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Seriously, you can downvote me all you want. I don't get how stupid people are that it genuinely goes unseen. I feel like half the time people throw themselves into some illusory world where you honestly just can't see how significant the effect is or how much it really matters.
there are numerous studies on it and empirical evidence to support. It even leaks into personality psychology
Whatever *eye rolls into next dimension*
BrunosStickyFingas
SauceyWench
Study showed most teachers aren't racist, but give preference to more attractive children. Yay society
jadespider
As an ugly I disagree. If attractiveness is all you bring to the table, all it gets you is first place in line at the chopping block, (1/2)
jadespider
or front row seats on a sinking ship. (2/2)
iamdyslexicandbadatgrammariknow
Who doesn't know life is easier if you are prettier.
MaxximumB
Forget attractive or ugly, try being disabled if you want to see how fucked up some people are and how invisible you can be.
IAmTheCutestOfBorg
I had to walk with a cane for 2 weeks, and got treated like crap. I can't imagine how I'd deal if I was disabled. People can be assholes.
GiveMeTheLamp
I actually know a guy in a wheel chair whose really attractive, he literally lives a better life then I do. I'm genuinely jealous of him.
1234canIhavealittlemore
Sigh... So: Attractive privilege. Another thing to get offended about.
GiveMeTheLamp
Yeah, wasn't life so much better when everyone shut up and let things happen. The Holocaust was a hoot!
hypnokrote
Break the cycle, focus on science
GiveMeTheLamp
Already am. 7 years and counting
BlueBallsFireCrotch
Rick and Morty reference
flavinbagel
I work for a company that isn't in performance or anything, but definitely doesn't hire very many ugly people. Noticeably so.
ckviper
As an ugly guy, I can confirm that my life sucks! :D I try to make the best of it by not going out in public. ^_^
GiveMeTheLamp
Ditto
SirBrendan
As an attractive person of the Council of Attractive People, it is my duty to inform you that eyerolling has been declared unnattractive
GiveMeTheLamp
I was already unatttactive before I started eye rolling, is this a 2 negatives equal a positive effect? LET ME INTO YOUR CLUB
JossWhedonsGhost
I whole heartedly agree. However I think putting effort into you appearance goes a long way.
OmigawdBUTTERFLIES
Beauty bias!
chucksusername
I think sometimes people who claim to be unattractive as an excuse do themselves more harm than good by not just making simple adjustments 1
chucksusername
In their life. Sometimes a simple comb through the hair could take someone from creepy looking to much more attractive. 2/3
chucksusername
But sometimes it's just easier to blame other people than to change yourself.
GiveMeTheLamp
I don't get why everyone assumes I don't do this. I exhaust all opinions before I take to complaining , next step is plastics though
chucksusername
Well I wasn't speaking specifically of you. But there are some I know personally who aren't bad looking, just don't put in the effort.
chooseday
Most other people are aware of it, we're just not bitter enough to bring it up. What are you hoping to accomplish here?
DidNotInhale
This is so fucking true. I used to be fat and gross and everyone looks at me differently now I'm thin and healthy. Just a cosmetic change.
UH60Mechanic
There's also the socially unaware that think they're being shit on for being ugly, when it's really because they're actual creeps.
PoofybirdDesign
Had a guy get mad that I wasn't dating him. He said it was because he was ugly, but it was because he wanted me to break up with my
PoofybirdDesign
girlfriend of 6 years and change literally everything about myself for a dude who gets mad at people who aren't dating him.
UH60Mechanic
what the FUCK
PoofybirdDesign
He also liked to say girls just wanted money, but he was chronically unemployed and wanted a stay-at-home housewife. It was like he had
PoofybirdDesign
literally no sense of self-awareness.
RoeJaz
dontyoudarereadthisusername
I love you for this.
wasonceapotato
Aww
TheSparkySparkyBoomMan
People say this a lot but I'm not seeing many who actually believe it
TheGodsMustBeCrazy
Except in my face
ImADoctorNotAnImgurian
Bitch you stole my comment. At least we can be ugly together.
