I had a similar experience. Back in my college days I ebayed some Japanese flash cards and the seller included a hand written note and a Hikaru Utada album. While the big picture is a dumpster fire, the little things keep me going.
This has been my experience every time I've bought something from Japan on eBay, *except for the tea. Thank you notes and origami cranes, I have them on a shelf in my office.
I once bought mirrors for my miata from a Japanese website and they fucking sent me candies a thank you letter and when one broke due to totally unrelated reasons to their warrenty they sent me a replacement like god damn I've never had such a good buying experience
I ordered some retrogame from Japan a bit after covid. When it arrived, there was a self made talisman and instructions that said I should hang it on my front door to ward of illnesses. Most thoughtful thing a stranger has ever done for me.
That's just the expected level of customer service in Japan. That was basically my experience even in the shittiest random back alley store. We just put up with being treated like garbage here.
Mint Jams was the gateway to a lot of other great bands/artists for me. Ryo Fukui, Soul Media, Himiko Kikuchi, Hiromasa Suzuki, Indigo Jam Unit, Primitive Art Orchestra, and others. I especially recommend Suzuki's Skip Step Colgen if you're a fan of Mint Jams. Easily one of my favorite albums, and I've probably listened to it about 50-60 times since discovering it last year.
I was going through some stuff, like old Christmas and Birthday cards and other stuff, and I was putting everything in the rubbish when I came across a card from my Japanese colleagues from a previous job. The card itself depicted a kind of pagoda building and it looked hand painted with the style of some Japanese prints. They wrote at length about how great it was to have me around and how much they were going to miss me. Never felt so much appreciated.
Ofc not! I showed it to my kid yesterday as an example of showing great care even in the smallest things. The right people will notice. Have a nice day my internet friend 🙂
Real talk, if you've never ordered anything from Japan on ebay, you totally should. I get a lot of analog camera gear from Japan and they're always packaged with polite notes and origami or small gifts. Japanese eBayers are more thoughtful that most of my family at Christmas time.
Put this in another comment before I saw yours. My grandfather bought Pokemon cards in the early 2000s, and I was going through his collection with him last year. Found a letter from an Ebay sale he had won. Japanese seller had sent him a letter handwritten in English with a picture of the card, and when my grandfather got the card in, the seller included a set of Pokemon Stationary and Envelopes along with the card!
There’s been *tons* of stuff I’ve been *very* tempted to import from Japan via eBay or Buyee… Retro consoles, cool retro tech that we just didn’t get here, older audio stuff that’s still popular in Japan like MiniDisc…
But the same thing holds me back every time: the cost of shipping to the UK and the potential import duties… 😢
Shipping to the US isn't really TOO bad. Frankly, the reason I import a lot is because Japan tends to have a much better market for used camera gear overall. It seems like the Japanese tend to store their camera gear well if it's not being used, where in the US market used camera gear usually ends up in a box in the attic and it's moldy and degraded by the time it's found by someone's kids or grandkids.
For me, the 'weeb shit' is often because its one of the few mediums left that reliably deals in happy endings.
A lot of games and books here in the west became addicted to the idea of "Good fantasy means everybody is miserable" because GOT became popular, and now it's like a 50% chance that the story ends with an arrow to the head.
Meanwhile, it's easy to tell which anime's are the "edgy misery fest" ones and dodge them, and the rest are usually "The story continues" or "Everyone goes home."
I get exhausted with series who are obsessed with twisting so hard they can remove battleship rivets by looking to the left too fast. I like to cap off a series with a good ol "Things turned out good". Fantasy is meant to be an escape, not a reflection of reality.
Agreed. Game of Thrones caught interest initially because it seemed to not have the "plot armor" that was the norm, and characters actually died, etc. After a while though that novelty wore off, especially when it became clear that certain characters DID have "plot armor", and we started to get "shocking twists" just for their own sake.
It's all well and good until you realize you just spent an ungodly amount of time going "Oh boy, I wonder when they are going to get the thing!" only to watch the person die in like...three seconds. To a wandering, half blind wolf.
