One of Patton Oswalt's first posts after the death of his wife. Thought some other folks might need this as well.

Aug 2, 2016 3:49 AM

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"oh still have time before I need to get ready, I'll open up imgur for some laug...oh. oh god."

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

So lucky to have my wife. Patton, you've been 102 days without, and I feel like I've taken mine for granted now. Best wishes to this man.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

This hurts my heart so profoundly, I hope time helps to heal him, from what I know he is a great man

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

Damn these onions. Wish I could give the guy a bear hug

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

Lose your cool, and you're saved. The man has definitely experienced depression.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

I need this. I don't want it, but I need it

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

TL;DR: FUCK YOU, READ THIS!!!!

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 2

I don't wanna, cause I started crying in the middle of reading :c

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

"The air caught fire around me and the sun died."

9 years ago | Likes 49 Dislikes 0

His acting is so heartwarming. Love everything he's in

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

"People underestimate Bob at their peril."

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 26 Dislikes 0

He even looks like a little Patton =(

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Man, this guy can write some eloquent things!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Comedian or not, he's a true man of letters.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

i want to give him a hug

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Thanks for posting this. Today, it really helps.

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 0

Depression, especially medical depression, convinces you of hopelessness even if there is. Grief is the MF where there is no hope.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 0

Grief is the goddamn wound you can't heal. One way or another you accept it, consciously or not as part of yourself so you can live.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

and every now and then it reminds you its still there like it happened yesterday.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

10 years after my elder brother passed, i realize i am now older than he ever got to be. Grief finds little things like this to rip at you.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

I was real worried about him, he had been battling depression for a while already and after his wife died, idk what would happen to him

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

As a husband who has experienced the same, my grief was tempered by caring for a 3 lb preemie. One never heals completely. 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

(2/2) There is always a limp from the lost limb.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

"Someday, someone you love will die. And then you'll realise that none of this matters." I don't know who said it, but damn...

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

After reading this, I'm gonna hug the shit out of my husband tonight.

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 0

If you both make it back...

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Squeeze his butt too, we guys like to feel sexy along with love.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Can confirm, love butt squeezies.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Grief is something carried your whole life. My father died when I was 9, sometimes little things remind me of him and no matter what I'llcry

9 years ago | Likes 61 Dislikes 1

Dad died a few years ago. When things remind me of him I'm more thankful that he was here than sad he's gone. It's helped me.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

My friend's dad died when she was young and one day a man came into our store that looked just like him. She had to go in the back and cry.

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

I miss my mom, but I don't cry when I think of her. I'm just happy I was by her side on her last days.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

I lost my father at 18. Hardest year and last year of highschool. At times it's still hard.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

He already has depression, Mentioned battling it rather frequently in his specials. He said that their faces made it all worth the fight.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I rarely get invested in celebrities because I don't know them. He is one I truly respect even before this. I'm glad to hear him talking....

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Finally talking about it. I lost my mom. My dad raised me. He buckled under the pressure and became an abusive drunk. Be strong Patton.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I wish I could give him a hug. I know grief over something you couldn't control. No way to have helped. Just do the best you can to cope.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I could never understand depression. As a very optimistic and cheerful person, I would always look at the bright side and try to find /1

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

A solution to everything. Until I lost my 17y old brother. For the first time in my life I didn't WANT to be happy anymore. /2

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

There WAS no solution. I'm a very empathic person and just seeing what it did to my ever-cheerful parents was heartbreaking /3

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

It was the first time that I understood depression. It changed my view on life. Honestly I wish I was still more naive like back then. /end

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

102 days from now is Friday 11 November, 2016.

9 years ago | Likes 148 Dislikes 4

Damn...

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I could have done that math but I'm way more appreciative that you did. Thanks! +1

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Meet me here, on November 11th. Come alone.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

That's my birthday.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Right but I think he meant 102 days past?

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 6

"After 102 days I'm crawling. Maybe 102 days from now I'll be walking.

