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My username is a lie, this is a fake account i just created to share this. I joined imgur about two years ago and I have been fairly active, posting from time to time and commenting every now and then. I am 19 years old and I still wet the bed almost every single night, last night was not the exception. This is not something recent; I have always had this problem. And yes, I’ve been trying to stop for as long as I can remember. Like during most of my life, I currently wear diapers at night to make the situation easier to manage.
Because of my bedwetting, I have never had a girlfriend; I didn’t went to my prom trip and missed tons of sleepovers as a child. I fear my bedwetting will continue to limit what I do.
I am currently studying engineering in college and I do not have many friends, I live on my own but I am terrified of having others find out I depend on diapers, I think it would ruin my life. I was going to participate in a student exchange and go to NZ for a semester but I did not apply to the program because I feared what could have happened if others found out.
I feel pathetic; I know it is not normal for someone my age to be waking up in wet diapers almost every morning.
I have tried lot methods to stop this. I have tried using an alarm, taking pills, antidiuretic hormones, not wearing diapers, not having any drinks after 8 pm, etc… but nothing seems to work for me. I know I am not the only one who has gone through this and I am determined to stop bedwetting. I has already kept me from doing many things I would like to have done and I don’t want this to continue. I want to have a normal life without worrying about this kind of stuff
I am posting this to vent and to ask you, fellow imgurians to share some advice or stories that might be useful because i know i am not the only one that has had this problem, so feel free to comment.
English is not my first language and it’s been 2 years since the last time I had an English class so sorry if I made any mistake
it sucks
this is what i have to wear every night
itsmejetzt
Maybe it's psychological? Have you @o try it?
CinnamonBunny
TL;DR. Did you see a doctor already?
iamwaitingdeary
See a doctor itll be okay
jonedoe1357
Have you and or your doctor mentioned Ddavp as a possible treatment option?
hmjohnny
DDAVP, Google it.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
thats new to me. i will do some research
PixilPixi
It's a medical condition. The person who's right for you in the end will love you anyway.
blipblopblizm
You need to see a mental health professional. If physical changes and/or medicine isn't helping; then it's most likely a psychological issue
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i have never been to one before. sounds like a good idea
ShibiSF
Have you tried acupuncture? Maybe that would help.
JustWantsToHelp
A friend of mine claims an adjustment from a chiropractor fixed his bed wetting.
Perhapsforscience
See a Doctor, it's not your fault. But the other gut is right, this isn't normal.
AndaleGordoNoSeasCulo
Don't feel bad . Just try . If trump can be president you can get a gf.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
now thats what i call a good motivational message
LittleMissMayhem
Are you perhaps diabetic? Do you have malfunctioning kidneys?
whiskeyvillage
Not a Dr. but you might have your Andenosine levels checked. Your body may not be breaking that chemical down as you sleep.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i am not very good at using google. how is andenosine linked with bedwetting?
whiskeyvillage
My 1st thought was that you may be sleeping 'too hard'. You may be in such a deep state of sleep that your brain isn't picking up the signal
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
and can that be solved? if so, how?
Bladedrummer
I mean, you have a medical condition. It's embarrassing, but it's not the end of the world. Put yourself out there!
BananaJammer907
I can't agree more with this.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i agree with you but i need to deal with this problem to do all the things i would like to do without fear
Kennleth
1. My advice is experiment with being more open about it, do you have a friend who isn't part of a group of people that know you? As in an
Kennleth
2. Expendable friend? Confide in them, and if they can accept you why can't others?
MadameRainbowPants
Yeah OP,bladedrummer is right,+ it's not contagious, it's not like you have the herp. Plus, women gotta wear diapers to bed 1 week a month!
4EyedTinyFists
Came to the comments to say exactly this. Yeah it's not ideal, but it's far from being a thing that should stop you living your life OP
kryoptik
Take a large spoonful of honey before going to bed.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i am desperate and running out of options so i will try it
liquidclaw
What?