I'm sure there is something in there for people, and I don't hold anything against people who do enjoy darkness for darkness sake, I just can't stand the idea of never getting the payoff promised to me from paying attention to a character for that long.
I kind of agree, but also too much feel-good can get stale. I like me a good mix, but I do agree that I generally want "the good end" for games and media I enjoy.
There need to be some bad things that happen, and sometimes for the bad guys to succeed, in order for the good guys' victories to feel meaningful, yes.
Don't get me wrong, I can enjoy something being *dark*, I just don't like it when its unrelenting.
People don't have to get to the end with all their limbs, or sometimes even their sanity, intact, but 'rocks fall, everybody dies' stopped being interesting as an ending to me about 5 years ago. Give me some semblance of light to counteract the dark, and we are good.
This is why I love FMA so much. For all the fucked up shit that happens, there is always some sign of hope.
Japanese jazz can be downright phenomenal! I was introduced to EGO-WRAPPIN's album "Night Food" a couple decades ago at my local fav sushi place in West Seattle, and I never looked back.
I love listening to japanese music while working on stuff I need to concentrate, because I don't understand the language so the lyrics aren't so distracting. I started with Shibuya-kei bc of Katamari and it led to me discovering a lot of styles in japanese music that merge jazz, bossa, samba, rock, etc. I even noticed how City Pop has similarities to brazillian pop music from around the same time
Checking out everything listed here (having trouble finding Kochi), and would like to add my recommendation: Soil & “Pimp” Sessions. That’s one band, i love ‘em. Summer Goddess is an amazing EP.
I never realized as a kid, but every late 80s to mid 90s fighting game or Ace Combat game was basically a Japanese jazz soundtrack. Found out about Casiopea, et al. recently and was like "Ohhhhhh, that's where they got the idea."
Tank! by the Seatbelts is often regarded as one of the best tracks in anime, and quite frankly I'm not sure it can be beat. All of Cowboy Bebop is phenomenal, but that opening sells it
Kindness is what is being described. A business transaction needed to only be just that. Money for an item. Someone put in a little extra effort to be kind, and it was appreciated. Kindness can go a very, very long way.
This exactly is why I'm sad about the end of imgur's Secret Santa program. Pure kindness from a complete stranger, simply because they were willing to spread a little holiday cheer. From someone with no family and increasingly fewer friends, it was a virtual hug in an otherwise pretty bleak season.
There’s an American company I buy from that sends a pack of ramen in every order. It’s kinda earned them a following. People love little things like that.
It's much more common in Japan. I've always described it as care instead of kindness, but you're spot on. It's hard for me to accept kindness in general, so accepting that they will take the time to wrap things delicately and precisely when I'm just thing to open it as soon as I get home anyway makes me feel guilty. I don't ever want them to change. I want to become more like them, more comfortable accepting such acts without embarrassment or feeling like a burden.
45M - Yeah. I've been divorced for a long time, and things were rocky even before that. So I kinda shut mysef off of any relationships (still don't want any of that "dating game"). But when my friend (also a divorced dude) just hugged me out of nowhere when we were just hanging out drinking, I cried a river. F*ck toxic masculinity & that upbringing.
As Charlie Chaplain said in The Great Dictator, "Our knowledge has made us cynincal Our cleverness, hard and unkind We think too much, and feel too little More than machinery, we need humanity More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness Without these qualities life will be violent, and all will be lost."
Obviously, I don't know you, so ymmv, but I find that the more I put out there, the more I get back. I try to buy my friends thoughtful gifts, give people appropriate compliments, be grateful to people for the things they do, even the trivial stuff, even the stuff that is simply them doing their job, be accepting of their quirks. It seems to loosen people up, and they seem to feel safe doing the same in return. Of course, it's different with different people, but I think it's been working
I agree - and do the same. We all need to be cheerleaders for those we love and strangers that are just trying to get through the day. You never know if someone is struggling and could use a boost by being "seen" and appreciated.
