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Men want cuddles too
Jun 21, 2019 11:46 AM
TheProTaco
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RoboticKitty
I've tried to do this with my partners. I hope I was at least moderately successful.
iamzcr99
My girlfriend did it a few weeks ago and I hated to admit it but I almost cried
Poopoopeepeevagina
Why does everybody cry in story’s on the internet
Pigswithstripes
My bf just comes to me and says love me, when he needs to be cuddled. It's damn cute.
NeoAcario
He wants/needs it a lot more than he's asking...
Darklingspeaks360
I cuddle my husband daily! We both work really hard and it keeps us connected.
Sotha
Mushnick1006
I have a four month old, he gets more goddamn smooches from me than you could imagine. We alsoyell at each other, my wife thinks it's weird
cogitoro
For people who seem generally annoyed by victim culture, we sure do throw pity parties for ourselves DAILY around here.
ArmedandOverclocked
it feels good when my gf is the big spoon. The warmth from her body feels good against my bad back.
DarthDoctor12
And people wonder why there are professional cuddler businesses out there. Because people need it and too many of us don't get enough.
PoppaBigBear
On the outside, it looks like i know what i'm doing, but JFC i'm just barely holding it together.
Fauxcused
Friend of son is gay. Parent-rejected. We let him stay at our house on Xmas. Wife hugged him and he started sobbing uncontrollably.
circlebreaker
Aw, poor kid. Tell your wife that she's the best.
TheJudgeHasItBackwards
I don't know about the rest of that, but the running your nails lightly across my back move gets me every time.
totallyrealname
Pfft, when I do this to my husband he gets antsy and annoyed. Apparently affection is a conditional thing you have to guess about.
PhilKenSebbensLeftEye
There's a barrier that can be difficult to overcome. Depends on age/ generation. Years of lacking affection make it difficult to pen up. Try
PhilKenSebbensLeftEye
things that can be 'disguised' as less affectionate. A gentle shoulder massage. At the end just a kiss on the nape and an "i love you."
Malikhi
Most real women I've dated know this. It's the immature ones, the thots, and the crazy ones that found it surprising.
Malikhi
Oh, to clarify, I'm not saying you're bad if you didn't know this. Fine, caring adults aren't born, we're made.
allcattywampus
I'm not sure whether imgurians all date horrible women or don't date at all and believe actual women are like the caricatures on imgur.
SonrisaFlores
Don't listen ladies, it's a trick. Every time I tried to do this, I ended up pregnant.
ayeface
ADisturbinglyAttractiveCactus
Boy have I got an incredibly invention to tell you about! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Condom
YouGotThatRight
1 of 18 foster kids 2yr old boy (serious trauma,) I did this every night until he was adopted at 5. 19 now and he still calls to say thanks
3blindmicestolemycar
A real woman knows that men like to be manly but in secret want hugs all the time.
AdalKatze
Yep, how I am 100%. I show the manly side to the world but only my woman geta to see my soft side.
gopms
And everyone should learn that wanting hugs is not unmanly!
Opportunist
Real women don't just magically 'know'. Find someone receptive in the first place, tell her you need it and/or ask sweetly. Profit! ♥♥
BlastyMcBlastblast
to the front page!! the world needs to know this!
SpringToMyWinter
It’s been there. Repeatedly. But I guess it doesn’t hurt to do it again.
BlastyMcBlastblast
who doesn't like more cuddles & shoulder rubs?!
BossRoswell
It's really any sign of affection. My mother mailed me a plush toy rabbit for Easter, and I just sat in my room crying for an hour. I'm 27.
SisterMidnight
Some women learn from experience that physical affection is seen by men as request for sex. I wish guys communicated they want cuddles more.
Canofminus
I’ll take a solid backscratching session over a BJ any day of the week. Just let me drift off to sleep.
GingerLaird
Love cuddling. It's the most amazing thing because when you're feeling like shit, you know someone cares enough to make physical contact.
PoliteButFactualCanadian
Men have to be self sufficient at all times. Society won't help them and women won't look their way unless they are.
Ikindawantsoup
That's awful. Men deserve to be taken care of. I'm trying teach my boys that by treating my husband well.
PoliteButFactualCanadian
Even today, Men work longer hours when they have a family/spouse. They're programmed to sacrifice themselves for their lineage.
PoliteButFactualCanadian
It's part of our evolution as a social species. Men are disposable. 100 men and 2 woman = dead tribe. Vice versa, they survive.
helagos
I've been single for two years now and a very close friend of mine did this to me. I started crying because I hadn't had that affection (1)
helagos
given in so long and did not realize how much I needed it. She was super understanding and just kept cuddling me. (2)
IMightBeIntoSomeWeirdStuff
I'm a single guy and I legitimately think about this pretty much daily
Fifofu
I miss my bed against the wall so I could at least be spooned by the wall. Stupid adulthood and double beds in the middle of the room.
pleaseuseotherdoor
I "jokingly" pet my male best friend's face or head from time to time. Everyone needs physical contact. Even when we aren't in relationships
Ghost0fDawn
pff, I've repressed the idea entirely.
PeanutMama88
Did this to a man once and he accused me of getting too comfortable with him and that I "shouldnt get used to this".
textilelover
"Don't worry, I'll think it's special every time."
helagos
Toxic Masculinity is a real sonuva bitch and takes time to move past. Don't be afraid to do it again with whomever is special to you.
Darkspire
Might have been a defensive mechanism.
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
this. i reacted weirdly when first experiencing non-sexual affection from my husband. i didnt like it, but i evetually admitted it was nice.
Snooj
Was it a boyfriend or just some dude on a bus?
BrianBoyko
Why can't I find a some dude on a bus?
stjohnallerdyce
Same
ColdestOne
Dont be detered. Whether he really liked it or not he just didnt know how to react. Men need more affection and need to know they're wanted.
