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Dec 19, 2023 3:00 AM
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jfitz
PSA: if you cry for half an hour while doing this, you're depressed and need help.
lordyhalvey
Got myself a new car stereo. I can relate.
AndroidSoul
Me right now. Granted, it's usually because I'm so tired whenever I get home
TimLordofBiscuits
I live alone, so I don't need to take 15 minutes to myself before going inside. I just smoke a big weed and go to sleep.
Likander
It's kind of nice to know I'm not alone
Smooshfacecats
Unless your spouse doesn’t understand this desire and then the million questions start!
2B4UALL
I know
AverySillyName
geraltofriva
It ain't. I won't elaborate.
ErniesWidow
Driveway moments
aThingWithTheStufAndTheJunk
When I was down in Atlanta, people acted like it was weird as fuck but up north everybody I know does it.
HenryLongfellowIII
Sitting in your car outside your ex's house at night and watching the windows is not self care.
ILike2TouchButts
Mines used to be die to a stressful day at work... followed by my psycho neighbor waiting for me to get out of my car to "hangout". Was the only reason I called my mum almost everyday... because I needed an excuse to not talk directly to her while I transitioned from the parking lot to my house.
WackyTicTacCasualty
After a commute on the A4, M4, M25 & M1, I used to park on Dunstable Downs, looking out from the hill for 15 minutes to unwind before driving the last five miles to get home.
16bitStarbuck
I used to sit outside in my car to drink without anybody inside knowing. I'd read a book and by the 4th or 5th beer I was ready. 90 degree days in a car with no AC, or freezing during the cold. Read until I can't see straight anymore. Go back home and try to hide the fact that I was drunk. Yay, alcoholism.
MrAndyPuppy
My in-laws are staying with us for a few weeks. Last night I walked into the pantry and closed the door. Just a couple minutes of quiet
thedarkcanuck
You know your day kicked the shit out of you if you drive the speed limit home with the radio off
uchi1223
Lost my job. Wish I could sit in my car now...
dripstone
usually when I do that I'm waiting for the end of the chapter in my audio book.
HarryFrumvrk
Also figuring out how to take all your things inside in one go.
Zilc
Sometimes you just have to decompress before walking inside.
gtotherizzle
If you have kids
PerpetualOddness
I live alone and I still do this.
gtotherizzle
That's the takeaway
victalany
willpostanything
kids?, i can handle, my wife? thats is another thing
CrazyCatLad
I know its cliche and I should be more understanding and sensitive and I'm a horrible partner et cetera, but that time of the month is so miserable in our house. As an only child growing up, it was bad then too. Now, with my wife, its bad now. I tiptoe around, try to avoid the eggshells, attempt to spoil her, buy wine, but doesn't matter. So yeah, I'll attempt to find things to do outside the house alone or with the kids to get her some breathing room.
Exyr
It is self care but you should really try to work on why you don't want to deal with what's outside the car and isolating yourself there.
AmyBethMegJo
It's because I can't smoke in the house.
atrielienz
It's the stairs. My knees hurt, man.
MacFarlin1920
For me, it's that I want to make sure that I'm not bringing stuff home with me when I really don't want to. Takes me about 2 minutes to process and let's me appreciate the "welcome home!" I get when I hit the door.
hamstock
For me it's actually mostly because I'm a very nervous and cautious driver and every time I have to get on the freeway I need a minute when I arrive to just calm down and shake off the anxiety. So many drivers are just insane.
Dannoboyo
I need about 20 minutes to myself after I get home. That is what I need. And I don't need to work on it. If that is a problem for you, you need to work on it. I spend a huge amount of my life being there for other people. Some people have a martini. I just need to sit quietly and not talk or be talked to excessively. If I walk in the door and get 20 minutes of non stop talking before I can even take my coat off, it doesn't work. If you need to understand that, or cannot respect that, get help.
caldella
Sometimes it's as simple as, "I've had a rough day, and a bad commute home, and I know I have things to take care of the moment I get inside, too."
PerpetualOddness
It's a timeless moment with zero demands. Work has...well, work. In my home, there's cooking and cleaning and organising and gardening and decorating etc. The car asks nothing in that moment.
GlutenFreeCocaineWaffles
This was me with every single job I had until getting a remote/home office job that actually pays more than minimum wage became a thing. Some days I'd just sit in the car with a 40 until the sun went down...
VoidScreamer
For me it was always just needing 5 minutes of quiet. 5 minutes of no one talking (whether that's to me or just around me). I am someone who desperately needs quiet, but as I've never lived entirely alone (be that family, partners, or my kid), my options were sitting in my car for 5 minutes, or staying up way too late to wait till everyone went to bed.
Slvrdgr
Mmmmmh but the world is usually so peaceful and quiet at 3am xD
HorrorMango
Everyday. Pull up, cut the engine, leave the radio on, check Imgur, listen to the tunes and take a deep breath.
MadamPuddifoot
Yesssss. I've caught myself taking so long that my dogs are back to lying on the couch by the time I actually walk in the front door.
tootallforthisroom
This is what I do in the morning right before I head into work. Haha
Kalavier
watch random youtube videos/shorts for half an hour.
arumunus
My neighbors freak the hell out whenever I sit in my car for more than a minute. They'll stare out the window, come and open their door and stare, walk to their car to stare, ect. I'm in my driveway, in my car, minding my own business. They're absolute assholes though so I can see why they don't.