YourJimmiesAreMadeForRustlingAndThatsJustWhatIllDo
You're not wrong, but you seem awfully bitter and resentful. People dislike bitter and resentful people.
GiveMeTheLamp
My goal in life isnt to be liked. Brutal honesty is the best policy.
animalsocks
Brutal honesty, unseasoned with love and compassion, is just a form of blind, self-righteous cruelty. Kind honesty is rewarding for all.
GiveMeTheLamp
The truth is the truth either way you put it.
YourJimmiesAreMadeForRustlingAndThatsJustWhatIllDo
Sounds like you're trying to be the tragic hero in your own little corner of the world.
GiveMeTheLamp
Haha, you guys keep walking on eggshells. Tell me how that works for ya
Lumpy1Toucan
God, I hate this pretentious game we all are forced to play
GiveMeTheLamp
Life is bs
KjTheLightning
you can just not play and scream at them in joy "YES I KNOW THAT I SUCK! HAHAHAHA!!!"
GiveMeTheLamp
I've literally given up to the point where I have to point out I'm ugly, so people know that I know and there's less tension lmao
KjTheLightning
i also have to point out the presumed double chin i got for taking meds and my absolute lack of capcity in being an engaging person in talks
GiveMeTheLamp
Was an adverse effect weight gain? Social skills can be learned.
KjTheLightning
i was already fat but somehow always kept from getting a double chin, as soon as i started taking meds there it appears, along with 20kilos
KjTheLightning
social skills can be learned but inccappacityin epting other people's unintenerestting interests and incompatibility inn ethics is harder
tomhark
i can't help it if i'm gorgeous.
TGWeaver
What you're describing is called privilege. Being unaware of the disadvantages or difficulties others face because you don't.
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
pumpkinpiepatch
Ill b the accounting system for your comments: 6 identical comments.
theyar
?
GiveMeTheLamp
Or ignorance knowing it's there and choosing to disregard it
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
theyar
The problem is that there isn't really a good accounting system for disadvantages.
topshelfassistant
Having read all the comment reply you posted to this, you're a self centered sack of shit who lives in a fantasy land
fidlar4lyfe
Agreed, OP claims they keep denying their privilege,making me think OP keeps giving people shit for being attractive and gets told to f off
GiveMeTheLamp
I actually keep everything to myself, hence the anonymous post via imgur.
GiveMeTheLamp
Thanks, how's that working out for ya? Or are you just projecting because you're a worthless 26 y.o with zero progressive value?
Sh4dowWalker96
Yes, because calling someone worthless when talking about influence is a GREAT idea
GiveMeTheLamp
I'm not trying to be an advocate for the world. It's a post on imgur.
topshelfassistant
Look who's projecting now, I'm actually 29, and have a career and I'm debt free, how about you?
GiveMeTheLamp
Didn't you say you've read my comments? I'm tired of throwing my credentials around, it's not why I posted. Ffs
MotionOfTheOcean
Honestly, why do so many assume you are yourself against ugly people? I haven't seen anything like that. Did I miss the comment where 1/2
MotionOfTheOcean
you said ugly ones should be put in concentration camp or are people just mistaking what you say, since you don't care to pander them 2/3
stripeypurple3
This is true. However, it also true that anyone can drastically increase their attractiveness with a little work (excercise, bearing, etc.)
LunarSoul
dunno, man, pretty sure losing a little weight wouldn't do much for my awful face
jdraitt
Why is it awful, exactly?
hedgemage
Meh, both ways have up sides. Geeky guys never hit on my hot friend who likes geeks, she gets my leftovers. I don't have to wonder if 1/?