ColdestOne
(I don't mean to keep going if he doesn't want it, I mean don't give up on other men)
ColdestOne
Men don't receive the compliments and affection that women do and aren't usually the focus of physical desire. Men are expected to initiate
ColdestOne
sex and sometimes it feels like we're not even wanted. The man is often expected to be the one leading the show. It's tiring.
ColdestOne
To be clear I'm not blaming women. It is how society has ended up, it's not any one person or group's fault. It does need to change though.
ColdestOne
The reaction you saw is probably him not knowing wtf is happening with his feelings.
newmexicantreturns
Yeah it’s wild the first time. I was like what the fuck is that? What are you doing?
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
i felt the same when dating my husband and he was just wanting to cuddle before bed. i was like "Sex?" and he was like "What? No, just 1/
Darkspire
"I don't...I don't under-ahhh I see what you're driving at."
LadyAyami
Is this the sex?
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
i felt the same when dating my husband and he was just wanting to cuddle before bed. i was like "Sex?" and he was like "What? No, just 1/
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
cuddle." i was so confused. then i was cranky bc i didnt understand the point of cuddling without it leading into sex. but then it was 2/
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
nice. and i was like "Oh, this is why other women like cuddling." 3/3
rmsrmsrms38
Women. Please read this.
textilelover
And men, please don't think women want to have sex every time they show affection physically. It's a bit of a catch 22.
GingerJam23
Fucking THIS. I'm trying to be sweet and affectionate please stop turning it into sex.
LumpWithaLeafHat
I shamelessly drape myself over my wife at every opportunity and insist she rubs me. She does the same to me. Rubs all around.
dontmagpie
i cuddle the fuck out of my husband all the time
END3RW1GGIN
Cuddling and fucking are 2 different things though.
rmsrmsrms38
You, madam, are a hero.
Treyness
Hope he never takes that for granted. Mine won't touch me anymore
dontmagpie
friendo, please talk to your spouse. let them know what you need. be receptive to what they need. good luck <3
Treyness
I've tried many times. She does not like to talk about anything serious. Facing reality is not her strong suit.
dontmagpie
*hugs*
bigusdigus
Men need physical touch the same way women need to talk.
acme64
can we do the touching first kthx
Opportunist
I don't like to talk, and hubby had to cuddle me lots to make me cuddly.
CannibalisticHedgehog
Every now and then when I'm feeling down I go to my friends and just ask her for a hug. A simple hug means everything sometimes.
ThanosWasNotWrong
men also need to communicate their needs without expecting their partner to read their minds
BangusDangus
Two-way street
BrianBoyko
If we said: "I really would like you to hold me in your lap and call me your 'sweet baboo'", wouldn't that come off as creepy?
StaalTheNotQuiteSoUndefeatedAnymoreButNevermind
Agree, no doubt. 100%. But with things like the post, a lot of us aren't even aware of what we need.
ThanosWasNotWrong
then thats YOUR thing to figure out not your partners. Yes, society and sexism places a lot of undue burdens on men, but it's up to US 1/?
StaalTheNotQuiteSoUndefeatedAnymoreButNevermind
I can't seem to find the second part of your message, but I don't disagree with you at all. Just pointing out a bit of a hitch in 1/2
ThanosWasNotWrong
as men to identify our issues and fix them. It's not women's responsibility to fix broken men
swagb98623
ugh all you think about is sex! .. /s
ShineyAndChrome
Don't know how many more ways I can tell my wife that when I say I need physical attention I don't mean just more sex.
swagb98623
My guess is she knows already but either doesn't want it or does want to start a fight
GenevaCat
Show her this? I also offer cuddle services for $$$ :D
AustenFan
Do you specifically say "Just like, hold my hand more or give me a hug more often." Or do you say "I need more physical attention"?
RabbitYuko
Step 1 completed. Step 2: find a boyfriend.
Enohpoxas
So... You're single?
RabbitYuko
What do you think I’ve been doing my entire life? Socializing? Hell nah.
Enohpoxas
In that case, you're in luck. Imma be your Internet boyfriend!
RabbitYuko
Wait wait just how old are you I’m a minor
pleaseuseotherdoor
Seduction
Enohpoxas
Confidence is key
RabbitYuko
Your game is strong, sir.
bananahammick
Used to be in the military,also high anxiety. I don’t sleep much but Every night I lay my head on my wife and she rubs me till I sleep or ju
Imisspelledthatonpurpose
st spanks my bum bum and calls me a naughty boy.
overmorrow
mper cables come out and she starts beating me with them
TableDemon
Rubs you until you sleep eh?
UmHowAboutAnonymous
Yeah the feature cost extra, even on new models, but is totally worth it
chrismofer
fucking excuse me?
AlexVanPutten
Nice/10
bananahammick
When I need a min to calm down, she has kept me going for years now. I’m very lucky to have her.
Chickenlicker
Give asmr videos a try. The personal attention ones might be right up your alley. Not taking anything away from your wife, and they're not
Chickenlicker
sexual, they're just suuuuuper relaxing. Pop some noise-cancelling headphones on https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yxu6snfV3eE
EngineerforPresident
You are both lucky to have a marriage that you're appreciated in. <3
KeepYourFaceFengShui
God bless the both of you.
Enohpoxas
Don't forget to show her how important she is to you!
bananahammick
I do my best, but it will never be enough.
CannibalisticHedgehog
She loves you and she still does these sweet things, thrust me bro you're enough. Not being enough looks like my ex fuckin other dudes.
ClamScam
You are the "enough" to her, mate.
SnezDrew
This was a very sweet convo. +1
mfizz1e
LurkingAtTheOffice
Yeah! I recommend orgasms.
Freddo2501
A girls best friend!