9 years ago | Likes 30 Dislikes 1

Yeah but that's a poetic turn, I don't think it was meant literally.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

*sets calendar to check in with Pat*

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

...that's my birthday. Shit. Now I feel like I have to do something of value. In 102 days I want to be proud of something. Crap.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Be walking. That is all he would ask of you.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

I launched a website. Nothing major, but it's something more than I did last year.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It's been 422 days since my mother left this land. I've found my legs though they ache as though unused for millennia.

9 years ago | Likes 93 Dislikes 5

That ache is going to be gone eventually, and you'll be back to life as best as you can live it. Stay strong, and know that people care

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The day I found my legs again I set in stone my grand journey to the far lands of tomorrow. I left, then, kin and ken well in my wake.

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

..

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Lost my mom eight years ago, sometimes my legs still give out.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Last night was not the only night this week I cried in memory. The void remains though healed is the flesh.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

My dad died almost 20 years ago, and I still bawl like a baby every fathers day. :(

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'm dragging my birthday this year as I was born on my mom's. I don't know how to tell my friends that I don't want to celebrate.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This was beautiful to read. I lost my mom almost 15 years ago now, back when I was 8. You're approaching this with a really strong mindset.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

My mind is only strong because of who she was and who she saw me as. At first my coping mechanism was shite, I became stagnant.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Stay strong! :) I'm not on here very often, but please feel free to message me if you ever need to talk.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The same thing happened to me as well, I barely left bed for almost a week. Recovery is slow, but the people you lost can help you grow.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

When I did finally start doing things again I had to replace my foam bed topper. I'd compressed it in a body shape.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I feel as though she's moved on to one of the world's she saw and put into words. What we knew as ink on paper she saw as a living realm.

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 1

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9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

That was beautiful

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Thank you. It was the wee hours of the morning then but I feel as though I need to write more along those lines. I might post it.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

365 days, and I am barely crawling. He was my best friend, not my spouse, but every word of this rings true to me

9 years ago | Likes 145 Dislikes 0

As little as it matters, you have my heartfelt condolences.

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 0

May his memory be eternal.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I am so sorry for your loss.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Cheers to your friendship. May your life always lead to greener pastures and sunnier Isles.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

*hugs*

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

My heart hurts for you

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

1984 days. I still think about him every day. I'm sorry for your loss. Do you think Patton is right about grief ? I found it very true.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Almost swiped by this. Stayed to read it out of respect to the dude, and I'm really glad I did.

9 years ago | Likes 885 Dislikes 5

I did the exact same thing.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm not crying, your crying.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Did the same thing

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I don't respect him as much as most do. I find him condescending. But this? This I respect.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

Same.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ditto.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

"Read it out of respect to the dude" ... Dude, I feels you.

9 years ago | Likes 95 Dislikes 0

So many of these actors are incredibly brilliant human beings who make us laugh. But rarely do they get the spotlight. Thinking of you sir.

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

What happened to his wife?

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Sudden death. Cause hasn't been determined yet.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

as an aspie, i feel like i'm missing out - my grandfather and I were very close and my reaction was just "it was nice knowing him" 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 4

and when a close friend hung himself "well he isn't depressed anymore", i always get treated like a freak for this and can't fake it yet 2/2

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 2

I think it's more that people fear if you aren't broken up about death you never cared for the person to begin with. And if you don't 1

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Fellow Aspie & you're definitely not a freak. Grief manifests in different ways for everyone, even as another Aspie mine works differently.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

care about that person, what do you feel about them? 2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Grief is a selfish emotion. People feel it because we rely on others and what they do for us. We depended on them emotionally.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 23

welp thabks for that, makes sense

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 3

EVERYTHING IS SELFISH. EVERYTHING YOU DO AND FEEL AND THINK IS SELFISH. Welcome to the human race.

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

I'm not sure why you're yelling at me. Aspies don't act out of selfishness because they don't use others to fulfill their needs.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Um... what? That's not what selfishness is.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

As a father, losing my wife and having to raise the kids by myself sounds impossibly terrifying.

