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I feel we're both waiting for the other to step up; not sure if either will happen. :/
Nov 16, 2016 3:00 PM
huemungus9012
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I feel we're both waiting for the other to step up; not sure if either will happen. :/
GregorSamsa
I kinda feel this way about my marriage.
favdumpthrowaway
Past the initial infatuation is when the real relationship either starts or ends. When you realise you love someone, or that you never did.
sabba
There's a second phase of a relationship called companionship, embrace it for all it's love and rewards or discuss how you feel with her?
Rathal0n
well step up nigga
HalalOnTheStreetsHaramInTheSheets
Break it off you fuckface. Why would you let her devote herself to you if the feeling isn't mutual.
ThatWhichLurksWithoutPants
Sorry to hear but as I say with almost every relationship post here - talk. Talk to your partner. It's so important.
rainystorms
There's a different between romantic love and companionate love. It's natural for relationships to gradually change. Talk to your gf!
Masterofhowtonotsayno
Isn't it time to propose then?
makeyourownpath
Then talk about it and respectfully go your separate ways.
khtad
You can work to re-kindle the spark (and it is work), or you can call it quits. But if you know it's over, do it humanely, but do it now.
theelvesoflothlorien
Don't wait for her to do the deed, step up yourself.
GiveMeYourDownSyndromeVotes
My wife is my best friend
chocomallow
My husband is my best friend, he's also more than that. I think OP is talking about just friend territory.
MamaKin
Don't people ever talk with their SO's anymore?
Nimits
"Love" as many people know it is normally "temporary" a relationship with a good friend isn't bad. How long have you been together and age?
dingoatemybaby88
That's actually sad. I'm sorry, OP. You guys definitely need to talk about it, though.
Kronos1111
First give her the night of her life if you both feel the same after then do what has to be done. Never prolong the inevitable.
PolarHailStorm
You don't need to step up to anything, you both need to sit down and communicate. Don't be 'pretty sure' let her express herself.
85866
That's a good point, you won't know till you hear what they have to say
findingjewels
Become super passive aggressive, that always helps.
Applepotamus
PartOfTheRebelAllianceAndATraitor
*downvotes without reason*... Heh, how's that for passive aggressive...
MethelyneBlue
You should be best friends with your significant other. That "flame" isn't always going to be there. That's not realistic. Loving someone
MethelyneBlue
regardless and being their best friend is what matters.
PowderHound52
Breaking up is always hard, but if you feel this way and don't do anything you're hurting the both of you in the long run....
Nejar
Just talk?
MyCatLikesToFruitcake
My husbands my best friend, and its great.
tastelesshuman
Why are you telling us? I don't give a shit about your relationship, your girlfriend probably does, talk to her about it.
PoopFrosting
hey at least you downgraded to 'friend' and not 'someone i wouldn't mind seeing fall off a cliff'
Shitposting2017
Hee hee I went to that cliff one, no ragrets
gooblegobbleoneofus
Push
thornmallow
It's not necessarily a downgrade!
NationalAeronauticsAndSpaceAdministration
Actually that's good. As long as you both enjoy the relationship then hell yeah, keep going! Better to marry a best friend then a "lover".
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NationalAeronauticsAndSpaceAdministration
Well it's good to have both, but that later causes the common issues we see in marriage today. Love, like it's opposite hate, blinds us.
iidky
Have a baby with her. That always fixes everything.
ClarityAndVision
And then get married.
Ishalldefenestrateyou
I had a friend do that, luckily for him she seems to have matured since high school.
CallMeJerryBecauseIAmJerry
Or buy a house. Better yet: both.
ThePotatoBandit
Someone's seen The Lobster
toomuchbutter
Make sure you guys purchase some real estate together first
MonkeyHittingPianoDramatically
And if that doesn't work - Renovate the house. A common goal with tremendous economic risks and stressful environment will surely fix it.
slickdickricktherockskippingchampionoftheworld
this^^
Fumbledpersonality
slickdickricktherockskippingchampionoftheworld
elina11
catfancier
If one baby doesn't do the trick, try for two or three. That seems to be the trend.
