed
Nobody7713
As a young man, I feel safe walking alone at night as long as I'm not going down an alley. My female friends can't say the same.
Nyactical
Women get harassed when they walk in groups in broad daylight.
Milchsteak
Man get downvoted when they don't mark their comment as sarcasm in broad daylight.
Nyactical
Poor them /s that's happens to everyone
jhellion
Sure thing, Donald.
SmellsLikeISeeDeadPeople
These make me ashamed for all of us men.
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thecolonels
I think a more appropriate response is to call other dudes out on their douchebaggyness. It is a problem and it begins telling someone stfu
purple13
Thank you. Seriously.
tullojs
Don't be ashamed if you don't do it. Shared plumbing doesn't equal shared responsibility.
Leinad199
I don't. I take responsibility for my own actions. Not the actions. Just because some guys are dicks doesn't bother me. Some girls are cunts
Leinad199
Not the actions of others*
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
You do you. I for one only take responsibility for my own actions.
misterbelle
don't pit other people with the bad ones.
inevitableban
Stop. This is just like apologizing for an opinion or saying something controversial. They aren't your actions and it's not all inclusive.
NotoriousDuchess
Well that's a stupid attitude.
boevis
Sometimes I wish I lived in areas where this happens, but I feel like these are the type of guys to throw fists for "cockblocking"
NoSleepTilBrooklyn
This kind of thing is not limited to any particular part of town. It happens all over, even in the dead quiet suburban area where I live.
livita
Idk where you live, but chances are it happens. everytime I've been sexually harassed like this there aren't any bystander men to see/hear
TheUtahn
That's the idea.
TheUtahn
#feminism
TheSongofRiver
don't be. us woman objectify men as much as we get objectified. we just mostly do it behind your back.
Actualdeadpool
Yea, but we love it.
Cyberspace2
Two different things.
Heyheyheyalltheway
Being objectified and being stalked having to move jobs because of harassment among other things are 2 different categories
UndeadDickCheney
I've seen more women stalkers than men.
diehardlance
These are assailed. Not necessarily stalkers. Don't have to go to the extreme to make your point actually sound valid.
diehardlance
*assholes
Heyheyheyalltheway
It's stated in the description? But point being that they are two different things relating one to be ok while not addressing the other
Sarcee
I can tell the comments are going to get heated. Man vs women stuff. Let's remember that shit would be creepy for anyone regardless of sex
NOINOON
Creepy, yes, but what about the actual physical threats? Do you get blocked from your car by women regularly? Do women follow you home? Do >
Textuality
It doesn't happen to ANYONE "regularly". However, yes, I HAVE been followed to my car by other women and threatened.
MotionOfTheOcean
Perhaps he meant it for men to think for a moment how they'd feel if got catcalled and all that? 1/2
MotionOfTheOcean
And androgynous males or trans peeps or transvestites can get beaten up a lot. So physical threat is not only on women, but awful it is.
NOINOON
But trans-people get beaten up because they are "not men" by the assailant's standards...
Jezebella
Sadly they are in one of the groups most likely to be attacked. . .you know. . .for daring to exist.
MotionOfTheOcean
That is sad and true and sadly true, though.
Barley426
Not the same but I had a BBW with gold teeth pinch my ass at a gas station then follow me to my car saying "watchu don't like gurls?!"
Jezebella
That's pretty much the same.
Barley426
I turned around & told her it's fucked up to do something like that. Of course being a physically fit man I was not scared but uncomfortable
Jezebella
I guess there is a difference between when a guy I could take in a fight catcalls and one who I wouldn't stand a chance against. It's scary
Barley426
And I think that's generally a big difference for women. Being uncomfortable and scared must suck a lot more than what happened to me.
thedwarvesareforthedwarves
That's no fun, either. Sorry someone thought it was okay to treat you like that.
ciarusvh
I don't know one woman who hasn't experienced some sexual harassment. Most guys I know never have. That's why we're talking about women.
Textuality
Honestly, I think a lot of women wildly exaggerate how much "harassment" they get. I and most of the women I know experience VERY little.
justanotherfartinthewind
women you "know"
SethBalmore
I've been harassed by a couple of gay guys (they were both shit faced drunk at the times) and I thought "this is what women deal with every"
SethBalmore
...day." and luckily for me ending the situation was as easy.
justanotherfartinthewind
yeah i live in NY and i don't know a single woman who hasn't seen a man whip a dick out in front of her on the train. isn't that fucked?
SwitchPup
I never have, and I'm a woman. Feminists accuse me of being in denial. I just figure I must be unattractive, lol.