Bakewelltart
Maybe you're the hot one?
hedgemage
Nah, I'm the very-chubby (formerly obese) tomboy. Geek guys get nervous around her because she looks like she walked out of a magazine.
hedgemage
someone is only interested because of how I look. No one assumes I'm window dressing instead of competent. No one assumes I'm fragile. 2/3
hedgemage
On the whole, I'm well adapted to being not-pretty, and I don't think the benefits would be worth the major life adjustments if that ch. 3/3
hedgemage
*changed
GiveMeTheLamp
I enjoyed reading this. Positive spins are always fun, however idk about you but I can't help but wonder.
hedgemage
I've seen friends go through major appearance improvements. Some adapted well, others badly. I suspect I'd fall somewhere near the middle.
GraveSituationNation
You seem really passionate about this. You should turn your focus to something more worthwhile.
GiveMeTheLamp
I am, and I did. My minor for my PhD was vanity studies. Sadly , this doesn't change anything, nor the quality of my life. Just makes it ssd
AidenT92
This is why everyone needs to go through a "fat phase" in their life. It's truly humbling and you really learn a lot about perspectives
iLoveItWhenMyFingersSmellLikePussy
I've been in a fat phase all my life..
NubScrub1
Too bad mine happened when I was supposed to be having fun - as a teenager
YourMumKnowsMe
Lmao I guess I must be a monk or something now because I have been in a fat phase all my life!
theminutenewt
Mmmm pass me some more of that humble pie
celestialstein
went through that during 1st few years of high school, i treat every1 like i wish i was treated then. still dont understand getting hit on.
whatupmyknitters
oh yeah that's why i'm fat right now.... to be humbled. yup.
GiveMeTheLamp
Fat can be fixed, that's a goal and a project well within your control
whatupmyknitters
But I will note that if your face didn't already make you invisible to society, being fat definitely will. Being fat is definitely humbling.
whatupmyknitters
I know, I'm just not averse to making fat jokes at my own expense.
GiveMeTheLamp
You're a good solider.
CloakerJosh
More like an unpopular fact.
Havacado
This.
Pishposhbingbong
Hey. Just because we have chiseled abs and stunning features, it doesn't mean that we too can't not die in a freak gasoline fight accident.
finstad4
@op
DispleasedDog
Every unattractive person thinks this, but not every attractive person is the point I'm pretty sure.
GiveMeTheLamp
Have you read the post?
Imgonnatipyouwell
@op everyone knows that. If anyone says otherwise they're either lying to you or deluding themselves.
GiveMeTheLamp
Honestly, I don't think a lot of people know this
demosthenes89
No, I'm pretty sure most everyone knows this. I just don't know what you expect people to do about it.
lafemmenikita
People like to pretend it's not true, because they feel like it diminishes their achievements. Just like with white privilege, really.
lafemmenikita
They don't understand that "You got that job cause you're pretty" does not equal "People are more willing to listen to you if you're pretty"
lafemmenikita
You still have to work for it and prove yourself, but you'll have to prove yourself a LOT harder if you're not attractive.
w4nder3r
A lot of attractive women don't know this. "Oh, you pay for your own drinks?" "I don't understand, you've never been hit on?"
demosthenes89
I've literally never encountered this. Also, people would catcall a dumptruck. I sometimes think ugly women get MORE sexual harrassment.
w4nder3r
Those are things attractive friends have actually said to me. They don't get it, they just think it's the norm.
demosthenes89
Just change the word "attractive" to "dumb" and I'll get on board with what you're saying.
w4nder3r
Nope, one of them is very smart. Just graduated college with very good grades. Very competent woman. Just ignorant to reality.
amomaxia
Attractive people can do and say things that would be creepy if an unattractive person did it.
dovebair
As an attractive female I've been able to say things no one wants to hear because I know I won't lose social standing. I'm able to be brutal
JollyBloke
depends, attractiveness is also a matter of taste. I wouldn't go out with a good looking guy , but that might just be because im straight
TheSparkySparkyBoomMan
Attractive people operate on a 999 strike system while unattractive ones operate on a one-half strike system
pizzapartyhard
Based upon the replies there are some ugly motherfuckers on imgur.