I agree with what youre saying in principle, first hand experience for me disagrees, but hopefully thats more of an outlier, either that or I just kinda suck, it can be rather difficult to be accurately objective on matters that are wholly subjective.
Honestly, I feel like it was a skill I had to hone, not something I just knew how to do. I alienated a lot of people from childhood into my 20's with my aloofness. Not that I didn't care for them or want to be kind, but I just didn't grasp how to go about it. How to not make women think I'm hitting on them, or guys think I'm trying to manipulate them, or to express genuine sentiment without it coming out as some grand declaration.
Men aren't really taught these skills, sadly, so I think you just have to try, and then apologize if you make it weird, and keep trying again. And, you might lose some people along the way, but the result is much more emotionally sustainable, at least for me. I feel much less internal tension because when I have a feeling, I've gotten to where a lot of the time I can express it, positive or negative, in a way that people feel appreciated and aren't offended. And then I don't feel all bottled up.
Hellbrand
Yatabe track day is a killer compilation album of japanese jazz
keyrockesq
I had a similar experience. Back in my college days I ebayed some Japanese flash cards and the seller included a hand written note and a Hikaru Utada album. While the big picture is a dumpster fire, the little things keep me going.
morrighan42
This has been my experience every time I've bought something from Japan on eBay, *except for the tea. Thank you notes and origami cranes, I have them on a shelf in my office.
drawdiuqS
Now I'm gonna go listen to them!
ItHappenedInThe20thCentury
Never underestimate the power of a good cup of good tea.
flexstar
this sounds nice
zylokun
Yeah that's pretty much why
Moylsie
Casiopeia are like Gran Turismo menu music, in a good way. Like Japanese jazz fusion, they're awesome.
Dannyalcatraz
Casiopea is, indeed, a good fusion band from Japan. Worth checking out:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r7jkrDBkMGI&pp=ygUIY2FzaW9wZWE%3D
tavisno
I once bought mirrors for my miata from a Japanese website and they fucking sent me candies a thank you letter and when one broke due to totally unrelated reasons to their warrenty they sent me a replacement like god damn I've never had such a good buying experience
RowanUnderwood
Japanese Jazz doesn't have to go that hard. But it do. https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=mDqW81sDGLg
m4uboy
do yourselves a favor and look up masayoshi takanaka.
NorthernHalibut
I ordered some retrogame from Japan a bit after covid. When it arrived, there was a self made talisman and instructions that said I should hang it on my front door to ward of illnesses. Most thoughtful thing a stranger has ever done for me.
Belisaurius1
To the Japanese Man, a life spent perfecting just one art is a life well lived. As a result, we see some amazing Quality come from that island.
RuricOrhlandis
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BohabRex
That's a great record
Morganelefay
Those jams are absolutely mint.
Rustsavit
Japanese Jazz Fusion is a really wonderful calm song. I really suggest the full Casiopea discography.
iceynyo
That's just the expected level of customer service in Japan. That was basically my experience even in the shittiest random back alley store. We just put up with being treated like garbage here.
DrRad
They’ve been putting out albums for 45 years!
lemonmeringuesy
As a Casiopea fan, I highly HIGHLY recommend https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTvtFv41Ntw
iceynyo
LOL so F-ZERO just lifted "Space Road" for their space road?
MoopBread
Mint Jams was the gateway to a lot of other great bands/artists for me. Ryo Fukui, Soul Media, Himiko Kikuchi, Hiromasa Suzuki, Indigo Jam Unit, Primitive Art Orchestra, and others. I especially recommend Suzuki's Skip Step Colgen if you're a fan of Mint Jams. Easily one of my favorite albums, and I've probably listened to it about 50-60 times since discovering it last year.
trexskull
JohnCheshirsky
Isn't that the coke lady from The Good Place? Enthusiastic Drug Addict is... quite a type to be type cast as 😅
Tumtumturu
Yes it is, this is from Workaholics. Highly recommend she's funny as hell in it.
mustardcutter
I was going through some stuff, like old Christmas and Birthday cards and other stuff, and I was putting everything in the rubbish when I came across a card from my Japanese colleagues from a previous job. The card itself depicted a kind of pagoda building and it looked hand painted with the style of some Japanese prints. They wrote at length about how great it was to have me around and how much they were going to miss me. Never felt so much appreciated.