DianeKC
I've never experienced it. If I have, I probably didn't realize they were catcalling. I'm just happy to have any human contact...
Mkminister
Guys just dont talk about it because it doesnt matter that much to us or because we actually go for it afterwards.
HamboneHFY
Speaking as a guy who HAS been sexually harassed... my feelings on the matter are more complicated than that. They won't fit here.
justanotherfartinthewind
man, that's a really good response. well put. also i'm sorry that you had to experience that
HamboneHFY
I was a taxi driver. Honestly it wasn't the hardest thing I had to deal with in that job, but it did contribute to my choosing to quit.
ciarusvh
I've talked about this in detail with the men I know; for them it's been isolated incidents. For many women it's always, everywhere, (1)
Mkminister
touches without any consent because in most cases we like it. Getting hit because you dont want to be danced with isnt fun though 1/2.
ciarusvh
(2) and we HAVE to worry about it. There is an assoc'd fear of violence, & if you're not smart about avoiding/reacting, it's "your fault"
Mkminister
If you want i can tell you some of the things i witnessed. The difference is consent. Most men dont consider it harassment when a girl 1/2
DenverPostironic
Seriously, WHO THE FUCK TELLS A STRANGER TO 'SMILE'? WHAT IF THEY'RE ON THEIR WAY TO A FUCKING FUNERAL AND JUST TRYING TO KEEP IT TOGETHER?!
MostValuableDickbutt
I'm a guy and I've had female hawkers (like at temp kiosks) tell me to smile. Was really annoying.
FLUFFYHO
One time when I worked at a gasstation, I had a shift short after a friend of mine died. And a customer said: WHY DON'T YOU JUST SMILE
Icantalktoducks
Went to a pub about 1 week after granddad died. Guy gave me the smile line. Told him why. The guilt on that lads face.
maymaymaymaytham
someone told me this the day i left the hospital after my husband attempted suicide...fuck people who say this.
NoSleepTilBrooklyn
I've been told to smile by approximately 10 bazillion strangers in my life. It never stops being annoying.
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Dragongirl7256
Had a dude tell me in front of his friends, ' you'd be prettier if you smiled.' When I kept the blank face he proceeded to tell me I was 1/2
Dragongirl7256
A cunt. Well sorry I don't wanna smile after you teaches the store bud 2/2
AtLeastHalfwayDecent
Decent men don't witness it much. But if I'm alone, it's my job to smile & appear flattered by unwarranted catcalls or I'm a fucking bitch.
CreepyPhlox
I get it all the time.
cocoakoumori
My mouth turns down ever so slightly at the corners so I have a resting miserable face. One I hate is "cheer up, it'll never happen!"
MotionOfTheOcean
Yeah, I have resting misery face too. Old hobos have come to ask me if everything is okay (which is kinda adorable), but "cheer up" is not.
cocoakoumori
I actually really like when people ask if things are ok, faith in humanity restored a bit. I totally totally agree with you!
ArmlessHoodieDance
It never bothered me, then someone said it to me when I was 41 weeks pregnant. It wasn't pretty.
rezpawner
Oh cheer up, you.
ProvidesYouShittyLinks
You might be overthinking this
keyonne
Nope. Usually a comment along the lines of "I bet I could make you happy." In an inappropriate tone follows.
Quessan
Then smile, research shows even forcing a smile makes you happier.
GoogleKnowsTooMuchAboutMe
You seem upset, just smile!
mothernature94
I can see where people in this comment thread are coming from...but I don't mind when people tell me to smile. It's nice that people care...
silverhands
The act of smiling, even if it is consciously faked, releases endorphines, relieves stress, and can improve your mood. So, actually faking
silverhands
a smile would actually help them. So yeah, their good intentioned suggestion would actually help if you followed it rather than see them as
silverhands
a nuisance who doesn't know what they're talking about.
Kierbear2g
$5 says you're a dude.
FLUFFYHO
And when I told my teacher about the funeral of said friend I was told to not be so damn depressing ........
alteriron
Im sorry for your loss...move on
DoctorNerdyPants
Guy told me this after I got kicked out of grad school & was walking to the bus with tears running down my face. Responded with "F*** you."
Lulabel73
Has no one ever said this to you?!
DenverPostironic
Only rarely, but I'm a big bearded man with Resting Murder Face, so people tend to avoid me.
Lulabel73
Lol. Maybe I need to draw a big scar across my face.
thisismyimgurname
The day I was buying clothes for my grandfather’s funeral a guy told me “Damn would it kill you to smile?” He got sobbing tears instead
Leafsss
I was told to smile by someone on the bus once, 2 hours earlier I found out my dads bf had passed away.