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i just woke up. first night was a big failure but i am ok with that, i am expecting failure.I am currently having 1, maybe 2 dry nights 1/
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
every two weeks and i dont expect to stop this in one night. i tried waking up after 4 hours of falling asleep, i'll do it every 2 hours 2/
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
from now on and hopefully start seeing some results. anyway, thank you all for commenting ang giving me advice. i will read every comment 3/
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iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i cant help it so shut up
Soifon87
I had the same problem when I was young. My mom would always wake me up in the middle of the night so I could go to the toilet. 1/
Soifon87
I think it helped me to get used to waking up when I have to pee. I usually have to go 1-2 times per night even now. 2/
Soifon87
Do you remember your dreams? I always dream of going to the toilet but somehow trained my mind to only give me freaky and uncomfortable 3/
Soifon87
ones in my dreams. That usually gives me the sign to wake up and go to a real toilet now that I am an adult. I sadly have no idea how to 4/
Soifon87
train your mind into doing this. I struggled with it till I was 13 I think and tried every medical help there was... maybe you should 5/
Soifon87
Start with setting an alarm after like 3-4 hours after going to bed and get used to interrupting your sleep.
IDontWannaWhyYouGottaMakeMe
You say "you've been trying to stop". How?
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
various methods i mentioned in the description
IDontWannaWhyYouGottaMakeMe
Hmmyeah that is a problem. I don't have a solution. But, you should start working out. Being fit compensates for some lack of confidence.
IDontWannaWhyYouGottaMakeMe
It's far from a final solution, but when faced with things you cannot change, focus on what you can :)
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
I will change it, i know it will stop. i used to do a lot more exercise than i do now but since my semester is about to end i think i will
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
get a gym membership
4EyedTinyFists
Keeping it a secret isn't doing you any good. Open up, if people care about you, they won't care about this at all
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
the only ones who know about this are my parents but i seriously cant tell others, i am terrified. ill probably tell others once i overcome
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
this problem
4EyedTinyFists
I really hope you can overcome not just the medical problem, but the stress and anxiety it's causing you. My dad was a lifelong 1/2
4EyedTinyFists
Bedwetter, we all knew, including his girlfriends and his friends, and we never thought any less of him for it, any more than any condition
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
it sounds as he was very brave/open. i am not like that so i will have to fix it before i can talk about it. its not easy for me
mymomthinksimagoodcook
As a lady, I say it shouldn't keep you from being intimate with someone. I'd never hold a medical issue against a man
mymomthinksimagoodcook
and you most certainly shouldn't be ashamed/embarassed
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
it makes me feel very insecure so i dont think ill be able to be in a relationship with someone until i fix this.i cant help feeling thisway
mymomthinksimagoodcook
my ex had severe psoriasis (to where he left large flakes all over my bed) and I never thought twice about it, I was just happy he was there
mymomthinksimagoodcook
I understand that, believe me. But I genuinely hope you find a woman who can help you out of that :)
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
you seem to be a nice person, thanks for commenting
mymomthinksimagoodcook
I know it's easier said than done, but throw yourself out there man. a genuine human being won't give two fucks about your medical issues
MadameRainbowPants
OP, i see this can be embarrassing, I think when the right person comes along you will be ok though. GOod luck OP!
PenisShapedPoops
I know at least 3 people who wet the bed into their tweens and I had issues in my early twenties (possibly related to diabetes). It happens.
PenisShapedPoops
As for fixing it, I had four "go pee" alarms through the night so i would never need to pee at night. I think it trained me to just do it.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i tried waking up every 4 hourse before, it didnt work and i hated it. i will now try waking up every 2 hours and hopefully train myself
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
i am determined to stop this
PenisShapedPoops
Two to three hours is my magic number. I struggled to actually get up for like two months but then it was just habit.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
and do you still need to wake up at night or is the problem completely gone?
squintish
I have read that bedwetting can be caused by bladder nerves becoming numb from pressure due to constipation. You may not know you are (cont)
squintish
constipated and may even have regular daily bowel movements. The best way to dx seems to be abdominal XRay. It can be solved with (cont)
squintish
under a doctor's care with enemas and laxatives. With no other explanation, ask your doctor to order an x-ray. Also you are a bit old (cont)
squintish
but consider having this treated by a pediatrician; they might have more awareness about undiagnosed constipation. (cont)
squintish
Hodges, S.J. Urology, Jan. 27, 2012. Please let me know if this turns out to be helpful.
iswearthisisnotafakeaccount
it makes sense but i wonder of rare this is