Lucallia
And that one DIDN'T go in the rubbish, right? RIGHT?
mustardcutter
Ofc not! I showed it to my kid yesterday as an example of showing great care even in the smallest things. The right people will notice. Have a nice day my internet friend 🙂
LazyUsername99
Real talk, if you've never ordered anything from Japan on ebay, you totally should. I get a lot of analog camera gear from Japan and they're always packaged with polite notes and origami or small gifts. Japanese eBayers are more thoughtful that most of my family at Christmas time.
rthorsen
Put this in another comment before I saw yours. My grandfather bought Pokemon cards in the early 2000s, and I was going through his collection with him last year. Found a letter from an Ebay sale he had won. Japanese seller had sent him a letter handwritten in English with a picture of the card, and when my grandfather got the card in, the seller included a set of Pokemon Stationary and Envelopes along with the card!
blcollier
There’s been *tons* of stuff I’ve been *very* tempted to import from Japan via eBay or Buyee… Retro consoles, cool retro tech that we just didn’t get here, older audio stuff that’s still popular in Japan like MiniDisc…
But the same thing holds me back every time: the cost of shipping to the UK and the potential import duties… 😢
LazyUsername99
Shipping to the US isn't really TOO bad. Frankly, the reason I import a lot is because Japan tends to have a much better market for used camera gear overall. It seems like the Japanese tend to store their camera gear well if it's not being used, where in the US market used camera gear usually ends up in a box in the attic and it's moldy and degraded by the time it's found by someone's kids or grandkids.
BiologyIsInevitable
Isn't too bad... YET
DreadZeppelin
On a rainy day, make some tea with honey and watch an ep of mushishi
Shelby82
Dot
PorcNoStar
If you are going through a dark moment in your life, watch Mushishi, I promise it will go a little better after.
benegesserit
Dot
tantricdragon13
I love that show. Anyone reading this who hasn’t seen it, stop what you’re doing right now and go watch it
kahooki
The best.
Mushishi is beautiful and humble.
Omnimorph2112
Oh my god Mushishi is just so comforting. The sound track is phenomenal.
TakimiNada
Comforting until something really horrifying happens, but most of the time yes very comforting
DreadZeppelin
Agreed! To me the show feels like someone is telling you a story while you're tucked in
FussyZeus
What is?
iceynyo
A show about a wandering doctor who treats supernatural ailments.
IrrelevantIrrelevant
For me, the 'weeb shit' is often because its one of the few mediums left that reliably deals in happy endings.
A lot of games and books here in the west became addicted to the idea of "Good fantasy means everybody is miserable" because GOT became popular, and now it's like a 50% chance that the story ends with an arrow to the head.
Meanwhile, it's easy to tell which anime's are the "edgy misery fest" ones and dodge them, and the rest are usually "The story continues" or "Everyone goes home."
IrrelevantIrrelevant
I get exhausted with series who are obsessed with twisting so hard they can remove battleship rivets by looking to the left too fast. I like to cap off a series with a good ol "Things turned out good". Fantasy is meant to be an escape, not a reflection of reality.
varesya
Agreed. Game of Thrones caught interest initially because it seemed to not have the "plot armor" that was the norm, and characters actually died, etc. After a while though that novelty wore off, especially when it became clear that certain characters DID have "plot armor", and we started to get "shocking twists" just for their own sake.
IrrelevantIrrelevant
It's all well and good until you realize you just spent an ungodly amount of time going "Oh boy, I wonder when they are going to get the thing!" only to watch the person die in like...three seconds. To a wandering, half blind wolf.