ParsleySage
"Cheer up, it might never happen." "And you might never spontaneously combust but let's stay hopeful."
Jezebella
All the damn time. I don't owe you a smile random guy on the street. I don't know you. I don't owe you shit.
cattingtons
Fucking everyone. So irritating
potshot
This is the one that outrages you? Really? Not the sexual harrassment, but a statement that could be well meaning and joyful?
DenverPostironic
Well, sexual harassment is worse, obviously. It bothers me that anyone thinks that they have any idea what someone else is going through.
potshot
I don't think people assume that they know what they are going through. It's more of a request to see a pretty smile.
MotionOfTheOcean
Perhaps sexual harassment annoys them too. Doesn't need to be mutually exclusive, you know. And well meaning? Haha really?
THExPILLOx
Happiness is a disease and smiling is the cough that spreads it
MotionOfTheOcean
Made me chuckle. But people are not obliged to smile in public. And it doesn't mean you have to be rude, if you don't feel like smiling.
ciarusvh
Its not well meant. Its just a way of getting attention/exerting social power over you. Its usually followed by some sexual comment anyway.
ciarusvh
It's*
thehandsomedoctor
I think it's an American thing. The few girls I know who experienced that had it happen with American middle aged men. It still baffles me
margaretolson
I'm Canadian and have heard it more times than I can count
thehandsomedoctor
I'm deeply sorry on behalf of my gender
margaretolson
Not your fault but thank you :) there are lots of amazing men out there!
NoSleepTilBrooklyn
No, it is not. British people do it all the time. Generally older ones.
Mkminister
I think most of them have no ill intent though and genuinely would like to see you happy.
raidleadergutts
They should mind their own fucking business.
Mkminister
Ye fuck everyone don't care for anything.
NoSleepTilBrooklyn
What they want is completely irrelevant. You don't go around telling strangers what do do with their own faces. It's rude.
napu89
I have the bitchiest resting face and I get it ALL THE TIME. It gets really old.
catsandcoke
Same here. Am I supposed to walk around with a smile on my face all the time? I'd look crazy.
HolyLordXenu
I know what you mean people always think I'm angry and it's so annoying.
raidleadergutts
The worst part is when they insist that you're, then when you do get angry because of it they go "See? I knew it.". Special place in hell.
napu89
No really though!! I have a super expressive face so I can't hide my annoyance and then they are like "see, lighten up!!"
ChelbyCobra
Same here! Except my kids are with me a lot so now it's even weirder. Had a guy tell me that I needed to learn to smile more for the kids
MauSekhmet
Same here :/ I never know what to say so I think my resting face gets even bitchier.
napu89
Mine too!
WombatOfWomblemore
See, i'm a dude and i don't get told to smile by strangers but my resting face looks so mopey that people straight up ask if im ok.
thenaughtyavocado
Have a cute resting baby face with medium/long hair. shaved it on a dare, had to make a constant effort to smile or i looked like a murderer
MyCatLikesToFruitcake
I have a resting depressed face. I'd rather have a resting bitch face.
consultingassbutt
Yep
MagicalDoctorZ
You just need to smile more babeh, but in all honesty, do girls actually respond positively to this shit?
philosobomb
I start cussing. I admire ladies who can walk on without responding, honestly.
napu89
No. I never know what to do when someone comments on my face besides awkwardly stare
mintynipples
I never have. I have a strong rbf and as soon as some stranger says smile it turns into extremely pissed off face.
chickenchickenwheresyourdinner
"Smile, it can't be that bad."
CharlieKellyWildcard
I have rbf too, but this has never happened to me. I'm also a guy but imgur told me that male privilege isn't real so now I'm confused
bananaranga
I look like a jerk all the time, and I get asked why I don't smile, or why I'm mad all the time. Male here
CharlieKellyWildcard
By random people on the street though?
bananaranga
Happened twice or so. Mostly I get hate because apparently I look like a creep. Figure that should amount to roughly the same.
Brokehungryandalone
Same thing my sister informed me that apparently it's because I constantly look like a Viking on my way to burn something
napu89
Haha idk if guys ever get told to smile or not. Who knows? But women sure do!
Brokehungryandalone
My sister told me that at least in my case it's because I look like I'll try to beat them up, problem of being 62 and 250 pounds I guess
Cjamhampton
I think it's because guys aren't held to the standard of needing to be beautiful or pretty like women are.
napu89
I think I love you