PeacefulWarfare
It's true because no one gives those additional benefit to those who don't keep them selves well maintained.
GiveMeTheLamp
You don't choose your face #basicgenetics #youdosmart
PeacefulWarfare
Attractiveness has little to do with basic genetics. It's how you carry yourself. I've seen many people blessed who are ugly and vice versa.
GiveMeTheLamp
You seem nice, but you really need to brush up on genetics and heritability.
PeacefulWarfare
What is attractive? Is it literally as simple as I was born attractive. Such a simplistic view. You shape yourself into what you are.
ScottMalkinsonHasDiabetes
SMASPTP
I'm at the level of ghoulishness that a polite smile is creepy.
Prototypeplaya5
MY gf even said this statement to me (and then noticed it was a rude statement) but the point still stands
richichichi
Creepy shit is creepy shit no matter what people looks like. So as idiotic shit, but generally we give more chances to pretty people.
topshelfassistant
By more chances, you mean "oh wait was that, I didn't see it"
Tinyfeet
Yep. I feel like I can say awkward/inappropriate stuff but people just think it's quirky and cute ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
yamahog
Bless your uggo hearts if you think that attractive people aren't creepy as well.
Kowabungo
I'm decently good looking, and you're right. However, a lot of these commenters sound like they lack basic social skills. Practice is 1/?
Jaenusa
Agreed, Ya'll just need to go join a gym do some classes meet some people Ehem... Join Tinder if you're getting desperate....
Kowabungo
super important. I was a white knight "nice guy" for a long time, didn't take care of myself, was awkward and creepy in conversation 2/?
Kowabungo
trying to come off as suave and intelligent. I had to realize how up my own ass i was to move past it. I practiced. I decided it was my 3/?
Kowabungo
fault. I was done blaming others or saying it couldn't be helped because "they just don't like me". Basically, i grew up. Believe it or 4/?
Kowabungo
not, Simple Pickup on youtube helped a lot. They talk about self confidence and owning who you are. It's absolutely true that looks 5/?
stellabled
That's the difference between sexual harassment and flirting
LikeTotallyNotTheNSA
snl did a skit on this some years back.
MotionOfTheOcean
I usually put the line in on whether they continue after are being told "No".
UH60Mechanic
It's also very different from complete strangers to people you have a rapport with. I don't like randos saying anything suggestive. 1/2
UH60Mechanic
2/2 Too familiar for an unfamiliar person to say.
MotionOfTheOcean
Yeah, I mean too blatant "Let me put my dick in you" or such is not very flirty.
QueenCousland
To nitpick: The difference is whether or not it's welcome. Whether or not it's welcome is heavily influenced by attractiveness.
QueenCousland
I don't want to diminish the advantage attractive people have, but I don't like seeing the "if it's welcome" part glossed over.
MatildaLindvik
Just because you don't welcome it, and reject the person, doesn't mean you perceive him as creepy. Creepiness = looks, smell, voice etc.
MatildaLindvik
Someone attractive can, to an extent, do it and get rejected without fearing she will scream and call the police.
QueenCousland
Valid points. VERY valid points, in fact. I just like the "to an extent" to be there, instead of it phrased as an absolute.
Aegween
I'll talk to anyone once. Whether I keep talking has more to do with their brain than their body
PoppaBigBear
I'm at the stage where I just don't talk to people or it's seen as "creepy". 1/2
GiveMeTheLamp
It's okay, I'm 24 and there lol
MCGrannyHands
At a bar I was talking with a guy who was overweight short and unattractive.. 2 employees and 1 acquaintance asked if he was bothering me
GiveMeTheLamp
That's messed up
MCGrannyHands
He wasnt. We were having a nice conversation about places we've been too. Everyone just assumed he was being a creep..it was terrible
diehardlance
I said hello to a woman once and got called a creep. Then I got thrown out for calling her s cunt... its an imperfect world.