I'm sure there is something in there for people, and I don't hold anything against people who do enjoy darkness for darkness sake, I just can't stand the idea of never getting the payoff promised to me from paying attention to a character for that long.
eronth
I kind of agree, but also too much feel-good can get stale. I like me a good mix, but I do agree that I generally want "the good end" for games and media I enjoy.
varesya
There need to be some bad things that happen, and sometimes for the bad guys to succeed, in order for the good guys' victories to feel meaningful, yes.
IrrelevantIrrelevant
Don't get me wrong, I can enjoy something being *dark*, I just don't like it when its unrelenting.
People don't have to get to the end with all their limbs, or sometimes even their sanity, intact, but 'rocks fall, everybody dies' stopped being interesting as an ending to me about 5 years ago. Give me some semblance of light to counteract the dark, and we are good.
This is why I love FMA so much. For all the fucked up shit that happens, there is always some sign of hope.
JoeMangoJello
Japanese jazz can be downright phenomenal! I was introduced to EGO-WRAPPIN's album "Night Food" a couple decades ago at my local fav sushi place in West Seattle, and I never looked back.
magus200342
Gonna check that out, thanks for recommendation
BoogaYooga
I love listening to japanese music while working on stuff I need to concentrate, because I don't understand the language so the lyrics aren't so distracting. I started with Shibuya-kei bc of Katamari and it led to me discovering a lot of styles in japanese music that merge jazz, bossa, samba, rock, etc. I even noticed how City Pop has similarities to brazillian pop music from around the same time
TheRealMumO19
Checking out everything listed here (having trouble finding Kochi), and would like to add my recommendation: Soil & “Pimp” Sessions. That’s one band, i love ‘em. Summer Goddess is an amazing EP.
OsTerriveis
I never realized as a kid, but every late 80s to mid 90s fighting game or Ace Combat game was basically a Japanese jazz soundtrack. Found out about Casiopea, et al. recently and was like "Ohhhhhh, that's where they got the idea."
Dingledonglejingle
Yeah!
Check out The Jazz Avengers or perhaps Himiko Kikuchi. Her album Flying Beagle derserves world wide recognition. https://open.spotify.com/track/27IwuF0An9TAHWQFK65AJN?si=RskYbNT9Q6OBkVnmSOcmtw&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A3rtHKkpPLmiwHNiHA0Kr3d
UnoriginalPieceOfRepeatingShit
I make the same recs every time japanese jazz comes up but hiroshi suzuki- cat and kochi- wishes are great
getthismanabeer
. dot.
cjandstuff
Never heard of these guys before. Listening now, and all I can say is wow!
JoeMangoJello
Right? I was equally blown away when I first heard her voice.
Kehy
Tank! by the Seatbelts is often regarded as one of the best tracks in anime, and quite frankly I'm not sure it can be beat. All of Cowboy Bebop is phenomenal, but that opening sells it
cjandstuff
3 2 1 Let's jam.
homemadechef
You know, I thought that tea was going to turn out to be drugs.
MrListerTheFirst
Joke's on you; Japanese tea doesn't even contain caffeine.
ancalime
Nothing in the post contradicts that.
Runnerdent
And he is handing out complimentary drugs!! That is one very kind random Japanese man indeed.
Lurch1911
It was laced with heroin…
phuzz00
And that's how you get five stars on eBay. Free drugs.
willgameforgold
Everybody on the floor, everybody do the dinosaur
aShogunNamedMarcus
I thought OP was going to open the door get on the floor everybody walk the dinosaur
wobblecopterrrr
SpoilsburyToastMan
Psilocybe tea? My first thought too.
wobblecopterrrr
nah, you would absolutely be able to identify that.
PatrickMcChunky
Who's to say it wasn't.
Bakasauruswastaken
https://i.imgur.com/lRsXDEL
TI99Kitty
Or maybe someone's dead relative's ashes.
wobblecopterrrr
"YOU ATE A HORSE!"...
Richter12x2
He didn't say it wasn't. That might be why he liked the tea and had the happiest evening of his life.
JimmyWalkerTexasRanger
Love is the drug you are thinking of...
HandoB4Javert
DwayneTheCrackJohnson
"The only drug was love, and it was inside us this whole time. Also cocaine, we're drug mules."