9 years ago | Likes 939 Dislikes 2

As a mother, I hope my family won't have to experience this for 60+ years. I don't even want to think about my husband trying to explain to

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

our 2 year old son. I have to go wake him up and kiss his fat little face now.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

When my daughters were born my wife had a complication and was told she could die. I took them home alone, completely terrified.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Man I really want to give Patton Oswalt a hug right now.

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

I read this in his voice... Because just the sound of it makes me smile... Funny guy.. tough times.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Amen, brother. Amen.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Amen.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

i feel you man =(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You are someone's hero. Hang in there. <3

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My life right now. My wife died June 9th leaving me wit a 6 and 9 year daughters! It's hell everyday!

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0

Lovely physical half-copies of your wife. Honor her by being a hero for them! You can do it! We believe in you!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Same, but it's been 4-1/2 years since lung cancer took my wife. My daughter was 11. It's true hell, but bro, if I could do it, you can, too!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It doesn't help now, I know, but it gets better. I haven't lost a spouse, but I lost a mother almost 8 years ago now. Love those little ones

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Probably a leetle bit easier if you're a millionaire

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 70

I think at this point money wouldnt help.Youve just lost your favorite person to spend it with

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

No its not. Money doesn't raise children or help soothe grief. Fuck off.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Boohoo. Money can pay somebody to raise your kids, money gets your kids nice things, money makes life better when you're sad

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

It was insensitive of him to say that but whether or not the deceased had life insurance would make a big difference for that family, sure.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Noir for Patton Oswalts family. Dude stays rich af. He can go on vacation, buy a small island, donate millions to charity, whatever it takes

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

You can't buy your way out of grief

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

As the daughter of someone who did that, no one should have to do it, but it can make heroes out of men

9 years ago | Likes 267 Dislikes 1

that is a beautiful thing to say, so many men crack under the pressure of being a parent. It's great to see you recognise this +1

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 0

I can't imagine how difficult it was for him, but he never made us feel like we were hard work. He made us feel like his greatest joy

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

As another daughter who was raised by a single father it makes them the best men in the world

9 years ago | Likes 104 Dislikes 0

Daughter of single Dad here. My dad is my hero. Love that guy so much!

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

My little bro and I were raised by my dad, by himself. We think he did ok.

9 years ago | Likes 46 Dislikes 0

I'm just winging it like everybody else (my wife died 14 months ago, I have 7 and 12 year old girls)

9 years ago | Likes 117 Dislikes 0

Good/Bad doesn't really matter - you are still there. That's the most important part.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

My sister in law died one year ago, left my brother and 3 girls, 10 ( twins) and 7 years. She was one of the best humans. I've ever met.

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 0

Best of luck to him!

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

And you as well.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Keep doing your best. Be honest in all things. Challenging day - tell the kids. Let them help in their own way. You're all in this together.

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Hang in there, man. Make sure you've got yourself some backup.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Her parents are local to me, and the community around their school has been fantastic.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I didn't know his wife died. He spoke so fondly of her and his daughter. I can't feel what he's feeling, but it hurts.

9 years ago | Likes 340 Dislikes 3

One of very few comedians who seemed to have a genuinely happy, stable relationship, it's fuckin tragic.

9 years ago | Likes 85 Dislikes 0

There was a guy on Twitter who like a few days after she died tweet him and said that was funnier than anything he had done in years.

9 years ago | Likes 57 Dislikes 4

I know this makes me an asshole, but that made me smile. It is fucked up, and I probably wouldn't have at that time. I feel so bad for him.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

yeah i laughed more of a reaction of how utterly absurd and fucked up it was.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sorry I almost downvoted you because that made me angry. Even from some stupid callous stranger, hearing that would really hurt.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I'm normally a fairly non-violent person, but this is the kind of thing public beatings were made for.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

Twitter is a festering shit pile of a website now.

9 years ago | Likes 51 Dislikes 3

There are some really strange people on there...

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It always has been, friend. It's why I deleted it years ago.

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 2

I saw someone wrote rip harambe in a post where the op is mourning about the death of his mother. What a cunt

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1