DrPepperIsMyGP
Wave enthusiastically and invite them into your car next time! Almost guaranteed to never happen again. There is a strategy to fighting awkward with awkward.
PostTraumaticSouthDisorder
What's their deal? What else do they do? Are they employed?
arumunus
They're employed but they're just racist Karen types. We don't live in a bad neighborhood but when I was still chill with them he would show me his gun and talk about how he's protecting the street. She came out and told a friend of mine who's black "you people can't park here." But she's also made comments about me being white. They scream at their kids over the smallest things and she's so shrill she'll wake me up from in her house past my closed window.
arumunus
Everything about them has to be pristine. Like, obsessively so. They're really entitled, encroaching, and loud, and they expect neighborly respect without reciprocation.
PostTraumaticSouthDisorder
OK, the shrill screaming thing alone would get to me . Bad. I'm weird about noise. Dogs barking? Fine. People constantly yelling at their dogs to stop barking? Hell.
Treebane
My wife does this. The dogs know she is home and work themselves into a frenzy. She comes inside, they lose their shit, and I am all stressed from 5 minutes of barking
thetallestninja
Similar here. I'd like to do this but the dog can't take it.
squeakyleeks
Have you talked to her about it?
SarcasticComment
I let the dog outside. you deal with the guilt of her waiting outside the car door to say hi. I'm not dealing with front door crazies inside.
Chriswagon1
We have 4 dogs that go fucking nuts when my mum comes home but they barely make a peep when I come home, it's because my mum gets through the door and goes straight to the treat tin to essentially reward their behaviour, I don't even look at them until they behave.
bedframe
She should park a block away to chill.
LIVELOVEINQUIRE
Have 2 dogs, love them to death, cant express that enough, but good god when i get home its insanity with the barking and jumping and one likes to gnaw when excited so i gotta find a toy to immediately put in his mouth so he doesnt gnaw me or the other one... i cant get "mad" cause they're so happy to see me.. They, too, go minimum 5 minutes of this nonsense.. Definitely takes a moment to prepare SO nice to know im not the only one.
isthisjunkmail
Particularly if you’re letting a really good song finish.
Kingstonboy
"The wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald" was on the radio yesterday. Had to sit in the liquor store parking lot until it finished. I AM CANADIAN!
pfshfine
I did this the other day, only with an audiobook. I ended up staying in my car in my driveway for almost 35 minutes finishing The Wise Man's Fear.
READTHISUSERNAME
I was on a classical station listening to the beginning of Peteris Vasks "Lauda" and was interested in waiting for the song name just after arriving home. 20 minutes later, I was very glad I did.
htapoicoS
Or when you're in a toxic relationship. Without any song playing, just quiet
gilliamv
"a really good song"... The Police - Synchronicity II
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5FPPoLqkCk
~"Daddy grips the wheel and stares alone into the distance; He knows that something somewhere has to break
He sees the family home now looming in his headlights; The pain upstairs that makes his eyeballs ache"~
Mostlydeadpool
i think its more the agency. the CHOICE to stay in your car until this really good song finishes. Work = no agency, home = habits and routines, car = liminal space.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Nice use of the word "agency." I'll bet you've got 99 other cool words you sprinkle around your posts. Gonna go see. BRB.
Mostlydeadpool
So, what did you find? anything good?
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Nothing verbally spectacular but a lot of intelligent comments. Happy Holidays.
Mostlydeadpool
you too! thanks for the QA. :)
RabbitKnight87
It's the actual transition moment from work to home, commuting is working.
TrashPanda2414
Finish that song, cry that last tear, think that last thought, go inside with a clear-ish mind. Start fresh in house
CrazyCatLad
I work from home so sometimes when I run errands, at my last stop, I just sit in my car in the parking lot for ~5 minutes before venturing home.
AllTheGoodOnesWereGone
It’s a kind of somewhat liminal third-place, disconnected from the rest of your life.
MoralRectifier
Not for me. The instant I get in my car I'm in my happy place.
lancell
Not in rush traffic, but if I’m in a calm area it’s soothing
vegivamp
My new car had adaptive cruise control that actually stops and starts again. That makes traffic so much easier!
PinkEater
An hour and a half commute, one way. Sometimes not even moving. All that made me never like driving again.
TheDudeHisDudenessDuderElDuderino
Good for you. For me, commuting in traffic drives me frick'n crazy and puts me in a very dark and angry place.
MsAmyMack
It's the only space that's mine alone.
Hurro
Beats to full blast, vibe for the drive. Park into your existential crisis parking spot at home and change gears for a third time.
Zeplin
Commuting isn't work the fuck are you talking about lol
blasphemoustoast
Do you enjoy commuting?
PirateRubberDuck
One day a week I commute 2 hours into work on public transport and 2 hours back. Seems like work to me.
Zeplin
Maybe you just need glasses?
rhmrcScifiBandit
I miss WFH.
Drix1942
It's something you do to get to, and for, work, so it feels like work. You just don't get paid for it.
Zeplin
Doing something you dislike doesn't mean it's work. The fuck is up with people here.
rollercostarican
that's actually exactly what it means. Playing video games isnt work. Doing the laundry is work.
Drix1942
He might be a business owner.