PoppaBigBear
If I do, i'm shy about it or talk like a 10 year old that needs an adult, even though I'm 28 years old. 2/2
MotionOfTheOcean
Been there and I have to admit. I think women have it slightly easier in that situation since we are seen less scary.
Cerinna
Maybe, but I see the situation itself as scary and I'm not the type of woman to hit on someone first. =/
MotionOfTheOcean
Yeah, I understand that. I am lady too and I didn't mean to slight that kind of situation. I'm just awkward as hell myself and I'm 1/2
iamdyslexicandbadatgrammariknow
I have used "My penis just died. Can I bury it in your butt" Followed by a smile and awkward laugh. To start a conversation. I am 4 for 4.
FrauBlucher
Classy
iamdyslexicandbadatgrammariknow
always.
papiola
Are you 4 real?
MisterBriightsiide
...And if I try asking a girl out I don't even get a "no", just a laugh. I've alsobeen told she won't date me cuz I'm too ugly ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Aegween
That girl sounds like a stuck up bitch
iamdyslexicandbadatgrammariknow
make mad money or get washboard abs ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
As4mi
But you do have a cool username. Had to sing it in my head
MisterBriightsiide
... So I've got that going for me, which is nice.
soithascometothiswasalreadytaken
Being ugly as male isnt a death sentence. Work out, be clean, get a good haircut and learn to dress better.
soithascometothiswasalreadytaken
Well i guess that would work for girls too
KrondorMocker
are YOU a 4 though?
elizardo
Asking the reeeeal questions!!!
iamdyslexicandbadatgrammariknow
No, that's my point. I agree with amomaxia
elizardo
Answering the reeeal questiins!!!
KrondorMocker
yeh but, you're dyslexic... you may be 4 from 4, not 4 from 4...
SavageRancor
He means he's had a 100% success rate with that pine on 4 attempts
KillerOfPie
Dafuq did you just try and say?
voodoosexdoll
Especially if you're a woman. My lord I've seen beautiful girls go months without paying for a so for thing
Mimsey
I know one doing this. She dropped out of nursing school and has just hopped from boyfriend to boyfriend for 3 years now with zero income.
TheSparkySparkyBoomMan
Also if you're a gay man and not both toned and gorgeous as fuck, the entire community treats you like shit including the other non-pretties
bushidopirate
what about the bear community? Pretty sure they're into dad bods
TheSparkySparkyBoomMan
Nah bears are very heavy or muscled with a wide frame. And extreme body hair is necessary. The dad bod fad died out quickly
justthoughtyousholdknow
I haven't paid for a movie in YEARS and am making it a personal goal to not have to.
forestfinagle
Me too. Most movies leave me unimpressed.
justthoughtyousholdknow
Yea I'm not about the movie theatre experience and if someone wants to go. They better be paying.
mozrael
Nice slide, buddy, very nice
missleadinginiformation
Weird you don't even look that attractive
justthoughtyousholdknow
Awww thank you!!!
missleadinginiformation
Well I justthoughtyoushouldknow
justthoughtyousholdknow
Well you were just giving me misleadinginformation
voodoosexdoll
You kinda sound like a bitch if I may be honest
justthoughtyousholdknow
Please be honest.
TheSparkySparkyBoomMan
There's no kinda about it
justthoughtyousholdknow
None at all
bushidopirate
As an average-looking dude, unless she's intentionally leading people on to see movies for free, I don't see the problem
justthoughtyousholdknow
Basically. I don't see the point of PAYING for a movie I'm about torrents. Dude wants to see Star Wars opening night with me. He guys the.
justthoughtyousholdknow
Ticket.
voodoosexdoll
If it's her personal goal to see free movies I doubt she has great intentions. What's your average lookingness got to do with it tho lol
justthoughtyousholdknow
No it isn't my personal goal to see free movies. I am all about torrents so even if it was a movie that I wanted to see I'll wait for a torr