Denare
Kindness is what is being described. A business transaction needed to only be just that. Money for an item. Someone put in a little extra effort to be kind, and it was appreciated. Kindness can go a very, very long way.
SeeMyVests
This exactly is why I'm sad about the end of imgur's Secret Santa program. Pure kindness from a complete stranger, simply because they were willing to spread a little holiday cheer. From someone with no family and increasingly fewer friends, it was a virtual hug in an otherwise pretty bleak season.
Ihmislehma
I couldn't participate last year due to being exhausted (mentally and money-wise), and now it's not here :(
msui34
There’s an American company I buy from that sends a pack of ramen in every order. It’s kinda earned them a following. People love little things like that.
ManByTechnicality
1) what do they sell? 2) care to share their company? DM is acceptable if you don't want to do it publicly. Although not sharing is also acceptable.
msui34
Gun parts. “Rooftop Defense”. Owned by a Korean guy and references the Koreans defending Koreatown during the L.A. Riots.
ManByTechnicality
Nice! Thank you!
Izdleve
It's much more common in Japan. I've always described it as care instead of kindness, but you're spot on. It's hard for me to accept kindness in general, so accepting that they will take the time to wrap things delicately and precisely when I'm just thing to open it as soon as I get home anyway makes me feel guilty. I don't ever want them to change. I want to become more like them, more comfortable accepting such acts without embarrassment or feeling like a burden.
pupquine
45M - Yeah. I've been divorced for a long time, and things were rocky even before that. So I kinda shut mysef off of any relationships (still don't want any of that "dating game"). But when my friend (also a divorced dude) just hugged me out of nowhere when we were just hanging out drinking, I cried a river. F*ck toxic masculinity & that upbringing.
WalksWithNoFear
Though if someone throws in a mini pack of Haribo sweets with every delivery. That company has earned my business for life.
TryHardEggplant
What about Haribo and free pens?
KoRplussomeletters
Swedish fish theory.
Milkarius
I ordered an empty recipe book and got a little bag of cookies. If I ever need another, I know where to go!
ArchMagos
As Charlie Chaplain said in The Great Dictator, "Our knowledge has made us cynincal
Our cleverness, hard and unkind
We think too much, and feel too little
More than machinery, we need humanity
More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness
Without these qualities life will be violent, and all will be lost."
Renza0
Yeah, thats how you can tell a guy wrote it, its not something we often experience, if at all
sfrinlan
Obviously, I don't know you, so ymmv, but I find that the more I put out there, the more I get back. I try to buy my friends thoughtful gifts, give people appropriate compliments, be grateful to people for the things they do, even the trivial stuff, even the stuff that is simply them doing their job, be accepting of their quirks. It seems to loosen people up, and they seem to feel safe doing the same in return. Of course, it's different with different people, but I think it's been working
ButTheyWereAllBad
I agree - and do the same. We all need to be cheerleaders for those we love and strangers that are just trying to get through the day. You never know if someone is struggling and could use a boost by being "seen" and appreciated.
Renza0
I agree with what youre saying in principle, first hand experience for me disagrees, but hopefully thats more of an outlier, either that or I just kinda suck, it can be rather difficult to be accurately objective on matters that are wholly subjective.
sfrinlan
Honestly, I feel like it was a skill I had to hone, not something I just knew how to do. I alienated a lot of people from childhood into my 20's with my aloofness. Not that I didn't care for them or want to be kind, but I just didn't grasp how to go about it. How to not make women think I'm hitting on them, or guys think I'm trying to manipulate them, or to express genuine sentiment without it coming out as some grand declaration.
sfrinlan
Men aren't really taught these skills, sadly, so I think you just have to try, and then apologize if you make it weird, and keep trying again. And, you might lose some people along the way, but the result is much more emotionally sustainable, at least for me. I feel much less internal tension because when I have a feeling, I've gotten to where a lot of the time I can express it, positive or negative, in a way that people feel appreciated and aren't offended. And then I don't feel all bottled up.