FlyingSeaMan509
ThisIsThePlaceWhereIBelong
How did you manage to spell pizza wrong?
rjdavidr
You should write a book
CatShitTacos
well hello satan. lol
TheWorldIsATollFreeToilet
I just downvoted it so it's at 666
WhatAShipIs
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/problems
confuzzledtuna
Lol
T00MUCHD0G
That comic is real as shit
Kyrorayne
Or her sister.
NotNotDeadpool
Always best to get family involved.
MadaPacMeMan
Poke 4 holes in the condom for 4 babies it'll fix your issue 4x faster and getter good luck @OP +1
MadaPacMeMan
*better
BeethovenInBlue
Funniest thing I've heard all day
ThisIsNoCave
Break it off on a good note then. People grow and change; it's ok if you don't feel the spark anymore and you want to move on.
motherhoodlum
This! I had this happen a few years back, still awesome friends. We both met our spouses right after that, too.
Tanknolunaluna
This. Had the same happen to me. After talking we decided it was best to move on and stayed as good friends
BrownSugarBae
My recent ex felt this way, too bad I didn't and still wanted to make it work. Still left on a good note though. Clean breakups are better.
Zachakx
Yep. Happened to me. One day we were just like "eh" and split. Found more fulfilling relationships afterwards.
85866
Yep, been there. Had a relationship last twice as long as it should have cos I didn't know better. End on good terms now or talk to them.
SomeGeographer
This. My ex and I did this and we went to each other's weddings this year. It is possible to end a relationship and remain good friends.
dormantmutant
Good for you man. Glad you were both able to find peace In a normally messy situation.
daelith
I had a pretty good record of doing just that, but they all fell off over time due to personality changes.
milienhaus
This is the right thing to do but there's no guarantee it will be on a good note! Break ups are the worst.
FrozenFoodGuy
I've had breakups on good terms that went great, and that went horribly bad. You never know how things develope
bb2b
Congrats, the honeymoon phase is over.
RandomActOfConfusion
Now the work begins. If you want it...
SidneyHarbor
Yeah, as someone who's done a ton of marriage counseling, this is the basis of any relationship: the honeymoon period lasts 3-18 months.
Nepsin
In my first real relationship, hitting two years in roughly a month. Honey moon phase has long since past, but I view it as (1/2)
Nepsin
I love her, because I chose to. And will continue to, because she is my best friend and its calming and warming to have her around.
ummbutwhy
So then what? Asking for a friend
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thefatlonelyjew
Wacky buddy cop hijinks
FlamParadiddlediddle
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Nai1s
Then the question isn't "Am I with this person because I'm 'in love' with them", which is the question that hallmark and every rom-com...
Nai1s
and hallmark card sells, the question is "Am I with this person because I trust and respect them and feel like together we will be a...
Nai1s
positive influence in each other's lives and can work together to build a life together that will fulfill and define us both."
Trexel
In my personal experience, that is spot on. Around 2 years for me usually. My relationship with my fiance also didn't start out
Trexel
Crazy intense either. More of a slow growth built on things that actually matter. Didn't used to believe you could ACTUALLY love someone
Trexel
More and more as time goes on but 7 years later I stand corrected.
85866
Needs more points :)
rossimus
I'm in a similar boat, and I love hearing other people's success stories. Congrats to you both :)
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This is what you want in a relationship. You don't get to be happy together without being friends.
VoidIncarnate
Sounds like OP wants more. I... don't know if it exists, but good luck looking!
rossimus
Yup. Anyone can get to the romantic/sexy part of a relationship. Much harder to become genuine best friends.
IHatePuns
Not enough context to conclude that. Just broke up with my gf. clicked really well as friends but drove each other insane at the end 1/2
IHatePuns
But now we're really great friends 2/2
drpgeek
Agreed, but relationships involve companionship -and- attraction. Sounds like intimacy is gone
GinOClock
Also, a friend of mine went through chemo and was very sick. I don't think sex was on his mind. But he and his gf are still together.
GinOClock
Asexuals can have perfectly happy, loving relationships without physical intimacy. It's not an ultimate requirement.
dbizzles
I'd fuck my friends....
killerpenguin19
Have you fucked your friends though? Not always a good idea
FlamParadiddlediddle
Once, would not recommend.
dbizzles
I mean, yeah, sometimes it's a bad idea.